It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhale

Were you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as well

What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.

Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own pace

We're ALL gonna make it

The motivation thread is open

Last week’s thread >>76239931

Had an amazing father's day. Spent the morning crossing off some house tasks. Played with the kids. Spent the evening with the wife and kids by the fire. Ended the day plowing the misses and watching anime together.

Going to carry that positive energy into this week! Here's to another 5 workout days, and maintaining a healthy diet!

>>76266704 (OP)
/mis/, I am in need of advice. Here's my background:

>quit well paying job right before thanksgiving last year with nothing lined up
>had no idea how bad the job market was
>have been applying for jobs since
>have worked a few odds and ends jobs like car and roof sales, went back to being an electrician, etc and nothing has stuck
>just recently was going through the process of interviewing for an operations analyst position
>"thank you for... get fucked you didn't get the job"
>i am completely burnt out from the job hunting "experience"
>i run out of bank money in july sometime
>however i have enough saved in investment money to last me several years
I am at a point now I just want to go full NEET until the end of summer and maybe even the EOY. I don't see things getting better for the job market nor do I expect the job experience to be worth it.

My question is if anyone here has been in this position of just not caring or looking for a job because they can and how did things turn out? Did you regret your NEET phase (I say phase as in maybe a year or 2 out of choice, not your entire life) or was it worth it?

>>76266714
Congrats bro! Keep up the positive energy no matter what life throws at you

snorlax
honeymoon went great except no barbells in hotel gyms so now i'm sore as shit. working on losing that weight because meeting up with some old navy buddies next month and want to mog them since it's been a decade.

for the first time in 15 years or so i have no long distance runs scheduled. probably been so long since i've dedicated myself to cardio that i might start a couch to 5k program since 5x5 is basically a reboot at this point.

the theme of this week is basically just getting over the soreness from moving forward in life again. yay.

>>76267063
I'm glad you enjoyed your honeymoon. That's a precious memory you'll always treasure. Now get back in the saddle and start doing cardio! You have plenty of time to improve if you try hard

I am still a 24 year old virgin schizoid doomer. I am no longer a wagie.

After arriving in Bangkok, I was initially terrified because of the scale of it all, but the first 2 days went to crash maxxing to recover from jetlag.

I am still scared of what the trip will bring but I'm about to fly to chiang mai and at the airport I rizzed up a Russian milf who gave me THREE whole pieces of Thai candy and was super chill with me the whole time even when I tried speaking to her in broken Russian. Pretty kino. Then I panick maxxxed because my charger cable broke, but a German chad let me use his to charge it to 50%. I didn't have the shamelessness to keep using it for longer. But this thai local dude my age let me use his and was very nice, and then I struck up a conversation with a Danish guy also touring SEA. Bro was so chill and it's the most socialization I've had in months, years even.

Perhaps it isn't over

My back is finally back to normal meaning I can workout again after 1 month of absence. Also going to Italy next week with 2 friends, I am really excited.

>>76267204
>Also going to Italy next week
where specifically?

>>76267209
We are going to a few cities like, Naples, Rome, Florence, Venice and Milan

>>76267218
>Milan
Been there, it's beautiful :D

I WILL BEGIN STUDYING FOR THE CFA NEXT WEEK
I WILL IMPROVE IN MY JOB
I WILL PASS MY CFA EXAM NEXT WINTER

During last week’s performance review, my boss told me that I’m on the right track. I’ll take her words as a sign that I’m doing decently in this job. I want to thrive in this role so that I can focus on the CFA without getting fired. For the first time in my life, I’m truly outside my parent’s house. I will succeed through depending on myself.

Next week I begin the descent again. I’ve stumbled already, which fills me with apprehension. But I must trek forward with courage and optimism. The peak is in my sight, I can reach it. It’s been a long journey with many obstacles, but it’ll soon be over. I’m ready to reach my destination.

I’ve been struggling at the gym. Ever since I changed gyms due to my move, I’ve struggled with benching. It’s embarrassing, but I was so used to benching in one specific setup that I’ve struggled to adjust to a new bench. I must adapt to this new change. I have the power and the strength, I can hit new PRs.

The man you are tomorrow must brutally mog the man you are today. Good luck on your journeys frens!

>>76267056
Will do!

>>76267160
It certainly isn't. If you can find joy in these experiences, you can find a reason to live. You made the right choice decided to travel rather than kill yourself

>>76267218
Nice list, hitting the most iconic cities in the country and covering a wide range of cultures. Florence and Venice are the smallest and can be mostly visited in a day (museums aside), both are beautiful. I'm not the biggest fan of Milan but it's worth visiting once for the duomo alone, and as for Rome well it's incredible and it could easily fill a week on its own. I've never been to Naples but that too should be quite impressive. Rome and Naples have pretty colorful people and interacting with them is part of the experience, just watch out for scammers (they are abundant in all of the cities you are gonna visit)

>>76267204
Welcome back! Your gains will return before you know it

Hope my doms get better so I can lift again
t. legs gave out while walking back on friday/saturday

I got pretty sick Saturday night and haven't done anything productive since. I hope I recover soon so I can return to the gym

Just graduated from uni and I have 3 weeks to fuck around with my family and do chores until my entry-level engineering job starts. Life is chill.

