Thread 76574615

It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhale

Were you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as well

What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.

Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own pace

We're ALL gonna make it

The motivation thread is open

Last week’s thread >>76518118

Yesterday, I was locked in and got more done in one day than in the past week. I know it's become a meme but leaving this place and social media is a vital component of making it. I didn't realize how addicted I was to the internet and how big of a gain goblin it is. I spent less than an hour on my phone and spent the other 5 hours that would go to waste doing something fulfilling and meaningful.

>>76574615 (OP)
Goals for the week are hitting the gym *3 but efficiently. It sounds dumb, but so far the big advantage to me for doing higher reps fewer sets is that means fewer tests between sets, so less time spent overall in the gym. I’m enjoying it. Currently at working weight of 195 on DL, goal 275. Over the last year every time I start to make real progress something forces me to take a break (injury, time crunch, gym closure) but I’m gonna make this happen.
Goals outside the gym are mundane, but discipline is what moves the ball down the field. Daily prayer and contemplation, two hours of language study for the week, keep reading, do my chores. It’s the first of the month so tallying up the budget. I’ve been budgeting for years now, and last month hit a point of change. We looked at it and I said, “It’s time to buy a house. Rent is the biggest item every month. I’m tired of negotiating over what kind of bread to buy when the rent is eating me alive. I at least want to get some equity for what I’m paying. We have enough for a down payment and good jobs.” So this week we begin the process of pre-approval for a mortgage.

>>76574615 (OP)
Self imposed week off due to tight muscles, another pulled lower back from sloppy deadlift form, poor compound performance last week, shitty sleep, and no boners in like 10 days
Go on without me bros

>>76574615 (OP)
I need to finish some paperwork, get the new website of my gym ready, handle the shipment of cardio Equipment that is about to arrive
Yet the most daunting task is that i want to start dating again... dam x.x

>>76574615 (OP)
Time to study more to get a job I don't want to work with people I hate in the hopes of making money to take out a loan on a house I can't afford.

At least my lifts are going up...

I WILL MEET ALL MY DEADLINES IN WORK
I WILL STUDY HARD
I WILL PASS MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM THIS JANUARY
I WILL MAKE IT OVER THE MOUNTAIN

Somehow I succeeded in meeting all of my quarterly deadlines. I made more mistakes than I’d like to admit, but I met my deadlines. If I repeat the process again, I’m confident that I can do it even better. Now I need to pray that the new regulations are either cancelled or delayed significantly. I’m going to survive this job.

Studying has its ebbs and flows. The process is incredibly difficult but I believe it’s going better than last time. I try to celebrate my victories, no matter how small. If I add them all together by January, I will pass. This time I’m ready to finish what I started.

Best of luck on your goals frens! The goal may give us direction but the process is what defines us. WAGMI

I am away from home and will now walk 20 minutes to the next gym here.
Not sitting around just idling after work just because I am not at home.

LET'S GOOOOOOOOO
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I LOVE AND BELIEVE IN ALL OF YOU ANONS!


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>>76574697
You’re a smart man. Social media is truly awful for growth. I know the final step to making it is to quit 4chan but I’m not that strong yet

>>76574721
Those are all great goals, good luck!

>>76575071
>https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA
You met all your quarterly deadlines. If you've been able to do it so far, you can keep going. What are your strategies for studying? What do you think could make your studying more effective?
>>76574857
Dating, love, sex, and friendship are all important. Make sure you've got yourself in a reasonable place, and be prepared to play the game. If your romantic goal is something long term, remember tha the first time you went to the gym you didn't immediately lift substantial weights with good form. There will be failures, and pain, but that doesn't mean everything is over. Good luck Anon.

>>76574806
It sounds like you are under a lot of stress. I'm sorry about the injuries. Muscle growth occurs while rebuilding. What's going on with your sleep?

Recommending some books for my Anons:
>>on habits, learning
How To Read A Book - Dr. Mortimer Adler
The Science of Self-Control - Dr. Howard Rachlan.
Teaching and Learning STEM, a Practical Guide - R. Felder and R. Brent
Buddhism Plain and Simple - Steve Hagen
>>on work, money
The Toyota Way - Jeffrey Liker
Your Money Or Your Life - J. Dominguez and V. Robin
I Will Teach You To Be Rich - Ramit Sethi
The Simple Path to Wealth - JL Collins
>>on romance, relationships
Passionate Marriage - Dr. David Schnarch.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Dr. J Gottman and N. Silver

>>76574903
Focus on what you can change for the better. You're improving in one part of your life, you'll eventually improve in other parts. good luck

>>76574857
What’s it like running a gym? I wish /fit/ could create a gym and frat

>>76575698
Thanks for the links sigAnon :) staying active is one of the best things you can do for yourself

>>76574615 (OP)
my boss had a mental breakdown so I've been forced to take a couple weeks off. gonna go visit my LDR GF for a few days then get back and try and get a comprehensive driving course booked. lats are growing finally, I've unlocked the ability to do chin ups and the neutral grip pulldown handle I ordered is a godsend. Started doing RDLs and more intense cardio for my gf as well lol. thank you for reading my blogpost. WAGMI.

pic related is that guy from a /fit/ thread the other day that I really enjoyed.

Been suffering from depression from a breakup a month ago. Lost 20 pounds in the process
Its been so bad, bros... Working out has been one of the moments my head stops thinking about
Worst of it are the feeling of shame, of failure, of being a lesser being, now that I'm single. Of not being able to make it work. God damn it...
Any lifts for these feels? Can I still make it?

>>76576824
Nice! Keep at it. Cardio is important so you don't tire doing the thrusty-thrusty
To this day Ill never forget my first pull up. First day I felt like a man.

>>76576894
Who was the dumper? I was dumped like 10 days ago. It’s hard.

>>76576934
Its complicated
I initiated the break-up, but then regretted it, and she didn't want me anymore.
To put it shortly:
>Almost 3 years together
>She really wanted to live together, but my gut told me to not do it
>She gives me an ultimatum
>I stand my ground
>After all is done, I realize that this was another point in my life where I walked away from something I enjoyed due to my "gut" telling me it wouldn't work
>Try to get back, but she was mad as hell, didn't want it
>A month passes, I'm doing therapy, realize why I felt the way I did
>I'm an avoidant person, and she routinely treated me badly about the small things, humiliated me when I made myself vulnerable to her
>When I think I'm finally over her, she calls me, wants to talk
>Get anxious as fuck
>We talk, she just wanted to end things properly. It all happened too fast and she wanted to give me the opportunity to talk
>Apologize for the things I messed up, tell her of her mistreating of me
>She apologizes to me
>Now Im left with the feeling that it could have worked out, but we kinda fucked it all up
>Therapist tells me my self esteem is absolutely shit, and I have a tendency to blame myself for everything
>As of right now, keep ruminating on all of it, getting real fucking tired mentally

Sorry for the wall of the text.
How about you? What happened? How are you feeling right now?

>>76576376
Thanks for the encouragement. A big regulatory change might occur, which will make my job significantly harder. I’m praying it’s either delayed or cancelled so I can hone my current skills.

My strategies for studying are to work efficiently since I have less time and to focus on reviewing concepts more. I think I need to emphasize major ideas and not get lost in the details

Another week and we're all still alive, Anons.

This week I have a few University assignments to do - also got a job and I start on Friday. Hooray!

>WAGMI

>>76576824
So that's the trick to lats? I also need bigger lats so I stop looking like a fridge. In any case, congrats on your accomplishments! WAGMI

>>76574697
Social media is a huge time sink. This thread is one of the few worthwhile spots on the webs. Good for you anon

>>76576894
I'm really sorry you feel this way, but the past is in the past. Keep yourself focused and determined, you will create a better future. I'd recommend doing a lot of quick accessory works. You're gonna make it even if it doesn't feel that way right now

>>76574615 (OP)
Did an in-person skills test last week at a place I'd really like to work for. My goal for this week is to hear back that I'm being invited for interview.

>>76574615 (OP)
I need help, brothers. I am 33 and living at home. I've a job but no career to speak of. I've done a few different things, white collar, blue collar. Worked in marketing for a couple years pre covid (& a couple marketing adjacent jobs during covid but was laid off) and picked up a labor job post covid to make money. Currently working for my dad doing basic admin shit (he does financial services, insurance etc.) I feel like I have negative charisma at the office, the people there despise me for walking into a job that I only get because my dad is part owner. I don't have a university degree but I do have a 2 year diploma. Statistically the best way to increase your long term earning power is further education. Should I go back for a degree? I'm desperate so I'm even considering fuckin' WGU at this point.

