Thread 76511895

Anon, pull up a stool and tell us what's going on with you

>>76511895 (OP)
I need more time in the day guys.
I want to spend 2 hours a day in the gym between traveling there, lifting, getting a massage in the massage chairs for recovery, then traveling back home.
I need time to digest food and then I need an hour a day to do self-study to build skills.
Then I could use an hour for hobbies and enjoyment.
I then need to be in bed by 10PM, not looking at screens by 9PM
Where in all of this life do... I live it?
Am I really just working for the weekend?
I usually take a 2-4 nap on Saturdays, like today.

>>76511895 (OP)
I've always been a DYEL computer golem and now that I started working out, I realized I can't really activate my pectoral muscles. They are so atrophied from years of never using them. My chest is basically flat, and when I lie down, I can feel my ribs through my pectorals.
I don't know if I'm gonna make it bros.

>Truck needs fixed, got parts and they're wrong
>Drain for kitchen sink and washing machine are super clogged, can't get fixed until next week. No washing dishes or clothes
>Probably friend zoned by girl who seemed super interested
>Back and knees hurt
>Have been sleeping like shit lately
I'm tired, boss. Somehow my lifts are going up though

>>76511895 (OP)
College semester starts next week, its gonna be really hard and im terrified.

>>76511895 (OP)
>pull up a stool
Am I supposed to be holding the stool with my feet while doing this exercise?

>twinkmaxxing faggot
>old acne scars that will probably never fade
>loose skin from being a fat amerimutt
>128 lbs with only small muscle from biking
literally no way out other than expensive surgery or rope. Being a nihilistic blackpill retard doesn't help either.

A week since my dog died, I’m home alone. I stopped talking with the 22 year old we went for a walk. I’m training hard tho and added 30 mins of cardio everyday now and I’m playing some battlefield 6 for fun

>>76511920
First time i ever stepped into a gym is took a year to actually develop a decent mind to muscle connection. might've been me not executing the exercises correctly, but id like to think it's something that forms over time.

>>76511895 (OP)
Will quitting nicotine and caffeine fix or at least improve my ability to focus and pay attention?

>>76511905
Bro I get it. I’ve been looking into and brain storming ways to make money online. Like genuine businesses. Even if it requires me to work 12 hours a day 7 days a week just to make a net income of $50k I would far rather do that than work for some shmuck and deal with obnoxious coworkers on top of a fucked up commute. Like just imagine this is your life
>wake up 4am
>exercise
>meditate
>6am start checking email and planning day
>7am spend time managing your online shop, returning emails, making calls, planning for new shit etc
>11am take a break for a bit
>12:30pm back to work
>5pm wrap up for day
Then same shit but you only have half a day of shit to do so you spend from 12 until 10pm doing whatever you want, having a life. Oh you wanna go on a trip? Cool bring your laptop with you to check over things. I’m more depressed about it than I’m letting on, you’ll see my post in a bit

I was born ugly

>>76512074
do you have a overbite? literally just lining up teeth better is one of the best things you can do for your face

I feel like I have extreme wasted opportunity and potential. I could be doing so much better, I literally have the opportunity to obtain and build my dream life.
>just happen to inherit a beachfront condo from an in law who inherited it from someone else
>30, 6’2”, live on the beach
But
>260lbs, need to get to 180, stopped lifting in college so need to also get like 20lbs of muscle back to be at least 200 lean
I COULD at least TRY to become
>6’2” 200lbs lean living on the beach, job is making social media content fishing and catching dinner have it gauged towards a fitness and fishing audience and cooking as well, just showing off gains and the fish I catch (combines 3 things I have or have in the past had extreme passion for)
>also can have separate accounts for some sort of vicarious living cozy vibe beach condo shit (people actually eat that crap up)
>could build that up to where it profits, start doing small ad posts/brand deals and affiliate marketing probably make $3k a month off that, then launch my own brand of fishing gear as a business
Like how sick would that be? I can’t seem to kick myself in the ass and get after it. All I fucking have to do is
>walk hour each morning and 30 minutes before bed
>keep diet healthy
>start doing bodyweight shit then progress to dumbbell work wouldn’t even have to join a gym to at least get my old size back
>start running once a week when closer to 220lbs
>spend my weekends fishing and filming the content in meantime and just edit add voice over free use music and spam the videos, keep it faceless for now just to build the pages up until have better body. Even if it took a decade I could be able to quit my job and just focus on this shit, or even do it in my 30s for all I know. It only needs to earn me $3,000 to scrape by so I can focus on that full time and make online shops and shit to have as my job.
And still, I don’t buckle down and just get after it. Even if I failed who cares, at least I know I tried.

