>>76464077I've dated one actual varbie. Maybe two.
Bigger more athletic women in general (think former softball player or the security guard at the mall) seem to be very into black dudes who specifically aren't threatened by them physically.
You can't let a fetish dictate your dating life. Think about WHY you're drawn to certain traits and you'll find something comparable in women you can actually seal the deal with.
For me it's just larger/taller women in general. They can be muscular, they can be titcows, they can be fridges. As long as they aren't gross and fat I can find something to like about them. In this esoteric Carl Jung type of way, I think I'm drawn to a kind of woman warrior/monstrous feminine archetype so I can tame it emotionally as a proof of my manhood or sense of personal agency. Probably sounds like gobbledygook but it's how I feel.
I'm drawn to bodybuilders because they wear their monstrous inner self on the outside, and with pride.