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Anonymous No.76515760 >>76515767 >>76515797 >>76515823 >>76515860 >>76515863 >>76515917 >>76515936 >>76516075 >>76516080 >>76516257
>Ex-gf just got married
Best lift when you're feeling suicidal?
Anonymous No.76515765
Run.
Anonymous No.76515766
Marriage is awful imo
Also deadlifts and heavy skullcrushers
Anonymous No.76515767
>>76515760 (OP)
Heh, it's not that bad.
Mine killed herself
Anonymous No.76515775
90% of modern marriages are miserable
Anonymous No.76515782
deadlift.
Anonymous No.76515797
>>76515760 (OP)
keep your chin ups
Anonymous No.76515823 >>76516022
>>76515760 (OP)
Running. But deadlift if it has to be a lift.
Anonymous No.76515860
>>76515760 (OP)
>he ruined the future wife of a man he doesn't know but is yet not contempt with the fact, that he was on that snatch first, tapping that ass before the cuck husband
Low test
Anonymous No.76515863 >>76515891 >>76515909 >>76515929 >>76516068 >>76516113 >>76516119 >>76516301
>>76515760 (OP)
>knowing what your ex is doing
unless you work together, live in close proximity or share close mutual friends(mistake) there's no reason to know what she's up to and if she's getting married

anyways - monk mode
>drop off the face of the earth
>focus on yourself, your goals and building a better man
>if you're employed keep your social contacts to colleagues and at work only
>disappear, delete facebook account, instagram account and whatever other social media you're using
>reduce browsing this shithole and whatever else you browse to a bare minimum
>use your free time for yourself
>research different forms of meditation and start practicing a little every day
>make it so that your whole world revolves around yourself and your inner Self
>read "Letting Go: The pathway of surrender" by David R. Hawkins
>dwell within yourself, learn how your emotional and thought loops work
>break negative conditioning
>start keeping a journal - no need to cover every little detail - just write down a few things that you did today, what you thought about, how you felt, what your plans are about tomorrow, what you didn't do and why, and how it made you feel
>dwell on what happens in your mind how you feel, what might be causing it.
>again, meditate
>at least once sit in silence and stare at a wall for 1 hour without doing anything, without distractions, without standing up and walking around, without listening to music, without background noise if possible
>a few times a week try sitting with your back straight up and don't move. it will be nice and cozy for around 10 minutes and then you'll wanna move - an itch you'll wanna scratch, a joint you'll wanna readjust, whatever - don't. the point is to train your mind to direct its focus. the objective is to not move anything. all the movement you can do is blink and make sure your back is straight up. at some point you'll discover how the only thing you have left is your breath and focusing on it is exhilarating.
Anonymous No.76515891 >>76515926
>>76515863
Sounds incredibly boring. Might as well commit a crime and get thrown in jail if you're going to punish yourself like that.
Anonymous No.76515909 >>76515926 >>76516102
I had a solid relationship pre-covid and worried I made a horrible decision but time has only proven me absolutely right. Modern women are a dumpster fire but the truth is, women were always women, they hid it better and had less opportunity to be their worst.