>>76512037
>ability to focus and pay attention
they'll fall off a fucking cliff upon quitting, stay in the gutters for months on months, and eventually settle in at a new normal that will never be on the same level as when you were using

at least that is my experience

>>76512102
small changes every day to every couple of days and over a long period of time eventually you'll be that person. if you keep trying to do all of it 100% at once youre probably just gonna be the excuse laden faggot in this post because you dont have any willpower

I'm turning 28 in December, have a good physique but still far behind in other life aspects, having crippling depression throughout childhood and early 20s screwed me but I feel way more alive now and don't wanna give up, gonna go back to uni next year probably.

>>76512074
>groom beard
Stencil, Philips one blade, barber pencils, patience as you fuck up for the first two months until you can do it right easily. And if you’re gonna wear facial hair try growing it out a bit instead of wearing it that short. Inb4 cope who fucking cares 99% of bitches would look like shit if make up didn’t exist, even the most attractive dudes do things which would be called cope if another man did it there are dudes with chad face wearing boots and lifts just to be taller for fucks sake. Even Elon musk had jaw filler and a hair transplant. So who cares. It’s your beard, it’s part of your body.
>consider new haircut and stay on top of it every 3 weeks go to barber to keep it maintained
Your hair looks greasy, to that I suggest wash it less often just use water for the most part. Use natural shampoos no head n shoulders. Dr bronners even is better than most shampoo
>skin care routine
>sunlight 15 mins a day
>gua shua face scout tool of whatever it’s called
>meditate and destress to help reduce cortisol and therefore facial bloating and therefore gain better jaw line
>nair body hair
Sadly most women prefer no body hair. All it does is boost your attractiveness it’s one extra thing that can make you look better.
>mew
Just fucking do it learn proper tongue position. Even if no bone changes, it will over time fix some skin sagging
You’re not ugly man. You look average with potential you aren’t seeing.

>>76512074
Get a haircut and shave. That hair/stubble is not doing you any favors

Girl I've been dating for the past 2 months is going back to America in a week. I'll only see her one more time next weekend.
I'm struggling with what to say to her. We both like each other, but its too early in the relationship to know how much.
She told me the other day she was talking to her friends about me. Saying things like "she doesn't know why i'm single, and I've set such a high bar for her etc".
We haven't addressed anything past her going home.
I'm thinking the only path forward is to let her go and both of us assess how we feel in a few months to know if there's something real there.

>>76511895 (OP)
>grandpa had a stroke
>got in car accident
>still skelly af
>gf been distant
pray for me lads. or my grandpa. he deserves it more than I do.

>>76512074
Don't listen to them, keep the hair but try growing a beard and you will be golden. Manbun + beard will be peak in 2026. Do shave your chest hair although i know it's gay the other anon is right. Also please start lifting

Got laid off from my job this week. Yesterday was my last day. They gave me a decent severance and the CEO and CFO both gave me letters of recommendation I can use for future jobs, but I'm still bummed because I really liked that job, it was relatively stress free and I everyone liked me there (non-profit, they got hit super hard by the government funding cuts and they didn't want to get rid of me, but there wasn't anything they could do). Job hunting sucks, I haven't had to look for a new job in almost eight years.

Just landed a job making 120k + bonus. Which here in Europoor land is within the top 1%. Hours are gonna be brutal, but ah well I'm young.

Life looking good. Just need to find a model tier gf

Been sick as a dog the last 2 weeks which has fucked my abietite and sleep so now I'm down a kilo and a half and my lifts all tanked but I'm working my way back up hoping this next week ill reclaim all my strength and numbers
>>76512227
that's shit mate, sorry to hear that.

