How you holding up grandpas?

my only concern with being over 30 is societal expectations

Got elbow tendonitis from benching so I'll just squat until I get knee tendonitis.

>>76303404
From who?

>>76303404
People from high school are married with children and I’m just talking to chubby chicks psyching myself out from fucking them last minute

>>76303391 (OP)
Feel great about my body but I can see the horrors of old age on the horizon. Running is my cope because your distance peaks in your 30s. I can run for a few hours at a time, my knees are the limiting factor, not my legs, lungs, or will.

>>76303422
you know the pressure of where you should be in life at that age

>>76303422
the clock is ticking anon

>>76303391 (OP)
same ol. physical peak. zero libido. t.35

31 and only started getting /fit/ 3 months ago. Wish I started sooner cos not only am I noticing the benefits already, I'm actually enjoying it much more than I thought I would. I never lifted before so my only experience with exercise was doing cardio which was always a chore. I'm actually having fun lifting and I feel good after a workout instead of bad even though my body is just as sore and tired from either one. Only downside is my body can't recover as quick as it once did and living my adult life out of shape only set my starting position back even further. I've never been so motivated for anything in my life but my body's limits are so low right now. I'm making progress but it's slow and seeing how far I am from where I want to be is a bit disheartening. Still, I persist

were people always this stupid on this board? The worst thing I remember about old /fit/ was constant shilling of myprotein and onions

>>76303391 (OP)
>torn meniscus
>separated shoulder
>tennis elbow
>constipation
Been worse bub

>>76303391 (OP)
Better'n you are, I guarantee.

>>76303467
Remember when our generation would drive into swamps if the GPS told us to? These kids replace thought with hallucinating LLMs

>>76303391 (OP)
I'm on so much gear rn
fr fr no cap

>partial tear of supraspinatus tendon
>tenosynovitis of the biceps tendon
>moderate glenohumeral joint effusion
>hypertrophic changes of the acromioclavicular joint
>minimal effusion of the subcoracoid bursa

>>76303391 (OP)
I can't shoot ropes anymore. My cum always dribbles out. I used to be able to hit my own face on third jerk of the day.

I only need to lose 40 pounds and get a better paying job and find a decent woman haha that’s it haha

>>76303391 (OP)
Want to go buy a shotgun and delete myself every day.

>>76303391 (OP)
>34
>Brutally dumped by fiancé 2 years ago
>Facing 10 years in prison due to getting sex hoaxed
>Charged with impaired driving and stunt driving
>Fatty Liver
>Degenerative Disc Disease causing chronic pain
>Tinnitus because I forgot to bring ear plugs to a Metallica concert
>Grandma's in the hospital
>Got scammed out of most of my money by "friends" I have known for 15 years
>In debt
>Fell in love with infertile 20 year old
>Doing AA bullshit
>Family is disappointed in the abysmal failure that is my life

In good news I lost 50lbs since Januaray and im breaking all my PR's in the gym so there's that.

>>76303571
Haha! At least you’re banging a 20 year old, right?

>>76303571
>>Facing 10 years in prison due to getting sex hoaxed
huh?

>>76303596
Not even banging her lol

Also cant get laid despite being great looking cause girls sense my inner turmoil and are turned off by it.

>>76303597
I think the term "sex hoax" is pretty self explanatory. Not going to get into the details because its unwise.

>>76303629
its really not self explanatory at all. so you messaged an underaged girl trying to get sex and she told the cops?

>>76303629
Sex hoax is not self explanatory. It sounds like you found out sex isn't real.

>>76303391 (OP)
Pretty good. Raising my kid, taking care of the yard. Eating healthy and enjoying life.

>>76303422
My mom harassing me about no grandchildren when she knows I'm 5'4 and her goblin genetics fucked me

Happy, healthy, based. Life is really good

>>76303657
take estrogen and get back at her

>>76303650
>>76303653
basically it’s either making a false report of a sexual crime or rape by deception ie manipulating someone into sex

>>76303391 (OP)
I'm fine. 33 now and I didn't start lifting until I was 31. I wish I started in my 20's because I feel better now than I did when I was in my mid-late 20's but it is what it is. Sore lower back every now and then but that's probably more from too much time on the computer since I switched to office work from the field about the same time I started lifting.

>>76303687
Sounds familiar
39 here, didn't start really trying to get /fit/ in earnest until after my divorce at 34 (got the fake rape accusation so she could coverup an affair after 2 kids)
My lower back only starts hurting if I don't keep up with my stretches: ligaments and whatnot start pulling asymmetrically on your hips/spine
Stretch out your hammies/calves aggressively and notice the pain start to alleviate day by day (step by step)

>>76303391 (OP)
32 here.
I'm becoming less willing to go out and do stuff and talk to people (not that I was a social butterfly before). I just want to go to the gym and spend time at home in my garden and wood shop, or watching anime or reading. I'm also more particular about my bedtime.
I'm really enjoying smoking briskets/ribs, but I can't do it super often because macros. Other cooking is a little more flexible with that. I've gotten into coffee too, which is both expensive and delightful.
I'm being made to face the high probability that I have either severe ADHD or mild autism. As life demands more, I'm starting to actually struggle to keep up with things and accomplish goals. I don't really want to go to therapy or get on meds, so I'm starting to look into building better habits.
Lifting is going ok, cardio is going ok.
Getting married next month. Own a house, six figure remote job, etc etc.

Life is utterly empty and I think about shooting myself constantly.

>>76303706
Yep that's exactly it. If it's a busy day and I lose track of time to get up and walk around and stretch I feel it later. Also on days off where it's too shitty outside to go mtb or run and my wife says let's be lazy and play video games I'll feel it after that. Really it's just about being mindful to keep moving.

>>76303391 (OP)
What I wouldn't give to be 31 again, rewind the clock almost 20 years

>>76303747
Your husband is a lucky man

>>76303439
>posts photo of alfonso ribeiro
>on fresh prince he was supposed to be a weird off-putting arrogant virgin
>in reality he was ripped despite only being a teenager
>incredible dancer
>was a dominican wigger putting on a fake white guy accent
>marries hot white woman

>>76303747
>haha im 32 and getting married, i have my six figure remote tech job like everyone else, i own a house, im rich, i accomplish tons of goals, i am motivated to pick up countless activities and hobbies, i have accomplihed more than most people and live a life better than almost anyone you'll ever meet
>but akshually i have mild autism and severe adhd tee hee

>>76303747
>as life demands more
oh yeah? whats life "demanding more" from you anon? your 6 figure do nothing remote job? that you already own a home? that you are getting married? all your hobies you have, your home garden and wood shop? yeah bro. life is demanding so much from you.

34yo single virgin here. Failed to launch millennial, still living with parents together buried in high 6 figures of debt due to failed family business that my dad dragged us through. Developed tinnitus from overuse of earbuds due to never having any privacy of my own. Will probably never get to move out or date. Want to shoot myself every day, too much of a coward to go through with it.

I'm 33 years old and one of the most pathetic, worthless, humiliating failures that you would ever meet in your life. It defies understanding how someone could live this long and still be this much of a pathetic failure. The only reason I'm not dead is because I'm too afraid to do it.

>>76304253
Talk about timing. Sounds like we are almost nearly identical, except my parents aren't buried in debt and are doing well financailly, but I barely speak to them despite still living with them and we barely have a relationship. Sometimes in a twisted way, I almost wonder what it would be like to have losers like us meet.

>>76303571
>34
Don't waste it. I know your problems seem big, and they are, but they're manageable, and unless you really want kids, having a 20-year-old piece of ass is fucking awesome. Honestly, it sounds like all you've got to do is keep hacking away at your career/financial goals. Seems like love and fitness are sorted and that's the larger part of the battle.

You're got another 10 years before you start feeling old. Just tough it out.

