Thread 76585381

>lift for 5 years
>still a complete failure with women
>still no gf
>mfw

Give me one reason not to blow my brains out

>>76585381 (OP)
Lowkey lifting was not the way to get women. The women that were gonna date you just for being buff are not the ones you want long term. Anyway, I have no real advice for you. I don't understand the process of courting a woman. Oh let me dance around and beg for love, so that I may be grated the chance of competing with everyone else for eternity. Ah wait, but there's sex! There's companionship! What companionship? What good is a partner that I can't be vulnerable around. Anyway I got off topic, don't kill yourself over a woman, just do whatever you find fun.

>>76585381 (OP)
Because Jesus loves you.

Now stop posting frogs you kek-addict and work on your game

>>76585399
Jesus dosent love me. I’ve been trying hard to work on my “game” and I keep fucking failing. I’m diagnosed autistic and naturally shy/introverted. No matter how hard I try to mask it they always see through me. They have this super fucking 6th sense superpower to sniff out any malfunction in a man. I try to act interested, not interested, nonchalant, caring, etc and nothing ever works. I always get ghosted after the 1st date. I don’t act desperate, I let them do the talking and I listen. And I always get fucking ghosted or rejected. At this point I need to accept that I’m going to fucking die alone cause no matter how hard I try I never get anywhere with women. I’m fucking done.
>>76585397
There’s zero point in living a miserable, lonely life. Absolutely no point. It would be more beneficial to just kill msyelf bow and save myself 60 extra years of pain and misery

>>76585409
Man you can't think of one fun thing to do without a girl? Maybe you should kill yourself

>>76585414
I used to have dreams and aspirations to become a writer and a fire fighter, but there’s absolutely zero point in pursuing any of that when I’m fucking miserably lonely. What’s the point of living the rest of my life in a one bedroom apartment while everyone around me is happily married or having a family or girlfriend. Just a constant reminder of how much of a failure I am as a man? Fucking lmao

>>76585418
I mean you'd be much less of a failure if you did either. A firefighter might be still be perfect for you, especially if you are single. Sure, you might die alone, but atleast you'd die a hero, and leave no wife and kids without a father. You will die, no matter what. Gigachad dies too. It's up to you to decide what you want to do with the time before. Especially if you have nobody else tying you down. I don't know if the right person will ever come to you, assume they won't. What then, will you kill yourself? Or do something with what little you have. You write your own fate, when you decide to do nothing. TLDR BITCHES AINT SHIT NIGGA

>>76585381 (OP)
Women don’t give a fuck about muscles, if you’re ugly and short your best bet is getting rich and going after 35 year old women that have had their fun and are ready to settle down

>>76585409
>Jesus dosent love me.

you're wrong, He does.

>I’m fucking done.

But God isn't done with you - He has a plan for you.

Find a reputable church that preaches sciprture and has Christ and His teachings at the very core - go there and pray in meekness and faith that God will help you with your problem.

I've told you what to do to solve your issue, but you probably won't do it; but try, give God some room to work. God bless!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbJIyzfkZlU

>>76585428
Yeah I’m not doing that shit. God wants to make sure I’m fucking miserable so I’ll make him happy by splattering my retarded ugly brains all over the fucking wall. I don’t give a flying fuck about my life when I have nothing to look forward to. Can’t go to the beach, go to dinner dates, watch Netflix; etc with a girl I like. Literally zero fucking point in living a miserable lonely fucking life. All I’ll do for the rest of my life is yearn for death cause I’m so fucking lonely and I’ll always be reminded of how much of a failure I am whenever I go out and see couples and families everywhere I fucking go. Shit is fucking ridiculous bro I’m fucking fed up with this clown shit

>>76585409
Jesus does love you. But that doesn't mean He will just give you what you want - it's like a child crying because their parents won't give them the pan of boiling water on the stove. Pursue Him, not girls.

>>76585447
>>76585458

>yes he does

No he fucking dosent niggers. He made be born ugly, short, deformed, introverted, mentally ill and autistic at the worst possible time in human history to be like that. He constantly reminds me of how much of a fucking failure I am by dangling happiness in front of my face and taking it from me. He wants me to be fucking miserable? Bet. I’ll show him my love for him by splattering my fucking brains out with a shotgun. I don’t give a fuck if I go to hell anymore. Shit can’t be any worse than this. He made be a feminine, shy, introverted man with fucking autism. And you expect me to praise him when he made my life a miserable fucking hellhole. That nigga fucking cursed me with existence. I’m done with this Mickey mouse shit nigga. I’m sick of constantly going out or going on social media and being reminded of how much of a fucking failure I am as a man.

My real question is...HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU GETTING FIRST DATES

Literally learn on your communication skills. If you wanna practice game with a mic and talk to teammates

>>76585463
You're admitting that you think life isn't worth living without girls. You are religious, and you do worship something - and that's girls.

God literally owes you nothing. He doesn't owe you a life of romance and physical pleasure.

Stop worshiping your idol (girls) and start learning about what God can offer you. Like the other guy said, find a scripture-based church and find out.