>182cm, 63kg
>defined as fuck, but too smol
>start working out and eating in a 300kcal surplus to grow
>now I weigh 72kg
>can barely see my abs
what's the point of gaining weight if I lost all my muscle definition? I just feel fat now, even though I know I'm not, I want my abs back but that would mean losing all the weight I put on, even the muscle.

there's no point in "fitness"

>>76511895 (OP)
What's going on?
NOTHIN' FUCKIN GOOD M8
Completely ruptured my achilles, I am a beyond active individual, workout 2x a day 4x a week the other two days I only workout once- My life is completely on hold because of this and this is an absurdly long recovery process.
I get surgery on thursday and then have to recover for the next 6-12 months before I can return to sports.
It's never been more over for me bros.

Anybody else like obsessively search what mbti they are? I swear it's been 4 years, and I still keep searching and taking tests. Is it as valid as star signs? Probably, but I swear, it's gonna be the answer. I'm gonna find out I'm an istp, and decide that yes I should be an appraiser! Yes I should marry an ISTJ! Jesus...

>>76512271
>Is it as valid as star signs? Probably
no, not probably, definitely.
you're just retarded, there's nothing wrong with it because it's not your fault, you didn't choose to be born retarded, and anyone who mocks/discriminates you because of it is just as good as a racist who does it someone who didn't choose their skin color.
enjoy life as much as you can and don't overthink/overcomplicate things.

>>76512227
I’ll pray for you

woman don't want to have sex with me

Just started a new gym that is expensive and worth it. I see like 10/10 cutie girls and sometimes I feel great but for once I don't feel like the big guy in the weight room like I did at uni. They seem all nice and mainly hot. I really hope one of the fit girls wants me. But good news is my numbers bee going up.

>>76511895 (OP)
feeling really good and having a great time every day

>>76511895 (OP)
I'm hoping that on Monday I can finalize an application with my local electrician union. So far I've been told to "talk to this person" three times and I'm anxious it will happen a fourth time.
>inb4 apply online
You can't. They specifically say either call X, Y, or Z or come to the office.
>2025
>still can't fucking apply to a job without loads of horseshit
Is it this bad outside of the USA, FFS?

Aight, long post.
>Had a friend from middle school, kick it with him and his fiancee for years
>my drinking gets out of control, full blown alckie, go sober start of 2024
>friends start to see me less, get told by the fiancee being sober is a gay little experiment when we go out for my bday dinner
>get bailed on for the 4th, "oh shit we forgot you asked"
>get bailed on for Halloween "oh we thought you meant a different day"
>get told nothing was happening for one of their bdays when later they tell me they went out with other friends
>catch dumb shit lies like this that make me feel like I cant trust them
>want to play embarassing videos of me black out at their wedding, asked them not to, told me no
>eventually just stop talking to them, im happy sober and dont need that shit
>get a text this week wanting to talk about why I am so upset
Honestly, what would you guys do? I cant say I miss sitting on their couch while they get drunk and play video games, I also cant trust them for shit and I am VERY insulted over wanting to play drunk videos of me. I am past that shit

>>76512553
anon it's a union... they want you to make the rounds, they are gossiping about you and guessing how long you'll last.
>still can't apply without loads of horseshit
that's by design because it's.. a union
but electrical union is amazing if you get in and aren't a dickhead so you get treated right

Sorry, friend, I'm too anabolic to sit on these puny chairs, they crumble underneath my physique.

5''10, 230lb 33year dyel bean I switch between hopelessness and pure burning WAGMI fighting spirit.

I worry about the future, my family, the fact I haven't locked down a wife while others settle and start families.

Despite it all, starting new businesses that are slowly but surely growing. Work has been brutal but I'm managing the stress.

I think i'll WAGMI in the end I'm just impatient. Need to hit the gym again to reset my soul.

Thank you frens
>CAPTCHA: G0Dx4

>>76511895 (OP)
Tired of being a complete joke. When I walk into a room I want women to ask “who is the new bull?” How do I achieve this?

>>76511895 (OP)
Just ate a bunch of frosted oatmeal cookies.

>>76511895 (OP)
General dissatisfaction with my career, with my life. I rarely get dates with women and when I do they just ghost me or tell me they're not interested after. I've been blasting testosterone for 9 months yet I can't even bench 200 lbs. I feel like a monumental failure and I want to kill myself every single day.

