Thread 76624040

>a year ago
>Father is skinny fat and I'm just skinny
>I decide to start lifting
>First he is supportive of it
>Something changes when I start making decent progress
>when I do deadhangs or ab rollouts he questions "does that even do anything, I could do that easy?"
>Always tries to sneak calling me skinny in conversations not related to lifting
>Have 4 day split, everytime I rest he says "I will quit it soon"
>When I'm on a bulk he says I look like shit
>The last time I talked about something fitness related with him, he always tried to prove me wrong with a smug smirk

I always try to slide it off as banter but it's getting tiresome, have you ever had any experiences like this with DYEL family members?

>>76624040 (OP)
Looks like your dad is having trouble with seeing his son surpass him physically.

>>76624054
Most dads are like that. Very toxic and parasitic behavior.

If you really want to show him, you should go fuck his wife in front of him

>>76624040 (OP)
Yeah I noticed a similar thing, especially when it came to bulking. They have a harder time saying shit when you're lean, but if you're at a higher bodyfat then they try and tear you down more

>>76624040 (OP)
>when I do deadhangs or ab rollouts he questions "does that even do anything, I could do that easy?"
kek, do you also turn your back away whenever someone throws something at you?

>>76624040 (OP)
Just beat his boomer ass. Show him who's boss. Suplex him or something. Or, as >>76624057 said it, fuck his wife in front of him

Yes, but not over lifting, politics. What I did after awhile is start being ambiguous with my answers to make it sound like I agree or I’m doing something they approve of while not actually doing it to see how intelligent they really are.

Once you notice someone whose natural reaction to a topic is to be adversarial to you, you can now start using it to your advantage. How that would work in lifting, I don’t know, but you can figure your situation out.

>>76624040 (OP)
You're just being a pussy.

>>76624040 (OP)
no. my parents have been very positive about it. mum often complements me on my arms when im doing some gardening. feels incredible man

>>76624040 (OP)
>when I do deadhangs or ab rollouts he questions
What does this even mean, does he just stand around watching you while you work out? Also, seems like you're probably the one constantly bringing up "fitness" like some attention whore fag.

>>76624040 (OP)
Maybe it's time to move out lil gup

>>76624040 (OP)
people are assholes

I can't wait for my son to be stronger and taller than me

>>76625064
Best day of my life was when I beat up my deadbeat dad

>>76625235
if you didn’t rape him you didn’t win

>>76624040 (OP)
Sorry anon that sucks. My dad is supportive and proud of my progress and I coukdnt imagine being in that situation. I would just say keep fucking going.

>>76624040 (OP)
Old man is shook because you're becoming the alpha of the family. It's time to show him who's boss, kick his ass and fuck your mom afterwards.

>>76624040 (OP)
Your old man is demoralising you because he is insecure. Rise above it anon, keep going. If he persists, tell him to put his money where his mouth is and match you set for set. He won't.
As you mature you will realise your parents are regular fuck ups like everyone else.

>>76624040 (OP)
>high school incel does faggy meme workout at home
>chad dad laughs at him

>>76625064
Based dad.

I lift so I can beat up my dad if he ever lays a hand on me

>>76625420
I did it wrong, I fucked his ass and kicked my mom

>>76624040 (OP)
>>76624056
Why are boomer/genx fathers like this? Why do they get salty when they see their sons do better than them?

>>76624040 (OP)
>googling the supplement and reading off its side effects like he's an expert

Fuck yoy dad, you had a two year affair and abandoned thr family get fucked

>>76624040 (OP)
Sorry your father is like this. Im a father now and I want my son to surpass me in every conceivable way. Keep your chin up senpai and keep bettering yourself. You can be the father you always wanted.

>>76624040 (OP)
Spite is a powerful motivator. Prove him wrong anon.
I hope my son and I will lift together one, day.

>>76624056
Most cuck fathers who are scared their son isn’t theirs is like that you mean. Other dad’s die happy when they see their offspring surpass them in every way as God intended

>>76624040 (OP)
My parents think im getting fat so theyd try and get me fired from work and steal my money and food which is better for me.

>>76624040 (OP)
Just because they're family doesn't mean they want what's best for you.

>>76624040 (OP)
Your family are literal gain goblin saboteurs, cut all ties ASAP and understand that for all intent and purposes they are your enemy. NEVER EVER feel like you owe them ANYTHING. Simple as.