>>76585470
I very rarely do. I sometimes get lucky on bumble and land a date, but like I said it literally never goes anywhere. If anything I wish I didn’t even get to the first gate cause it reminds me that I just keep blowing my chances and obviously shows how much of an utter failure I am.
>>76585473
I’m fine with communicating. I’m a little shy but it’s fucking ridiculous that there are people uglier and shyer than me that have no issue getting girls, I guarantee it’s because I’m autistic and women can sense it somehow so they get the ick and run for the hills.
>>76585484
>god dosent owe you anything

Bet. I don’t own that nigga anything either. He wants me to fucking kiss his ass 24/7 despite making my life a mental living hell? The fuck is this unfair bullshit? I’m not going to live a life im destined to be alone and miserable in till I fucking die. There are people who are far worse than me that murder, steal and ruin lives that have no issue getting a girl, yet all I want to do is write, help people and have a loyal girlfriend that actually fucking loves me, and he punishes me for that? How are literal rapists, murders and drug dealers living mire fulfilling lives with a girl than me? How the fuck is that fair at all?

>>76585381 (OP)
>I wanted to get women so instead of trying to talk to women for 5 months I spent five YEARS as a shutin on /fit/ except when I go to the gym with my headphones in

>>76585526
Lmao I’ve tried talking to women multiple
times you fucking stupid retard. 10/12 dates I’ve been on in the past couple years have all been failures. I always get ghosted or rejected. They show interest in me before we meet and after the date they completely abandon me. Acting like I don’t even try, shut the fuck up you stupid fucking retard

>>76585534
well you didn't tell us that, you just talked about lifting, and then you sperged out HARD and got angry at a little banter on 4channel. what's that say about you? probably not much, but it points to you maybe not being so great to be with irl. maybe.

I got ghosted a lot too, in fact that happened on every date I went on with someone I didn't really know. but I have a gf now and we were friends before that and that seems to me like the best way to do it.

what did the rejections say?

>>76585507
>>76585381 (OP)
You got discord? Pay me and I'll get you a bumble date in less than 2 weeks.

>>76585507
But girls aren't giving you anything, yet getting a girl seems like your utmost priority. Sad!

You're in mental turmoil because you worship girls.

>>76585418
also dude seriously having a fucking gf is not the end all of life even if it seems that way it is totally false, even if you have an awesome gf, the boomer meme about gotta get away from muh wife is real, maybe you'll get a gf and then you'll understand. You'll wish for the days when you were free. right now you are like an elephant tied to a post in the ground by a piece of floss.

but once you learn this it might be too late. take heed.

>>76585397
Nah youre smoking crack, women really are stupid. Say youre 20yo and huge as fuck vs you if you were nerdy and didnt lift so you could do better in school. Take a guess which version of you if you dyed your hair is going to get the same gf if both versions at 20yo are competing.

Sure being nerdy and weak is irresponsible and a sign of a weak mind, but imagine what the woman is thinking. You cant just write off what women think because theyre stupid since you seem to have forgotten that you want to fuck them and its psychological fucking warfare.

>>76585381 (OP)
You are spiraling my man.
Most people arent in happy relationships.
Most hot women are crazy and immature.

You arent failing in something normal.
You are failing in something supernaturally rare and valuable ( a true relationship of people who value eachother and love eachother.

If you are serious about your goal you should not give up easy.

t. 1500 approaches before I found right girl


Wrap your head around that.
For a year, I approached about 5 women a day. Realistically it was 20 + women on some days and I took rest on others.

It was hard but possible since I am part of community and we boost each other up even tho I went alone 90% of time.

Also, if you are truly autistic, that sucks. I had bpd mother which sucked more than your autism, but it rewarded me with ability to read minds so when I shedded guilt that she tried to install in me and did so for most of my childhood, I was able to succeed and enjoy.

You have to talk with a lot of women man. Hundreds. And you have to know what you want.
Most women want just the dick. Despite us being portrayed as sex crazed, its women who in this day and age want dick more than anything else.

So you gotta lead with dick and kinda blindside them with emotional maturity and relationship after they get dick crazies.

Its funny but its true.

Women who search for love or men who do it, never find it.

But horny people who understand vibes and are emotionally mature, they have a chance.

Again sucks if you are truly autistic but women are on average very autistic. Its just everyone wants to be a pretty girls friend so they walk hidden.

>>76585550
..how much?

>>76585381 (OP)
So youre a failure with retarded ass weed people?