>>76267282
Don't push yourself too hard. You shouldn't return to the gym until you've fully recovered

>>76267427
Congrats on graduation and the job! I know a ton of people struggling to get jobs with their degrees, but take pride in knowing you succeeded.

A month of hitting my goals on lifting, rooning, yoga and protein intake.

Monday usually the worst day but today did chest and back and walked 20k steps

>>76267427
Congrats anon! Still have 2 more years to go, but did my final exam of the semester today, felt good!

>>76266767
I don't know if I regret my NEET experience, but it is definitely getting boring. This job market sucks, sometimes it seems like G4P would be more dignified than wasting time going through multiple rounds of interviews only to get ghosted or rejected.

Just back from a pull day.
I try not to be stressed but acting calm has taken its toll on me. Overeating, rotting with the phone, doing literally nothing. I should just acknowledge that nearly dying every night from ballistic rockets is not normal and that the anxiety is okay. But how to cope? Working from home is hell and the lack of social interaction makes me insane

>>76267427
Enjoy this time, zoomerbro. Soon you'll enter the work force and lose the ability to take long breaks
t. 1997 geriatric gen z

>>76267642
You're putting in the work and are seeing results. You should feel proud of your progress! You'll only go farther in the future

>>76267749
You can't control this world, you can control your thoughts and your daily life. I understand that that this world is falling apart in front of our very eyes. However, we can find joy in the little parts of life, like eating delicious food or seeing our family

I WILL become more grateful
I WILL become more optimistic

>>76266704 (OP)
I think I realized what my problem is. I keep hearing about how in other countries it’s common to have “holiday” where they take weeks or even a month off from work. Idk much else about it, how often they do it how long it usually lasts etc but I feel like if that was the norm here I would be able to easily not be burnt out. Have a whole month off at some point each year? Boom I’m good. I’ve noticed in all my past jobs art at about the year mark is when the burn out hits. I’ve been unemployed to know long term no work is just as stressful to me, but I know having about a month off would be perfect. That’s long enough for me to regain my bearings and miss working. This gives me something to look forward to. This would maximize my efficiency. Idk why this isn’t a thing. It’s not just not a thing the opposite is encouraged like bosses think they own you everyone thinks you’re worthless unless you give up your already limited time to work more even if it’s unpaid or the money difference for working more is negligible. I know there are countries with worse work life balances. But I feel like the whole holiday thing just makes sense. I think we should get a paid month off every 7 months

>finally get a full time job and potential career in a metal factory after months of applying to everything
>tariffs and fucked up economy means we have barely any work, some days we have to scrape by working slow on purpose or doing random pointless bullshit
>kind of starting to regret coming here even though I already got a raise
Tell me it's going to be okay bros

This week, I benched 135x12 on the bench and sqaut 185x5. It's not a lot, and I'd be way further ahead if I was more consistent. But I have made great progress. When I first started lifting 10+ years ago, my friends would take off the bar so I could bench a 30lb barbell. I am proud of what I achieved.

>>76268375
Keep collecting the checks and save as much money as you can. Maybe look around for a more stable job. You got this.

>>76266704 (OP)
Bros, I got fed up with my cut going nowhere at 25% BF (my fault completely for not being willing to really buckle down) and started recomping. This has turned into a very mild bulk (just in time for summer, yay) but by golly, every lift I'm tracking goes up 13% every week. That feels pretty good. I've never actually bulked before, always tried to main gain or lean gain or whatever and kind of gotten nowhere. Feelsgoodman.

So we all know when you cut it's 1lb a week. What's the goal for a mild bulk? How much of what I'm gaining should be muscle mass if strength really is going up?

>>76268403
You should be! You've worked hard and become more stronger. That's some impressive volume.

>>76268427
If you want to get stronger, you're making the right move. Congrats on your strength, I'd kill to be 13% stronger every week.

>>76268678
It's gotta stop at some point, right? I guess I ride this pony until it stalls and them go back to cutting. My long term goal was always to be strong and lean, so I guess as long as I'm making progress on some of that...

>>76268696
So prioritize one of those goals and then focus on the other when you're satisfied. Right now I'm going for a slight bulk and will cut hard next february

>>76268375
be grateful that you have work at the moment. keep saving those pay checks. something better will appear eventually

>have friends
>don't feel like I have friends, more like circumstancial acquaintances
>apparently I'm cool to hang out with and easy to talk to
Making it I guess?

>>76268862
I know that feel. There's an inner circle "cool dads" on my block and apparently I'm one of them. I look at all the guys not in that core group and I'm like, hey, those guys are cool too. I didn't make the text chain though.

(In case any of you were wondering, yes, adulthood is just like high school in many ways.)