>>76303391 (OP)
Almost 50 here. It takes me like a week to recover from a simple full body routine. I'm constantly fatigued. Becoming mildly fatalistic. Misanthropy levels continually rising

>>76303391 (OP)
Better than all of you combined.

>>76303467
No, this board has gone drastically downhill. It used to have a pretty good grasp on fitness but has now devolved into fitness magazine tier retardation.

>>76303629
>girls sense my inner turmoil and are turned off by it.
I would have expected the opposite

>>76304260
>I almost wonder what it would be like to have losers like us meet
Probably nothing really. Human relationships are always based on give and take on some level. Losers neither with anything to offer will probably just greet and disperse immediately.

>32
>broke up with gf a few months ago
>business is moving slow
>lifting is moving slow
>town feels dead
>nothing to do

It’s insane how much life can change when you are an incel in a dead down. It’s over bros

>>76304435
Good conversation is worth more than just about anything else you can bring to the table.

Been having a cough that doesn't go away for 2 months now

its horrible being a loser at any time, but being one in your 30s like me is particularly horrific.

>all the people younger than me that i look at, teenagers, 20s, i just think of how i was their age and wasted any opportunities i had, how those are some of the best years of your life and i had nothing to show for them, the most critical years for development socially, romantically, career,basic life milestones, and i achieved none of them
>look at people older than me and either see the fruits of decades of hard work and development, having spouses, having families, having houses, having careers, and think about how im so far behind that theres no point in even bothering to try this late
>look at people a similar age range to me and see how far behind i am people in my own age bracket

just everyone i look at, all i does is remind me of my failure.

>>76304446
yeah exactly, so nothing to offer

>>76304467
It sucks man. Literally the only thing I have going for a bald 30yo virgin that lives with his mom is that I have 60k in the bank and have a car.

I was on a good roll early this year but I'm honestly kinda fucked, don't think I could ever get into a loving relationship

32yo
starting surgical residency in a few days
girlfriend is long distance at her own residency program
haven't been to the gym in a few weeks.
feeling rough lads

>>76303391 (OP)
44 here. I literally just did the first pullup I've done since my 20's. I got out of the shower, thought about it, decided it was time, and bang. It wasn't even hard.

Then I realized everyone I know is in bed so I got on here and scanned for a thread where I could post about it.

Midlife crisis dadbod, let's fucking go!

>>76304485
more geniuses

O'm losing my hair at 37, I thought the reaper would spare me until old age.
Sad thing is that I didn't do anything with my hair hecause I got abused all my life and recovered only recently

idk. i got mine. retired at 30.

>>76304501
That’s really rough I hope you got married

35, jacked, have a crush that makes me feel like I’m 15 again

Pretty good. Oldest Son's in High School wrestling but he comes with me to jiu jitsu on the weekends and we train and roll together. Second born has a lot of park time and while hes playing with other kids i walk/jog around to work up to my daily 10k and when we play together we kick a soccer ball around. Youngest is starting to develop his personality starting to want love for fun and attention. I get high volume squats and shoulder presses with him. Started strength training with a bit more focus lately (had just lifted weights when I didn't get a chance for jiu jitsu. so while it was at least weekly it wasn't structured) and am getting close to 1/2/3/4. i got the 1/2/3 ezpz but still working my dl up to 4.

>>76304522
32 btw

>>76304522
>>76304526
>32
>oldest son is in high school wrestling
lol

>>76304501
>>76304513
Everybody still on that "fin/min" meme but I been diving super deep in the topical research chemicals for reverse-balding, and aside from mitochondrial pyruvate carrier inhibitors like PP405, the most potent shit is some crazy China TCM plants: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1934578X251333902
>no, they don't just work on mice, I tested, kek.

>>76303747
You are your own worst enemy

>>76304530
Incoming Sophomore. He was born when I was 17. His mom and I stayed together and had 2 more in the past couple years since my career took off a bit more and we have a house now. Also grappling with my son while I'm still very physically capable and he's at this age is incredible. I recommend it to anybody who can handle the building it takes.

>>76304467
So? The only difference between you and them is they woke up and did it. You sound like you will continue waking up and not doing it. You’re too old to become a doctor but you can easily get into any other lucrative career and still have 30+ years in the workforce. But it sounds like you’d rather wallow in pity, failure, and self doubt, fishing for sympathy on a Japanese image board. Ngmi

>>76303391 (OP)
I'm tired boss

For the doomers in here. when youre 40 you'll wonder why you were too worried to start at 30, when you're 50 you'll wonder why you were too worried and defeated to start at 40. theres a lot of years to live left.

>>76304558
Did you give him the wrestling isn’t gay talk No, we don't get boners wrestling. When someone has been training all season to kill you, it's not very sensual at all.

>>76304574
Yeah but it didn't work. not really a not gay talk like that but like not worrying about the singlet and all that. He's also done Jiu Jitsu as a kid so the grappling wasn't unfamiliar. What got him to do it is that a big group of the freshman football team all decided to do it because the coach recommended it. Now he likes it more than football.

>>76304571
damn that guy sounds like he will be me in 20 years if i dont kill myself first. he definitely has serious psychological disorders

>>76303391 (OP)
My lifts have gone down which is expected, but I'm trying to hold onto my 3pl8 bench until I'm 40 then I can kiss it good bye. Hurts and aches take longer to heal and I just don't eat or drink as much as I used to. All my gym buddies are gone, I am the eternal rock on the immortal shore, everything else is crushed to dust by the inexhaustible waves.

I’m holding up like a champ! Feeling strong at 74 kg, up from 72.9 kg, with lifts climbing (80 kg squat x 10, 87.5 kg bench x 8). The 2-hour workouts (lifting + cardio) tire me out by 14:30, but naps (20–30 min) and my new yogurt-based meals (~3000 kcal, less cooking) keep energy high. Swapped heavy prep (tons of thighs/potatoes) for quick yogurt, bananas, and pita—saves time, still fuels gains. Cardio’s keeping my waist tight (<90 cm), and ~10,000 steps/day feel easy. Sleep’s solid (7–8 hours), though I’m watching if naps mess with it. Only stress is hitting ~73.9 kg by July 2—gains are steady (~0.3–0.7 kg/month), but I might up carbs (~400g) if I stall. Overall, I’m jacked, focused, and mogging in cargos. Ready to crush 33!”

Pretty good, 37yo 205lb 5'10" reporting. 505 DL, 365 squat (haven't gone for a 1rm in a while though) 320 bench, 180 OHP. Playing rugby as a flanker/lock for a local club here in Texas.

Main thing I've noticed is my cardio has ironically gotten better after abandoning long runs and just doing the rugby drills/sprints. I have shit side to side evasiveness so I just try to hit.

>>76304562
there must be someone you lift for or someone you live for, what’s her name?

has anyone here had chronic prostatitis and how did you cure it? i rawdogged too many nightclub sluts and now it burns every time i pee and no antibiotics dont work

>>76303404
It’s the exact opposite for me, the more I age the more I accept my sleazebag nature.

>>76304485
>long distance gf
>medicine
who’s going to tell him? ok ill tell him: she is getting buttfucked by doctors in the supply closet and getting choked with her own stethoscope. i thought this was the 30+ thread, not the naive zoomer thread

>>76303498
You’re fine, you just need to do some rotator cuff rehab exercises.

>t. ortho surgeon

>>76304606
I lift so when I die and enter into Elysium, Zeus will be mirin my gains

>>76304609
you deserve it

>>76304571
i like opening this one regularly

>>76304627
it's okay i'm pretty close to breaking up with her anyways

>>76304659
No it's not ok, break up with her right now and save your dignity, she disrespected you already by fucking other men while you are her emotional tampon.