I've been getting into the gym consistently for three months and I just picked up c25k. I've struggled with mental health my whole life and it finally feels like it's turning around. Unfortunately I'm a total loser. I'm 29 and my mates are buying houses and getting on in life and I'm living with my parents playing videogames most of the day. I'm doing a lot better than I was; this time last year I was a complete anxious wreck who couldn't leave the house. But I have a long way to go still. I need to seriously quit the vidya and let myself be bored more, because that's how I actually get stuff done.


PS: I wrote replies to a bunch of posts, but it kept getting flagged as spam for some reason. Fuck this site.

>>76511895 (OP)
She is going in another trip with someone that isn't me.

I keep on fucking up at work. I'll do one thing right and then discover that I'm doing two things wrong. I think I'd be decent but I need more time. I'm praying that the new form pf doesn't come into existence.

I am going to become a superhuman to steal the girl I love from a man who doesn't deserve her and he if tries to stop me I'll beat his ass and show her what she needs

My sexual performance is slipping and I don't know what to do. I have a harder time maintaining an erection, and there's relatively little genuine horniness behind it anymore. I don't like this, my soul is screaming for more sex but my body is rapidly failing me, and I am afraid it's going to seriously negatively impact my marriage. Do I see a doctor about this? A therapist? I'm only 35, this shouldn't be happening to me yet.

>gf looking a little doughy recently
>she stopped weighing herself in front of me the last few months
>KNOW she has gained weight, I can squeeze her sides now
>we still work out together every morning
>don't know how she's doing it but she's doing it
>last recorded weight I have access to she's 112lbs
>come up with a the simplest "plan" I can think up: Pretend the old scale is broken, get a new one and have her step on it to see how big she's gotten
>day of reckoning comes, put the new scale down
>"uh hey babe, hop on it I want to make sure it's accurate"
>she falls for it hook line AND sinker
>it says 110
>Me: "is that accurate?"
>Her: "Yup! Same as this morning :)"
>mfw

who

>>76511895 (OP)
Got a job that is going to end sometime in the next year, and I am not sure when. Was told end of 2026 but they said it might be earlier. So I am scrambling looking for another job, paying off debt like a madman, and saving money. Also on an extremely strict calorie cut. When I'm hungry I'm chronically nervous and paranoid. Down 30 pounds though so I got that working for me.

>>76511895 (OP)
I hate being unemployed and living with my aunt. She treats me like shit. Typical boomer. At least my uncle is nice.

>>76512622
>get a text this week wanting to talk about why I am so upset
I would tell them what you told us. Either they will apologize or double down. Both are positive outcomes because you could mend an old friendship or alternatively (and much more likely) cut toxic people out of your life after they refuse to acknowledge any wrongdoings

I'm honestly fucking exhausted.

I think about suicide every day. But I don't.

I'm basically a 27 yo virgin. But I'm also just damned exhausted daily.

I'd do anything for real love bros.

>>76511895 (OP)

Training for a half marathon and kinda threw out my back/upper glute today. Hurts to walk some of the time. All I can think about is how I hope this is a minor less than 72 hour thing and wont derail my training a whole lot. But the spasms hurt, Im not going to lie and pretend otherwise

>making progress on chest
>get sick and miss several sessions in a row
>start making progress on arms
>pull tendon
>start making progress on squats
>injure foot
I'm tired boss

>>76512665
Didn't really get that impression but maybe you're right. Or maybe this is the type of horseshit that is so common in the workplace, union or not, I've just come to accept it.

>quite a few family issues have sprung up, especially around a recent death
>have a job that contributes to the destruction of an industry i spent a decade working in to because i loved the artform so much
>cant get another job, none are available and my job will be replaced by jeets or ai soon
>stuck where i live because things are too expensive
>been smoking weed too much to cope with how depressing the outside world feels
My light is still on inside, and I my investing has made solid gains which makes me pretty stable which is great, especially given how fucked things are financially these days. I just feel exhausted and disconnected from everything with no incentive or drive to kick myself into gear again.

