Thread 76310847

I seem afraid of girls at gym in particular, it's not just "I don't want to bother her" but what kind of rejection will I get plus we go to the same gym.

>>76310847 (OP)
you don't. the gym is not tinder, it's not a bar, it's not a party or a get-together.

Try online dating

>>76310851
>tinder
who the fuck uses that unironically. I look forward to making something magical and long term and not hookups

>it's not a party or a get-together.
why not, it's a place with similar interests

>>76310852
>online dating
and spend a year for it to be long distance or turn out that it won't go anywhere because stuff and you already formed attachment which will take months to get over that one girl? fuck that

>>76310847 (OP)
Idk bro, I just don't until I need to ask them if I can use the bench they're standing next to, and then I'll just ignore them and do my sets.

>>76310847 (OP)
You care too much. Low inhibitionmaxx.

>>76310856
Im funny looking and short and it took a month or two before i got into a relationship that is still ongoing. Im glad i did it. Wasn't getting dates before that.

>>76310873
Talking up to a girl when she uses the machine you use is the least weird way of getting someone's phone number.
Here's what happened to me.
>girl comes up to me asking how many sets I have left on leg extensions
>tell her it's fine for her to use
>she has a problem with the machine like she can't change something, felt like she was giving me signals
>without thinking too much I tell her that I don't know either and she goes onto another exercise
>I check it and manage to fix it
>go up to her on the machine and wait till she finishes, tell her I fixed it. She gave me such a wide open stare like she fell in love or something, I couldn't really tell since I was still getting over a breakup
>she appreciates the effort but it wasn't what she wanted
>check again, fix the thing she actually wanted
>go up to her again and we both laugh because of how awkward it is
>fix the thing she wanted, she appreciates it
>we introduce each other and don't really talk much
>by the end of leg day I go onto the treadmill
>do a break and leave my water there
>when I come back she picked the treadmill right next to mine despite all other one's being free
>had the chance to talk to her afterwards, I didn't because I was still too fucked up from the breakup. Too fast to have another relationship
>don't see her again
I seemingly hope that I'll see her again. Don't even know how to begin the conversation though. She was kind of cute.

Don’t shit where you eat

>>76310856
>already formed attachment which will take months to get over
ive never understood this. i move right on to the next one within a week. there are about 3-4 billion women in the world. pussy doesn't stand out from the rest.

I didn't realize the gym was a socializing spot

oh wait it's not

don't shit where you eat

>>76310939
>pussy doesn't stand out from the rest.
If you aren't shallow then dating is about personality. Most people suck so a good personality sticks out.

>>76310847 (OP)
>>76310851
>>76310852
>>76310924
bet yall sit when you pee
bitch ass niggas

Saying "Hi" and seeing how far a conversation goes is not a confession of undying love. Literally just be interested. By the end of the conversation you'll have a green light or no.

>>76310939
>i move right on to the next one within a week.
guys like you need to stop speaking for everyone

>>76310939
>3-4 billion women in the world
oh yeah and that accumulates to all the women in the world, implying they even want to be with you in the first place and are the right age for you. Now depending on where you live half the number of all citizens by 50% and then 33% to fit your age bracket. THEN you have to find someone you actually click with.
also
>i move right on to the next one within a week
kind of hard when you get along with someone too good and you can't make it due to circumstances

>>76310957
>>76310961
hm. maybe you guys are better than me. i'd rather have a dickhead mentality than get asshurt over women i used to date but idk

>>76310847 (OP)

sounds like a good way to get kicked out of the gym. Anytime a woman is in my view I immediately shield my eyes. If a woman talks to me like asking how many sets I have I use as little words as needed to get my point across so she doesn't become uncomfortable

Just talk to her like she's a man. If you're this much of a bitch, you already got no of ever getting a date.