>>76268894
>In case any of you were wondering, yes, adulthood is just like high school in many ways
I hate normgroid pecking order so fucking much

my mindset as far as becoming healthier and not a fatty has improved in the past week
whereas before I was very self hating, now im doing my best to just focus on what i can do in the current future rather than regretting the past
my goal right now is to stop ordering delivery as much (maybe only on weekends, i used to order it literally every day for 3 years straight), go to the gym 3 times a week, and eat healthier foods. im 27 and im realizing if I want to actually enjoy my life, I have to put in the work and i cant just be lazy and expect my 40s and 50s to not be awful

>It is so fucking hot.
>Work was so damn tiring.
>Still have to put in my time at the gym today.
If I miss a day it'll spiral into half a year before I lift again. I figure a halfassed lift sesh is better than no lift sesh at all

>>76268862
You are since other people want to be in your company. I wish other people desired my presence

>>76268991
>I wish other people desired my presence
If it helps all I really do is just go "uh-huh" and "that's crazy" most of the time

I am toiling 10-14 hour days and a couple of hours on the weekends. The company has refused to get me more help, and at this point it requires this much of me to keep everything afloat. My subordinates have families and lives, and I must keep them from the same sacrifices as me. Originally, I was doing it to prove my worth and earn a promotion. That was denied. Now I am working this hard purely out of spite, while actively searching for another job elsewhere.
I say all this to preface that it is now time for more discipline than ever. I have restarted the gym work today, lifting with SL 5x5 and doing some meal prep to support my cut. I plan on proposing to my gf before the end of the year, and I need to be in the best physical, mental, and financial state I can in that time.

>>76268913
You can become the man you want to be, but you need to commit to the process. There's no use in lamenting the past, focus on your future. Those are good goals, keep at it fren.

>>76268862
I'm in a similar position. I think I have avoidant personality, but I've been trying to make an effort to keep in contact with people.

>>76268944
Stay strong. What's important is you're trying, even if it's only slightly. Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly

>got home from work yesterday
>flopped onto my bed and fell asleep
>now I'm at the office again
Apparently, this is "life".
This is all it lead up to.

Is there a way to meet people like you did in college as an adult? I miss the dorm setting where you could just meet easily people, hang out casually in groups and go to events. I've tried going to some events at my apartment complex but no one shows up, same with going to the pool. Most people just use it to tan or lay around while they let their kids run wild. Most people just don't talk either. I feel like I haven't met a new person in years. Been out of college for eight years now and the further I get from it the more I miss that dorm setting. Wish I would've enjoyed it more while I was still there.

>>76269117
They see your effort. You can heal avoidant behavior if you find some safe people who are patient with you.

Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xbDKBhEjM4

>>76267245

good job CFA anon! use her words to remind you when you feel you're second guessing your capabilities in the future. it seems you're comfortable enough in your role because you've decided to study for the level 3 CFA exam again. this step shows that you're much better at your role than you give yourself credit for. keep moving forward and solve your work problems with your ingenuity! it's a big step to leave the family nest. do your best and make your parents proud!

progress is not linear. some missteps are par for the course, but the main thing is you're moving forwards and growing. one step at a time. your diligence and persistence will pay off eventually, that view is going to be so beautiful :)

it's normal to plateau, don't beat yourself up too much. it'll take some time to adjust just like how you got used to your previous bench set-up. you're still putting in the effort and hard work to keep on top of your physical health despite being very busy with work and study, that is applaudable!

some good news on the teaching application front. i got a call earlier this week and i got into the program! after a lot of uncertainty since resigning from my role last year (thinking that role was my actual career switch!), it seems the universe and fate has directed me towards teaching as an alternative career. i am grateful there's more clarity again on my professional journey :) i am ready for the challenge! it's going to be an intense program, baptism of fire if you will. but i will draw on my current tutoring experience, seek advice and wisdom from others around me who are already teachers, and do my absolute best. let's fucking go!

good luck brothers and sisters! no matter how bleak it seems. keep pressing forward. set daily goals and keep ticking them off. keep busy and put in the work. things will eventually turn for the better.

>>76269498
Yes. See >>76269351

>dream I was a little kid again
>my family and I are going out to eat together at a chinese restaurant
>there's mom and dad sitting in the front of my mom's old suv
>me in the back with my siblings
>we park and get out, slowly start waking up
>hear someone moaning/crying
>oh shit it's me
What the fuck just happened?

>>76270234
Was this a wet dream?

>>76270245
No

>>76270247
Wouldn't worry too much about it then. I routinely dreamed about fighting my dad well into my 30's. I think it's just your brain's way of working some things out for you.

>>76270257
Fair enough
>I routinely dreamed about fighting my dad well into my 30's.
kek jesus christ

>>76269018
You’re doing too much for people who appreciate you too little. Prioritize finding a better job so you can increase your pay and have better balance.
Now that you know what matters to you, commit to those goals fully. You will make it, even if you must climb out of hell

>>76266704 (OP)
>be 18
>want to get fit
>start lifting in undergrad gym
>winter break go skiing
>tear rotator cuff
>lockdowns happen soon after
>physical therapists aren't essential businesses
>sit at home with a useless arm for 4 months
>get physical therapy
>can't get to a gym because far away
>still too lazy to do body weight exercises because depressed
>go back to undergrad for the last year
>lift
>go into law school
>continue lifting for the year
>depression fades
>second year starts
>immediately herniate an upper disc
>arm on fire constantly, have to stay in bed
>takes 8 months to recover
>full of fire in my soul
>be 24

I've lost a lot of time and I'm not starting from much but I will become the strongest I can be. I want this more than any wealth.

