yo /fit/, been lurking here forever, finally posting. dropped 200+ lbs over the last couple years, went from a total landwhale to actually looking decent in clothes. been hitting the gym hard, got some muscle now, can see my jawline, the whole deal. but man, the way people treat me now is fucking me up. used to be invisible, nobody gave a shit, people would barely look at me, maybe smirk or avoid me. now? girls smile, dudes nod at me in the gym, even random strangers are nicer, like cashiers and coworkers actually make small talk. it’s like i’m a different person to them. feels good for a second, then it hits me how fake it all is. none of these people cared when i was fat, now they act like i’m suddenly worth their time. it’s so superficial, makes me wonder if anyone’s actually real. anyone else deal with this after getting fit? how do you handle it? feels like i can’t trust anyone’s intentions anymore.

>>76328969 (OP)
my experience was similar to yours after dropping 120 lbs and making decent calisthenics gains. With the added caveat that insecure physically weak males would often act aggressively towards me whereas they either ignored me or were friendly towards me when I was a lardass. I guess they perceive me as a threat/competitor now or whatever.

>feels like i can’t trust anyone’s intentions anymore
it would be way worse if you had suddenly become rich and everyone treated you better.

Look at it this way: fat people are viscerally disgusting, and back in the day anyone who was even just out of shape would've been dragging down the entire tribe. You've put in the work to improve yourself, and people respect that on a visceral, instinctive level.

>>76328969 (OP)
Nothing superficial about it. If you were a disgusting landwhale why would anybody give you the time of the day?

We get these e larps every other day

That is indeed a valid observation anon! You have to keep in mind that the humans around us are not robots, but have emotions and subjective opinions. Sometimes dealing with people can be taxing, but it is important to always remain respectful. This is why it is crucial to never judge those around you and treat everyone the same way you would like to be treated.

That being said, here are a few scenarios where your situation can be better understood:

1. Think of a gold nugget hidden under the riverbed. It might appear invisible, but to the careful observer it is a treasure worth the search!
2. If you dress in your casual clothes, you appear normal and may fly under the radar. But how beautiful and stunning you are wearing a prom dress!
3. With increased exercise your self worth also increases! Perhaps you have been smiling more, which always makes people look more attractive. Or it is your posture that has improved and with it comes a boost in self esteem!

>>76328969 (OP)
>he fell for the egalitarianism meme
Anyway, congrats on making it OP. Do you view fat people differently now that you've lost all that weight?

>>76328969 (OP)
It's not fake. You were just a miserable fat and lazy piece of shit. Of course no one wanted to talk to you back then

>>76328996
>dropped 200+ lbs

So he was 350-400 before the weight loss - fuck me.
People must have been throwing up in their mouths at the sight of him.
I can only imagine the smell. The difficulty to bathe or wipe his own ass.

>>76329014
google gemini wrote this post

>>76329041

>>76328969 (OP)
>it’s like i’m a different person to them.
Well you are, both on the outside and inside. But as for your observation: if you see a big old pile of stinking shit on the street, does it make you feel good? Do you want to get a closer look, maybe smell it a bit? I'm just going to assume you're not Indian and the answer is no. On the other hand if you see something pretty, maybe a girl, a flower, whatever, won't that illicit a more positive reaction from you?
There's nothing strange about it. We tend to avoid unappealing things, and are drawn to that which is appealing.

>>76329005
this is literally the same woe is me post on here whining about how they can’t believe people treat them differently and instead of being happy about it they’d rather wallow in self pity

>>76328969 (OP)
>it hits me how fake it all is
People hated you when you were a pathetic tub of lard, now they don't. Nothing fake about that.

>>76329491
you should’ve hated yourself enough to understand this and want the change lol

Because fat people are gross.

>>76328969 (OP)
You are trapped in a hell dimension. People only want you for as far as you are useful to them. When you were fat you were never a sexual competitor/contestant, now you are.