Today I broke up with my girlfriend of the past 5 months.
She is a really wonderful, kind and caring person. However, she has mental health issues that are concerning to me when I think of spending the rest of my life with someone.
I also felt the attraction waning far too early on - she is a self proclaimed tomboy. Doesn’t wear makeup, rarely dresses femininely, and from the very moment we started dating I felt like I was with her more for her personality than looks.
I feel really terrible about the situation - am I allowing lust to control my thoughts? I spoke candidly with my mother about this and she felt that attraction is important and it wouldn’t be fair to be with someone whom I couldn’t be affectionate towards.
Ultimately, at 33, it just feels like once again I’m back to square one.
No closer to a wife, no closer to children.
I’m sad, but I hope I did the right thing by not prolonging the inevitable and, as my mom said, ‘ripping the bandaid’.

Is it a bad sign if girls are sneaking their phone of you working out? I was doing a circuit and my shirt was drenched but I was going harder than anyone there. I feel like im about to become a meme.

>>76511895 (OP)
>can maintain erection during sex
>can't cum
what does this mean, is my body telling me to repent

>>76513568
no, it is telling you to get in shape.

My real friends would never do something like that. You can find better people.

>>76513294
I 2nd this.

Good luck friends.
>Too many problems

Moved to College Apartment and starting hitting the gym daily again, feeling good at the progress I'm making in life but can't shake the feeling of "being off balance" I don't know how else to describe it.

>>76513587
how, surely keeping it up is sign of shape

I got tonsillitis. Decided to go to the gym anyway. Pulled 5pl8 and now I feel worse than before. V dumb.

>>76512622
Man just cut them off these are shit friends.
>what friends should be
They should be people who want to see you improve, want the best for you simply because you’re their friend and they like you. Yeah a friend will be someone you wanna punch a lot, but at the end of the day it’s “okay I’ll see ya next weekend bro”. A friend doesn’t sabotage attempts to self improve whether out of their own insecurity or because they’re just genuinely a shit person. A friend doesn’t knowingly cross boundaries and if you do have to address it they respect it.
These two people see you as a drunken buffoon for entertainment they don’t actually care about you. I can tell you right now they’ll be getting a divorce in 3-6 years. They’re going to end up obese if they aren’t already. Fuck em man, welcome to sobriety.
Dude you
>can’t trust them
>are very insulted
>and they don’t care or see what they could have done wrong
They don’t view you as human it’s time to cut them off.


>reverse here
I had to cut off a friend who wouldn’t stop drinking. Dudes a legitimate niggerfaggot. I’m over it, gave him too many chances. He gets drunk then starts crossing lines and then swears he’s the victim. He’s all fine insulting everyone calling everyone a retard if they make mistakes but he makes a huge one and you tell him he’s being dumb and he loses his shit and tries to be offensive. Or everyone’s ball busting shooting the shit someone does it back to him and he suddenly loses it and tries his hardest to genuinely offend. He’s an insufferable prick. Bumbling shit for brains who can’t even deal with being alone just for him to drive everyone around him away. Gave him way too many chances for the last 10 years. Was genuinely someone I considered my brother.

>>76513827
>>76512622
Honestly if you can fight or are bigger than them all I would play the “I’m bigger than you” game and give them a firm very stern warning not to do that shit, and if they do it ruin the whole wedding. Like I would pretend to be drunk make myself pile all over the bride, laugh in her face, give a quick grin and shit eating look at them both to insinuate “I’m doing this on purpose,” I would probably pretend to grip and destroy the cake or just straight up start eating it, if anyone touched me I would lay them out especially if it was their family. Entire goal would be goading the groom to fight me so I could humiliate him on his wedding day make him a bitch in his new wives eyes from day 1 of their marriage like literally pin him down and straight up bully him just pretending to be shit faced black out drunk, and to make her cry so their special day is remembered in sadness. Main goal truly being to upset her as much as possible so he never hears the end of it.


