>in love with girl
>lift twice a day and run at night to get fit enough for her
>she gets a boyfriend
>I see him wearing the bottom half of a GI
>fuck it I'll start martial arts
>do Muay Thai and BJJ every single day of the week
>become average at Muay Thai, but become so obsessed with BJJ that I start beating local black belts after two years of training
>one day the guy visits my gym
>I destroy him multiple times while laughing about it
>It doesn't matter because he's still fucking her and I'm still alone
>Lose all of my will
>I want to literally unironically murder both of them
Anyways, I'll start roiding and be my city's Gordon Ryan to see if the urge goes away. Sorry for the blogpost, I just had to get this out of my chest.

>>76248808 (OP)
I think about a married girl when I lift. She will never love me but I don't care.

>>76248808 (OP)
>i want to achieve goal A
>i do B in hope to somehow achieve goal A
>somebody else has goal A and goes for goal A
>i am mad at him now

>>76248819
>She will never love me but I don't care.
Just stop thinking about her and go after some younger, prettier girl, what are you, retarded?

>>76248808 (OP)
doesnt even seem like you made a move, stop playing some retarded slow game women want to go out to eat and get fucked right now. Ask her out and if she says no well atleast you tried and now know you can move on instead of getting your hopes up

>>76248808 (OP)
people with oneitis past the age of 16 are unironic cuckolds

>>76248808 (OP)
find yourself a twink to love

>>76248832
It's her personality that I'm attracted to. I hate women but she's different.

>>76248849
She isn't, you're just suffering infatuation.

>>76248808 (OP)
lmao based schizo
dont care if untrue

>>76248808 (OP)
damn being in love with a good woman and not some weird crush like OP is the best

>>76248879
>the girl i love is better than the one he does
when will he learn, bros?

>>76248808 (OP)
>>in love with girl
Your mistake. Women don't love men like men love women, so you're chasing ghosts

>>76248899
If you think she's different you're already cooked. It's a sad fate

>>76248808 (OP)
>A man led astray by a woman
classic

>>76248808 (OP)
you aight, chuddie

>>76248808 (OP)
Guess you shouldn’t focus on men if you’re interested in women

>>76248808 (OP)
>he only does activities for the sake of getting girls

>>76248808 (OP)
Women don't associate fighting ability with social status. Women associate social status with fighting ability. She could watch you kick that guy's ass 109 times and still convince herself that he's stronger because he makes more money than you.

Anyway, women will be put back in the kitchen by the end of the century. We must see what can be done to hasten that. Then we'll be able to buy women at the farmer's market.

>>76249043
>Anyway, women will be put back in the kitchen by the end of the century. We must see what can be done to hasten that. Then we'll be able to buy women at the farmer's market.
amen

>>76249043
>She could watch you kick that guy's ass 109 times and still convince herself that he's stronger because he makes more money than you.
That's such a fucking cope, lmfao

>>76248808 (OP)
just stop being an unloveable incel pissbaby chud. take care of yourself, your parents. ignore both of them (literally ghost them, make yourself unable to contact or see them) . keep doing your routines. time will help you move on

>>76248808 (OP)
Burn any messages and connection you have with her. Honestly I know what it's like, truly falling in love is like a drug and right now you're a junkie chasing a dealer

>>76248808 (OP)
>I want to literally unironically murder both of them
what's exactly stopping you?

>>76248846
Yeah, and that's what makes it fun. The rush of emotions from falling in love with the girl, and then the opposite direction as you find out she's taken and fantasize about her being a degenerate slut while you feel bad about yourself and jerk off in spite of it

>>76249535
Seek help

>>76248849
>she's different.
You think this because you only see her for short periods when she's on her best behavior. The way people act in public, especially women, is almost entirely a front. If you were around her 24/7 the illusion would shatter very quickly.

>>76249541
What sort of help should I seek? You can't just throw some flimsy platitude out to feel good about yourself without backing it up. That could mean anything.