>>76328995
>people respect that on a visceral, instinctive level
i wish i could see it like that mate, but i dont. its just insanely superficial. im still the same me on the inside. people being nicer to me because im athletic and not fat anymore comes off fake as fuck
>>76328996
i was still a good person, thats fucking why
>>76329021
no, i have empathy for them. im not some fph retard. being fat fucking sucks. no one wants to be fat
>inb4 but haes
haes is disappearing due to ozempic lol

>>76330622
>>76329037
i have a even worse view of ppl in general. yes im not miserable as in i hate my body miserable, but it still sucks. i never thought ppl were weird towards me cause im a fat blob
>>76329041
lots of loose skin too but i have surgery in march 2026. super excited about it
>People must have been throwing up in their mouths at the sight of him
why? i dressed nicely and i sure as hell made sure i dont smell bad. yeah i was still a fat fuck, but that shouldnt devalue me?

>>76329224
>>76329491
>>76329535
>>76329558
>>76329611
gay ass filter picrel

>>76330623
women are all over me all of a sudden
when i was a khhv and invisible but i can’t even bring myself to banging them

>>76330631
>All fatties are gross
ftfy

>>76330623
>yeah i was still a fat fuck, but that shouldnt devalue me?
It literally should tho, sorry bro but fat people are worse for society than healthy people in every conceivable way. Do you not think your transformation has upped you value to society?

>>76328969 (OP)
It's called Ugly Duckling syndrome and it can fuck you up for a while if you go this bitter route like
>"Huh, so now I'm suddenly good enough?!"

That's gay, don't do that.
When you were fat, you were disgusting to the average person. Now that you fixed the disgusting part, people want to be around you. Enjoy that. Skip the part where you're mad that you never had this before.

It's like you were an inhospitable environment, that animals avoided. Now you cleaned up and all the birds and squirrels are coming back. They weren't able to enjoy you before, but now they can.

Enjoy them back, and be honest that knowing it's possible to beat it, seeing fat people must at least a little disgust or disappoint you now, too.

>>76328969 (OP)
I'll keep going. You are looking at this as a fat guy who suddenly got isekai'd into a good looking body. Your brain hasn't caught up yet, so what I'm asking you to do is not act out in the meantime.

It's going to feel like everything is fake, because you think the invisibility or avoidance or mocking you got before was real. That was your normal. That's how you experienced life.
Look at the words you're using, "people act like I'm suddenly worth their time". Act.
They're not acting. You are VISIBLY worthwhile, now. Your appearance precedes you with no further effort from you needed. Do you not see how fucking cool that is?

Just look at it in the simplest possible way.
People like you now before you even say anything. This should be joyful.
People give you a chance, people see you and think "hell yes, I want to be like that".

There is no level headed way of viewing this as a bad thing.
In your heart, you are still 200lbs overweight. You don't yet realise how fucking money you are, now.

>>76328969 (OP)
Welcome to Humankind anon!

>>76328969 (OP)
>>76331717
Adding to this. If there's anybody you should hate for those years where you were treated less than its yourself OP for letting yourself get there and exist there. If some cute girl or sociable dude now treats you better don't resent them for the past. Resent the past version of yourself then kill it by letting it go. You ARE different now. Even if you don't think you feel it on the inside you are different everywhere. Even just going to the gym consistently enough to get to now is a different person than the one that let themselves balloon and stay there. The choices you make for food and how you feel about them are different. How you feel shopping for clothes and picking outfits is different. How you feel approaching people now vs then is different and who you relate to is different. Ask the fattest guy you know this long weekend to hang out with you. Go on a hike, have him be your wingman at a bar/club/social event, hit up a restaurant. You'll get those feelings, too, and it'll make sense.

And even if OP is a larp, anybody who relates to this thread can relate to this comment.

>>76328969 (OP)
You still sound fat or insecure or something, just keep working and eventually you will feel better. I noticed the same thing but it is pleasant to walk around and see smiling people and have good interactions. It affected me so strongly I have been making an effort to walk around and smile and be friendly, especially to fat guys like I used to be.

>anyone else deal with this after getting fit? how do you handle it? feels like i can’t trust anyone’s intentions anymore.
Yes, but you need to internalize that fat people are bad people. You used to be a bad person, and you got treated like it. You were an abuser to yourself. Now, you're not fat, and you're a good person, and people are treating you like you're a good person who at the very least doesn't abuse himself. And that's normal and a good thing.

People do not have inherent value simply for existing.