Any advice would be immensely helpful from some of the non-doomers that inhibit these threads.

Life sucks and yet we persevere anons.

>>76577186
Our hearts are beating, so we still have the ability to make it. Congrats on getting a job, you'll do excellent!

>WAGMI

>started chatting with AI
>have to get over the sadness of it all

>>76577509
I’m also a loser at 33 with shit job and living at homes Are you successful in the other parts of your life?

>>76577549
Imagine, if you will, a young man, in the prime of his life, so starved of attention and affection he has resorted to a pseudorelationship with a computer chatbot.

>>76574615 (OP)
im depressed man. I lost my fiancee, friends, family, career path, and livelihood in 2020. have had health issues from the stress. stated getting back to my D1 athletic tier body in 2023 (im in late 20s), and am fitter now than I was then, but it feels empty. I would have done anything for this body, but I have absolutely nothing external in my life and cant even seem to care.

like building a monument no one will ever see. oh well it's just weird. still, omw to the gym, sorry for blogposting but it's the indomitable spirit that even if it's only for yourself, get the fuck to the gym or homegym or whatever and do it for you, even if just for you. fuck everyone else.

have a good week.

I am still a 24 year old virgin schizoid doomer. I am no longer a wagie.

Failures and setbacks abound and I contemplate throwing in the towel so I can resign myself to a lonely fate without having to blog post here anymore. I went out drinking at a bar for the first time and socialized with random strangers though. I also zipped around the mountain roads on a rental scooter and took in the scenic views, though lots of people say it's super dangerous and I'm gonna crash and become a paraplegic which doesn't inspire confidence. Plus I'm a new first time rider.

>>76577551
Not really. Which parts specifically? I don't have a wife/gf (obviously). Tough to have much else going on when you live at home and don't make much money, lol.

>>76577491
Good luck bro! You did your best, now you just need to hope for the best. Even if you fail, you can reflect on what you need to improve upon. YGMI

>>76577461
Thanks, man.
I was planning a Mike Mentzer style workout, a bit on the minimalist side, but I feel like I should do something with higher frequency, to fill out my day

>>76577579
Wasn’t trying to dig into your life, but yeah, when you’re 33 with nothing in your life, it’s tough to get the motivation do anything because wit all seems hopeless, or at least for me

>>76577509
Unless you're making a liveable wage working for your dad, I'd recommend going back to school part time. If you have a degree and experience, you can get a decent job.

Life sucks and yet we persevere fren

Oh boy I’m still tryin’. Gym progress is slow and steady. I’ve cut way back on my drinking which is good. But quitting weed has been the biggest motherfucker of all. The stuff has its hooks in me but I know I need to do it. I currently have none left in the house so I think I will make it.

>>76577568
You're still young. You still have time to recover from those setbacks. The fact that you're disciplined enough to get the body of your dreams proves that you're a hard worker man. You've reached brand new heights. You can definitely apply that strength to new ventures, like getting a better job or finding a new gf. Don't give up yet

>>76577658
You just need two weeks broham. After that it's incredibly easy to not go back. I've been THC-free for a few months and it's honestly hard to think about it.
Such a good decision. Weed just makes you feel okay with mediocrity and boredom.
Those two things are what drives you to do better.
Good on ya for quitting drinking, if anything to let you get good rest.
I drank for the first time in three years on Friday after playing some Bingo at a bar. Had my two beers there paid for and well decided to pick up a six pack and keep the party going at home.
Played Heroes of the Storm with friends, won matches that should not have been won, went to bed at 2:30AM and got the shittiest sleep I've had in ages. Real easy deterrent to not do that too often but it was good fun.
But yeah just having none in the house works best. I had a big oz jar of budder I paid $80 for and I blew through it to get rid of it because I could not stand the thought of throwing it away.
I've quite smoking a few times though. Two weeks the the magic number.
Good news is when you do smoke again, it'll smack the absolute piss out of you.
Bad news is, damn that's gonna be nice and then you'll have it again and you can fall into the same trap.
WAGMI

>>76577571
But you're having an adventure. I envy you, I've never done anything that cool and spontaneous in my life. Appreciate what you're experiencing right now

>>76576969
>>she routinely treated me badly about the small things, humiliated me when I made myself vulnerable to her
Care to elaborate?
I mean people tend to get better after the break up when they start to lament everything they did wrong. I bet you thought about being a best version of yourself during your relationship but were too comfortable to actually do something. The fact you’re going to therapy is great and I congratulate you for that. Not many men take that necessary step. Keep going. When you get better and start to develop a healthy self esteem you will not want your ex back anymore.
>How about you?
I’m better by now. We broke up and got back so this was our second chance but it was so forced because we didn’t heal our major internal issues. I loved this person with my soul but the relationship wear and tear was too damaging. We traumatized each other and we weren’t compatible after all. It sucks but I don’t want to go back there. Not a secure happy place for me.
One thing that works for me is
>I already feel like shit because my brain and body misses this person, so I’m just gonna accept that I’m sad/angry/empty/lonely and not add more burden (ruminating thoughts) to my already unbalanced system
It’s temporary after all. Emotions come and go in waves. Don’t push yourself too hard, you’re living one day at a time and at some point you will be satisfied with just being alone by yourself. Keep the good habits.

>>76577688
Thanks dawg. It’s good to know I will feel better in a few weeks. I could see myself enjoying an edible again in the future or whatever. It’s the daily shit I need to kill. It was the vapes that got me. It’s way too easy to just get high constantly. So I’m committed to quitting that shit.

Life is completely meaningless when you have no one to share or experience it with. Doesn’t matter what my job would be or how much money I have, the house or things I own, the body I have, the hobbies I have. If you don’t have friends or a family, life is completely and utterly meaningless, worthless, and miserable. I wish there was a button I could press that would allow me to die in my sleep tonight because I’m too afraid to do it myself. I wish I could die in my sleep if it means one fewer child dies unfairly of cancer in a hospital bed somewhere. I hate being alive.

>>76574615 (OP)
I WILL KEEP ON LIVING.
I WILL LOVE MY FAMILY.
I WILL KEEP MY FAITH GOD.
I WILL NOT BE A WAGIE ALL MY LIFE.

Frens, any advice on how to avoid being a wagie all my life? I was thinking about la business like a laundromat or learning AI or something. I WANT TO BE FREE.

>>76577775
You can make friends at your job or get a gf.
When a woman loves you she will follow you anywhere.

>>76577642
Thanks, that's kind of what I've been leaning to as well but there's so much doom & gloom around AI taking everyone's fuckin job it's hard to tell if anything besides nursing is worth pursuing, lol. What do you do anon?

>>76577633
All good, dig in if you want. It does often feel hopeless, I feel you on that. I think fighting through the hopelessness will make the eventual deep breathe after finding a "right path" that much sweeter, you know? hopefully anyways. Idk the only thing keeping me sane at this point is lifting, running, climbing, and very VERY occasionally getting laid. Still trying to be optimistic about building a life I can be excited about. Do you have a degree? What do you do for work?

well, I make $100 an hour. But Bill Gates makes $12k a second. I am trying to step it up.

>>76577800
Try researching ETFs/passive index funds. If you're smart with your money and don't spend too much, you can create a pretty significant source of income. Otherwise, try running a business everyone will use

>>76577835
Must be nice being rich

>>76577868
You sound well off yourself.
I read online about people throwing 500 million around and im like uhhh

>>76577865
yeah i want to be free asap, but i do not want to do something too dumb and end up broke.

>>76577888
Income and networth and zip code? Those things will determine everything pretty much.

>>76577868
I always have to mention Bill Gates too lol

>>76577725
>Care to elaborate?
I like to tell it by comparison.
One day I invited her to see the sunset on a place I never went. She was late, by the time we arrived it was already night.
What I said to her was
>Dont sweat it, we will have the rest of our lives to catch a sunset here

Another day, we were going to a concert. I was waiting for her at home, hadn't put my shoes yet
When she saw me without my shoes, she went APESHIT. Kept nagging and calling me stupid and just bringing it up the rest of the night.