>>76304571
>>76304657
the sad thing about reading posts like these is that even though im still at rock bottom ground zero of life, thye do nothing to motivate me. being so distraught and in such despair, you should be jumping to do things to improve your lot in life. all i do when reading these things is say yep, thats me, im such a pathetic worthless failure, ive wasted this many years, ill never get the lost years back, ive missed out on so much, theres no point anymore
not trying to fish for sympathy of stupid shit like this, just expressing the reality of the situation. no girl wants to or should want to lower themselves to being with someone like me. no normal person would want to be friends with this. no workplace would want to give any decent job to someone like this. some of us are just meant to rot into dust.

>>76304637
can a nigga live

>>76304677
Lost years
Missed out

Stop thinking about the past. Its gone. You can't change it and it's a waste lamenting about it. Control what you can and that's right now and the future. What's done is done homeboy.

>>76303682
>rape by deception ie manipulating someone into sex
I don't think that's a thing buddy

She ghosted me. :^\

I deserve better.

>>76304724
it happens. let’s say you break and enter a house and in the dark pretend to her her husband and fuck her thinking she was fucking her husband, or you faked being a cop and told her she can get out of the ticket if she sucked your penis

>>76304724
it happens. imagine you have a twin brother and you pretended to be him to fuck his wife

>>76304724
it happens. you lie to a girl that you’re 6 feet and show up to her house in a dark room senselessly but afterwards she turns on the light and you’re 5’t6”

>>76304724
it happens. tell her a queer woman you’re trans but after fucking you she finds out you were a cis male the whole time

>>76304724
it happens. if you conceal an STD from a woman and fuck her that’s rape by deception because she likely wouldn’t have fucked you if she knew you had AIDS

>>76304699
Much easier said than done

>>76304763
To itch their own

>>76304724
it happens. you ask a girl out for dinner on tinder and tell her you're a bitcoin billionaire, but you pick her up in daewoo lanos and tell her you want to split the bill

>>76304789
it happens. you’re 35 years old and make a tinder account saying you’re 23

>>76303391 (OP)
It's rough mah niggas. I've been doing this shit since 2007. Discopathy, torn lat, fucked up delts, rekt elbows but I still mog zoomer shits.

>>76304815
you look gay lol hard to imagine you have sex that isn’t of the homosexual variety

>>76304822
I’ll have you know that I have intercourse with the finest of 18 year olds. You’re just jealous nigga.

>>76303391 (OP)
Not great.

>32.
>6 foot 8 with bad scoliosis
>severe mental health issues
>high school drop out, tried to study Comp Sci at university but quit after a year. Can't focus and memorize things anymore.
>failed business that I ran for 8 years, didn't really develop any actual skills, just very repetitive menial labor.
>business falls apart after having several seizures due to a cocktail of psychiatric medication I was on. Brain damage.
>only saving grace was being relatively handsome, however I got canceled after a hunch of tinder sluts banded together and canceled me publicly.
>rapidly norwooding
>parents hate my guts because my sister is a surgeon and I turned out to be retarded
>unemployed for two years
>never had male friends
>living in my car

I am like a vegetable. Time doesn't feel real anymore. I have no emotions.

>>76304830
you deserve it

>>76304832
You're right.

>>76304822
I'm married. Seethe more, nerd.

>>76304836
fat hands shit shoes lol wife must be 200 lbs

>>76304833
how do you get canceled on tinder

>>76304815
Same, started doing any form of exercise in 2007, got discopathy over the years and I don't really got much to show for it, I didn't really catch up with the physique inflation but I guess a natty with average genetics shouldn't beat himself over that.

Everybody who meets me and doesn't know my age thinks I'm 25. I'm 32. I have some weird genetic makeup where I somehow don't visually age.

>>76304840
It's called being strong, nerd.

>>76304859
Funny how everyone on this site is 30+ but looks 20. Yet, nobody ever posts pics.

>>76304843
Banned from every app.

Women I had hooked up with or dated all collated DMs and made an Instagram page and posted in those "are we dating the same guy" Facebook pages accusing (without evidence) me of being a rapist, etc etc.

Business got firebombed at one point.

Had to get the police involved.

None of my DMs were actually illegal or even that morally dubious, but I don't use social media, so everyone was outraged and I couldn't intervene.

Small city so it blew up.

Don't stick it in crazy Anons. Even worse is sticking it in multiple crazies who know each other.

>>76304871
It ain't even that hard to do with just topical retinoids. I'm personally up to some next-level skin wizardry like photocatalytic photodynamic chemotherapy, getting into all sorts of unusual mineral-dye-light combinations.

>>76304871
everyone is ugly as fuck irl and everyone here claims to be handsome fucking 18 year olds

Where would you take an 18 year old? idk how you could go out with an 5’1” twink that looks like a middle schooler without it raising alarms as a 30+ year old

1.5 pl8 OHP
3 pl8 bench
3 pl8 squat
4 pl8 deadlift
GF and I fuck like rabbits, sex is amazing
Going to trade school to further my career
Abandoned a bunch of old shitty friends that were leeching off of me

Life is great. I'm overweight at this point, but I just don't give a fuck about it lately.

>>76304876
So you whole business was destroyed because of false allegations?

>>76303477
Listen faggot, I know you butt fuckers have a whole month to be real proud you're failed men, but keep that shit to yourself

>>76304657
AND I WILL CONTINUE TO DO NOTHING
lmao suck my dick niggerkike

>>76304830
are you the guy with fucked arm function living in his car? keep your head up king, stay goated
>>76304734
you deserve better. keep your head up king, stay goated

>>76305734
6 ft 8 guy claiming to be handsome is delusional. look at all the multimillionaire NBA players they all look deformed and retarded

>>76304485
>starting surgical residency in a few days
you are doing great, you should be very proud of yourself

>>76303391 (OP)
Healing takes forever.

27 here, I should start roiding

>>76304436
If you’re in your early 30’s and living unmarried in a small town, get out before it’s too late.

There are no girls there that are worth your time. There are trashy drug addled whores and single mommies. That’s it. That’s all you’re going to find. Everyone else married shortly after high school or moved to a city.

You should move to the city
>but city had!
It’s either that or die alone.

>>76304467
>those are some of the best years of your life
Bull
Fucking
Shit.

18 to ~25 are the absolute worst years for most men in many regards. You’re just parroting shit you heard on tv: “best years of your life.”

Why? How?

>poor
Most people in that age bracket are working shit jobs. Even after college money isn’t just tossed at you. It’s not the 1980’s. How are those rent prices and grocery bills? How’s that job market?Yeah. Poor.

>awkward
Many might as well still be teenagers. Just cringe social awareness on anything that isn’t outside of their peer group.

>still live at home
26.2 is the median age at which men permanently move from their parents house in the US (that doesn’t include moving away for college).

>social circle collapse
More true for older people but it starts after college. You’ll have a much smaller friends group. Any girls that were in it are long gone.

>car is probably a piece of shit
It’s either a hand me down from your parents or some bucket you scraped up enough from your job at BestBuy.

>clueless
Ties in to the awkwardness.

At that age, generally speaking, guys are just losers living at home with mom and dad while having like 3 friends and some shit retail job while being totally clueless about literally everything outside of yeeting and Minecraft. But faggots like you tell them “those are the best years of your life” and act like pussy should just fall out of the sky and land in their dicks.

No one is in a unique position if their early 20’s sucked. That’s the default. Stop pretending otherwise.

>>76304993
Why are your squat and bench the same?

>>76303391 (OP)
I’m 65. Doing okay. I lift 3x a week, eat right, get my sleep, and stay active. WAGMI

>>76305910
haha nice man what was it like to see Elvis Presley live

>>76305821
>There are no girls that are worth your time
FTFY. They're all insane. Deciding if there is pussy that is worth your time is up to you.