>>76328969 (OP)
Yes, when you look like a human being, people treat you like one. When you make an effort to look respectable, people are more likely to respect you.
Your body is an externalization of your mind and spirit. Covers exist to give you a first-glance impression of whether you'll like a book's contents or not.
You can cope all you like about "having layers" but nobody's got time to peel off your skin, finely chop you, and sauté you over medium heat to make your ass palatable.

>>76328969 (OP)
>. none of these people cared when i was fat, now they act like i’m suddenly worth their time. it’s so superficial, makes me wonder if anyone’s actually real.
don't get this mentality
you were fat that showed the world you didn't value yourself and were lazy and didn't give a shit. Why would anyone care about that.
You dropped 200lbs put a shitload of effort into caring about yourself and your body is proof of that. Immediately people see that and go there's a guy who actually values his life
when you were a fat fuck you were no different to a homeless drug addict ranting in the streets. In fact you were a drug addict addicted to food. Call it fake all you want but I doubt you're stopping and saying hi to any homeless people

Blackpill is real glad you realize.

>>76333501
>bumping from page10
Lel

>>76328969 (OP)
You are right that it's superficial. You are the same spirit/ego/personality. You are still fat brained maybe even loser brained. But physically you wear the Hot Suit now so that means others bend to your very frame. I am not kidding. You lead now and that is uncomfortable yes, but realize the power you actually have. In a fake world of titles and anal rape you created something real, well actually you just sweat and lifted and put down stuff. But now you are better than everyone and can fight whoever you want. That makes you the winner just forget all the years of loneliness and dont think about why others were accepted for doing far less with shittier bodies and minds.

Just think of it as a rusted disgusting bus with a good driver in it, even though the driver is good, people aren't going to take the disgusting bus over the one that looks nice, smells nice, etc, the choice is not even about the driver at this point. I think it's simple to just accept this as it is and know that presentation IS important, obviously I don't think you've ever seen luxurious brands making ads with homeless dudes near a drug selling point

>>76330623
>why? i dressed nicely and i sure as hell made sure i dont smell bad. yeah i was still a fat fuck, but that shouldnt devalue me?
Yes - I was too harsh - at least you're making an effort.
Good for you.

>>76329208
I put on 50 lb (then lost it) - it was genuinely more difficult to do things like bend over in the shower (to wash myself you perv) or to put on socks.
200 + lb - how's it possible??

>>76328969 (OP)
yes, everyone looks at others as assets and resources.
you looking good means you have good genes + know how to discipline your diet + know how to work hard consistently (lifting weights)

it's kind of a black pill. it's like waking up from childhood. you will never have that world back.
all you can do is
1 stfu about it except one day to your children. normies hate it when you admit this stuff to them, it's like telling people inside the matrix that nothing is real. they automatically start hating you and telling you you're wrong.
2 never, ever EVER go back. keep looking good. it'll give you a better job, better wage, better social opportunities, girls are your buffet now and you can pick the best ones.
it's about you giving your own person the best life possible. it's the most important thing you'll do.
if you want pure unconditional love, get a dog. i've seen dogs be loyal and loving to homeless people, even if they didn't have much food. it's the only living thing that does that.

>>76328969 (OP)
just accept it, because you do the same to other people as well.

>>76333893
>2 never, ever EVER go back. keep looking good. it'll give you a better job, better wage, better social opportunities, girls are your buffet now and you can pick the best ones.
Complete bullshit, at 26 I was in the best shape of my life, 12% bodyfat at a bodyweight of 85 kg, benched 140 kg for 3 reps, full head of hair, you know what happened?
Still socially ignored, no woman ever offered me the sex I'm owed all because of the lack of a few mm of bone in the face and not a perfect canthal tilt and zygot width.
Now I am a 32 year old fat alcoholic and my life is pretty much exactly the same as when I had a god tier natty body, simply because of my FACE not being a perfect PSL7 model face.

>>76334367
sorry, that's not what happened to me
i started going out with multiple girls and had so much attention like i never had
maybe i have the right bones. maybe it's not the case for you, but it might be for OP

>>76328969 (OP)
Legit gay dudes would hit on me but now they think im gonna beat their ass if they tell me i look like i want to have gay sex with them.

>>76328969 (OP)
Everyone treats me like a God. Life is good.

>>76334416
Being a lanky weak twink will invite the homos. Bulk up and intimidate.