>>76269351
For some people, it is. However, some of us still have hopes and dreams that help us live through stressful times.

>>76269018
FUCKING HELL
THE DAY AFTER I START GETTING SHIT TOGETHER I HAVE A KIDNEY STONE THAT NEEDS TO HAVE SURGERY FUCKING FUCK
>>76270616
I've already started to look elsewhere. Like I said, I'm building up an even bigger work load so they can clean up after me when I'm gone.

Been seeing this girl and it's going well, we have a lot in common, lots of similar interests, I enjoy spending time with her and speaking to her but she doesn't really excite me sexually and I don't feel any deep like emotional desire for her, what do boys? Other than that I'm really enjoying my new job, can start earning commission from my sales in a few days which is exciting, cute young blonde asked for my number today and I declined because of my situation but kind of regretting it now

Test

>>76271284
did it work? :)

>>76269594
We have plenty of time to make it. But we need to take advantage of our precious time

>>76271179
Cut down on porn and fapping. Search your feelings about her again after that.

>>76266704 (OP)
Idk what to really say but I’m tired. I want so much more out of life. I’m too tired to even numb myself with the usual distractions after work. I just lay and stare at the ceiling maybe scroll a bit. The weekends I may play a video game. This isn’t life. This is gay. Idk what the point is. And the fact my experience isn’t different for many people around my age is upsetting. I can’t
>date because too tired shit work schedule probably not gonna be too different any job
So I’m alone and haven’t had sex in years. I have a few women who want to hang out but I’d rather just rest and having work the next day doesn’t help. Weekends yeah but that’s for recovering so I can go back to work as refreshed as I can.
>hobbies
No time no money so even more bored.
>literally anything
Above same shit.
It truly is give up all your time so you’re allowed to just barely exist. I’ve never liked to drink and I’ve been craving alcohol I’ve literally hated being drunk every single time and found it detracted from my nights. I can hold my liquor it’s just gay to me.
And here I am thinking about buying some liquor or beers. Not going to because I don’t enjoy it. But I understand how easily some people turn to alcohol now.
I should be spending my time fighting to survive catching fish and hunting game repairing shelter making tools and shit fucking whatever wife(s) I’ve taken and teaching sons to hunt. This shit is gay.

>>76270234
You clearly love them and miss living happily with them

>>76271635
i feel the same way about alcohol. it just kinda sucks. i used to drink quite a bit but the negatives seem to outweight the positives. rarely ever drink now and i'm hyper-focused on my goals.

I can't do pull ups due to being a fatass and having weak shoulders. I'm working on achieving them. I know how gay negative pullups, bar hanging and "girl pull ups" at an angle with legs touching your ground look. I don't really care.

Tonight I just wanted to ride my bike at sunset for 20 minutes or so. When I reached my goal I was feeling great and didn't turn around. Ended up riding 12km (x2 since I had to ride back, too), with lots of ups and downs. This is honestly an easy distance, but I only usually ride my bike to get groceries damn I felt in full control of my body.
Feels surprisingly good, really.

>>76266704 (OP)
It's my birthday today

>>76271887
Happy birthday, birthday boy!

>>76271898
thank you anon :)

>>76271887
Happy birthday you fucking faggot

>gf cheated on me
>break up
>she goes absolutly hysterical, breaks down and has to go to the hospital
>begs me to stay

Why are they like this.
Man, she was my first gf (formerly 30yo khv) and I was happy for the first time in my life. Enjoyed spending time with her, geniunely. I'm not sad or really hurt by it, just lonely. Being lonely didn't bother me for all my life but now I miss spending time with someone else. Going on vacation, movie nights, talking with her, just going on walks with her.
I dread having to start dating again. And I fear I will have trust issues in future relationships.

>>76272094
If you EVER go back to her she WILL do it again

>>76272112
Thanks for the heads up. I won't go back to her. I coulnd't, I kinda resent her for what she did.

>>76272094
>Being lonely didn't bother me for all my life but now I miss spending time with someone else.
normies have felt like this since their teenage years, crazy to think about

>>76272094
Women like that, especially outside of their teenage years, don't learn and don't change.

Now you have some relationship (and hopefully sexual) experience, you're ready for the meat market. Just pay attention to similar warning signs if you encounter another BPD chick.

>>76272094
If it makes you feel any better you can kinda go back. I've been single for five years since my last relationship. I just got so tired with the cheating, modern dating and the fact that when you say the C and F words women just ghost you. Most days I dont feel like I need the company or a gf. But every now and then the nagging comes back. Those are the annoying days. And having to bury my dreams of children and a family was a bitter pill to swallow. But I've dealt with that too.