Then after the fact I would just maintain “wow I did that? WHY DID YOU MAKE ME DRINK” and refuse any accountability.
But I’m bigger than most people around me I could throw most people I know

>>76513846
Puke* not pile.
Other ideas: just take a piss on another person from behind, bring laxatives and coat the entire bathroom step in it and then track it all the way to her dress trail thing, accidentally keep dropping glasses and just walk away from them, if it’s a Greek type wedding just scream OPA! and chuck glasses at people

My current life experience is so fucking weird i have no fucking idea how to describe what's going on in it anymore. Part of me wishes i was normal and didn't have to relive my teen years in my 30s while wrestling with my very poor mental health. Part of me wishes i never left isolation and kept beeing a pathetic NEET loser until the day i died alone. Part of me wants to go forward and see what else God has prepared for me. But at least no part of me wants to kill myself.

>>76512112
I found a system that looks like it may work very well for me with some minor tweaking to its system, it’s a productivity tracker. You can take a look at Dominic.hartt on Instagram to find it he doesn’t have many posts but he uses graph paper moleskin notebooks and sets it up so he X’s where he’s been productive each day and has this whole system to it. I’m ordering some moleskin notebooks and I figure if I start by going for 5 things a day (3 obligatory things like exercise brushing teeth etc and 2 “higher” things like reading or fixing my apartment) I could pretty easily get momentum and each week add to it. I’m gonna try it. I do need to find a carrot on a stick though, this would build discipline but I ultimately need some kind of motivation to work towards.

>>76514199
I feel the same way. Been spending my 20s learning lessons I should have learned in my teen years, having experiences I should have had back then. Had periods of regression and isolation for a couple years at a time during my 20s, about to be 30. I feel like I’m now mentally 20 years old. All through my 20s I’ve felt mentally stuck at 15. So that’s improvement I guess. But it shouldn’t be this way. Yeah yeah yeah don’t measure yourself to other people but honestly fuck that it’s a great way to gauge how far along you should be close to being
>most people my age
Married, dating, starting families, buying homes, settling into career, doing well, having life’s and doing shit.
>me
Just moved out for first time half a year ago. Deadend min wage job with no future. No other skills. Very few friends who I don’t even spend time with IRL. 2 relationships with chicks seeking to take advantage of the low experience autist. Horrendous anxiety and OCD. Attention span is shot.
I’ve at least conquered most of my anxiety issues.
I wish I wasn’t put on mind numbing zombie drugs as a kid. I didn’t fucking need them tehy gave me concerta and fluvox for OCD and what the psykikeatrist called “minor add”. They didn’t help they just made me a spaced out zombie with all the same problems plus suicidal idealizations during my formative years. For fucks sake I never even learned how to study no wonder I struggle with the most basic self care shit as a grown man. I’m trying, but I feel like I could have been better prepared for life so I wouldn’t have these issues. Parents did whatever doctors said and thought if I was fed I was doing fan fucking tastic. Literally had a doctor tell my parents to feed me nothing but hotdogs and McDonald’s because I needed the protein so I grew up obese. My god I hate Jews and the American medical industry so much wow you abused adderall in uni and you can record some vitals and google shit you’re a doctor now.

A tall aryan gym stacy lifted next to me this morning and she looked really nice

Rum & coke please.

I might be two steps away from misanthropy. Real life interactions are full of games, hidden interests, rudeness and violence, it's tiring me on a deep level, like fighting a pack of starving dogs who want a piece of me on a daily basis. I only seem to have normal interactions when disconnected from reality, which is a sad admission I realize. It's getting worse too, recent years have been maddening, people are out of their minds.

>>76514248
My guy i wish i could hug you. No homo.

>>76511895 (OP)
no matter how much i lift and look in shape/muscular i'll still only ever be 5'3

>>76514199
I'm mid 20s but I completely get it, I get the same thoughts. It feels like I am swimming against the current even leaving my room and being seen by people. I also find comfort in trusting in God and his eternal mercy.
It's an endless struggle between comfortable complacency and uncomfortable growth.

>>76514516
It could be worse. Are you an insufferable retard who takes out his own insecurity and self loathing on those around you who only want to be your friend? Get ultra pissy and defensive if someone doesn’t take your abuse and act like the victim after they retaliate just because you’re smaller? Yes? Then fix that and improve or else you deserve to feel bad for being small. No? Then I don’t think of you as small at all. Just a dude.

>>76513568
Same issue bro, are you wearing a condom or not. I think that's the main issue for me, don't even feel my dick really.