>>76334416
Few things feel worse than being blatantly eye fucked by 40-something gays, all big smiles and eye contact, like youre even "gettable" to them.

>>76328969 (OP)
Wisdom of /fit/
>You need to drop the ego. You where fat slob, people treated you appropriately.

>>76330622
you're the same you on the inside but your outside didn't properly communicate any of the positive or worthwhile things about you. you probably looked like a lazy fat pig as fat people do. its like wearing assless chaps and then wondering why people don't think you are straight. being fat IS bad, IS gross, and IS typically the result of shitty, lazy, and useless personality traits so people will generally correctly make those assumptions about you.

You obviously changed and proved them wrong.

I view it fundamentally different from how an ugly/short/deformed person is perceived, since it actually isn't the result of their actions. Its a much more unfair judgement.

>It hits me how fake it is
>none of these people cared when I was fat

You need to drop the ego. People like hot people. People like healthy people. People like driven people. People like competent people

You were fat and nobody saw your potential. Now people do. Life is unfair, you will get the same when youre old

Enjoy the gift of health and virality or be a depressive downer forever

>be white KV
>get fit
>only get hit on by sheboons and gay black men

>>76335606
time to get some of dat black pussy mane

OP will you flirt and be all up in the 600lb landwhale femanons face in the street?

If not then youre a hypocrite. I bet you dont flirt with the 600lb women in the street.

>>76330622
>i was still a good person
gluttony is a sin for a reason. disrespecting yourself is still being disrespectful. you were quite visibly not a good person. you are much better now, congratulations and enjoy your well-earmed increase in respect.

>>76328969 (OP)
I cut really hard this year and now people regularly stare at me at the beach

will i get any mires at all if my physique is really good but im 5'4?

>>76328969 (OP)
>then it hits me how fake it all is. none of these people cared when i was fat, now they act like i’m suddenly worth their time.
You think this is a flaw in humanity but its a plus. fat people literally aren't worth other peoples time and you having lost weight and gotten into shape literally quite literally makes you a better person than you were before even with your shit ass woe was me attitude.

We all hate fat people, but I feel like I'm having a hard time fully articulating why. Poor management of the self? Low agency? A lack of discipline? Inability to restrain yourself? Aside from being disgusting to see... I kind of wish the Bible hammered this issue a bit more

>>76335781
by other men yea

>>76328969 (OP)
>>76330622
Anon there is some genuinely good advice on this board for you >>76331717 like this anon or this >>76331731
but ffs, do not listen to the /fit/ but still mentally ill self hating fags. Its ridiculous. Fit body should have a fit mind. If you hate fat people but the "fat people" here is mainly former you, then you are not mentally fit at all. This is how you get roiders and body dysmorphia.

Lets face it, if you were this fat then more than likely you had some amount of self hatred that you still haven't let go. It does not matter for you now how it came to be, if that was internalized of your own.
Sorry I don't see your disenchantment as anything more than just externalizing your own emotions about this thing. Yes, you are a good person. Yes, you are still you. So if those two things are correct then how come it pains you so to be treated better now? Why do you need to overthink this? You're overthinking this because you cannot let go of the pain from your past.

Yes people are superficial, but that does not necessarily mean anything inherently bad, you are human too right? How we perceive others is how we treat them. Our brains are all about pattern recognition and we were not designed to dwell on individual personality traits of every random guy we see. Even if you are aware and you consciously made yourself ignore bodies of others when judging them, there is no possibility you never used that tool. When you see a giga nigger on the block after dark. do you begin to ponder if he maybe plays the violin, or do you cross the street because he is probably a criminal?

I am sure you're already somewhat culturally aware of this fact no matter where you are from. Como te ven te tratan, fine feathers make fine birds, etc.
Do some soul searching and figure out why you are still "fucked up" despite accomplishing so much.

>>76335840
Disgust is instinctual. There is no logical reason for it, even if its positively enforced by cultural norms. So if God as a great architect made us instinctually disgusted by fat people then it would imply that by being fat, you are unfit to fill out the role that God made for you and thus you are going against his great plan. Also lmao at you with "hate". Hatred separates man from God. Its literally in the bible, so good job being a good christian anon.

>>76335899
There's every logical reason for it; a morbidly obese "person" may not be "deformed" in a technical sense but they're still far enough removed from your inherited template of "breeding-eligible human" to trigger the "fuck no, not even with a rented dick" response the same way a bitch with harlequin ichthyosis would.

