Thread 76613347

I'm horny af but still don't have the drive to chase women. Never had in fact. Even in my teenage years. As soon as I think about having to talk to them and take them out and do all that ritual beforehand I just get turned off. What is wrong with me? My test is within normal and you can't blame it on porn because I don't even have time to watch it nowadays.

>>76613347 (OP)
Catch-22

Maybe u gay

>>76613364
Ah... I see....

Same here. I have no clue how anyone is actually motivated enough to actively seek girls, try to win them over and then spend money, time and effort to try to keep them with you after that.

All what happens in my brain when I see an attractive girl anywhere is just "damn, she's hot" and I keep walking, that's it

>>76613347 (OP)
You probably aren't attracted to most of them and only have a thing for a certain "type", Focus on yourself and your work, eventually you will stumble upon someone who motivates you.
PS. you might be gay.

>>76613347 (OP)
If you just want to fuck? You really don't have to do much, just be attractive and present in an area with young women. Preferably where they also feel some sort of social pressure to engage with the opposite sex/have intoxicating substance options, like a trendy bar or a festival. Druggie girls in particular will fuck anything that moves and seems even kind of cool.
If you want a deep, proper connection, and a love worth living and dying for? Good luck buddy I don't know what to tell you.

>>76613347 (OP)
same the tism is bad

Same. I want to have sex but there's no way I'm gonna deal with getting it

>>76613365
>Maybe u gay
>>76613425
>PS. you might be gay.
I DON'T LIKE COCK AND BALLS FFS

>You probably aren't attracted to most of them and only have a thing for a certain "type"
Maybe. The only times I ever got close to wanting to chase a woman was with tiny, skinny girls. You know, the kind that almost looks underage.

>>76613436
>just be attractive

>>76613425
>You probably aren't attracted to most of them
NTA but I definitely find a lot of women I see in public attractive and would like to be intimate with them. But that never ever translates into actually motivating/driving me to actually approach a girl, so I remain a kissless virgin

>>76613436
I've been to bars and nightclubs dude... abd I have never seen that shit with me or anyone else. Yes, I know it happens, but I don't think it's as easy and common as you say.

>>76613347 (OP)
i was in the same boat as you. did some very low effort dating app stuff, like just saying hi to girls and telling them that they are pretty. had sex at 30 for the first time with my now gf. desu sex is pretty boring

>>76613474
>desu sex is pretty boring
Honestly I actually HOPE it is. Imagine finding out that the thing normies care so much about actually SUCKS. "Is this it? That's what you guys spend all your money, time and energy for? Holy shit you fucking LOSERS! You all laughed at me for "missing out" on THIS? Ha haha Jesus Christ... You guys are so pathetic"

>>76613491
i didn't say it sucks but yeah i don't get why men chase pussy either it's not that great

>>76613347 (OP)
Too much porn/batin

>>76613347 (OP)
same, whenever i read about what people went through during puberty, as in things like "hormones were driving me nuts", i just cant relate.

>>76613347 (OP)
>As soon as I think about having to talk to them and take them out and do all that ritual beforehand I just get turned off
Congrats anon you're an anxiety riddled cuck. Just replace this idea with being hungry and needing to hunt in the year 2000 BC and you will see how you are a failure.

>>76613534
Same with everything really, the drive for things is always way out of whack with the receiving of them. Just the way our brains are wired.

Nofap day 85 here but I got ptsd from my exes who had bpd and im scared of women nowadays, i find more peace being a volcel atm, i hope i find my drive to start approaching again but being monk mode is so good. Based or cringe?

>>76613347 (OP)
Modern mating rituals are gay and inhuman, most people are naturally repulsed by them.
Maybe try to meet women In a more natural setting?

>>76613877
Most women are fucking disgusting as human beings. I found a woman who happens to be a decent person (good father) but if I hadn't I'd 100% be volcel.

>still horny for pretty girls
>can flirt with the best of them
>can easily get girls to like me
>...
>get weirded out when they actually want to hang out with me

Shit's weird. Like I'm fine chasing them, wanting to fuck them but the moment they flip to wanting to be friends after or like be together I just get weirded out, ghost them and just avoid them till they move on.

>>76613347 (OP)
i really want the women my mind tells me are out there, but im disgusted by the ones i actually meet

>>76613347 (OP)
Do you actually want to put the time and energy into creating a relationship (as in, a two way constant exchange between two people), or do you just like the idea of a gf and intimacy, op?

>>76613897
I was with a fatherless girl for a walk last night and her world view was so fucked I wanted to kms. She was saying they having kids at 30 it’s better for women so they built a career first and told me that if her man is an asshole he will drop him in an instant: she has a lot of trauma but she is hot, I can fix her but it’s risky. She doesn’t even believe in God

>>76613347 (OP)
You're just scared of girls

>>76613347 (OP)
Have you tried chasing men instead?

>>76613908
You are gonna have a bad time but I cant blame you. I did the same shit when presented with the opportunity to get an obviously flawed 8/10. The dick wants what the dick wants.