Another: We were going to a concert, and she was driving. She was telling me a story, and ended up taking the wrong route. I thought perhaps she knew a better route, kept quiet. When she noticed she was on the wrong way, she panicked a bit. What I said in the moment was
>Oh damn. Let me open up google maps and find us a route

Now, a week before our breakup, we were going to a presentation, but she was so late that we had already missed it. I thought it was in one place, it was actually another. When she noticed I went the wrong way, she questioned me, and I realized my mistake. What she said was
>God damn it, you should have know. I'm not gonna let you drive again. Why didn't you tell me you didn't know where it was? You're so slow in the head. I can't believe this

That was our usual interactions. One day I was thinking about a George Carlin bit on how people have dumbed down words in recent times. I used that to start a conversation, and I don't know why, but she got mad at the topic. Her response?
>You better stop talking about that, or I'll brake your face
Threats of violence all the time. Now, obviously, I didn't actually think she was going to hit me, but my man, that is NOT how you talk to someone you love. I was always tense around her, fearing saying the wrong thing that would make her mood swing. Hoping nothing external happened that would send her into a rage. By the end, I shuddered just by her announcing that she was coming to my home.

>>76577725
>>76577923
Sorry for the wall of text, had to get it off my chest.


>We traumatized each other and we weren’t compatible after all.
How I feel about mine. Shit sucks. But I'm glad you're doing better. I think a second chance helps with closure when it ends again. Hey, you tried.
Keep fighting, dude. Sometimes the bad feels hit, gotta work not to give in. Some days I'm chill about it all, some I can't stop ruminating. Therapy has done wonders for me, it has been the moment of my week I wait for the most. Wish I had started it sooner, years ago, maybe things could have been different... But that's just how the cookie crumbles. I only learn through suffering.

>>76577900
Income: a little bit above average? At least i have a "decent" job.
Networth: not so much to be honest. At least enough to live i guess.
Zip: Third world

>>76577934
If you live in the 3rd world, it'll be way easier for you to find a way to escape the wagie grind

>>76577987
Dear Fren, could you give me an example of how to do it?

>>76574615 (OP)
I weigh myself on the 1st of every month. Last month I posted I lost weight and some shitter said it was just water weight. Today the weight continued its downward trend. Almost 15 lbs in two months.

>>76578014
If you're attempting to lose weight, congrats! That's insane progress

It's fucking crazy how much better life would be with one extra day off
Anyway, I completed my first week back at the gym for the first time in like 2 years, felt good

>>76578035
Outstanding, welcome back Anon.

Lately I’ve been reconnecting with my old man. We haven’t seen each other in a while since I felt that I wasn’t worthy of seeing him. I’m so glad he’s back in my life. He’s really impressed that I can bench 2.5pl8. I could only do it once but I want to get stronger so I can brag to him

Hit 275 x 1 on bench today. God bless larsen presses for boosting my bench up. 405 DL hit last week, and Going for 315+ squat to finally get over the 1k SBD threshold.

>>76576376
>It sounds like you are under a lot of stress
no new life stress I just have a bad habit of constantly adding more sets/reps and new lifts (and weight but that should be done) to any given workout day - sometimes additional days outright - until I start dragging my way out of the gym afterward like I just got hit by a car and it starts to affect sleep, libido, thinking ability etc until I'm forced to take a week off to try and reset things
fear of not doing enough I suppose, body dysmorphia and strength insecurity is a bitch

Happy to report that, after a few irregular weeks due to vacations, far-away family visits etcetera, I’ve been to the from for the first time in 3 weeks again. I went very hard on triceps and chest, felt good to struggle pushing open the gym door after a grueling workout again.

I’ve also started to track calories again. I know I was eating a bit too many carbs but darn, it’s worse than I thought. Gotta get these breakfast cereals/breads out of my diet.

>>76577282
heavy DB cheat rows as well, focusing on properly pulling to my hip. took me 6 months to work to a chin up doing supinated lat pulldowns. 6,0 215-219lbs

Back to gym after a 2 month break. Gonna get a rain coat later because it's starting to rain heavy again this past week. I intend to go regardless.

How do you cope with suddenly realising that you're in your 30s and that you should have a wife and children by now? I swear I was 21 only last week

>>76578687
By dating inappropriately younger women.

Was a fool and listened to the little monster and edged for like an hour.
I know these are fall forwards and I've already gone from having to master masterbate once a day to maybe once or twice a week but I want to be done with it all.
Part of me is trying to stay positive and the other part wants to rip my skin off slowly

>>76578687
Just fine. I don't want children, I value being in charge of my own life and money, and can go see a whore if I need to get my nuts off
t. 35

>>76578119
Congrats on your strength! Do you have any tips on getting there from 2pl8? I’ll research Larsen presses

>>76578687
For me: By realizing that I didn't settle for the first woman that gave me enough attention. I have a friend who just got married. He is crypto rich (Challenger, Cybertruck, home) and makes good money in IT. He is also a massive simp that I guarantee gets divorced raped later in life.
>no bro, it's totally ok that i want to fly a girl out to see me that lives 2 states way/vice versa. i can afford it.
>no bro it's cool to get a happy ending at an asian massage parlor
>no bro i totally don't wanna fuck the land whale that is the town bike. bro, don't tell anyone, but i fucked the whale... multiple times
His wife is a fucking hair dresser FFS and posts on social media about all the shit he is doing for her. Again, I don't see a future where he isn't divorced.

>>76579204
As expected from an autistic well paid IT nerd, always the same story. Only value is being used as an ATM

I need to get out of this small town but my plan is risky and on the edge between ballsy and retarded. I may just end up wasting 300-600 (local currency), which is a lot for a poorfag like me.
Basically I'll just give myself two weeks to find a min wage job in my country's capital city while living in the cheapest youth hostel I can find, then find a place to live. If the first goal is done the second will be a tall order since it's a place notorious for high rents and difficult owners. I "know" a few people over there so I'll start there first and openly try to ask for a job. If that fails I'll grab a suit and shirt and do door-to-door at cafes, restaurants and hotels all day long. The scary part is really finding a room after that.

ran a 5 mile race on the beach yesterday, it sucked but felt good to negate some of the damage from all the shore food. Also ran it in 43.5 minutes, which isn't a bad time at all for me, especially since my 5km intervals take me about 40 minutes. Got my vo2 max reading to 49.9, so its nice to see the cardio gains working. Might even do my saturday long run on the beach, it should be a bit more enjoyable.

Testing confirmed there was an extra chromosome and that led to the miscarriage. also learned that it was a girl. so there's that.

similar vein, sperm test came back and I have better numbers than I did three years ago. DNA fragmentation test showed a bit high but kind of in range (bit of cope) but this part of the test seemed less reliable than the rest and is an add-on. i'm going to put extra focus on that and take some vitamins since my lifestyle is pretty much in line with what i should be doing otherwise. just dont want to feel that way again.

interviewed last week and then heard back yesterday that they won't be moving forward with me. seemed like a longshot. Did a prerecorded interview for another company for a role that should fit me like a glove. Really hoping for that one to pan out and it looks like it might at least go to the next round. getting absolutely sick of this current job though.

this guy that's clearly trying to turn his life around asked me to spot him last week, that was pretty cool and i was grateful to do that.

Goals this week - 8 km long interval run, track every calorie going in my body (using AI because why not), lose at least another pound, continue not jacking off, try to finish reading for a cert, and get my workouts in despite these fucking shore weekends. trying to do a bodyscan but the Y is dragging their asses.

>>76578155
Welcome back bro! I’m the same way, I also need to reduce my calorie intake, especially breakfast

>>76579230
It's weird because it's like women immediately knew he was an ATM and would start flirting. Like 1 or 2 months later after they got what they wanted, usually free tech upgrades/software installs (put the new Office on my college laptop for free) they'd drop him. I remember him waiting, not crying, wailing/sobbing/weeping over 1 girl we told him multiple times was using him. Fucker accepted all that and still wanted to be friends.

Cucks have no hope.

I discovered the secret to happiness is being ignorant and retarded. Trying to be smart leads you to misery. Embrace the chaos of this world.