>>76335840
All of those things. The concept of "deadly sins" like gluttony and sloth isn't in the Bible, but it's entrenched enough in Christian thought that it might as well be. God entrusted you with a body made in His image, and THIS is what you're doing with it? Fuck off—you are not touched by God's grace, you will never be by His side in Heaven.

>>76334883
I was the only dude in the locker room and some gay guy left a condom by where i was sitting i was in fact looking for him to beat his ass

>>76335043
Nah one time some guy did cross the line and i was about to beat his ass but i didnt know who it was, like he was watching me and put a condom near my bag. Why is nice to have punching bags in the gym for weirdos like that and people who legit are dickheads and might start a fight/ roid brainrot.

>>76335043
I am a 40 something bi. I also get blatantly eye fucked.

All gays will attempt to fuck everything. It has nothing to do with your level of attraction. Have you seen dykes. They fuck, I have no idea how they do it, but somehow they think that is attractive.

source: My 0 female responses and dozens of males initiating contact.

>>76335971
>you will never be by His side in Heaven.

That's not for you to judge.

>>76328969 (OP)
Do fatties really get this type of special treatment? Pic rel is me and it completely disappears in normal clothes. Sure I get the smile, wave and normal NPC-ass tier conversations but it’s mostly people just doing their job since you have to be nice to customers in customer service.

Apart from that random chicks don’t smile at me, people don’t comment on my weight or reassure me about anything. Plus I don’t experience the same “highs” as you guys since people saying “Hi”, “Hello”, or just smiling at you are normal, human interactions. I never got a death stare or look of disgust.

Are you saying you lardasses were never smiled at or even said “Hello” to?

>>76328969 (OP)
This is a fake post, average dudes that have never been fat are just as invisible.

>>76328969 (OP)
>dropped 200lbs
wtf how much did you weigh before
if i lost 200lbs right now i would be 116lbs

>>76336081
It entirely depends on his genetic physical characteristics. If he's tall, large framed, or has a good face under all that fat then yeah, that level of turn around in people's reactions is normal. Its just normal lookism, nothing specific about being fat in this situation. He went from 2/10 to 8/10+ probably cause he was hiding his good genes with a mountain of food.

Like you point out if you have average characteristics you won't stand out even if you are fit.

>>76328969 (OP)
>>76328995
I refuse to believe this land whales usually have scars for life and their jawline never get fixed.

>>76336035
Nah man i was benching like 115 that shits predatory, i would be in the right to ko them instantly back then.

>>76335043
What do you mean dude i should have broken their jaw i was like 18-19 theyre watching me undress

>>76335617
time to get some of dat herpes mane

>>76330622
>im still the same me on the inside.
That's not how it works. You put in the work to be healthier and look better. You are now a better person than you were when you were a lazy lardass, and you're reaping the rewards for it.

You have to let go of this idea of "who you are on the inside." There's no such thing. Who you are includes what you do. You are now a fit, healthy person. That's part of your identity unless and until you start being a lazy fatass again.

>>76328969 (OP)
Behaviour is a language. Being fat indicates to others things that you do not need to communicate with words, a lack of willpower, a lack of knowledge (on how to fix your diet), an inability to be proactive regarding your health, a disregard for your health, a lack of care about your wellbeing and outword perception by others, poor decision making along with many other things.

These may not be intellectually understood by most of those that discriminated against you but it is unconscious process our minds do to evaluate someone, there are many negative traits associated with being fat and by getting to a healthier weight you have "redeemed" yourself in the eyes of these people subconsciously. Our primal function makes it so we want to talk to and associate with those we believe will benefit our survival, it really is quite simple when you break to down to it's most basic level.

You're thinking about it too much, once you understand the world too much and dwell on the minutiae you will go crazy, just try to be happy and confident about yourself, strive to improve and be the best you and surround yourself with people that value you as a person, enjoy the fruits of your labour, built and maintain your community and help those that have less than you, find a purpose and thrive, once you occupy your mind with positivity and stop looking into things that don't concern you or benefit your mental/physical/spiritual wellbeing you'll be closer to peace. Also, get the fuck off this board, it's not good for your mental health.