>>76585548
I don’t like a spazzing retard on dates. I’m doing it on 4chan because I’m fed up and depressed. My rejections usually just ghost me, tells me that they get the vibe I’m looking for a relationship and that they aren’t looking for one, and the last two I got both said they recently broke up with somebody and wasn’t ready for a relationship because they’re still extremely depressed, which is bullshit.
>>76585554
>>76585551
The reason I want a girlfriend so bad is because I’m fucking lonely and I feel like I’m running out of time to find one. I’m fucking 26 and everybody I know is already in a relationship engaged or married, yet I can’t even get a fucking text back. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me and it’s depressing as shit. I’ve only had 2 girlfriends my entire life and ever since they left I’ve been trying desperately to replace them since both of them moved on fast while I’m still depressed and sad we broke up.
>>76585583
Yes I’m autistic. Women can sense something is wrong with me no matter how “normal” I try to act. I’m just not sexually appealing at all apparently. I don’t know what’s wrong with me but every time I get ghosted or rejected it makes me feel even worse about myself. Why can’t I be good enough for these girls? What do other guys have that I don’t? I regularly work out, I’m decent looking, I have hobbies, etc but no matter what I try I always fucking fail and it’s driving me absolutely fucking insane. I’m unironcally on the verge of suicide at this point. Every failure just reinforces the fact that something is deeply wrong with me and no matter how hard I try to change or be better it’s never enough.

>>76585583
>the first 1500 are just warm ups bro

>>76585583
Bdw since I was approaching so much, I lost gains for that time and was looking pretty scrawny and not impressive.

Yoked and shut in will lose to twink putting in work, every single time, all other things being equal.

You are not a woman stop thinking like one. “If Im beautiful enough right prince will come..” thats womanthink.

A man puts in work for what he wants directly.
To be good at smth you need hours in it. Like 10 000 hours of talking with women with aim of getting good thing going on.

You probably put like less than 1000 hours. You are a beginner my friend. An amateur.

And thats good because you can improve.

>>76585596
First 1000 is definitely a warmup. You only begin to know your ass from your head after first 1k.

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Cont.
You need to try every approach you can think of and then try more. Girls with parents. Girls with pets. Grils who look sad, happy angry. Girls who are too good to be true. Girls who look taken. Girls with male or female friends. Girls who look bitchy. Girls who stare at youy girls who avoid your gaze.

You have to try romantic approach
Honest approach
Shy approach
Direct approach
Indirect approach
Awkward approach
Funny approach
Nervous approach on purpose
Nervous approach without purpose lol
Approach for laughs
Approach just to be sad later
Approach to flex on her
Approach to be flex on
Approach in public
Approach in private
Approach while angry
Approach while sad
Approach while suicidal
Approach while happy
Approach with full 100% honesty
Approach and lie 100%
Approach and invent yourself
Approach and offer your trauma to her
Approach hiding your player level
Approach fully like a player
Approach while ashamed of self
Approach while proud of self

All of this will be invaluable source of feedback. And show you what passes what doesnt.

And your ego and sense of self will die so many times you will at some point start to think you dont even exist and arent human but some masochistic husk.

Then, you will emerge victiorious more and more.

But first you gotta do plenty of dying. And Im talking, so much, you will probably lose weight, lose sanity at points and question why you do it.

Is it worth it?

For women? Not at all.

For growth of your Spirit? Abso fucking lutely.

And women are a cool bonus bht you will see. Its Path to travel not read about.

Try to get into good community that boosts one another.

>>76585616
man if youre being serious you have the willpower of a god, i got rejected 45 times and that shit ruined my self esteem. kind of admirable you did that much

>>76585617

Every amazing player I know, has at best 5% success rate. Many have much less than that.

Talking tall handsome built dudes who have money and smarts.

Women dont know the battlefield. They oversetimate how easy life js for a man.

What we have is glory and sense for humor.

So we PR masculinity well. Yet girls who do f to m all end up suicidal.

Masculinity is not for beginners lol

If you get dates with girls within 100 approaches chances are you are above average hahaha, even natural.

Just keep going. And observe what behavior gets you dates and boost those traits, and then boost traits that get you second dates. Etc etc etc.


When I started first couple of hundred approaches I wouldnt get past one or two messages exchanged lol.

Took me hundreds of approaches to get from ghosted to dating. Then dated for a while until further progress.

Embrace the suck and keep going but dont do it empty, put effort into it. Dont half ass it.

And try shit out like I wrote. Dont do always same unless it works.

Usually dudes find what works then become broken records and some girls feel it and get cheap feeling. But thats a good problem to have lol it means you stacking.

For now just work it.

Also ask yourself is love you feel truly love or just scarcity. I doubt we feel love 99% of time. Its just scarcity.

If she was cloned 10000 times and you could have one of clones you wouldnt care.

Imo love is built when two people share lives together and cocreate smth special.

All other feels are horny infatuation. Which is useful but dont pedestalize it.
Love is built over time.

I have had love with my ex, we built smth beautiful and we are still close.

(I was horny so wanted to be free again and try more experiences but we stayed friends because again, we built love. Smth that improved both of our lives and is safe and comfortable)

Infatuation kills.

Love heals.

>>76585643
You can only love a woman after you fucked her and created smth with her.

Before that she is just a distraction at best. At worst something idealized.

If you delay your emotions until after fucking you will find its not that easy to fall in love. We fall because we dont have it, because we crave and are infatuated.

Just focus on fucking them and then if they are worthy, and able to co create smth, then you can love them.

Treat your love as something valuable. Dont throw it away like its a burden.

Bump