>>76249560
Admit yourself into a psychiatric institution

>>76248808 (OP)
Bro you gotta not put women on a pedestal.

>>76249563
>advocating for submitting oneself into the Jewish medical industrial complex and becoming a braindead antispychotic niggercattle
Nice try FBI

>>76249560
your mind controls you, it decides what it wants to think about
you should know it is fruitless to obsess over some girl who isn't interested in you, so why do you do it? your mind punishes and tortures you and you are too weak to stop it, you just squirm and writhe and don't even think of a way out, your mind gives you silly ideals and goals that make you no closer to obtaining your desire, you run in circles and get further from your goal, it mocks you and laughs at you, your mind is the devil, your unattached empty presence is God
exist before the notion of a thought occurs and be free from this endless charade
good luck

>>76249554
unfortunately this
t. got a gf
she's still great but different than before and I didn't realize this was the case because I never had a gf my whole life

>>76248808 (OP)
If you did kill him she would want to fuck you and she would become obsessed with you, she would visit you in prison to fuck you, they are called conjugal visits and they give a private space to have sex in.
Its real twisted these incels get more sex as a murderer than a law abiding citizen, says something about society.

>>76248899
it's true tho

>>76248849
I used to think this exact same way. You have no idea how many times I posted on R9k saying "shes different".
Shes not. If you ever got her you would become sick of her.
I got mine and I became sick of her within 45 minutes. I wanted nothing more than to get away from her. When the date ended I felt like I needed to be near her.
Then the same thing happened.

The attraction you feel isnt real, its not a real thing, its not love, its not her personality, it is all in your head.
You knowing this doesnt change anything.
I know this and still fall victim to oneitis.
But you have to reassure yourself the suffering you feel when thinking about her is entirely self inflicted.

There are other versions of 'your' specific girl out there who are younger, prettier, and all the features you like about her they are amplified in these other girls.
If I let my obsession with one girl get the best of me and cloud my vision and judgement I never would have met my wife and come to know what real love actually is.
It is totally different to the pining longing you feel now.
What you feel is some kind of residual teenage angst because you havent found a wife and because everything in the West is meant to suppress men.

>>76249732
NTA but my life is so fucking boring that even obsessing over a taken girl is an improvement

>>76248808 (OP)
This baddie I’ve had a crush on for YEARS got a boyfriend and in just a couple short months she gained AT LEAST 100 lbs. it’s like a different person altogether. I have no one to say this to, so I just wanted to tell someone. So fucking brutal. Years of damage done in a handful of weeks. Just like. Sucks for her boyfriend too lmao

>>76249781
Idk if I’ve ever seen someone out in so much weight so fast before. It was like a blink and you miss it. Brutal as fuck

>>76249766
Thanks bro. Deep inside I know you're right but then again I'm also the kind of person who needs to learn everything the hard way. I'll keep your advice in mind going forward.

>>76248849
All women are literally the same. You just pick one. Stop being retarded

I never had a crush nor have I ever fallen in love and I'm 29 years old. I am not even sure what love is.
I mean I see beautiful girls and I recognize them as beautiful and would like to be intimate with them, but never ever did I go home and continue thinking about anyone really, except for maybe my close family members when they need help or something like that. Never understood the "oneitis" meme since I never experienced it. High school, college or now at work, all the same.

Am I broken? Does "falling in love" just happen or should I actually try to actively do something for that to happen? I just go through life, but this entire part has missed me entirely.

>>76250041
I was 31 when I fell in love for the first time. I got rejected by the girl though but she's still the only one that has made me feel that way.

>>76248808 (OP)
>In love with a girl
>[Does something else instead of ever approaching her or talking to her]
How long is it going to take you retards to learn you need to talk to women to fuck them

>>76248849
based, if it gets you lifting then hold on to it.

>>76250041
Are you autistic or something?

>>76250041
Love is fake and gay, it's just your body telling you to reproduce so it releases all sorts of hormones to make you feel like shit when you're not with someone and good when you are. It fades away with time like everything else.