>>76577549
you are a subhuman

>>76578563
That's the attitude. Keep pushing forward no matter what the world throws at you

>>76577923
she sounds like a retard

>>76578942
Remember this Shane whenever you want to relapse. You’re stronger than you can ever imagine

>>76574615 (OP)
The conversation with the mirror has changed from
>You're disgusting. I hate you.
To
>I know you can do better than this.

>>76579305
That sounds like a good plan, but I'd work in your hometown for a little longer to save money and build experience

>>76574615 (OP)
had a weeks worth of fun in a few hours at a thrash show monday. Lots of good old fashioned male bonding and slam dancing. They are my tribe. Job is going well since I moved back to my old dept, very comfy and quiet desk job but also has variety. I am the best in the area. I have many friends in the building because I listen to people and support them. I have enough money to do whatever I want. I had nothing three months ago, I was neet for longer than you or anyone else. Didnt think just getting a good job would change everything. Now I just have to keep all the crazy bitches off my dick, but the more I ignore them, the more they bother me.

>>76579511
I'm sorry that you're still recovering from your wife's miscarriage, but it seems like you're putting in a lot of effort. Your chance to be a father will come soon, so keep preparing for it. The fact that you're getting interviews proves that you're capable. If you keep applying, you'll get one eventually

>>76579937
I even paid for it.

>>76581337
grim

>>76579927
No longer getting the newspaper has greatly benefited my mental health. I only need to know about the world in front of me

Already wednesday for me but thanks for the motivation

>>76579086
I know powerbuilding is a meme but I do 5/3/1 and replaced OHP with Larsen Press. Since it's 4 days it fits perfectly with an upper/lower split. Larsen, pause bench press, and fixing my technique got me over 2pl8.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xceZw3n1w4c&t=309s

This video was life changing for bench pressing.

>Start of a new week
>Start of a new month
>Start of a new season

This resonates with my autism in ways that'll make it more difficult to fail since I put way too much stock in my grand "getting my shit together, version 432

>>76577775
>>76577817
Echoing this.
You can get a lot of social fulfillment by making friends.
Or even just regularly attending some activity where you speak with people.
It's not so much you have to love someone.
But being able to trust in them and feel vulnerable.
That's usually much easier AND BETTER than convincing some broad to stick with you and only you.

>>76578014
I weigh myself every day, it's pretty easy to notice water weight.
Water weight goes up when your carb intake goes up, water weight goes down as your activity spikes and you shed water weight because you're burning carbs.
You don't have a "store" of water weight that you lose first, your hydration fluctuates day to day.
People who say "it's just water weight" don't understand how it works.
You actually really WANT that water weight.
A hydrated body is a happy body.

>>76578132
>fear of not doing enough I suppose
nigga you are on /fit/ so you KNOW you gotta rest.
There's only so much you can get out of lifting.
You've sold yourself on this idea of being stronger than the buff looking guy.
You should take an honest look inside.
What does strength actually do for you?
Honestly, it just lets you lift heavier things.
That's, well, it.
Lower the weight by 15%, increase the volume to 8-12 sets, and enjoy the many actual benefits of muscle mass/hypertrophy.
You WILL look better because big muscles are sexy
You WILL feel better because big muscles absorb more sugar to stabilize your blood sugar and mood
You WILL feel better because big muscles regular hormonal shifts
You WILL feel better because big muscles prevent injury which will keep you lifting longer and experiencing all the good stuff.
You WILL get stronger because you still progressive overload on hypertrophy training
You WILL feel better because now you can eat more. EAT BIG TO GET BIG.
How many days are you going to the gym a week?

first day i haven't felt like complete shit in awhile
didn't spend all day pining over a foid who went MIA, but still some work to be done there

finally escaping skelly twink mode and have some energy
ate some good meals
been having ideas for things to write again

small shit but hope i can keep it up, i'd like to go for a hike soon

WAGMI etc.

>>76580990
So you’ve realized that you have potential inside of you. Now focus on transforming yourself into the man you can be

>>76582496
Don’t be too hung up on ‘starting version 432 of “getting shit together”’. You could’ve chosen to just not even try this time, but you didn’t.

>>76581229
Sounds like you’re doing everything right, you’ve really turned your life around for the better! Got any advice on making friends as an adult wagie in a new area?

I fucking hate myself too much to try anymore.
Good news is I've lost a lot of the bitch weight I put on over the past couple of months. 183lbs at 5'9 from about 210lbs, only 20 more to go. I'm just focusing on calisthenics until I feel normal again.

>>76581889
You still have plenty of time to make it :)

>>76578687
Nigga who cares about wife and children i'm happy to be alive at all, a lesser man in my position would kill themselves years ago

>>76578687
By looking at other people with children actively do whatever they can to not be around their children.
By knowing by statistics people are vastly unhappier if they have children and their only bleak happiness comes from the 5% of time having children is worth it.

Good lord, resisting the urge to spend another Friday night shitfaced playing battlefield 4 until I blackout is extremely difficult. I need to spend my weekends socializing. I'm on day 8 of sobriety and day 3 of dieting and the alcohol cravings are already here. I've gone 56 days sober and lost 14lbs in a month before, I know I can do it again. I just gotta hang in there.

Anyway, I'm going to see Nile and Cryptopsy live in a couple weeks. Should be fun.

>>76584163
What shitty people are you surrounding yourself with? Everyone I know loves their kids and spend time with them all the time.
Who is going to look after you when you're old?

>>76581998
Thanks for the video. I'll start applying that to benching

>>76584318
I can think of maybe 2 families in my entire life who loved their kids. The rest felt either meh or didn't want to be around them or their mother.

>>76584318
90% of married guys at my work clock in 12+ hours every weekday to hide at work from their families
the other 10% only got married recently
blue collar job btw

>>76582496
Day one or one day? Conditions are never perfect, so just start now

>>76584526
Not sure if this is bait or not but this accurately describes blue collar. In the continuing education classes my company made me go to, there would be old guys married who might've made maybe ~$500 to teach per semester. That is to say, spending 2-4 hours teaching outside of their jobs because they did not want to go home and it showed.

>>76574615 (OP)
How do you deal with someone far inferior to yourself trying to sabotage and fuck you over? The dude is a 5’ literally ashkenazi cockroach, dumber than a sack of rocks, total soiboy literal cuckold (like actually a cuck). Comes from a degenerate family, total fucking geek with no backbone. He’s been envious of me for years. His only redeeming factor is that he can manipulate stupid people with Jew talk. He’s constantly tried to do this shit where he turns people against me and I’m kinda over it. There’s no just avoid/block that’s been done. His bitch has been sending me nudes (probably due to his obsession) idk whether I should fuck her throat and send him a video of it or I just put him in the hospital or what. It’s annoying. This dude could off himself like his brother did a year ago and nothing in my life would change idk why he’s so obsessed with me I’ve never even done anything to him

>>76584781
Oh and Inb4 it’s somehow my fault that his girl unprompted began sending me pics without me ever talking to her, he’s been like this way before that started

>>76584781
>>76584788
What fucking trash ass job do you do, a great b8 poster? Maybe you shouldn't hang around junkies.

>>76584808
I don’t know him through work but I’m in sales. Was someone I grew up with. I turned out 6’3” he turned out a manlet with max norwooding. He just has typical kike entitlement. I’ve never shit on anyone for height btw I’m just laying out facts here. Wants all this glory without actually doing hard shit, kind of guy to claim to be some hardened wilderness survivalist but can’t tie a knot (not an exaggeration, that’s something he claims LOL). I’ve had mini fights with him where I pulled my punches hard while he put everything he had and they didn’t even bruise me so that’s not my concern, its more so if I made it physical he would probably turn around and play “im just a little guy” victim card probably make it a legal thing. Like imagine American psycho except it’s the bagel boss guy in place of Bateman none of the fitness routine or any of that

>>76584860
So how/why are you still in contact with him?