>be man
>get scolded for approaching a woman
>get shamed for being a virgin if you don't

we can't win

>be me
>going to the gym in the middle of the afternoon when no one is there
>one day this really cute girl starts coming at that time too
>don't say anything to her for a week
>finally she comes to the free weight area and starts working out next to me
>say "Hi"
>she says "Hi" and smiles
>I suddenly get a rush of anxiety
>It never occurred to me she would interact with me like a real human
>The possibility I could actually have a relationship with her floods over me
>I suddenly blurt out "I want to rape you"
>She lifts her earphone out of her ear and says "huh?" in a neutral tone
>She legitimately didn't hear me
>I hesitate briefly as I realize this
>"That's a lot of weight, good work!"
>She smiles and says thanks

>>76310939
>about 3-4 billion women
You need to learn how to articulate yourself properly. You can't say "about" and then give a range of 1 billion, you fucking dipshit

>>76310959
Yes because sometimes I want to chill on my phone and relax for a couple minutes

>>76310856
See
>>76310939
It’s low worth in regards to self. Nothing to do with attachment

>>76310947
>don't shit where you eat
i shit everywhere

>>76310847 (OP)
if you have to ask, the answer is dont
grow socially to the point where youre answering such questions not asking them

>>76310959
This. It's either she is interested or not. It's that simple. It amazes me to no end people make up these arbitrary rules on where you should and shouldn't hit on women. Nigga, people use to hit on woman in libraries and barnes and nobles for fucks sake.

>>76310847 (OP)
>but what kind of rejection will I get plus we go to the same gym.
it's literally not a big deal. find something small to talk to them about. complioment them on their clothes or make up or routine or music. talk to them like you would to a dude. then exchange names and insta profiles. be friendly and chill. it works for me. i have been on 4 dates in the last 2 years with girls from the gym. the twist is that they all rejected me after the first date and im still a virgin at the tender age of 33. but trying to talk to girls and going on dates is actually a very satisfying feeling. im not a very lovable or attractive guy but i don't wallow in my unattractiveness. i talk to girls as easily as i do to characters from Persona.

>>76310939
easier said than done when all you fraternize with is mid women

>>76310947
zoomers are awkward and antisocial. applying cold approaching tactics from a prehistoric time where dating apps and smartphones didn’t exist is a bold strategy. women will give you their number just so you leave them alone and never reply to your message

>>76310847 (OP)
If you have a friend that goes to a different gym, that can be the one where you talk to girls at. If it doesn't work out, you don't have to see them all the time

>walking on treadmill after sets
>notice girl who's been working out behind me get on the furthest away treadmill, 3 treadmills away
>immediately gets off of it for no discernible reason
>gets on the treadmill directly next to me
>my superego when
I'm still wondering whether I should have said something. i was going to ask her whether she's one of those types who gets motivation from other people in the gym.

>>76312605
gay and overthinking. her’s was just wobbling and she switched to a more stable treadmill

>>76312609
i've used every treadmill in the gym and they're all identical except for sun glare, which was not a factor

>>76312620
i’m just joshing you bro she totally wanted your penis

>>76312627
woah! i knew it! :DD

>>76310856
All of the online dating hysteria you hear is actually nonsense unless you're brown.
Most white people meet with online dating now, this is why you never see people approaching anymore.
Browns are the ones who went onto Tinder trying to get any white girl over a 3/10 and they started getting angry over the results online and make up most of the "hypergamy" studies you see

>>76312388
based go getter

>>76312282
>It's that simple. It amazes me to no end people make up these arbitrary rules on where you should and shouldn't hit on women.

you're absolutely right, and I didn't realize all these "rule people" are retarded until I reached 26 and recognized these types of people are all INSANE and don't understand humanity, or themselves.