>>76272167
I hope >>76272180 is right and I can go back. For now, at least. Burying your dreams of children and a family seems dark and depressing. I hope you find someone, Anon.

>>76272176
I don't expect her to change. And yeah, now I'm comfortable around sex but I fear that I've been spoiled. We had sex every time we were together, she gave me head almost daily and we were cuddling all the time. I feel like that's an unrealistic expectation for future relationships.

>>76272252
How long were yall together?

>>76270875
It's never too late to try again. Now you can return to the gym and work hard! You have the fundamentals down, you'll get back into it quickly! Good luck!

>go with mom to store
>anon that girl was looking at you
>anon that girl stood up the second she saw you
>anon that girl was cute you should bring someone like her home
Is it true or is she just trying to make me feel good about myself? I'm borderline autistic if that matters

>>76271179
give her 3 months. If you really don't feel stronger about her, move on

>>76266704 (OP)
ex girlfriend refuses to let me see my son, lost my vehicle and then my job because of excessive child support payments, family ready to kick me out since employment is hard to find in my area, recovered as a drug addicted yet all my old friends and town refuses to believe ive changed

>what do you plan to achieve?
i plan to achieve being an hero

>>76272467
That many in a store is very uncommon unless you're exceptionally tall and handsome.

Like 6'3+ and 8/10+ face

>>76272467
she's just worried you might be gay

>>76271179
are you moving for the work? if so you should dump a few loads in her and skip town. might as well throw some seeds out there before you move on to your next chapter

>>76271167
It's a setback, you'll bounce back in due time

>>76272557
>my old friends and town
You need to leave the nest. If you're planning on killing yourselfyou have nothing to lose by just moving out and trying to make it work somewhere somehow

First day off THC again. Im ready to get my brain chemistry back in order and get rid of this glorified pacifier in my life. I need no crutch and I’ve got strategies in place for my typical craving triggers. Pray for me bros.

>>76271635
Do you have any goals whatsoever? You need to something to want in order to live with purpose

>>76272467
I don't think mom would lie about that
If she's just saying "You're so handsome" you can disregard that but specific people doing things people don't lie about
also she's not lying either way, she genuinely believes you're handsome if she says so because she is mother. but you should not take too much stock in that because mothers love loving even if it's not good for you. my mom tells me I look totally fine and perfect but I know she always said that and if it was up to her I would have never gotten into shape
>>76271923
Thanks anon :)

>>76272784
if nothing else, I sent one up for you anon

i am

>>76272784
You can do it anon!

>>76271879
There’s no shame in being a beginner. Focus on doing what you can do now. Eventually you’ll be strong enough to do a proper pull up

I didn’t think it was humanly possible to be as depressed and miserable as I am. I barley speak to anyone, I never smile, I hardly even look up from staring at the ground. The shame and humiliation I feel about my life is completely indescribable. It’s not possible to have less self esteem or a lower self worth than I have. Every day when I wake up I’m already starting the day as miserable as someone can be because I didn’t die in the peace of sleep. I am a burden on myself and on everyone around me. I am a source of humiliation for my parents. I don’t have friends or a relationship or career or any goals whatsoever to want to improve for. I may not be so depressed that I can’t get out of bed, but with how I just do the same routine every day for years with no effort to change, it’s arguably worse. Every person I pass by in public, all I can think is how much more attractive, happy, smart, rich, and worthwhile of a person they are than I am. The worst of all is the extreme cowardice I have for everything which is the only reason I’m still alive; if I had any courage at all, I would have killed myself 15 years ago at age 18 to save myself from the resulting unconscionable misery that I have lived with since.

>>76267063
Snorlax again.

Just found out I'm going to be a father.

>>76272094
Update: She is driving 500 miles to see me. I blocked her everywhere but didnt knew she had my work mail. I told her to stop this shit and she threathened to stand at my door the entire night until I open up. And do so for every week until I talk to her.


How do I handle this? I wont take her back so that is out of the question.

>>76271884
Congrats on that experience! We can endure the hardships of life through little joys like that

>>76274699
Congrats and checked on having a munchlax! Be the type of father your future child will want to emulate

>>76270257
>I routinely dreamed about fighting my dad well into my 30's
Fuck anon are you me?

>>76270257
>>76275194
Same here. Reading Freud seems like it would explain, not resolve, a lot of issues.

>>76274855
Unironically call the police if she appears at your place and harasses you.

>>76273664
You are becoming

>>76271879
I'm 6,0 220lbs and pretty fat still, I can now do 2 whole chin ups after doing the following. find a grip on lat pulldowns that hits your lats: spam that and a row of your choice, 2-3 times a week for 6 months and you will be able to pull yourself up in your chosen grip.

>>76272784
You’re stronger than you can ever hope to imagine!

>Philippians 4:13

>>76275383
That’s actually really good advice, thanks

Applied for a job a few minutes ago. I have not worked since 2011, but after getting fit and dropping over 100lbs in the past few years I realized that I have potential, I am not a terrible person and I am going to make it.