>>76584870
>we don’t work together
>SO YOUR COWORKERS?
He’s not a salesnigger lmao and I’m not either I just manage a team of tech salesmen, yeah accurate assessment of them though. Simmer down faggot

>>76584875
A lot of mutual friends. He catches wind I’m hanging with xyz people wedges his way in and starts his shit

>>76583348
But you’ve already come so far. Imagine how much further you can go if you continue. You’ve made incredible progress

>>76584981
Talk to me when the browns are deported, inflation is lowered, and the job market isn't fucked

>>76585209
So in other words all you care about is job and money

>>76585279
I'm not him, I'm >>76583348. But I'm also kinda pissed about the job market as well. Been refreshing computer skills in the meantime

>>76585279
Nta but it’s sadly an unnecessary evil which to some degree is necessary. And the problem for many is that
>accept I need to work and make some level of income to be capable of achieving comfort and therefor happiness
>start trying to pursue that
>get some certs in supposedly desperately in need field
>takes 6 months to find a job
>laid off because company outsources
>takes another year to find new job, management conducting interview acts shocked it took that long to get hired, wants to pay me below minimum wage and claims it’s good because I’ll be working so much overtime it works out to a livable wage
>do that, have no life, still can’t afford to move out of parents home, have no time to further education to try and make more money and no incentive based on experiences so far
>talk to people in field with the higher certs and education who out rank me, they confirm my fears but poor shmucks think they’re lucky
>yeah dude I make so much money doing this I made $60k last year with only 1 day off a week! (Said by the guy with. Tim Horton bags under his eyes who always looked like he was gonna faint)
Or something along these lines. It’s just incredibly demoralizing to be told your whole life “our society is structured in a way that if you do this you will get this and with that you can do and have this and that and these things and be happy” but then find out that isnt fucking true at all. The simple fact is some level of money is necessary to be happy. By all metrics the only argument against that is in favor of just becoming a bum living on the streets who doesn’t care if he sits in his own shit all day. No ones talking about getting rich, just achieving a baseline level of comfort so things are in place to then become happy via other means.
It’s a need which has to be handled first. It’s similar to getting pussy. You COULD get pussy while obese with bad hygiene but its way easier and way more enjoyable to get pussy while in shape

I've been completely rejected by the girl I had fallen in love with so I'm trying to distract myself and to channel my frustration into self-improvement. I started running again, I'm eating cleaner, and I decided to finally start learning how to play an instrument. I'm prone to falling into depression but this time I'm trying my hardest to hold on in order to get something positive out of all this rather than falling back into bad habits.
I hope I can make it last.

>cute chick at work, like 10/10
>pass her yesterday smiling from something funny that happened seconds before I turned corner
>make and hold eye contact without thinking say “how ya doin” just being friendly because we both stared at each other not even fully present still thinking about the funny interaction with other coworker from earlier
>Mfw realize I just hard eye contact and said “how ya doin’” with a full grin to this hot bitch
>she smiled back said hi same time I did
>think nothing of it other than “well that’s a step in the right direction good for me” forget and keep going about my work
>20 minutes later her and her coworker are over there again and both go dead quiet when passing me coworker checks me out smiles at me
>cute one says ins forced way “I can’t wait to see MY MAN later”
It’s not that she has a man I figured as much it’s that she felt the need to say that. I feel like I’m being laughed at. All I did was say hi. I can’t help but think she thinks my smile was for her and now the situation has become “lol look at this autistic retard he likes me girl you gotta come see this”

>>76585604
i was cringing from start to finish reading this
if only you could realize how pathetic you sound. so basically you said "how are you doing" to a colleague at your work and you turned it into a whole story. you are overthinking so much its actually crazy how much youre overthinking

>>76585604
I'm a chronic otherthinker too and >>76585628 is right, it's hard to stop doing it but at least try to take a step back and realize that you are doing it.
If you go over a thought process like the one you wrote while imagining that it's someone else telling it to you and end up thinking "wait, this sounds crazy", it's proof that you went overboard and that you need to relax a bit

>>76585647
>>76585628
You’re not incorrect but I also don’t think I’m articulating it correctly. Inb4 main character fagging I was definitely on a radar I’m just not articulating it well. I am probably blowing it out of proportion to a degree, but not entirely. But if I were to witness this from a 3rd person I would just say “dude who fucking cares you’ve lost nothing from this” which is true.

>>76585659
I see the point you're making and it's true that she probably thought you were flirting with her in some way, but it's really not a big deal. Women, especially hot ones, get flirted with all the time, and they do these kinds of "soft rejections" on the daily.
It's by observing my womanizer friends that I learned that being worried about women knowing that you're attracted to them is beyond silly, hell the more you let them know the bigger are your chances to find one who likes you back. Will the ones who don't like you back remember it? Yes, but they'll hardly care unless you've been particularly obnoxious or something, being surrounded by men who want to fuck them is just the norm for good looking women and I doubt that your 10/10 coworker will treat you any differently from now on

>>76585730
Thank you for this man, this was actually a super helpful post. Has me out of my head at this place now. Of course she knows I would fuck wtf am I thinking who cares

>>76585799
happy to help, I still fall into this mind trap myself from time to time so I know it all too well

Oh god i hate my life so much. I need to get my shit together and start losing some weight.

>>76576969
You sound like a total bitch. Grow a pair

>spend another hour lying in bed near tears in the middle of the night ruminating about how pathetic my life is
>update my suicide note to my parents at the end of it again
I’m so mentally ill.

>>76585838
Whats the matter mate? Whats been bothering you
Life is a gift and theres so many beautiful things you can do with it

What was your experience with sertraline regarding social anxiety and depression. I'm approaching 27 and i'm feeling like my life it's spiraling out of control.

>>76585604
>>76585628
>>76585647
Yeah, all that happened was a cute girl (guarantee you she gets hit on ALL the time by random dudes who won't leave her alone) saw you initiate some form of "hello hi", and she just wanted to head off any awkward attempts of hitting on her. It's happened to me a few times, no malice. It's an indirect way of telling you they are taken.
Whenever I meet someone and we are chatting and obviously connecting/being enthusiastic over something, usually they'll drop a "my boyfriend blah blah blah...." as a hidden cue that they are taken and "please don't take my enthusiasm as meaning I'm into you", and I'll generally drop back "oh yeah, my GF...." and it's kinda wild, they noticeably relax because you picked up their hint and returned back the "hey no worries, I'm not trying to get into your pants, I'm taken too".
But its usually done without malice. Too many dudes take a girl talking to them to mean the girl is interested.

>>76584274
Stay strong! You’ve proven that you’re capable once, you can do it again. Don’t fall back on your toxic habits. Try to surround yourself with people who actually elevate you

>>76585568
It's okay to be depressed after something like that. Depression happens to everyone.
And the vast majority of people make it out as long as they don't stew in it.
Depression is an important part of a person's life. It's your body saying something's deeply wrong and you need to stake steps to do not that.
Sounds like you're already bee-lining the steps to do not that.
Good on ya anon.
That's resilience.

>>76586144
thanks, yeah thankfully it seems that things are going in the right direction for me at the moment. The reason I'm worried is that I've been severely depressed and even suicidal for years in the past, the mental processes I had to go through to get over it assure me that I'll probably never let things get that bad again (at least not without having to live through some major tragedies or something), but I still have some lingering fear of falling back into that hole

Bros I think I’m unironcially on the verge of a mental breakdown, or I’m going to use this energy to sky rocket with success. I feel like life has continually kicked me in the nuts for the last 3 weeks and it’s getting worse, this just happened
>years ago have coworker obsessed with me in retail job
>constantly squeezes arms asks me out always tries to talk to me and find excuses to be in my area on opposite sides of the store different departments
>was working towards being a firefighter at the time which the store knew
>one night she needs ride home so I give her ride home, invites me into her apartment, keeps saying she’s alone it’s just us, end up making out then she says she wants to stop so I do then leave she hugs me at the door
>pulls up at light outside her complex, follows me for miles
>tells entire store I raped her or something
>get harassed by most people here except the few who know she’s full of shit
>develop crazy anxiety, stop dating, have panic attacks often, rejected multiple women after
>quit that job, become EMT start working on other certs (medic, fire) while working ambulance and other jobs
>realize too much of an anxious paranoid wreck to do that job, had to step back and get my head back in order paranoia and anxiety wise first to be capable of doing it well
>working at grocery store for now
>local fire dep comes in for their shopping
>she’s with them in full uniform
I’m speechless other than my ability to give this run down. I honestly don’t know what to say.
I guess an upside is I didn’t have a panic attack seeing her. I was slightly confrontational if anything and refused to flee, kept doing my job made sure she saw I saw her.