>>76511895 (OP)
Moved into a new area which is awesome because there's a great social village vibe and everyone knows each other and is friendly, but I am the one who can't break into this circle because I just don't know how to fucking Talk and be interesting. I'm not scared of talking, I just... Have fuck all to say.
Anyways I also think I might be falling for a gorgeous woman again and I'm NOT ready for the inevitable end of this

>>76513294
>>76513611
I feel part of me just doesnt care about the friendship, they might just lie to my face and play drunk videos anyways. I've aught them in the dumbest lies
>>76513827
I do get the impression that I am just drunken entertainment to them.I think that is what insults me the most

I have no purpose. Almost all armed professions I want to join are either riddled with evil and violating my beliefs or pointless.

I spend my days not doing anything and I have nothing to live for, I cannot see myself as a father of a happy family.

waiting for summer to end

>>76512250
That's still poverty wages in the US fuck

>>76511895 (OP)
A lot of not good things. I see my hand is slowly being forced and the decision whether to kms is slowly leaving my hand.

>>76514653
You SHOULD be insulted over this. You shouldn’t even have to post about this for advice. You following best move is to just block and delete cut ties, or if you wanna have some fun get a bit of revenge (not worth it, but funny) do my fake drunk ruins wedding idea. I would personally do that, give a final warning fully expecting them to go against my wishes show up to the wedding never touch a drink, sip from a flask of water so it looks like I’m drinking, and if they play the video slowly start by hitting on the bride, hit on any married women regardless if their husbands are there, drop glasses knock shit over and then start progressively souring my speech worse and worse, eventually start eating the cake, maybe even dig a finger all the around it early on so no photos can be taken with it, literally make the entire event a shit show for them, perhaps bring bear mace so if anyone attempts to restrain you you can just spray them. Gaslight everyone on it with “well geeze I told you I didn’t want to drink idk why you pressured me into it that was stupid of you hahaha”
Ruin their special day make it enjoyable for you at their expense turn the tables because fuck then why should you be the one humiliated and made to feel shitty so they can get some short lived amusement? You shouldn’t. It should be them the ones who think it’s okay to treat a human like that who suffer while others find joy in it.
It’s not the wisest option, that would be just cutting these degenerate scumbags off and letting them fail, but it is AN option that still results in the same outcome.

>>76514731
Man up pussy. And do a Luigi on your way out!
Fuckin feds. I HATE THE ANTICHRIST! Say it LOUDER!

>>76511895 (OP)
If you must know, mr. special agent, I'm dope af and the people just don't recognize it yet. Luckily I was blessed with patience.

>>76512254
You don't lose all the muscle when you cut, it's only a little if you eat and train properly

I want to fix my life but no idea how. I'm gonna try to get fit. That's really all I have control over.

>>76514813
Work backwards
What is your end goal? When you have "made it" what do you see yourself having?
From there make a few step plan on getting to those things you want, and then look at step A to B and figure out how to cross that bridge, just keep quantifying and iterating until you get a stable plan you can follow.
Not easy, but not complicated.

Let’s see
>30
>still weigh only 140lbs despite trying to “bulk” since I was 22
>couple of thousands in debt, poor credit
>40k/year typical 40hr/week office job
>live in FL with no car, still no driver’s license after being here for years(moved from the city)
>khv
>still live with grandmother
>no friends or social life (few friends are back where I moved from)
>still lazy, no self-discipline or ambition
>no skills whatsoever
>massively behind in life exp and knowledge compared to my peers
>feel empty and bored everyday

>>76515026
Get your own place man

>>76514964
>Work backwards
Good advice but the main issue is career. I burnt out in one and even if I went back to it, eh the future is bleak.

My idea of modest success is a happy family which includes a house and I need to pull down decent money for that. I have a lot of ideas but I dunno if they're viable long-term and I don't want to dump money into something that isn't gonna work out. And my confidence is shot so there's that too.

Any way, like I said, gonna try to get fit.


>>76515026
I'm not trying to be a dick but how are you in debt with no car etc? Stop comparing yourself to others, get your loiicense, and start digging.