My abs are also beginning to show, despite still having loose skin and stubborn stomach fat from losing weight.

>>76275875
great to hear, apply to as many jobs as you can and good luck

My cut is taking weeks and weeks longer than anticipated but I cut my caloric budget again at the end of last week and I'm seeing progress again. It's rough but I'm close to abs, very close. I'm hopeful of abs by Independence day.

I am NEVER letting myself overeat ever again. Holy shit it's annoying having to endure weeks of cutting because I stopped counting calories for a month around the holidays. Never again.

>>76275904
yup,
once you reach your goal weight you need to weigh yourself weekly and when you go 3 or 5 kilos over it then you go for a quick cut to go back to where you were
you have to stop weight gain early because the longer it goes on for the harder it is to reverse

>>76275875
May I ask a question or 2?

1. How old are you and why now did you decide to turn things around?

2. Do you feel more like it's 2011 or are you up to date on everything?

>>76275904
What matters is that you're addressing the issue now. You'll definitely make it, but you need to push hard. Good luck!

>>76275875
You made the right choice, you do have potential. You have the power to transform for the better and reintegrate into society. Keep applying. Eventually you'll make it

I've been aiming to hit 120kg x 10 reps on RDL for awhile and I'm just about there, I hit 117.5kg for 6 last week with maybe 1rir, so I'm confident ill get 120 for 6 next wednesday and then it'll just be a matter of adding a couple reps. I still have a few other trength goals i wanna hit but those are still a little further away like a 45kg x 10 barbell curl, rn im at 33kg 12.

we all going to make it :D

>>76276180
37 years old. I turned things around because I was tired of giving excuses for why I could not do things. I was tired of health issues, tired of being broke, tired of living on SSI. Tired of being someone I was ashamed of, even after losing weight. I would dare say I am up to date on life? I have not been in a bubble for the past fourteen years or anything. I just had psychological issues and let my fear control my life. After getting on government help, I grew complacent on the government teat. Why bother when you can just exist and get paid for it? But I have realized that it is not truly fulfilling and I was just rotting in a different sort of prison - spiritually and physically.
>>76276425
Thank you, Anon. I have some fear and trepidation, not to mention I will need to begin driving once more - but despite all those things, I think this will be a positive change to my life, even if I do not get to sit on 4chan in the hours I am not doing cardio or weight lifting once I find employment. I will succeed, I will become the kind of person who inspires others to succeed and I will make a better future for myself.

>>76274855
call the cops. she's stalking you and threatening to harass you at your home. might wanna file a restraining order as well.

>>76276494
can ou explain how you ended up in this position? are you in the usa? im 33 years old but also pretty much a complete loser, i have a shit job, i live with my parents, and i also dont drive

>>76276522
General anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder. I let them ruin my life, ended up on a lot of psychiatric medications after being sent from shrink to shrink. I am in the USA, yes. I live with my parents too and if you are willing to try and change you are not as loser. Trying and fighting makes winners, even if you do not succeed at first!

>>76276548
i probably have that shit, or avoidant personality disorder or something. but the sad thing is, ive never been to a therapist, or diagnosed, or medicated, or anything.

how have you gotten the courage to now try to make something of your life after wasting all of it? i mean, the feelings of shame and humiliation and regret that i have have completely crippled and ruined my entire life. literally all i think about every minute of every day is how far behind i am, how ive wasted every opportunity, how normal people have had a decade, decade and a half of normalcy with friendships, relationships and sex, memories, careers, life milestones, etc, while ive basically done nothing.

>>76276567
>how have you gotten the courage to now try to make something of your life after wasting all of it? i mean, the feelings of shame and humiliation and regret that i have have completely crippled and ruined my entire life. literally all i think about every minute of every day is how far behind i am, how ive wasted every opportunity, how normal people have had a decade, decade and a half of normalcy with friendships, relationships and sex, memories, careers, life milestones, etc, while ive basically done nothing.
I realized that making excuses would not get me any farther in life. I realized that I was actively hurting myself by alienating myself from the world, that I was not feeling fulfilled or happy. I just started with small changes and saw life getting better, so I tried harder and did more. Now I have been dating a wonderful woman for nearly a year, I have put work into my hobbies, I have stopped making excuses for why not and instead began actively looking for what can I do. It is hard and it will hurt, but you can grow. You can make it bro. We're all going to make it!

>>76276567
Sorry, sent my post too soon. Some incredible people did not "take off" until their thirties. Look at Lemmy from Motorhead, Bill Burr, Bernie Mac. Everyone lives by their own pace but just remember, you only quit when you are dead. Everyone brings something different to the table, just never give up. It's a miserable rut to be in, but please Anon just try. Girlfriend and I are both wishing you the best of luck and hope that you can find happiness and change for the better.

>>76276628
thats quite interesting that you were able to get a girlfriend as a 36 year old who hadnt worked in 13 years, lives with parents, doesnt drive, and was obese.