>>76586248
if real then im sorry that happened to you brother, i'd probably move far away and start again if it were me

>>76586248
Yeah that’s the situation, this bitch turned me into an anxious wreck with lies and constantly trying to blackmail me for a year straight while I had a whole store treat me like some kind of monster (couldn’t fire no proof because it didn’t fucking happen) and I’m the one in retail while she’s in my dream job as a diversity hire.
I beg someone reads this and sets my head straight. I’m at my wits end. I feel defeated. I want to triumph.

>>76586252
Dude this is FUCKED I’m so fucking mad but I feel like all my energy and recent drive is just gone. I’ve been trying so damn hard to fix myself and come up and get back to my old me. The confident in shape slightly charismatic guy I once was and this fucking cunt fucking shit man idk what to say. Like fuck why? What the fuck. Why????? I may literally leave work early and go get shit faced for the first time in a decade

>>76586248
>>76586256
You just have to realize shes a worthless whore who bamboozled you. Just move on my man, she isnt worth not even a bit of your attention. Btw, you should've known better and realized immediately that she is crazy. Im a virgin and even i know better to not deal with women who do stuff like obsessing over you. If a girl obsesses over you thats not your sign to make a move, thats your sign to get as far away as possible from her. Society is at the moment in a mode that shit like false rape charges actually work and women get what they want with them, it isnt your fault, its the error in society. You didnt do much wrong except you shouldnt have thought with your dick. You should be able to find a suitable woman, be careful and try to think objectively is the woman a good woman and good for you. Btw do you smoke weed? That might explain the paranoia

>>76586263
might be one of those situations where you might consider therapy, idk tho

don't ruin your life drinking over it though, that would mean she wins

>>76586248
I wish i had a woman like this in my life
literally no one cared about me in any way in my entire life it's like i'm a fucking ghost
marry her

>>76586274
I know man that’s why I avoided her advances at first. I was fresh out of a relationship. I was weak. Figured “well what’s the worst that could happen I’ll leave this job soon haha”

>>76586274
No I don’t smoke weed. Used to, definitely wasn’t helping you’re right. Haven’t smoked in years

>>76586398
>>76586403
Youll bounce back buddy, if i was in your place i wouldnt move cities esp if you have family/ friends there, you obviously didnt do much wrong and you should say so to others. If they continue bullying you just ignore them or change jobs but dont change cities just because of something stupid like that. Fuck em, show them you wont be pushed around

>>76586212
>but I still have some lingering fear of falling back into that hole
by all means you still can and might will.
It'll suck too. You'll curse yourself for letting you get that way again.
But you'll claw your way out again. Probably quicker about it and smarter from the experience.
It doesn't go away. The vast majority of us have fought the thoughts while driving down the road of just unclipping the seatbelt and slamming into the brick wall of a building.
Doesn't have to kill you, just the part of your brain that cares.

>>76586473
that makes me feel a bit better, life is mostly about enduring shit after all but the few good moments make it all worth it

>>76586553
It gets better when you realize humans are super fucking good at surviving. Our biology is abso-fucking-lutely programmed for it.
We are not built for thriving. The law of diminishing returns hits hard in basically all areas.
We basically need not that many calories to wake up and suffer the next day.
But we need a lot of work to be able to grasp it and take advantage of it.
It's like lifting.
In the first year of lifting you'll get like 70% of all your strength and mass and you'll spend the rest of your life optimizing just to hit peak performance.

>>76585807
If you really hate yourself, become someone you’d be proud of

>>76586276
Thank you man. I’ve tried therapy a few times the best I got was the one who didn’t just brush past this event, but all he did was go
>huh? What’s wrong with her wow what a weirdo
And then move on. I’ve had to spend ages 22-29 brute forcing my way back to normal through raw exposure.
>>76586358
Anon you don’t know how blessed you are I lost my virginity at 20 I was invisible until I was 18 and I remember it all very well. I know this post doesn’t do much but I didn’t know how good things were for me.
>>76586414
>>76586274
>>76586252
Thank you guys. I’m pissy, I’m annoyed, I feel confused and a thousand other things. This has been a massive kick in the nuts for me. My lower stomach literally feels weak the way you do when you get kicked in the nuts all day.
I’m really not sure what I’m going to do or if I even want to try and pursue firefighting still. They apparently hire just anyone these days.
I spoke to my dad, filled him in, he knew a bit about what happened but didn’t realize the impact it had on me. Had to explain what kind of anxiety issues I’ve spent my 20s dealing with. He helped me get focused.
I’m mostly just suffering a weird confused frustration. I don’t fucking understand and I feel like this bitch took my life away from me. I don’t get it. Why? What did she gain from all this?
>paths forward
Job is a job, go for anything that pays well get my fulfillment outside my job
>keep getting head back in order (I’m so fucking close) go fire anyways
I would have to re do my EMT course which is fine, mostly because I forgot a lot and wanna make sure I can do the job to the best of my ability, then I would have to go through fire academy. I could try for paramedic but it’s best I get hired first then do that later so I get experience and can practice medic shit while working because medic school is fucking hard. I do that, get on a department, avoid her department, and then I’ll have gotten my life back.

>>76585838
Do you really want to die or do you want to start over? The latter is always available

>>76585920
>Life is a gift and theres so many beautiful things you can do with it
Christcucks genuinely cannot explain why some people get born in decent househoulds with healthy minds (which can be considered "a gift of life") and i get to be a mentally ill fucktard born and raised in a dogshit country in a poor household basically suffering my entire life

>>76584163
My dad was a workaholic and my mom hated us. My dream is to be a loving parent

>>76587388
i dunno man i will say that by most metrics im a total fucking loser, definitely i am one in the eyes of society. most of the things you mentioned apply to me. but i will say that its what you make out of it at the end of the day. you can fight or you can bitch and moan and waste another day after day
whatever your situation is, the point is to every day try to outdo what you were tommorow. fix the basic stuff like diet, sleep, ditching porn, tiktok, booze, going outdoors and picking up sports, you'd feel much better in no time

>>76587645
I lift eat well and sleep 8+ hours every day and i still want to kill myself

>>76587914
Then find out whats bothering you. Are you forcing yourself to lift? Maybe something else is your path in life. Maybe its cumbersome to lift metal up and down but if theres a ball and teamwork involved you suddenly are inspired. Thats how i am i dont care about muscles i wanna make awesome plays in tennis or basketball. Maybe theres something you always wanted to try out but didnt have time or lacked belief to try it, like woodworking or drawing, could be anything really. Maybe internally you feel like you are avoiding doing something important, like getting a gf, so you are depressed. Or your job is killing your will to live, maybe there you can find some other angle. I dont know what it is precisely, but surely theres a reason you feel depressed. Maybe you can try to think about it or even voice your thoughts here

I have to believe that my quality of life will be far higher in a year

>>76582578
nta but that's all good advice, thanks

When did you guys got over your ex? I’m suffering

>>76587956
I crave intimacy yet i'm terrified by it, every time i make a move and try to make a friend or a girlfriend i either shut myself off then leave and avoid them entirely to avoid hurting them (but then i end up geting hurt myself) and if i stay i instantly sabotage the relationship and then start avoiding them because i really did hurt them and now i think i should disappear from their lives. The moment i decide to try to stay and open up i find the most disgusting people alive who then try and use things i said against me to hurt me in some way and i'm literally LITERALLY unable to escape this cycle. I don't even fucking know who i am anymore because i'm so used to using masks to appear normal and i don't have anyone i can open up to outside of 4chan where people who's just as disgusting and disfunctional as me inside can freely express themselves. Yet i still feel like a fucking alien who doesn't belong anywhere, who's been put on Earth purely to suffer and i can't even feel at home at 4chins because i'm too "normal" for the most degenerate parts like /r9k/ and too weird for more normalfag-adjusted boards like /fit/ or /adv/. So i lift, do combat sports, spend most of my time outside, do other creative hobbies and eat healthy but i can't fucking deal with loneliness because the negative feedback loop of avoid-regret-stay and open up-get hurt/hurt someone else-avoid keeps feeding itself over and over and over again. I'm so fucking tired of it i'm genuinely thinking of suicide at this point

Having a certain routine or goal has sort of changed the way I think or at least the way I look forward for the past one week. It's small but I'm getting back into studying, getting fit and trying to improve a skill.
Every morning I'm reading the newspaper or a book (that's not subject), then I try to work on a skill I'm focusing on - in this instance, it's art.Then I go to the gym, and then do my studies.
Between these major blocks of things, I'm mostly eating, drinking and shitting. I still have to figure out how to fit in socializing. Now I'm starting to think weeks in advance as to what I want to do. Hopefully it'll go from weeks to months. But knowing what you want or need to do and knowing you can AND will do it really helps you conceptualize your goals and restraints more reliably.