>32
>Good job - £60k a year
>Own my own home
>In the best shape of my life
>Should be happy but
>No friends
>No social life
>No gf
>Just spend every weekend alone in my house
>Feel no direction or ambition in life
I need to find my purpose

>>76515026
>live in Florida
>feel empty and bored
>no friends
I will make a suggestion but the rest is on you to follow through. Go to Walmart and drop like $100 on a spinning reel and rod combo, some lures, and maybe a prebuilt tackle box that comes with some hooks weights bobbers and lures. Look up what to do how to use the rod and cast etc. and just start. Go find whatever freshwater is closest to you and start fishing even if you just use bits of bread to catch sunfish/mayan cichlids.
Try different waters, different times of day and conditions and look up what kinds of fish are around. Increase the kind of gear you have over time to target bigger shit like snakeheads.
That pulled me out of a slump. Even met some people doing it but I’m too much of an awkward autist lmao. This does a few things. First, it’s just relaxing and gets you outside. But it teaches patience and some discipline, you may not catch shit at first and it could take weeks or even months and even when you begin getting catches you have to learn to be patient and stop reeling to let the fish run and tire itself out. You have to learn to tie some knots, learn what to use in what kind of conditions. When you catch a new fish it feels amazing. Whether it’s a personal best size or a new species altogether you realize what all the patience and effort was for. Even a bad day fishing is better than a good day sitting around inside feeling depressed

>>76515245
Cringe

>>76511895 (OP)

> Played with same guy online and didnt see his friends request on steam for months
> At the beginning of summer i accept his request and we start talking
> Cant believe it but its actually a 31 year old woman
> We start sending pics
> She is kinda hot
> Upss she tells me she has a boyfriend
> But she says they only live together, no feelings anymore
> I delete her and few days later we play on the same server
> She writes to me in chat that she misses me and i reply back same
> We add each other back and i say if u want to continue with this thing we have, u need to break up with boyfriend
> Few days later she writes i broke up with him
> She goes "Whole family hates me now because i broke up our engagement but i had to do it. U gave me strenght."
> I found out they were 7 years together and had plans to marry and have kids..
> Fast forward two months and we will probably meet next month (we are both from EU)

Honestly i have no idea what am i doing,like every cell in my body tells me run away she is walking red flag but i am so attracted to her.

Funny thing is that i can get girls here wherw i live but this feels kinda different.

>>76512227
Where'd you get this pic of me and my girl?

Either way, if the gf makes you feel uneasy to where you need clarification when you never did before, don't let her ruin anything else in your life.

>>76515498
you're a jerk

just copin erday

>>76511895 (OP)
I'm tired of pretending people treat you better if you get /fit/. If you can find an actual normal person, yes. Anything else? Someone wants to starts shit.

>>76515581
I am agreeing saar. Peoples only wants shits to start. This are not the designated street. Do the needful, go to proper street.

>>76515498
If she did this for you she can do it to you.

>>76515498
>>76515607
This. If she threw away a 7 year relationship just to seek novelty with you... Don't get too attached.

I haven't had sex in 4 years. Met a girl somehow, we started going places and hanging out. We make out and start moving towards sex, we both talk about how excited we are about finally being together.
She tells me she has a FWB but is willing to "give me a chance" by breaking things off with him temporarily, but if we aren't a match she'll go back to him because the sex is too good.
I get insecure and don't like actively being compared to another guy, wondering if I'll be able to perform.
Later I realize it isn't a big deal, that's how dating works even if most people aren't as explicit about it, and I'm just nervous about my sexual ability after so many years out of the game. I should've taken the easy pussy while I had a chance.

Basically my insecurity fucked up a chance to finally get laid after 4 years. If I simply hadn't given a fuck what she did after me like with every other girl then I'd be getting laid right now.
I guess it's back to waiting for the next one to come around.

>>76515648

Im kinda retarded but i still know all these feelings we have have no real base lol

>>76515205
Literally me, how do I figure out what the fuck I want to do in life?

>>76514282
Say hello to her next time. If she doesn't scream in terror thats a good sign

>>76515498
HAD TO ADD THIS:

Worst thing is that ex still lives with her and her parents haha but he is searching for apartment.. :c

>>76516099
Starting to seem like you're the ex

>>76512982
Are you actually with her?