It's poison for introverts or awkward looking for guidelines to follow.

forget the gym, how do i talk to women on the daily subway trip

>>76312282
Girls are stupid.
>see a mid latina with amazing legs
>we play the looking game
>finally go up to her and talk to her
>all smiles
>tell her we should work out together
>get a big smile and sure
>same day see her talking to a guy for what feels like 2 hrs even goes and does exercises with him
>immediately drop her and ghost her
>took a few weeks but she got the hint
>she is talking to some gay guy when I have to pass her
>she makes a huge fuss and gives me an ugly face
>gay guy laughs at her because I didn't acknowledge her and they think I didn't notice what she did
>following workout she is again staring me down from the other side of the gym nonstop

>>76312993
leave that mid latina alone bro

Does anyone else regrets it after talking to women? Are started chatting all the women in my gym for social gains and I told most of them to follow my instagram accounts, the work/personal ones and now every girl in the gym knows my moves and I can’t aura farm now. Don’t talk to girls in the gym, basically don’t shit where you eat

>>76313012
Lmao you're prob seen as the gym creep now, I mostly only talk to gymbros at the gym except 2 milfs that literally talked to me but they are pretty chill

>>76313049
I’m actually incredibly good looking so it’s impossible for me to the gym creep. Granted I never had sexual intercourse with any of these women but that’s besides the point

>>76313051
How are those girls not approaching you if you're so good looking and how tf are you not closing out after getting their insta

>>76310847 (OP)
Why do u wanna hit a booty in gym ? I assume you simply think get big size biceps can attract those chicks?

>>76313075
Isn't that why we are all lifting for? Bigger biceps = more girls

>>76313094
Maybe in 2005

>>76313049
Nah I can just headphones on and ignore everyone

>>76310847 (OP)


Girls approach guys they actually like. If they're not approaching you that means you're not desirable.

>>76312388
How did you manage to fuck it up?
If gym girls go on a date with you, they want to have sex with you. What have you done/told them to turn them off?

>>76312659
Most girls have never used a dating app.
>online survey showed that people meet online...

>>76312388
>find something small to talk to them about.
That's the hardest part, I know about everything else you've said and I scored at the age of 20.
I just don't really know how to begin this small talk, I had a great opener last time and fucked it up because I had no interest at that time due to recent break up.

>>76313140
I only had 3 women approach me and they became my gf's, i just can't approach and im not even attractive. it's ovah

>>76313281
scored how

>>76310847 (OP)
So stupid

>>76313140
>>76313160
>apparently I'm in the top 5% attractive men despite being a literal 5'6 manlet because I got approached by four girls in my life
Don't know if I believe it. I'll admit I look pretty good after leaning out but I think the actual problem is the average guy is ugly due to a combination of both lifestyle and amerimutt phenotype.

>>76313686
man, it depends on the quality of said girls. i’d take it as an insult if fat chicks and goblinas were doing it

>>76313692
One was a fat goblina, the others were pretty cute. At least I learned my problem isn't that I'm unattractive, it's that I'm socially retarded and possibly autistic.

>can't approach women
>can't talk to women due to anxiety
>can't go further than talks
Most of that shit starts from the inside, the objective reality is not the fucked up scenario you cooked in your head at a single thought of talking to a girl, no you won't be seen as a gym creep for saying "hi" while smiling, no she won't say "ew fuck off" and make a disgusted face, regardless of how retarded and insecure you are she's even more retarded and insecure

>>76310903
Nigga, how long ago was this? You missed the moment like 5 times, don't let it end like this.
I do understand the breakup making things more difficult though, I had a somewhat similar thing with a girl. She was cute, she seemed interested, and I did like her, but I was like nah it's too soon. I didn't want to waste the connection on a shitty rebound which it would have inevitably turned into. I pretty much told myself I'd wait until I got over my ex and then ask her out, but she got a bf a few months later. It is what it is

>>76311266
You should have repeated yourself, you were almost giga based.

>>76312388
wtf am I reading

you actually manage to pull girls at the gym, which almost nobody does, but then get rejected? and you’re a virgin? you must be doing something seriously wrong.