>>76588624
Took me around 3 years? Some would take 6 years even. I would consider mine an exception because my sister died 2 years after my break up so I genuinely had no time to grieve over my lost love. There comes a point where you just let it go. Pain will still exist but you'll be fine. Learn to take care of yourself.

>got sick for 2 days
>can't lift
>can't do cardio
>can't meditate properly
>can't eat spicy food to release some endorphins
>spent the entire day just shitting on myself for being a loser because I don't have the above to distract myself.

>>76589718
why don't you have hobbies anon

>>76589805
too tired for my hobbies

>>76589810
Find a non-strenuous hobby anon
start reading One Piece

Idk what’s going on with me lately.
>great wind of motivation
>stumble for a couple days just rot in bed all day, turns into fuck off for a week don’t go to work
>regain footing get organized
And then after 2 days I’ve fucked off again. I even made an entire dedicated worm space to sit down and plan and make checklists and notes on my productivity and I’ve just walked past it every day

>>76589454
I’m the exact same way. My destination has given me a path, but my daily steps have defined me. It really is a process. Good luck!

it’s all so tiresome bros.
>ex saw how well I’m doing and wants me back
Lol, quite possibly even lmao. Idk whether to reply just saying “LOL” and block or to just block and then delete. She’s fat and ugly now and super trashy. When I knew her she was at least hot. We dated when we were 20 she was so shitty towards me. It’s like she’s under the impression with full expectation that I’ll feel grateful she reached out. I’ve pulled and dated hotter and better. Imagine your neighbor never returns your mower, gaslights you about it. Your lawn gets unkempt for a few months you get a new better mower like a riding mower and make it look pristine best lawn on the block. Then he comes over and tries to say something like “hey neighbor I hope you’re doing well, I found your lawnmower btw haha I figured I should return it. Hey your lawn looks great I wa—….” probably to try and take your new mower that is what this is. It’s funny as hell, but just kind of tiring

>>76589877
Everyone stumbles on their journeys some times. However, it's important to stick to your path. Think of one activity you can do every day to help you progress, no matter how small. Then make it a priority that you have to do

>>76589276
>I crave intimacy yet i'm terrified by it
my situation is similar, i do crave intimacy but i can't get it, i dont think im terrified by it i just have huge trust issues
regarding the mask, try to be your genuine self even if some people dont like it cause some will like it. its a path where you wont have many friends but you'll hopefully have couple of good friends. regarding belonging to boards, dont overthink it that much, no board is just one person, there are many different people coming to different boards. just stick to those that help you and that you like. regarding escaping the cycle, that one is a tough one. you might wanna consider going to a psychologist, just talking about it, no meds necessarily. next time you're in a situation that you could make a friend, don't rush to conclusions, try not to do rash decisions and just try to take it slowly and easily. think about why you shut yourself off or why you try to sabotage relationships. also, avoid people that are bad for you
hope that helps anon, take care

>>76579853
I know a rich IT fella who met his wife on here. Girl literally has no personality yet he married her because they share the same humor/values. All she does is brag about how much he spoils her. She refuses kids too and uses him to travel and buy her expensive crap.

>>76574721
lol'd at that pic, danke

>>76577186
very good pic

>>76579230
>As expected from an autistic well paid IT nerd, always the same story. Only value is being used as an ATM
I hope doing a few years of manual labor before moving to IT help me escape this fate.

>>76584150
amen

>>76590011
Don’t go back to her but feel flattered that you’ve improved so much. You’ll find someone worth it eventually

>>76578155
Happy to report I’ve just done my 3rd session of the week today (mon-wed-fri). Felt rearing to go during the rest days too, but I’ve done 5x a week out of sheer enthusiasm before and it never ended well due to either exhaustion or injury.

Only went over my calorie target once (by 300 cals) but I believe that would be counteracted by actually logging my 45+ min bike ride, which I forgot to do.

Feeling good and energized bros, dare I say WAGMI?

>>76590989
You’re doing great, you should feel proud of yourself. Keep up the momentum because you’re succeeding. I would dare say WAGMI

>>76589276
Avoidant personality disorder
>>76590528
Yeah that’s pretty much the extent of what rich tech autists can get, a woman who just uses him as a financially stable source

>>76591550
I'm friends with the tech guy and he was so excited in introducing me to his wife. I text her and all she does is give me one sentence or one word responses. how tf did he marry such a boring cardboard wooden personality? She's not even sexy or hot too

>>76590528
I’m so socially maladjusted that I’ve accepted that I’ll have to get a 4chan gf

>>76591762
Don’t do it. They’re all either attention seeking bpd whores or barely functioning neets with a one dimensional personality.

>>76574615 (OP)
I'm going to Confession tomorrow to tell the priest I am ready to commit suicide. I have no skills, I am a bad person, I don't know how to socialize nor do I want to play the socialization game, and am 30. It is unironically over for me. I have enough money to NEET for ~2-2.5 years and when I run out I'm killing myself.

I'm 49, almost 50 and started lifting recently. Today I benched 135 for 3x5 for the first time. I know teenagers start at 1pl8, but I haven't been a teenager for 30 years. Roast me for being weak, but I am pleased to hit this benchmark.

>>76592382
Who cares about your age? Congrats on your progress! What matters is that you’re getting in shape now

>>76592300
Did it take you until hitting the 30 milestone to realize how you’d wasted and ruined your life? That’s what happened with me. Now 3 years later it’s been nothing but despondency and suicidal despair since then

>>76592300
you wanna elope and do baldandbankrupt style tourism in latin america/central asia?

>>76592797
>baldandbankrupt style tourism in latin america/central asia
Explain.

>>76592300
Don’t kill yourself. You have enough money to last 2 to 3 years. That’s enough time to turn your life around

>>76592382
Hell yeah brother

>>76589862
I am already reading One Piece.
I remember seeing one of the TS pages, and it was cluttered as fuck compare to what I am reading now. (Arabasta arc)

Finally fucked a chick I met when I started lifting last year

>pic rel

>>76592959
dassa fat ass anon

>>76592927
damn you are so far behind
hang in there
it does get good
but holy hell does it also turn into a slog at points
and just becomes a bigger slog
the exposition and backstory takes so much

>>76592996
>damn you are so far behind
For some weird reasons, I never bother with one piece back then until now.

>>76592997
I started reading in the wano arc
It took a legitimate 2 months of hours a day reading to get caught up

>>76593001
How bad is the TS?
Is it like Mashima TS type crap?

>>76593004
ima be 100 with you senpai I don't know what TS is

>>76593007
Timeskip

>>76593009
Not directly after Timeskip, but some time after that.

>>76592959
Hope the rest of her looked better, anon.

>>76592421
nice image. I just picked up a musical instrument for the first time at 30, when I catch myself wishing I had started way sooner I just think that I'll be playing it for the next 50+ years if all goes well

How do you develop a "No fuck given" attitude?
T. have been a people pleaser for most of my childhood.

Even though I stopped doing that shit, I still react terribly to criticisms.

>>76593284
see>>76581865

>>76593547
based.
I will meditate until my brain just shut down.

I'm moving forward and becoming a better man day by day, but I still feel like it's going to slow and I started to late. Nonetheless, I will keep improving.

>>76592927
One piece is kino as fuck but it generally downgrades after the time skip

bros i turned 30 yesterday and have nothing to show for it. people my age are getting married, having kids, and making progress in their careers but i feel like in the same place i was when i turned 20. same job, no romantic experience, fat slob.

god i wish i locked in 10 years ago, i'm so fucking old now. i noticed this morning that i've started losing hair too. i'm actually fucked.

>>76594607
It’s only over if your heart stops beating. You’re 30 years old, you still have a long life ahead of you. Are you going to use this experience as a wake up call to change for the better?

>>76594607
>god i wish i locked in 10 years ago
And 10 years from now you wish you locked in today. Just begin my dude, nothing is stopping you.