I am too damn old to do the stereotypical teenage boy thing of "see cool man on screen, autistically adopt his mannerisms and devote my entire life to becoming that man". Yet here I am doing it again and I've enjoyed these last couple of months of my life more than I've enjoyed the last couple of years.

>>76276808
I might not have been in the best of life situations when I met her, but we get along very well, I enjoy her company and just tried. Better to try and fail instead of regret and wonder years later if she was the one or it was a perfect moment.

>>76272094
you sound like a bitch dude literally just do the opposite of what you're crying about lmfao
>putting yourself worth into another person
NGMI

>>76276452
That’s insanely strong, congrats! You’ll hit that goal soon.
we’re all gonna make it :DDD

>>76276628
>>76276640
I really commend you for being able to overcome the shame and humiliation to actually make some progress in life, however late it is. Being 33 with noting to show for it and no memories to reflect back on, I’m just completely hopeless and defeated. I see no point because why does it matter anymore. Why would a woman want a 33 year old miserable loser. Why would anyone wants to be friend with a 33 year old miserable loser. Why would any decent job, career, or company want some 33 year old loser with barely any skills and a repugnant personality when everyone else is more worthwhile and younger ones are more moldable. It all just seems completely pointless

>move back in with family in Jan
>saving money but shit kept hitting the fan
>grandpa died in march
>uncle died in may
>living with my sister is probably the most mentally exhausting thing a man has to go through
I'm going to try to move back out again. I wanna confront my sister for how she is, but I fear her anger. Rather, I fear her anger FOR her.

>>76269915
Thank you for the praise. I need to believe in myself and my efforts. To tell you the truth, I’m not totally comfortable enough to balance the two. But I know I need to pass the final level. I’m so close to reaching my destination, I need to push a little further. I want to make my old man proud.

The path to the summit is difficult. I know I’ll fall a couple of times. But I need to keep stepping forward everyday. I’ve dreamed of seeing the top for a long time, now simply finally see it :)

Unfortunately, my elevated cortisol levels might prevent me from truly growing over the next 7 months. I’ll continue to train, but I need to set reasonable goals. I need to prioritize form and safety over smashing prs. I’m taking a detour, I’ll become strong eventually

Congratulations on your application, teacher anon! It took some time, but you’ve finally reached a place where you belong! You’ve worked hard incredibly hard and are now on the right track :) Anything worth obtaining will be extremely difficult. But you’ve proven over the last year that you’re capable of working hard, even under stressful conditions. Leverage all of your experience and connections to succeed! You have the tools necessary to achieve what you desire. Good luck!

Our journeys can’t be traced on maps. They are unconventional and unorthodox. Yet somehow, everything will work out. Keep pushing forward everyday. One day we’ll all make it

>>76278230
Anon, stop fixating on what you lack and what you think you are not. Focus on what you can be, what you can work towards. It will not be easy or quick, but if you go into it with a positive attitude it helps greatly. Instead of making excuses and not trying, you should just throw yourself into trying to improve and better yourself. You call yourself a loser, but have you ever tried to actually win? A negative mindset will destroy any attempts before you even begin. I wish you the best of luck Anon but you need to at least try. Throw yourself into the fray and fight until you accomplish something. Might take days. Weeks. Years. Might even take your entire lifetime, but at least you go out without regretting that you never tried to begin with.

>>76272180
What are the C and F words?

>>76266704 (OP)
Almost died in a car accident last month now I have a scar to serve as a reminder. I think it looks cool. Also glad to get my strength relatively back. I just need to focus really hard the next few weeks and prep for a scholarship interview. Shit has been chaotic. Family on the verge of splitting due to the Jew and Palestine shit, not sure how I feel about it. I just want to fuck off. Have been a neet the last year and a half, hope it changes.

>>76279162
>Family on the verge of splitting due to the Jew and Palestine shit, not sure how I feel about it.
are you jews or palestinians?

>>76276852
There's nothing weird about wanting to emulate someone cooler than you, just don't be cringy about it. I'm glad you're happy

>>76278970
Children and family

I hit 100kg bench for reps for the first time in my life. The day is good.

>>76278638
If you really need the money, endure it a little longer. However, if you really value your mental health, move out ASAP. You're always paying your rent somehow

Had a pretty bad day today. Not sure what happened but all of a sudden I got into a depressive mood and was thinking about dying. Not suicidal thoughts as so, but craving death.
My mind is fucking with me, I'll go for a midnight walk right now to clear my head.

>>76279162
Good luck on your scholarship interview! Try researching what type of questions they might ask

>>76279438
Congrats fren! You've worked hard and can now see your results

>Migraine all day
>Didn't lift or run because of it
>Breaking like a 6 week streak of doing something active every day
>Depresso espresso
Help dig me out of this bros

>>76279828
Don't let one bad day break you. Something minor occurred, you shouldn't tear yourself apart because of it. Tomorrow will be better, but you need to make the conscious choice to be happier

>>76280211
There's no shame in resting if you truly feel ill. Don't see it as a failure in your streak, see it as necessary rest for your body. Tomorrow you'll wake up feeling better and be active. You're not starting over from 0, you've made great progress already. YGMI

>>76274675
just like me fr

>>76275875
damn bro even I'm getting secondhand inspiration from your words. wagmi
>>76276567
I empathize, I'm 25 with no bachelor's because every fucking thing stresses me out and seems impossible. used to be a straight A student now I'm just a neet. oh well,
>le sigh
>we cringe on

>>76279173
i havent done any reading on either positions. so i honestly cant tell you what side i would pick.