>>76304836
>i begged a 200+ pound roastie with 200+ bodies to touch my weewee via government contract
betabuxxing is not a flex

>>76305920
Go back to /pol/, homo.

>>76305930
If that wildebeest slimmed down to 130 (normal), would she stay with the guy who proposed to a 220lbs hamplanet?

>>76303499
take 500IU HCG twice a week, you're welcome

>>76305934
what a fag

>>76303391 (OP)
>lift religiously for 9 months
>eat clean
>do low and high intensity cardio outside of lifting days
>good supplementation
congratulations, here's your 5 lbs of muscle and 10 lbs fat loss

>injure knee
>injure shoulder
>can't walk
>can't lift
>can't cook
>can't afford supplements
>cheap alcohol and trash food and vidya for 3 months
aaaand here's your 10 lbs muscle loss and 15 lbs fat gain

>>76305943
Of course not.

>>76303391 (OP)
Mid 40s. I don't get enough sleep because of small kids. I have switched from intensity to volume training with a lot of ballistics to keep up my endurance. Quality of life is okay. Pain free because of the functional meme stuff I do, although my joints click a lot. A1c good, blood pressure okay. Happy to be alive.

>>76305930
kek i literall saw a 30 year old woman’s bio saying she was reaching the milestone of 100 bodies and wanted to celebrate it with someone special

>>76304229
what do you mean wiiger? he's black
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zS1cLOIxsQ8

>>76303422
society

>>76306190
>>76303431
>>76303439
>>76303657

You know what separates the men from the boys? Fierce independence. Only you can know what's truly best for you but only you can figure that out.

>>76303391 (OP)
34, ever since I cut down 25lb (currently 195lb) I'm getting beat up more by the gym but whatever. Things are fine otherwise, thanks for asking

Oh things aren't too shabby, not great, not terrible. Been having some mystery aches, first bad knee pain then my foot. But it's slowly going away. Life didn't turn out how I imagined it would, but I haven't given up yet.
T. 37

If one of your wife's oldest friends hit on you with unmistakable sexual intent when the two of you were one on one a while back, should you let your wife know, or should you just keep quiet? She was somewhat tipsy but nowhere near to the point of being completely sloshed. I don't really want to explode their friendship over one bad moment or to inflame my wife's sense of jealousy and paranoia, but on the other hand, I'd definitely want to know in an inverse situation.

>>76306489
If this is the only time, do nothing and say nothing. If your wife confronts you for whatever reason ("why didn't you tell me my friend was hitting on you?" or w/e) just play dumb and say you didn't pick up on it.

If it happens again, that makes navigating it more complicated. Ask yourself this:
1) is the friend fuckable
2) do you value your marriage
*Only* tell your wife about it if you are certain she'll believe your story over her 'oldest friend', because the friend will likely be vindictive and make shit up about you if the wife confronts her. Chances are, the friend will do classic gas lighting and tell your wife that you came onto her and she turned you down, and that you're lying to ruin their friendship.
>t. been there a few times

>>76306489
Say nothing but from now try avoiding being one on one with her, she can ruin your life so just avoid her at all costs, also let your wife know that you don't like her a lot and something is off with her but don't go directly only when a discussion of her comes

>>76304699
>stop thinking about the past just worry about the present and future
A good thought, but put yourself in the mindset of someone who has reached their 30s with no romantic or sexual experience, limited friendships and social experiences, no good career experience, no life accomplishments, and imagine how positive, hopeful, ambitious and excited you would be about your life and your future when you have nothing to look back on. It becomes pretty easy to see why such people completely give up and just ruminate about their failed life

>>76306535
>is the friend fuckable
She's not ugly or anything but she's definitely not the type of woman who could shake my faithfulness in any real way. I wasn't tempted at all when it happened, it was more surprising than anything because she didn't really seem to drop any signs of interest beforehand so it was like a thunderbolt out of nowhere when she suddenly made the conversation take a turn for the sexual. Though I may have been just blind to the signs, admittedly. She hasn't contacted me since then, and neither did I.

>do you value your marriage
Of course.

I don't think the gaslight scenario is very likely, her friend is a terrible liar, my wife is too good at reading people, and her trust in me is practically absolute anyway.

>>76306557
Yeah, I've given her as wide a berth as possible for now, but I didn't say anything to my wife so far either.

>>76303391 (OP)
37 here, can't complain
I have access to a private gym (not home gym) with great equipment.
Wife is hot af, girlfriend is hot af. They know about each other and are supportive of each other and me.
Got snipped earlier in the year, no surprise crotch goblins!
Fat loss has become more stubborn recently.
Test is in the mid 700s.
Hair is still mostly good, hair genetics mean unless i mutated i'll be fine until i'm in my 80s.
Dick still gets hard at a slight breeze.
Anxiety meds give lasting power to satisfy either woman.
I can't eat certain things, still get randomly depressed as shit despite the list of "good" i could mention.
Was on 0 meds in my 20s, now i'm on 3 for QoL
My LDL is just over 100 so i'm supposed to 'eat more veggies and work out' but i'm in the gym 5-6 days a week, so i guess i need more cardio?
I too experience the cum dribble another anon mentioned... but i'm chronically dehydrated and attribute it to that.

>>76306575
That's me. There is no way I can settle down when I've never experienced my 20s except for work.

>>76303466
You're still winning against the majority of people your age who will never be fit. Good work anon, keep it up

>>76303571
Why did she break the engagement? Like did she "never really love you", did her friends convince her against it, or was there another guy?

>>76303706
In retrospect, was there anything you could have done to prevent the affair?

>>76304487
42 here and right with you. I've been lifting in a home gym for over a year and starting to see my gains come at a much higher cost.

It's looking like TRT for me. Got an appointment at a men's clinic for Wednesday. You thinking to get on the juice too?

>>76304124
Top tips for your 31yo self?

>>76304253
Assuming you're Caucasian. If you anhero, the *ikes win

>>76306688
I looked into it a couple of years ago. I wasn't low enough for insurance to cover it, which I took as a sign that I don't need it yet. I'll get it checked every 4 or 5 years, and hop straight on as soon as it's actually low.

My results have been a matter of diet. I was on a cut for basically a year, lost 30lbs then stalled hard at 205. 6 months of just hovering there, unwilling to make the sacrifices needed to lose more but not satisfied either. Upped my protein, kind of gave up on the cut, and now I've been gaining strength like a damn teenager for a few months. All natty. Getting fat again, though. I have a few strength targets to hit and then I'm back on the cut again.

>>76304467
its horrible being a loser at any time, but being one in your 40s like me is particularly horrific.

>all the people younger than me that i look at, 20s, 30s i just think of how i was their age and wasted any opportunities i had, how those are some of the best years of your life and i had nothing to show for them, the most critical years for development socially, romantically, career,basic life milestones, and i achieved none of them

>high 40s years old
>separated 1.5 months ago (over a decade relationship).
>no kids
>had to move to find work, still unemployed
>No more gains goblin making me wait for her to go to the gym and then cancelling last second. No more trips for ice cream. No more pizza nights because it is too hot to cook. No more hearing that she doesn't like muscly guys. No more inaccurate body measurements when she knows I am targeting something, somehow my shoulders changed by 2 inches as soon as I moved out and had to measure myself.
>no local friends
>there is almost no way to meet people if you don't want to stick your dick in them. Been attempting the limited methods and meeting the most boring people on the planet. I honestly would rather be alone, just trying to get used to it.
>money in the bank
>moved all my stuff out of my exes place. I have been struggling not re-buying everything and now I have all my shit.
>hit two 1 Rep Maxes (calculated) and increased my volume for last workout by 2300 lbs (7%).
>leg day today, fuck yea
>my blood work came back good and I can start doing cardio again. My test is still shit, but at least my kidneys will remain working.
>my dick still works, tested it last weekend. I had more sex than I have had in the last 2 years

Lots to complain about, don't feel the need. I do keep spamming my story, but I am sure it isn't unique. I am in a good place as long as I don't kill myself when the nighttime lonely demons visit. I made the choice to take hope and sadness over misery and being trapped. Would do again, next time much sooner.