Came across my elementary school yearbook and reading all the nice things my buddies wrote, my dreams and hopes at the time and fast forwarding 25 years to now and comparing with the lonely goalless self I became was a huge punch in the stomach. Insane how time flies and how things can do downhill so fast.

>>76594263
Yeah it’s a shame it turns into ki-powerlevel-wank
Alabaster/skypia/water 7 was pure k1n0
It started to fall off hard starting at the spooky island with the shadow guy

>>76593683
That’s the spirit you need to survive in this world. Focus on being a little better than yesterday

>>76595272
I know that feeling bro. It’s crazy how many opportunities I fumbled. But we can still become the men we were supposed to be. Those qualities never disappeared in us, they’re just dormant

>>76576969
It's always right to listen to your gut feeling. Fuck that gal.

>>76595301
Thriller bark was lame but there are still plenty of kino scenes in marineford

>>76594607
I'm gonna be real with you anon, getting married and having kids is not much of an accomplishment and I think you're better off using another measuring stick for yourself.
People in their 30's are now actually often figuring out, "wow I hate my fucking career, I chose poorly" and are actively trying to get out of theirs and start over.
Like myself.
You're only as young as you feel, anon.
Can't help the balding. May have to suck it up and befriend the razor. But still women like that.
And the only people that aren't interested in balding men are..... Shit like there's nobody that wouldn't be interested in a nice bald man other than women who's entire value is based on her partner's looks.
These type of women are extremely rare and not worth it at all.
So yer doin alright kid.

>>76592794
I pretty much have about as much qualifications and ego of an Indian. I got by doing the bare minimum and it wasn't until I cut a bunch of people out of my life that I was able to sit down and really analyze how fucked I am. The TL;DR is that I was living someone else's dream and have no idea who or what I am. My youth is over, society is turning to shit faster than imaginable, and I do not see a way to hard reset. I can't imagine where I'd be in 5 years. Definitely no wife and kids and I had to learn to cope with a house being off the table.

>>76596490
You could go get a CDL and drive trucks!

>>76596514
Nah.

>>76596405
Nta but thanks for the advice. My 10 year reunion is next year and I’m starting to fret. Maybe the grass is always greener on the other side. I’ll work hard so I have something to show in a year

>>76596624
Do you actually want to go to that?
I passed on mine. Was really hard to see a point in going. I'm in a small town though so the only people that would show up ARE the type of people that haven't done enough to get out or got trapped by getting married and having a child they couldn't afford elsewhere and whos only purpose is to show up to see if there's any other fuckups or if someone else has fucked up more.
I'll always plug volunteering somewhere. Will give you purpose, direction, and possibly opportunity in life.
The actual volunteering itself won't be profitable, it's just good for the soul.
I do a dog shelter myself.
Can you believe someone showed up today to SELL us a French Bulldog for $2000?
We don't even take owner-surrenders because we're full to the brim with strays.
Was the usual suspects.

>>76596624
>My 10 year reunion is next year and I’m starting to fret
Will there be anyone there that you actually would hang out with or desired to spend time with since graduating? Or hell, is there anyone there that you'd want to spend your time with before you graduated? Mine's next week and I'm not going. I frankly have better shit to do, I know that the people from back then that I keep in touch with probably won't be attending, and I've just moved on so much that it just doesn't really interest me. The only time I think of a bunch of these people is when they show up as recommended friends on Facebook and I say to myself "damn, they really let themselves go" or something to that effect and it's not even worth giving them that much thought (not out of spite but just because of how they have zero bearing on my life).

Retard-maxing is the path to truth happiness.

I’m pretty confused about volume or whatever it’s called. I see so many people on programs and programs with what look like way too many reps.
Like an example
>bench 5x (8-10)
>incline bench 5x10
>tricep movement 3x10
>tricep movement 3x10
>delt movement 3x10
>delt movement 3x10
>delt movement 3x10
>some chest dominate amrap
>some chest and shoulder amrap
In a single session. Can someone help me get the facts straight and lmk if the below is accurate regarding this shit?
>someone shouldn’t need this much volume UNLESS the following are true
They’re on gear, they’ve been lifting for so long that they’re now past intermediate stage
>any program marketed towards natties or sub advanced tier lifters recommending this is probably trash
>most of the info we have about lifting, including this max amount of volume type routine scheme, comes from the top level guys on gear but retards are marketing it towards natties
>less reps with quality form and pushing for progress are better for muscle growth, hybrid of low rep sets and high rep sets
The caveat which adds to my confusion is I have found that hundreds of micro reps is actually amazing for muscle growth. And what I mean by that is I have inadvertently had to do various movements in my daily life for months on end and noticed muscle growth without even training those parts. Like I haven’t had a leg day in 3 years due to a couple injuries and yet my quads are bigger than they have ever been from stairs carrying stuff (light weight farmers carries like 20-30lbs) and having to squat and jump often at work. So I’m quite confused here. I can’t imagine having a routine where you do 7 exercises with more than 2 sets of 10+ is optimal it sounds incredibly time consuming and to be honest, not to fatty cope, like cardio. Obviously it would do something but I just can’t see it being optimal. Every routine I’ve found like that sure enough ties to a roided individual or fake natty or influencer with chat Gpt

>>76597511
I'll make it really easy.
For hypertrophy training, which promotes good amounts of strength, and a varied amount of endurance (you can do as many reps as you want with endurance training versus strength training,so that's why I say varied), you want to hit 3 sets of 8-12 reps.
Hit all your muscles twice a week.
Start out at 8 reps for 3 sets.
If that's easy, move up to 9 reps a set and so on.
On Compound lifts, such as squat, deadlift, and chest press once you hit 10 reps per set with good form (no cheats, can do it slowly) then you up your weight.
On isolation like dumbbell curl, rowing, triceps once you hit 12 reps per 3 sets then you increase the weight.
That's it.
Hit muscles twice a week, 3x10-12 times before you increase weight limit.

Like I said, this is hypertrophy training. You'll be training to failure, but you won't be maximizing strength. For building strength, you're going to lower the volume and increase the weight while training to failure.
Endurance, you'll also be training to failure with less weight. This applies to cardio and is a good thing. You want to be able to use some muscles practically all day.

>>76582578
And this is why I recommend hypertrophy training.
If you can make money off of competitions or have an absolute need to be 20% stronger for 50% less endurance, go for it. Not going to dissuade those people.
But I absolutely would not recommend it to people who just want to be able to lift more than a guy with bigger muscles. It's rooted entirely in ego lifting and will lead to injury left and right.

>>76597548
I appreciate this but I’m still feeling confused. Does this mean a routine such as
>monday
Flat bench 3x8-10
Row 3x8-10
Curl 3x8-10
>tuesday
Squat 3x8-10
OHP 3x8-10
???? 3x8-10
?????? 3x8-10
>wednesday
Row 3x8-10
Curls 3x8-10
>


I can’t even finish typing this out. I’m surely just not understanding. What would be best using this if I only want to lift 3 days a week instead of 6-7.


Do I just
>
Bench
Row
Arms

>B
Legs
Row
Arms


EoD alternating the A and B day and when I feel up to it increase from one (ex. Chest) movement to 2?


I am NOT doing dedicated days where I have
Bench
Incline bench
Db flat bench
Floor press
Pushups
Weighted pushups
Close grip bench
Close grip floor press
Incline DB press
Diamond weighted pushups
Db pull overs elbows tucked
Triceps movements 1-30

In a single day

>>76597587
>A
Bench
Row
Curls
>B
Squat
OHP
Triceps
Maybe another back movement to avoid balance issues. Then toss in any accessories I feel up to? And just no matter what day of the week it is do every other day so I always have a day off between

>>76597587
>What would be best using this if I only want to lift 3 days a week
The classic Push / Pull / Core

>>76597587
>>76597596
Also you go to 12 on isolation exercises.
Your rows and curls in your list would be 12.
Only compounds go to 10.

>>76597601
>>76597596
>>76597587
Furthermore, your rests between sets would be only 1 minute, 90 seconds TOPS.

>>76596989
That and low ambition

>>76595593
Is this how you cope?

>>76597638
>has low ambition
>but is too judgmental for a small mistake
God damn it

>>76596989
>>76597638
Radical take:
Seek fulfillment instead of happiness.
Fulfillment is much easier and much more attainable.