>>76515863
Yeah I need to do some of this.
Anonymous No.76515917
>>76515760 (OP)
5x getting the fuck over yourselfs until failure
Anonymous No.76515926
>>76515891
it's for people who are ready.
>>76515909
also don't fap
the whole point is to at least begin to realize you're much more than your emotions, your feelings, your upbringing, your surroundings, your past, your perception of yourself and others' perception of you. life is fucking electric. don't fall for that doomer shit. there's a whole universe inside of you you're not aware of
Anonymous No.76515929 >>76515947
>>76515863
Do all that...for what?
You're still less worth than some 18 year old girl with zero brains
You're still not gonna achieve anything worthwhile
Anonymous No.76515936
>>76515760 (OP)
Steroids
Anonymous No.76515947
>>76515929
>You're still less worth than some 18 year old girl with zero brains
(you) are, yes.
>You're still not gonna achieve anything worthwhile
why not?
>Do all that...for what?
don't do it, it's not for you. your place is at the bottom of the barrel and the world needs people like you too
Anonymous No.76516022
>>76515823
>missing your middle school crush at 70
Man...
Anonymous No.76516064 >>76516086
Bible and start going to church.
Anonymous No.76516068 >>76516211
>>76515863
This is the worst possible idea
Do you think cavemen needed to go monk mode to get what they want?
Anonymous No.76516075
>>76515760 (OP)
>checking up on your ex
never gonna make it.
Anonymous No.76516080
>>76515760 (OP)
Same actually, best workout like another said is running. You wear yourself out, can’t think as much, sleep more, plus it keeps your body in a good mental state even if your brain isn’t
Anonymous No.76516086
>>76516064
Ecclesiastes is the only good book in the bible. Everything else is trash. Mark 14:51, the big jc is a pedo
Anonymous No.76516102
>>76515909
>I had a solid relationship pre-covid and worried I made a horrible decision but time has only proven me absolutely right.
Qrd?
Anonymous No.76516113 >>76516149 >>76516211
>>76515863
>going full schizo shut-in because pussy got away
absolutelly terrible advice and you should never, ever do this, specially over some trivial bullshit like breaking up. this will only cripple your social link with everyone you know and grow distrust in yourself and others. this only works if you phisically relocate some place else. if you remain where you are and adapt this mentality it will fuck you up big time. it's easier and faster if you waste some money on some jew mind tricks with a therapist.
>t. former "monk"
all the techniques you see online about "healing yourself through inner peace and meditation" is bullshit, you can't just delude your mind of the overwhelming emotions you feel, you might supress them for a while but they will come back when you least need it.
Anonymous No.76516119 >>76516211
>>76515863
out of curiosity, how old are you?
Anonymous No.76516149 >>76516185
>>76516113
The mistake is assuming that the solution puts everything back the way it was before. Pursuing inner peace and letting go is the best you can do, doesn’t make it good or even neutral. Some wounds can’t be worked through, and all you can do is learn to pack it away better and affect you for shorter periods of time when it spikes up.
Anonymous No.76516185 >>76516238 >>76516259
>>76516149
>everything back the way it was before
I said emotions, not everything. you might feel at peace but unless you really work on your emotional wounds and fix them they will come back and the cicle will repeat.
>Some wounds can’t be worked through, and all you can do is learn to pack it away better and affect you for shorter periods of time when it spikes up.
Incorrect, that's a trauma response that can be managed and healed but never on your own. even if you feel the wounds again, the worst possible response you can do to your body is forcing it to self-isolate.
>well umm yeah but I will do it either way
If you do, this is the end or exit of "monk mode". once you "healed" yourself will all your inner knowledge and self realizations (which can be none, or just plain delusions to acomoddate your preconcieved beliefs) the path of reconnecting with life and everyone else is pure hell. you will fill outdated and alienated and none of your new knowledge will help you. being social is a muscle that needs to be exercised too. I can guarantee that self-isolation is the worst thing a healthy mind can do.
Anonymous No.76516211 >>76516225 >>76516253
>>76516068
cavemen didn't need to post online about their ex getting married either.
>>76516113
you shouldn't do it over trivial bullshit like breaking up. maybe you shouldn't do it at all. you should do it when you know you need to do it, it's like - you'll know it when you get there.
the point is not to delude your mind of the overwhelming emotions and definitely not to suppress them. it's about facing them, dealing with them, letting go of whatever past trauma might have caused them and finding peace within yourself - to distance your identity from your temporary emotional and mental states. it's the exact opposite of what you're saying.it's bullshit healing yourself through inner peace and meditation. it's healing yourself by facing the silence, the inner void, whatever "trauma" you've been through and letting go of it so it no longer interferes with your life.
>>76516119
28
i know, i'm old as fuck by this place's standards
Anonymous No.76516216
dead bugs

Feels fitting since you are just on your back squirming around like an asswipe.

My worst nightmare is to get invited to one of my ex-gf's wedding. I fucked one of them recently just to avoid such a thing.