>lots to complain about, don't feel the need
how would you describe your post?

>>76304549
Wrong, I am his enemy

>>76306792
>a story of progression
>documentation of the failures that I no longer have to deal with
>a description of the struggles that I need to overcome and the realization that I am still doing my /fit/ thing rather than just offing myself in my apartment.
>an assessment that my body is improving and might be fully functional when I hit 50.

I know you weren't honestly checking in, but it was good to type that out. Thank you and fuck you troll.

>>76305930
Nice projection, bud.

>>76306898
it's called framing

>>76304830
>>76304876
theres something still dignifying about being a giant that gets pussy and is that much of a loser though lol. that is a funny story.

The best job offer I’ve ever received was just granted to me after the simplest, most non-intensive single interview I’ve ever been a part of. So much so that I actually thought they might not even really be interested in me. I’m a straight white man. This after some time of being jobless and on the verge of losing everything including my sanity. It’s never over unless you give up. Stay strong fellow 30 and up brothers.

33 year old neet, returned to the gym recently on a whim. But this time i want to keep going. stopped reading half way trough this thread.

If you lack all of the following:

a quiet peaceful home or place to stay.
enough to feed yourself
some sort of social connection with family or friends.

Then i can imagine life being fucking hard. but if you only qualify for one out of three, cheer up and don't worry so much about lost opportunities or about not reaching your full potential. According to who? You are here; you guys are some of the most bright and curious-minded people and that's something many lack. Cherish what you are if you can't cherish what you have.

>>76303747
it's not a coincidence that the more you get into coffee the less you're able to be a social butterfly

>>76307004
i had all of these & was on neetbux for years. in my big comeback arc now and making 90th percentile income and have a family. im just built different than all you niggas though. some people just got that SHINE that takes em to the next level no matter who holds em back, even if its their own parents

>>76307018
You got lucky coupled with not giving up.

Same as >>76306983, you’d be smart to keep your perspective and be thankful. The struggles of life serve as lessons that we should keep with us when we move on to better times.

>>76303391 (OP)
terrible. Got food poisoning. Think if I was younger id throw up & be ok, now im sidelined for days & feel like I was hit by a truck.
Dont ever grow old anons.
>>76303404
declining health is no joke.

>>76307057
if you try enough you will eventually get lucky even if its preceded by 25 straight years of bad luck. i had to work very very very hard to unfuck things too.

>>76306489
Tell her. She deserves to know what she's dealing with, and the mate guarding sex afterward will be absolutely godlike.

>>76306602
>Wife is hot af, girlfriend is hot af. They know about each other and are supportive of each other and me.
How does this work? Never known a woman to not get insanely jealous.

>>76307178
He's just larping.

>>76304210
Yeah, he's pretty great too, kinda wish he had bigger tits though.

>>76307015
I feel like I'm the embodiment of that meme with the guy standing in the corner at a party.

>>76306731
I got a home test and an appointment to get blood work on Wednesday. I've been keeping my shit at 200 and my diet is actually pretty healthy.

I've always had gyno and chubby love handles. TRT is probably necessary just due to that. I'm just scared it'll make me even more horny, cause my wife is an ice queen these days.

>>76304724
it happens. lets say you tell her she has ghosts in her clothes and she needs to take them off. then telling her that to protect her from ghosts you need to stick your weenie in her hoohah

>>76303391 (OP)
Physically, fine. Body has never been better.

>>76303571
I'll hang out with you brah

>>76306783
>>leg day today, fuck yea
to
>>my blood work came back good and I can start doing cardio again. My test is still shit, but at least my kidneys will remain working.
>>my dick still works, tested it last weekend. I had more sex than I have had in the last 2 years
feel like there was a line missing between these

but good for you anon

>>76303467
>noo, give me back the good old days when roiders posted selfies before they committed trenboloku

>>76304355
>le stupid board, b4 it was full of geniouses

/fit/ is a place for having a chill but opinionated conversation with strangers about fitness topics. Yes it's like a magazine letter section, and yes I'm old enough to remember those.

If you're on 4chan to learn how to fucking lift, you're legitimately RETARDED and deserver what's coming for you. Probably some fag is getting you to do too many squats so he can fuck you.

>>76306783
Good on ya man. I've been trying to expand friends group to good success. Other dad's though, kind of superficial friendships.

Got two brothers though, so I'll always have some kinship there. Family is all getting old and cranky as fuck though.

Congrats on the divorce, think I'm headed that way soon enough.

>>76303391 (OP)
>How you holding up grandpas?
Incredibly tired all the time and dealing with the chronic join pain I got as a result of injuries wrestling from middle school though college. At this point I lift because it's the only way to really alleviate the pain without medication. My doctor wants me to try long release fent patches, but my job has routine drug testing and I don't want to deal with whatever shit show that'd cause.

35 lower back starting to hurt like mofo. I hope it’s my muscles messing up and not my kidney disease or spine. I don’t lift heavy or do deadlifts and squats. Started doing yoga and sleeping on my back. Hope this fixes it. Can’t even do decline bench, my favorite movement, because it hurts too bad.

>>76307472
would you rec against wrestling in general? i want to force my son to do it when hes old enough. but ive no idea about how wrestlers view it or how injury prone it is.

>>76303571
Well anon it looks like the cut is going amazingly and you're lifting heavier than ever before so fuck all that other bullshit. Just keep mogging the manlets in your gym and everything will be ok. Who cares about more fat on your liver and some ringing in your ears when you're benching more plates than your faggot scammer friends?

>>76307489
>would you rec against wrestling in general? i want to force my son to do it when hes old enough. but ive no idea about how wrestlers view it or how injury prone it is.
It's a great sport, and I would recommend everyone do it. Mostly it depends on how intense the coaches of the school's wrestling team is, but the only issue is that the internal culture of being hyper focused on winning competitions, pushing through pain, and staying mentally strong is both its biggest benefit and worst outcome. I don't personally know a single person who wrestled seriously and came out without at least one chronic injury. But at the same time the people that didn't take it seriously never trained or competed enough to get injured.
As a parent you gotta just find that line between letting your kid handle it, and knowing when to step in.

>>76307178
It means both women are also fucking other men, or he’s just full of shit

>>76307273
Hopefully she responds to changes in your body and I guess pheromones? At the very least, maybe you'll get some outside attention that'll spur her into some kind of action.

>>76304571
yeah, this is pretty good. I am well aware of scenarios like this but my brain loves to hide them behind the cope, and I am a copemaster.
I've been looking for materials in a theme of memento mori lately, as I noticed that fear is a really good motivator that works for me, and this is exactly what I needed.

>>76304677
>>76306575
>>76306604
>>76304763
Anon, if you like psychology read up on Adler's approach.
Or better yet, skip psychology and read a book that's called "Courage to be disliked"
>inb4 faggy self help book

Its not a faggy self help book but a philosophical discourse in a form of dialogue between a young man and a philosopher. Like Socratic dialogue.

I read it last year and that book woke me up and allowed me to overcome my fear for the first few time in years, instead of just living around it. I kinda got stuck in a rut, and had the idea based around psychology that if only I get to the root of my behaviours I will know why I am so broken. Well turns out selective memory is a defense mechanism of the brain and some things were meant to be forgotten.