>>76312993
>4channer casually chats up a girl in the gym
>flies into a jealous rage when he sees her casually chatting with some other dude the next day

>>76310847 (OP)
I just saw a hideous potbellied, short necked, poor dude with a cute blonde girl. I'm only mentioning this because this is the 3rd-4th time I've seen it in the past 2 weeks.

>>76310903
>Talking up to a girl when she uses the machine you use is the least weird way of getting someone's phone number.
Close, the least weird way is signing up for a team sports tournament and making friends with your teammates, half of which seem to be female at my gym.
I don't even like basketball as a sport but its F-ing hilarious playing on a team a couple weeks in a row.
I'm apparently the only guy in a relationship who plays basketball LOL as this seems to be some kind of singles club LOL.
When they're not organizing BB league teams they're playing other games, this pickelball shite or racquetball or tennis or cornhole (wtf?). They also have a triathalon training club that I noped out of thats not even a fun team sport and a bicycling team and a swim team.
Gym is just like church, if your gym sucks the world is hardly running out of gyms go find one that doesn't suck, don't just complain about "The Gym" as if there's only the one you attend that coincidentally sucks.
Some of the elderly based boomers I've met playing BB are based as F and are better at the strategic game than you'd think.

>>76313140
>>76313160
I pretty hot girl approached me at the gym earlier this week asking if I was single, blonde 8/10 slim with a nice ass. Unforunately I have a gf already so I had to turn her down. Feels bad man. Should I dump my gf to makeit?

>>76314462
Betabux simpmaxxing. Girls these days either go for the big dick gigachad with no money or the pathetic soi turbosimp with the fat wallet. No in between.

>>76314639
>talks entirely in 4chan memespeak
>wonders why he's a virgin
>still gives advice on women on the internet

>>76312659
I'm a good looking 6'4 white guy and have zero luck with tinder
IRL I get women coming up and hanging around me so I will talk to them frequently

>>76312993
You don't understand how this stuff works do you

>>76314639
Where would I be?

>24, no money, I live with my parents
>Introverted dweeb that thinks if I keep on talking and yapping I can hide my awkwardness, at least I'm not shy
>I'll be in my mid-30s before I start making money, applying for medical school this year.
>I like to stay in my room all day being mediocre at multiple hobbies, such as being an /ic/ artfag, and reading literature.

>Come from a rich family, well in the 1% of my country and I have a great relationship with my parents.
>Just graduated from a prestigious university
>Strong and aesthetic, 10 years of weight training.
>Penis size is at the 89th percentile
>Facial aesthetics is above-average to attractive,
>Get lucky somehow and get laid with a new girl at least once a year

I always go in with an oversized hoodie, a cap and over ear headphones not even playing any music, literally just wear them so no one ever talks to me. Strategically go to the gym only when I know I can do all my sets without anyone in the way. Always either staring at the ground or thousand yard autism stare in the distance never making eye contact with a single soul.

8 years in the gym never spoke a single word with anyone

>>76314209
>you must be doing something seriously wrong.
you must believe the "just talk to her bro" meme. talking on a social level is literally the most basic human interaction. getting a girl to consider a relationship with you or even sex is not easy. and there's a considerable amount of luck involved because you need to be compatible. also most guys lie their asses off when it comes to chicks so you perception gets twisted.

I don't really give a fuck about relationships or sex anymore. im very glad i shoot my shot. im very satisfied the fact that i go on occasional date and that i talk to girls instead of looking like a creep from a distance. but at the end of the day you can't force people to like you.

>>76314886
Girls unironically approach me in public thoughbeit.
>>76314928
Big dick chad potential desu. Be careful though, if you get fat then you might turn into a betacuck ATM especially if you start simping for a wiff of th roast beef.

>>76310847 (OP)
I would try it except most of the girls I see at my gym are high schoolers. Maybe I should start going in the mornings, that’s when the hot college chicks show up or so I’ve heard.