Cheer up OP. You broke up for a reason, nothing is holding you back now. The real answer is EVERYTHING!
Anonymous No.76516225 >>76516238
>>76516211
>cavemen didn't need to post online about their ex getting married either.
Yeah they'd go over to their ex's cave and kill her new mate and then kidnap her
Anonymous No.76516238 >>76516253
>>76516185
>If you do, this is the end or exit of "monk mode". once you "healed" yourself will all your inner knowledge and self realizations (which can be none, or just plain delusions to acomoddate your preconcieved beliefs) the path of reconnecting with life and everyone else is pure hell. you will fill outdated and alienated and none of your new knowledge will help you. being social is a muscle that needs to be exercised too. I can guarantee that self-isolation is the worst thing a healthy mind can do.

It doesn't literally mean
>cut everyone off, stop talking to people, leave your friends behind, never leave your place, cut all social ties
Just focus primarily on yourself. Keep your close friends, keep your connections, don't cut people off. But also isolate yourself to a healthy degree. You don't need to doomscroll instagram and facebook and whatnot in order to be part of the social circle.
>>76516225
which is based as fuck but nowadays you'll catch charges.
Anonymous No.76516253
>>76516211
>you should do it when you know you need to do it
>it's about facing them, dealing with them, letting go of whatever past trauma might have caused them and finding peace within yourself
I can agree on that but for over a few months maximum. winter arc as they say. self-introspection for prolonged periods of time is very dangerous specially if you're young. you might develop hyperawareness anxiety, basically overthink your future development. the way of ascetism is only worthwile if you abandon your current life and restart far away. but over some girl? come on. going "monk mode" is valid when something powerful is rotting you from inside and you're old. if you are young (that's why I asked) you will make mistakes, everyone will.
>it's healing yourself by facing the silence, the inner void, whatever "trauma" you've been through and letting go of it so it no longer interferes with your life.
I get your point but you shouldn't do it alone, the quicker you fix this the better.
>>76516238
>It doesn't literally mean cut everyone off, stop talking to people, leave your friends behind, never leave your place, cut all social ties
Good, I took the "drop off the face of the earth" literally and everytime I see people doing something like this it involves going back to their caves
>But also isolate yourself to a healthy degree
Buddy there's no such thing as healthy isolation, just cut whatever it is that did you harm and move on
Anonymous No.76516257
>>76515760 (OP)
deadlifts, obviously
Anonymous No.76516259 >>76516295
>>76516185
If I took a pick to your brain you wouldn’t regenerate, and in the same vein there are neural pathways that will never undo themselves. To blanket-state that all mental-wounds can be “fixed” implies that any thought can be manipulated, removed, added, or changed in some way to return to a “before” state, which is absurd. Some wounds cannot be worked through, even with the help of others, and you can only mitigate their impact on your quality of life.

For the record, I never said “well umm yeah but I will do it either way.” That said, claiming that taking time to step away from what is for most people an oversocialized modernity will leave you socially bereft and out of touch is such terrible advice that I can’t tell if you’re doing mustard gas trolling or not. Self-isolation is obviously terrible in a long term sense, but to reflect on what is important to you, what works for you, and to connect with yourself in times of crisis is probably the most important thing you can do. Your values and sense of reality are in crisis, you don’t want to look to what everyone else is doing to define yourself. Collect yourself, evaluate your place in the world, then reach out to people close to you when you have a better idea of what you really want to do. People help keep you grounded, tethering yourself to a baseline is important but defining yourself by it is smothering.
eight? No.76516295
>>76516259
Look man, all that I'm saying is that is not the way to go and might be more harmful than good, if you think I'm trolling or just refusing to accept that trauma can be managed (fully fixed on your own is rare and very difficult) is just the distrust that I was talking about.
>to reflect on what is important to you, what works for you, and to connect with yourself in times of crisis is probably the most important thing you can do.
Correct but it shouldn't be an habit, you only need to do it to identify your issue and work it with someone else, just go to therapy and fix it as soon as possible.
Anonymous No.76516301
>>76515863
you must be 18 or older to post