I am a 31 year old overweight KHV and I hate myself immensely. All the terrible shit I could think of happened in my life. I was beaten by my mother, abandoned by my biological father, my sister friends raped me and molested me for months when I was 6 (sorry shota bros, real thing is really not hot at all, especially if you're 6), bullied in every schools I went to, some literally 90's russia black dolphin prison style waterboarding and shit. Betrayed by my "best" friends, almost killed twice, stabbed. I was a drug addict.
This is from top of my head, because if I listed everything I would need a few hours, and I am not trying to vent. I am just trying to paint a picture. My knowledge of psychology only allowed me to cope with the matter of fact - people like me don't recover. Spent years trying to dig myself out and failing, it was truly over and I DESERVED it.

cont. in next post

>>76307680
Thanks man. I'm hoping for the jealousy spurring her into being sexual again.

>>76307707
but that book saved me.

I am not there yet, some things will stay with me for life, but one thing is certain. I am not worthless, and I am going to be happy. I will accomplish my goals.

Since I read it, I got a job in IT (no degree), I lost 17kg's (from 127 to 110 and still ~30 more to go), I put up some muscle, I started fixing my teeth, I started grooming myself and paying attention to how I look. I can even sleep and wake up at somewhat normal hours, I don't get nightmares anymore and I had them for years, almost every night. I also have a car now.

My goal now now is going under 100kg's and losing my v-card to an escort, as I am terrified of women.

and honestly, the idea that I could ever say something like "I am not worthless" means, that I don't hate myself that much anymore. I tried to commit suicide once with an exit bag but I was saved by hikers. Now I can't even go back to the mindspace I was in years ago. Life, however harsh, is still the only life we get, and if we have it, its worth living.

If I could erase all the suffering in the world I would do it, nobody should suffer. I can't though. But maybe if you try to muster up some courage and energy to see things from a different perspective, you will not suffer in the future.

Of course, life is not just happiness. You can't even be content most of the time, its ok. There will be bad times again, there will be rebounds, but its so worth it.
Its unfathomable, you cannot logic your way around this. But you will feel it.

Good luck, or rather what japanese say, Do your best. Because its not luck but your effort that will allow you to be free. And you will be rewarded.

Doing pretty well desu frens!
>turned 40 this year
>running a company with 7 employees
>married for 12 years
>wife and I have a better relationship than ever.
>we both got into lifting together
>I'm stronger now than I ever have been, and looking to get even stronger ofc.

Current lifts
>170 ohp
>225 bench
>335 squat
>380 deadlift
I was told recovery would be harder in my 40s but so far it's smooth sailing.

>>76303391 (OP)
Pretty good, how about you bro?

>>76303492
On god?

>>76307397
Leg day was great and I love cheating my workout volume with calf raises (360 lbsx25x3). I lost 34lbs since the breakup. My fatty liver is less fatty. Things are starting to work like they should. I have been very active at the gym when I was allowed to go, but no amount of work can overcome a shit diet. My old workout levels don't compare to my new levels of activity though. Cardio gives me gout, probably because of my Creatine Kinase being over 6000. It should be between 200 - 395. Kidney failure is at 9000 (insert meme). Feeling safe enough to give cardio another shot since my last reading was about 500. I am tired of hyperventilating and looking like I am going to die during my dumbbell rows and soon it will stop. I hope that it will help to break my plateau, but maybe too much wishful thinking.

Sorry for the crazy order, I was just listing shit that is good in my life. I appreciate your kind words.

>>76307441
Thanks man. I am glad you have friends and family support even if it isn't exactly what you want. I hate to hear about breakups. I hope you can find a better spot to be at, living is misery is dogshit. It is really hard when you sunk a long time in with a woman. All those cries on the couch and listening to her bullshit about some other bitch at the office sudden become wasted time.

>being married is a metric of success
why tho

>>76303391 (OP)
>44
> current OHP/b/s is 72.5/105/160kg don’t know what dl is as haven’t for a year
>maxes last year were 80/120/190/230 but had stopped lifting and cut 35lb and took up climbing
>doing more running now only really lifting OHP and squat plus pull ups
>marriage is good, one kid doing great
>still often get off three times a day, shoot ropes if I haven’t got off the day before
>close up vision is going to shit, get some wiry eyebrows but pluck the fuckers
>still enjoying going up mountains with 20-25kg on my back
>14 years left on mortgage but house has 15 acres with it 20 minutes outside of a city so have options to develop or have even thought of doing a private low impact graveyard
>consulting principal for a software company
Advice to 18 y/o me would be 5x5, 531, just fucking run and don’t wait to have kids. Can’t complain though.

>>76306489
older bitches be flirty when they drink bro. husbands could be in the same vicinity and they get touchy talking to you. happens all the time, at least to me. wouldn’t worry the wife unless you were sexually assaulted

Age: 33
Financial status: 13.7M
Romance status: Married. Plan to have 6 kids on my homestead
Wife was the prom queen, Virgin when I met her. Still beautiful at 32
Auto status: Tesla; with e-scooter paid in full (220k before tax)
Looking for next mountain to climb.

>>76307720
not the other anon but i've seen that book recommended before and already had it saved as a pdf.

funny that you mention teeth because a part of mine just broke off because I let it go too long and now its going to have to be pulled, oh well.

anyway what kind of IT job did you get?

>>76307861
Good on ya man! I bet you had a dad that taught you financial literacy.

I was a fucking dumbass with money for the longest time. Now I'm stuck in a low paying but very free WFH position. About to start up my own little business to help get money flowing right. Thinking of tattoo removal/laser hair removal.

>>76307874
why would you save a pedophile

>>76307885
> laser hair removal
wtf?

>>76307720
i dont like to post sappy shit online but im rooting for you anon. i mean that. ill check out that book too.

>>76307893
wish i could do this on my head. shaving every day is fucking nuisance

>>76303747
>Getting married next month
>watching anime
Does your husband meet you before your transition or after?

>>76303423


that's smart you will get them pregnant and then have to be a dad

>>76307931
That happened one time. It’s a good thing she aborted it otherwise my kid would he 3 years old now

>>76307768
deadass unc deadass

>>76304521
did you put your cartridge in her gamegirl

>>76307197
Nope, not larping lol.
>>76307668
Well, one of them is. They're both able to if they want to. Life is grand when you dont get hung up on things like that. I don't own them, i get happy when they have their fun on their own, we talk about it - things get hot for us. It's a good life.

>>76307976
i put my finistride in her ssri cabinet

>>76306489
You and your wife should be one, no secrets under any circumstances
>>76307164
This too kek

>>76307178
it works because polyamorous people are ugly as fuck and can’t feel jealousy because there’s no one attractive enough in the situation to feel jealousy towards

I'm 34 and still a virgin

I don't want to rely on lifting to save myself. What's my path to eventually losing it to a non-prostie?

Offline or online route? Idk man.

>>76308011
Meh, that's just like, your opinion man.

idk. i got mine. retired 30. no stress or worry on my face making me old and uglu.

>>76303391 (OP)
almost 32, but you could never tell since i look a lot younger. My gf 23, we live together so my parents arent pressuring me to have children. Honestrly, lifes great, im fit, feel great look great, have a job, gf. Cant complain

>>76308242
Wtf, so you live with a girl and that is more than enough to make you satisfied? lol.

why does every 30+ fit poster claim to look much younger than they are while also always dating a girl 10+ years younger than he is?

>>76308251
because they’re delusional faggots

>>76308251
Why would i date women my age?

>>76308242
Hell yeah brother same here

>>76308257
your gf is mid her being younger doesn’t change that

>>76308242
Shit, you look at least 40. Asked my 18 year old girlfriend and she agreed too

>>76308283
shuddup. white skin ages poorly cause of collagen. white males age rapidly by 35. your gf will look worse by 21

>>76307861
how did you make your money, i want to be a millionare too

Not bad. Outworking 20 year old kids is easier than it used to be. I feel bad for what's gonna happen when my generation checks out and it's up to a bunch of soft Nancy boys.