>>76613908
honestly don't even think about trying to change her, just fuck her

>>76613347 (OP)
Chasing women is actually gay as fuck. A waste of time and energy. Better spent on yourself and your projects that better you, your friends, community and eventually the rest of the world.
But, if one appears before you as you're on this quest, offers no resistance and is a pleasure to be around. This one is l worth giving some attention too.

>>76613877
> got ptsd from my exes who had bpd and im scared of women
How did they act? Were they diagnosed by doctor?

>>76613935
>just fuck her
Then what? what if i bring her here? Already went for 3 walks and i dropped her some massive redpill but you are fucking right, she will be hard to change, fucking her with my BWC has more chances of changing.

>>76613924
>I did the same shit
Did you regret it afterwards? My bpd ex had a LOT of issues but ended up loving me at the end, things can change but i need to start seeing women again as human beings, im too blackpilled

>>76613908
You know how you fix someone like this? A girl with no father. You have to literally become her father. She's had no superior male rolemodel in her life to tell her NO.

Most guys that fuck with mutliple girls in their life always come across one of these dumbasses and nothing gets their panties soaking that they just fall to the ground is a strict male presence in their life. Why do you think you always hear these same dumbass women say shit like
>my last bf was such an asshole and horrible to me
>oh how long were you together
>oh 3 years

>>76613972
>You have to literally become her father
Brutal blackpill. btw this girl is 22 and she came out of a 3 year relationship but she had some other fwb from the information i gathered. I'm 33 and I believe i do give her daddy vibes but she isn't fully submitted yet.

>>76613989
she won't submit until you literally just make her submit. If you're waiting for her to say
>ok, we can date
or something to that effect you're going to wait too long and she's going to come crying to you one day saying some asshole nut'd in her and needs a shoulder to cry on.

>>76613347 (OP)
Then you're not horny af.

Or you're gay

>>76613347 (OP)
because they are boring vapid creatures that aren't worth it. Its too easy especially now to see what women really value to even give them a second look on the street. Every one of them is a low level narcissist at best

>>76613908
>I can fix her but it’s risky
Don't you fucking dare anon, don't you fucking dare fucking up your life over some dumb whore. You deserve better than that.

>>76613905
I guess I just like the idea of it.

>>76613908
>I can fix her

>>76613347 (OP)
There's nothing really wrong with you, sometimes this drive to chase them only happens once it "clicks". That still means you have to talk to them, but just go into it without any expectations and see how the chemistry is. Once you notice there is a little bit more than just physical attraction you will automatically have the motivation to pursue things.

I feel like I have a lot of love to give but finding someone to give it to is so hard, young women nowadays care about a bunch of superficial shit more than about the things that actually matter. I met this chick who seemed really nice but at 26 she was still completely aimless and it turned out she just cared about fucking around because "she had only been in long term relationships until recently so she never got to do that before", like wtf? She went from having had 2 partners to around 10 in less than a year, I'm not obsessed with finding a virgin trad woman or anything but why is it so important for her to have a slut phase, why view life as an arbitrary checklist of mandatory experiences? It didn't seem like she was having that much fun sleeping with random men either, she was definitely the type of girl that's happier with a loving boyfriend

>>76613347 (OP)
Unfortunately we live in an oversexualised society so you feel like an outcast but let me reassure you: you are normal. I and many other men wouldn't want to have sex with any random woman, most of them are fucking disgusting (like all people).

>>76613899
>i don't want to belong to any club that'd accept me as one of its members

>kissless virgin at 33
>never have even been on a date or asked a girl out in my life, honestly probably rarely have even had conversations with them
>have no standards, think almost all women I see are cute, but there’s no reason to talk to them because I’m as big of a loser as there is that can exist
>the most basic thing that connects guys together, whining about women and complaining about dating, their relationships and sex, etc., I cannot participate in, making me even more of an outcast
All the people ITT talking about being a coward, full of anxiety, etc. are accurate. I am full of anxiety. I am a coward. I am pathetic. I hope I die.

>>76613445
>Maybe. The only times I ever got close to wanting to chase a woman was with tiny, skinny girls. You know, the kind that almost looks underage.
What about underage women, what do you feel when you see them?

>>76613885
In Islam you can buy a wife or get from your family.

>>76614702
Chances are that even if you talked to women they wouldnt be interested

>>76614572
>Don't you fucking dare anon, don't you fucking dare fucking up your life
What's the worse that can happen?

>>76614702
Honestly, if you are 33 and never even kissed or dated a girl, your life is over.
You are probably physically unattractive and years of loneliness snd isolation have damaged you mentally.
Your peers are 20 years ahead of you. Even if you suddenly got a girlfriend tomorrow you are not going to be on the same wave length and she would leave you within a month.

>>76613347 (OP)
You simply see the bullshit for what it is and it's completely natural to not want to deal with it. Just get a whore if you want to bust a nut.

>>76614761
>Honestly, if you are 33 and never even kissed or dated a girl, your life is over.
Not true, i'm 33 and had over 10 gf's and i have been on a dry spell for a year and feel like an incel although i was really good at keeping my women in check. It's all about your current situation.

>>76613948
This is the correct take. However most dudes have nothing going on so they focus on pussy.

>>76614000
How do you make her submit trips anon?