>>76279969
thanks anon! much appreciated and yes will definitely prep more. have been practicing with family/friends.

>>76281209
Life is stressful but we need to learn to live with the pressure

I've had maybe four girlfriend over the last year and change. Always ends the same way. They need to "find themselves" by going travelling or committing to their jobs more or whatever. In some sense, I figure they get scared that I know who I am and have put the time in to become professionally successful and secure. And when I tell them it's okay not to know, that they'll get there in the end, they throw tantrums or do weird things that make me dislike them as people. Not to sound like a robot, but I just don't get women anymore. I'm starting to dislike their company, but I don't wanna become jaded.

>>76284303
Don't let yourself become bitter and jaded. You've had some shit gfs, but you'll find someone better eventually

>>76284471
I hope so, anon. I try to give each one my all and to care for them openly and honestly, but they can't seem to reciprocate. Or else, they can for a while, but they inevitably start to worry about the usual things that seem to make women so unhappy these days. Even if we don't stay together, I want them to be happy going forward. That doesn't seem to be in the cards for many of them, though, and I'm growing tired of watching them crash and burn.

I really want to grow closer to my old man. I haven't been the easiest kid to raise. But now that he's retired, I want to play an active role in his life

>>76267256
I've been room rotting more than I should because I have such a plethora of freedom now vs being a shutin back home, I do not know what to do. It doesn't help that I'm waiting on something I had mailed so I'm not hesitant to leave the hostel. I did go out to dinner at the night district with this hippie chick and her friend who was staying at my dorm for a night. It was the first time in forever I hung out with friends, or in this case acquaintances. I am also overwhelmed by living alone for the first time and being responsible for food laundry and other shit. I need to lock in and get things done.

>>76284680
Don't overwhelm yourself. You're young and in a foreign country. Try to relax and focus on taking small steps. Even ensuring that you go to a new restaurant and park every night is a good stepping stone

I finally sent my cv to a bunch of places yesterday
and
I will do the same today


Gotta pay more attention to the listings and ignore real estate agent and assistant positions. I got a call from one today and basically realised that I don't want anything to do with that.
The guy asked me if I know what the position does and I said "uhhhhhh not really" haha
and then he told me they do comission only pay which I can't do as I need cash soon

>>76286095
Good luck bro! As a piece of advice, use ChatGPT to revise your CVs before applying. Don’t copy directly, but use it to enhance your CVs

>>76266704 (OP)
Let's fu king go boys just dud an hour of cardio. Don't give up.

>>76286746
Nice job!

I'm going out with a girl today but I don't really want to because I know she's not into me and she's moving away in a few months anyways.

>>76287462
go for the practice

>>76287462
Just go. You'll have fun

>>76287462
Touch her

>>76287462
Unleash your inner cringelord and go nuts
this is one in a lifetime opportunity

>>76287623
like sexually?

>>76274675
If your heart is beating, you still have time to try to improve your life. Set goals and work towards them

>>76287685
no not that far. small stuff.

>>76288080
just the nipples then? got it

Anybody have any experience with duolicious? I've decided to sign up for the app since I know I'm too weird to date a normie

>>76288228
it's a very obvious scam
if you really wanna talk to a woman go on interpals or a discord server

>>76288263
Thanks. I'll check the local discord servers for my region

>>76287485
>>76287616
>>76287623
>>76287663
I actually ended up having a good time. I got past the phase where I thought she was a potential gf and now I realize she's actually a good friend. Can actually be comfortable about saying whatever I want and not having to care what she thinks.
I'm kind of sad now that she's going away. She was talking how she already made friends at her new school meanwhile all of my friends have slowly become worse people doing drugs and shit. Everytime I have something good it always needs to go away.

Idk brehs it's a weird feeling. I'm back to being a virgin incel but at least for a couple hours I felt like a normal person.

>>76288529
I'm glad you had fun. Stay friends with her since she seems like a positive influence. The fact that you can still make friends proves that you aren't a complete lost cause

>>76288683
Yeah, it's just getting kind of annoying how close I am to making it and yet it's still so far.
I thought I was finally expanding my social circle past the same few retards from my highschool (of which only one I can really consider an actual friend) and now she's going to leave for a minimum of four years cause uni. So now I'm back at the start.

And honestly I was kind of jealous hearing her talk about her friends and all the shit they do. All I do with mine is we meet each other and they cry about their problems until we go home. I have my problems too obviously but I hate being around negative people but they're also the only ones I have.

>>76288854
What matters is that you're getting your life together now. You'll make it soon