T. 45

Bout to hit 30 myself. Had a few hard years. Happily married, currently pregnant with my son, was able to buy a niece piece of land, (old farm), house is old but sturdy, got enough savings to not worry, finally in a place in my life where things are looking great. I met my wife at the gym cause I wanted to not look like a fat pos. So, thanks /fit/. You beautiful bastards pushed me to the gym and I met my wife. Now I'm gonna be a dad. What a fucking wild ride.

>>76308294
Why are you hating? I’m gonna dump her when she turns 19 anyway. Too old for me

>>76308306
not hating. picrel.

>>76308313
hit men are too busy killing people for money to worry about aging

>>76307422
You weren't here before. You don't get it.

>>76308251
There are literally no women 30+ who are not overweight or obese without kids.

>>76307861
how many people will actually fall for this larp

>>76308360
it’s actually believable because his wife is 32 years old

>>76308365
>$13.7 million

yeah sure you come on 4chan

>>76308369
more believable than a 30 year old bragging about living with his young mid gf

>>76308378
Me

>>76305906
I dunno. I really love bench. I don't like squats as much. Maybe I could push my squats higher, but I never load the bar over 3pl8.

>>76303391 (OP)
>30
>2 time college dropout, finally went back a year ago to finish my degree
>feel like I'm significantly behind everyone else my age
>regret wasting my 20s
>got back into lifting at 26, looking better than most people my age at least
>started a job at a bank, forcing myself to come out of my shell
>alternating between confidence and hope to depression and hopelessness
>no gf or wife, but getting good attention from girls/women boosted my confidence a little

>33
i dont even know what to say anymore. ive just completely given up. i dont care about my present, i dont care about my future. the only accmplishments i have are making it through each day. only people i have in my life really are my parents, and theyve never cared about how terrible my life is.

>>76308431
Remember that you aren't alone in your struggle. Most men have the same struggle of feeling behind. Their young adult years taken by uncertainty, doubt, a lack of guidance, pandemic lockdowns etc.

You'll never get back the lost time, but you'll feel better knowing your started now than giving up and realizing it's too late.

hey guys I'm 32 and pretty much the coolest guy I know. I jelqed all through my 20's and now have a 8.5x5 cock to show for it. I invested wisely using my dad's funding from the stock crash and am now living on my own property with a cool 17m in the bank (tax free). To further my investments I bought a few apartment complexes in my county and make roughly 17-20k net income each month as long as the deadbeats pay on time.

My wife is pregnant with our third kid (gonna name him Jeremiah after his dad) and we're planning our 4th vacation for the year

also I am canadian

>>76308486
Thank you anon, and that's what I remind myself of. I realize that not everyone makes the steps that I have taken. I know guys my age who are more intelligent than myself, and yet they keep working their low-skill jobs with no hope of advancement.

>>76308501
honestly man that’s a pretty pathetic girth size for jelqing a third of your life. there’s some asian manlet out there that cock mogs you and you’re trying to flex in a boomer thread on 4chan you should be embarrassed

>>76308507
bigger than yours kek

>>76308509
we can go meat for meat anytime anywhere name it i will crush you

>>76308516
right here right now bitch ass faggot

>>76308501
>pretty much the coolest guy I know.
I can't tell you how much it hurt my soul to believe that somebody on this planet would actually say this.

>cool 17m in the bank (tax free)
>canadian
uh, no. There is dumb, but holy fuck I can't decide what statement is worse. I know this is a troll post, but I can't handle this much idiot.

>>76308547
it's as believable as the other post higher up lmao

>>76308360
What larp

>>76307178
it's a fantasy written by a LARPing fatass
and you fell for it
that's how it works

>>76308638
it’s actually pretty believable i mean i’m cool with my wife’s boyfriend

so many brokies itt T_T

I am deadlifting 405 while running 60 miles a week
I still haven't peaked

>>76308652
Wow probably the biggest larp i’ve seen in this thread

>>76308652
I am deadlifting 695 while running 100 miles a week

>>76308662
Rookie numbers, Doing 1220 and running 300 miles a week.

even normies in their 30s lament about how bad the future looks. they lament about how bad dating is if theyre still single or get divorced, they lament about not having a house, they lament abiut not having kids, they lament about the future of work. i see very few people, outside of those who already have established families and careers and finances and are happy people, who are positive about the future even when they are doing pretty well for themselves.

so how the hell is someone whos a complete loser at their age supposed to have any hope for the future? its bad enough for the normies. i mean just the thought of living another 5, 10 years, into my late 30s and early 40s, let alone into old age, fills me with such existential dread. theres no excitement of what the future holds for me. i could not give one single iota of a fuck if i had a brain aneurysm or heart attack while i sleep tonight, or even if i woke up unable to breathe and knew that i have 1-2 minutes of life left. i wouldnt care if i went to a doctor and blood tests showed that i had cancer or some other bullshit that was going to kill me.

i recently found this guy on youtube whos made a few videos after nuking his old channel. guy in his mid 40s whos autistic, only a few sexual experiences and never had a gf, shitty job, watches his brothers and family all getting married and having successful lives while he remains left behind. he has made 5-6 long videos 30-45 minutes long where he goes on hikes alone and just rambles about how miserable he is and how all he thinks about is how much of a wasted failed life hes had with no hope of things getting better, how much he wants to just give up and die. thats what the reality is for people like us, even though i have a decade until i get to his age. the thought of still being alive live this at 45 is horifying.

>>76308678
fucking pussies
imagine "just giving up" at anything
lol
it's just so laughably pathetic

every day is a gift from God and a chance to make something good happen

>>76303571
Fiancé refers to a male btw.

>>76309202
it’s like Beyoncé but you’re paying a fee

>>76303391 (OP)
35, 183cm, 85kg, 23% bf, making some gains. Arms grow nicely, pecs will always look bad shirtless because of bone structure. Underwear feel tighter because of ass and thigh gains, even though I barely do any leg exercises. Abs nowhere to be seen, they will have to wait until I'm done bulking.
Diffuse balding since the age of 20, started buzz cutting at 25. I had a good regrowth when I hopped on liquid minoxidil age 34 and grew out my hair for the first time in nearly a decade, but I had too much dandruff so I switched to foam and lost all my gains. I'm hesitating between oral and topical fin now.
Got a software engineering job. I have a crush on a coworker but she has a boyfriend, way too young for me, and I don't shit where I eat anyway.
I have an econobox car that I want to upgrade but I'm too much of a cheapskate. Not sure if I should get a hybrid or full electric.
I actually want to move to another country to start over but I will be risking too much.
>>76304265
Time to TRT

>>76304724
It happens. You bought a girl a drink at a bar and then she "consented" to sleeping with you? You're going to jail pal.

>>76309333
exactly. she can’t consent while under the influence and she wouldn’t have fucked you sober because you deceived her

>>76308770
>every day is a gift from God and a chance to make something good happen

this is unironically true but u got to remember people in the shitty part of their lives are never ever going to see it like that. when every day is the same as the previous and you arent a step closer to your goals its just a purely negative experience.

>>76307893
It's the same equipment as tattoo removal. It makes sense to do them both.

>>76308242
You're not fit, you're ripped. Good job, man.

>>76304622
Based. I stopped worrying now. I'm turning 33 next month. My house is a mess and I play videogames almost every day after work. But I also fuck my cardiobunny gf and have various fit hobbies and friends that I do shit with. She doesn't care at all that I play games. Gonna go to her place tomorrow and help her with a load of DIY shit. Sanding solid wood furniture, sorting out the plumbing. Then she'll probably blow me and I'll fuck her little fat ass until I cum.
Life could be much worse.

>>76304521
story?

>>76308259
Sigh, can't believe my gf is only 2 years younger than me. I could really be 33 and banging a 23 year old? Fuck sake.

>>76309292
I need answers about this from someone actually taking it. Worth it?