>>76248808 (OP)
I feel the same way except the girl I loved left me for another woman, she "realized" she was gay. I'm sculpting my body to be as hot as possible just to spite her, I hope she's content with her flabby bitch of a gf knowing that she left behind a guy who loved her with all his heart and who was hotter than anyone else she'll ever have.

>>76250505
No diagnosable mental illness and decent health markers, but obviously I'm not normal either I guess

>>76249554
>The way people act in public, especially women, is almost entirely a front.
I like the dirty stuff when they know you and trust you, but then I'm attractive.

>>76248808 (OP)
Are you me?

>>76248808 (OP)
Lol holy shit you're a faggot

>>76248825
Kek this

>>76250041
You have to actually talk to women to fall in love with them. Have you tried that?

>>76248849
I remember when I was 15. Thank fuck I don't have to live through that shit again. Give it another 15 years and you'll care less.

Bros how tf do I stop falling in love or thinking about women at the gym? There's this girl I see a couple times that we've crossed eyes here and there, she's also done weird shit like coming to workout on a machine next to me but I don't wanna end up rejected and having to see her every fucking day at the gym.

>>76248808 (OP)
>over two years
>is still obsessed with some random girl (who probably barely knows he exists) with a boyfriend

>>76250550
you're blessed, I hate having romantic emotions

>>76249797
There is no “learning” you will never wake up and say “at last I truly see”. I never did. I had to consciously use willpower and consult friends and try to make objective analysis about my decision making process to finally unfuck my life. If I hadn’t done this I would still be under the spell of “the one” and I never would have found my wife.
It is a conscious effort and it will feel like you are betraying yourself. You aren’t, and you’ll never “feel” free until you actually are free. I went from thinking about that girl every day multiple times a day for a decade to barely remembering her.

It is so hard to manage because the emotions are real as in you feel them deeply. But they aren’t objective and they aren’t real in the way the woman you will find and marry is real.
Good luck.

>>76249043
>tfw had to be born in the worst era for a normie guy to get laid ever
>tfw it gets better right after you die

>>76248849
>but she's different.
bruh...

>>76249535
I mean you're not even wrong, it's mostly an egocentric inferiority complex. I just need oneitis to love me so I can outsource my self esteem, I don't actually love her.

I also lift for women. Not to get women tho, I want the women to want me so I can reject them. I just like the feeling of being wanted and desired, don't want to deal with all the drama that having a woman brings

use your strength to fight against zog

>>76249766
>The attraction you feel isnt real, its not a real thing, its not love, its not her personality, it is all in your head.
I've gotten with attractive women and had a great time. Maybe I wouldn't have with yours.

>>76248808 (OP)
You massively improved your life because of a girl, but was she ever worth it? You don't have a girl but you're probably ripped as fuck and is pretty good at martial arts. You can easily find someone bettef.

>>76248825
OPs an unlovable sperg

>>76250041
Same. Love how people think exists, is what is being taught to them by fairy tales and is completely made up. But the real emotions of it stem from having the opposite sex go after you which opens up the possibility of having someone care for you and having someone to care for. If you never had that there is no point of any emotions just pure lust.

>>76249766
So what is real love? I have a gf and still feel the need to get away at times. I feel like people like you are just coping with the existence of ''love''. It's not real and you need to wake up from these disney fairy tales that have been imbedded since childhood.

>>76249043
Amen to that brother

>>76248825
op is such a classic nice guy. Either he never asked her out because he fears rejection, or he did and he's now a delusional stalker.
>>76248808 (OP)
Move on with your life bro, this woman doesn't want you and isn't worth your time. Women who want you will make it very clear from the first time they interact with you, and it primarily has to do with your social skills and not how much you can lift. Save your love for a woman who freely gives it back.
Also no way did you meet this guy and beat his ass, this is pure fantasy

>>76248808 (OP)
you forgot to lift the social weights
you also got obsessed with a crush
you have to work towards achievable goals, not get obsessed with moby dick