>>76308019
Post some honest pictures on tinder and just put in your bio "Just want to have sex desu."

Worked for me.

>>76309706
If you aren't with a woman 10 years younger than yourself you are a grannyphile.

>>76308360
>>76308606
I find it very hard to believe anyone with 14 milly in the bank is posting on 4chan. Why would you? In fact why would you do anything but coom in 18 year old's assholes?

>>76308678
do you remember the channel name?

>>76309706
that’s normal it’s actually harder to come upon a similar aged women when you’re that old. they usually want someone at least 5 years your senior and a “masculine” man

>>76309715
how about 9 years and 3 days?

>>76303405
same
>muscles are fine, stronger than i've ever been
>tendons and joints suck

>>76308643
exactly! I'm cool with mine too
>>76308638
Nah, again - no larp but believe what you must!

I'm listening to shit like this to try and get over someone cheating on me 30+ years ago, so not real great.
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuqagqnaDmY

>>76309616
business idea: don't do the same thing today
yep, I'm a genius, I know, I know.

>>76303391 (OP)
I just recently got me an acoustic guitar, can't figure out how to read shit for this thing. There's never a good guide you can just find in seconds for instruments

>>76303391 (OP)
Lifting is going better than it has in years, but everything else is going to shit. Breaking up with long term girlfriend, drinking a fuck load and doing the bare minimum.at work. One strange thing is that women seem to find me more attractive the older and more haggard I look

>>76310035
depends on the quality of women we’re talking about here

>>76310041
Mid 20s. Not fat. Good looking to me at least. I'm in a European country so hogs are rare anyway thank God

>>76309867
it's okay if you are 18 years old.

34 here

everyone around me has a SO, is having kids etc
meanwhile i've been single for i think already 6 years

Finally got into lifting last year and am steady getting bigger and stronger

Sucks but at least i can press 1pl8 OHP i guess

>>76309770
Aaron’s journal

>>76303391 (OP)
>35
>married, absolutely love my wife,she's my best friend
>good career
>settling in a bit now that I'm higher up in my career; we started planning international trips once a year
>too many hobbies, too little time
>>76308678
Dunno bros, I see so many people say they are in despair and I can't help to think its self-imposed by being chronically online. My wife and I barely scroll the internet; our smartphones are super out of date and we've made friends with similar couples/people. Our group is super happy and I notice that its because there is no doomscrolling; everyone is too busy doing things in the real world.
Everyone I know in my life who hates their life is chronically online. I used to make 30k/year until I hit about 30yo, and then rose rapidly, so I know what its like to work for shit money and be poor. But I was never not happy with life.
My biggest regret is stopping lifting in my 20s and getting fat. I got back onto the fitness routine like 3 months ago, but it'll take to the end of the year to hit my college weight. That said, I fucking love how lifting makes me feel.

>>76304265
>Almost 50 here. It takes me like a week to recover from a simple full body routine

Why/how?
I'm 57 and i'm doing fine.
I work out (home gym) 4-5 times a week, walk 5km every day.
pic is me in I think Jan 25.

>>76310199
Gramps waddup

>>76310206
>Gramps waddup

I wish!
Beginning to think my son's gay - where are my fucking grandkids?

captcha is taking the piss

>>76310223
Kek'd

>>76310013
>Anon discovers playing music is harder than they thought
Congratulations, you will be member number 3 trillion and 46 to put your guitar in a corner to collect dust. Best you're gonna try languages next. Shit requires effort. Years. If you aren't prepared for that then don't start.

how does a mid 30s introvert get a gf again?

t. had 4 relationships in his 20s, longest lasted about 3 years

in my head im like 23

>>76310242
Languages are hard after 30.
I moved to France at 32 and it was really hard for 3 years - I couldn't do it again now in my 50s.
Gonna have to though as Mrs. wants to retire to Spain.

My married co-worker with a kid told me that I make her feel things no one ever did and that she feels that she wants to be with me all the time. This came out of the blue. The cherry on top is that I'm a 33 years old virgin and I have no fucking clue how to handle this. She's kinda hot tho.

>>76310250
>how does a mid 30s introvert get a gf again?
Same way an extrovert would. Friends of friends, hobbies, work colleagues. Being an introvert is not an excuse to not do the work of socializing.

>>76310288
i do that but having beel alone for a long time now it feels like i don't want someone in my life 24/7 honestly
i relish in my alone time

>>76310242
No I won't, it's only been day 1 and I'm making progress. Getting started is the hardest, not easy to find free learning material that's actually good

>turn 29 in 2 weeks
Bros, I can't deal with being almost 30

>>76310283
She’s bullshitting you 33 year old virgin anon. You probably let her whine and cry on your shoulder about her problems and you tell her how great she is, etc

>>76308658
No LARP

>>76310283
>My married co-worker with a kid told me that I make her feel things no one ever did and that she feels that she wants to be with me all the time.

Don't shit where you eat son.

>>76307073
You have terrible genes and or are in terrible shape

>>76310135
don't give up
keep changing your environment and every other variable you can
jobs, friends, hobbies, location, look
keep trying and keep changing
eventually you will find her and you will also find where you belong

>>76310404
Hard to not give up anon
I honestly don't know if i want a relationship at this point anymore
I'm content with work, lifting, occasional video games and music production
>her
I have long abandoned that thought
There is no one, there might be many fitting people though

>>76303439
The younger kids are kind of weird looking but the eldest daughter would fucking get it

>>76310404
>keep changing
never change for a girl she either likes you the way you are or doesn't

>>76310417
never give up
yes there are many ones, that's why you keep trying and keep changing things

>>76310484
I'll try to hold on to the sliver of hope anon
Thank you for the kind words
I hope WAGMI

>>76310441
I didn't say "change for a girl" I said change until you find one you want

to keep doing and saying the same shit expecting different results is retarded

for example anon claiming to be content with lifting and vidya: I'll give you a hint bro she's not in your room while you're gaming

she's not at that bar or in that gym or at that office or under that old truck in your buddies garage? ok keep looking elsewhere don't just do whatever you want and expect her to come find you in your cave

>mfw met a girl couple years ago on 4chan
[spoiler]fit[/spoiler]
shit is possible but the chances are insanely low

>>76310542
>ultimate final LARP
lmao

>>76307164
>>76307994
It really does trigger something primal in their minds. A couple years ago this woman that my GF (now wife) and I was talking to at a music festival offered to have a threesome with us in our tent because she thought we swung that way. Of course we didn't take her up on her offer, but it must have broke something in my wife for a while because she became ludicrously horny for like two weeks afterward. It was the only time I ever had to refuse sex because there was simply no way I could get hard again for another round.

>>76310572
i wish anon
it happened
but it's been years now

>>76310135
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxGRhd_iWuE

>>76310349
Fuuuuucking this. Never again.

>>76311733
Yeah - you can't tell people this - they have to learn.
Having to see that bitch's face every day for another 2 years after a knee trembler in the basement at work wasn't worth it.

people fall apart so fast after 30. my good habits become more evident every day. I love not being fat. I hate fat people, they are revolting. the streets are filled with fat and disabled people... its sickening.

35. Physically great, mentally okay, financially shit kind of sucks because I’m cleaning up some but younger me mistakes.

But it’s okay. Most people can’t tell that I have a financial hill to climb, but I’m climbing it. People take my gym lifestyle as me being and living a bit more humbly (but nice) and girls still like me. Sucks I’m moving from a job that let me save like 40k USD a year and live comfortably to now only around 20k USD a year and having to make harder decisions. But we make them, we get better, and things will slowly improve.

Worry about settling down. I feel I have a lot to offer EXCEPT financially, but I try to not let it get me down. Could be a lot worse.

Also been replaying the bungie era Halo games and some Doom wads.

>>76310199
I think I know you. Are you an operator?