Welcome to having narcissistic parents. Your dad sees you as direct competition and gets angry when he sees you being better than him in any way. It messes you up real bad because your dad cant be happy for you.

When you achieve all he sees is a direct attack on his own ego. Most men see themselves as the breadwinner, narcissists included, so if you do anything that suggest you might threaten his position as the 'alpha male' of the family in strength, earning potential or anything like that, expect him to try and fight you off mentally by trying to pull you down back to his level

He wont feel sorry or sad if you argue with him about this, he will shout and scream and see himself as the victim as you are his property. You are not meant to be your own person in his eyes, you are meant to be an inferior person that supplies him with compliments in his carefully crafted world where he is the winner of every confrontation and every situation he can think of.

All you can do is ignore him. Narcissists hate it when people grey rock them. If you argue with him he will see it as an opportunity to dominate you, if he gets you to back down or upset you with insults he has won and he can live another day coping that he is better than you when in reality hes scared and lonely in his own mind. Narcissists cant be happy, theyre miserable all the time. The only 'happiness' they get is dominating people but they have to do it all the time because the feeling is fleeting. It lasts seconds before theyre pulled back into their misery of feeling insecure

>>76625855
Basically narcissists throw out these insults as a two pronged attack. First to try and debase you by making you insecure to dominate you, and second to goad you into an arguement where they can further dominate you by going on a nasty verbal assault and shouting, using their anger as a weapon agaisnt you.

They do not care about your emotions in any way, in fact they love it when you get upset or angry because it means they have won the confrontation. They will not feel sorry about it, they are incapable of feeling sorry for people, theyre like the lame cousin of psychopaths. If you get one up on narcissists they will go into a huge rage like a child

>>76624040 (OP)
>have you ever had any experiences like this with DYEL family members?
My sister hasn't stopped telling me how "bulky" and "manish" I've become since I started lifting, and keeps telling me to stop going to the gym because it's "unattractive." I'm 100% sure it's solely because she doesn't want to be seen as overweight by comparison.

>>76625882
is she your older sister? she might be struggling to watch you grow up since she still sees you as the little boy she needs to protect.

>>76624040 (OP)
>>76624054
For me it's my mom. My dad was abusive to me as a kid but he was at most aloof about my sports endeavors or semi-encouraging "hey you didnt go to the gym for 2 days...nothing just asking" stuff like that
My mom is a total bitch
>Why arent you tall
>You know x he's like 14 and super tall
>Dont pay a yearly subscription they might go bankrupt
>Why are you buying protein powder it's not like you're eating anything (yes, she unironically said this. I didn't even bother explaining anything to her and told her to fuck off out of my business)
In middle school i had to plead and beg to join martial arts classes, she decided to close the door on me and spit on me another time. In highschool an uncle of mine paid my gym for a year and some change until i got a job
Cant wait to finish college and disown them

>>76626871
>is she your older sister?
Younger. Up until I started going to the gym I was always the heavier one between the two of us. She's gotten even more adamant that I stop lifting since I broke up with my boyfriend awhile back. She's been single for a bit now so that's probably a driving factor.

>>76626917
You have their lazy genes. You were raised in their lazy culture. Laziness will claw you back to where you belong.

>>76626970
I dont, begone demoralizer. Been going for +1 year straight to the gym and doing muay thai before that for a year straight as well. Not a single day skipped. I know this makes you mad.

>>76624040 (OP)
Yes.
Family (and maybe friends, idk I don't have any) will try to make you fail.
You just need the willpower to not fail.

>>76624040 (OP)
>Have 4 day split, everytime I rest he says "I will quit it soon"
Does he say that? Or does he say "you will quit it soon"? FUCKING RETARD

>>76624040 (OP)
>Father who is animalistic, basic instinct driven with no admirable quality like intelligence, care and positive masculinity like honor and humor
So fucking many cases it seems. He must have beaten you when you were a kid. I feel you.

>>76624040 (OP)
I’ve never had family act like this but I’ve had “friends”. One dude I used to consider a friend would do stuff like
>wow do you think all that healthy eating and lifting is gonna change much for you? What, do you think it’s going to change your whole life
>orders giant 10 topping pizza starts loudly smacking his lips and going “MMMMMM IM SO GLAD I CAN EAT THIS” while taking glances at me
>we all go to restaurant “anon can’t have any of this delicious food mmmmm too bad”
>im sure glad I’m not missing out on this weed and [food item] I’d hate to be the only guy not experiencing this
All sorts of Eric cartmen esque things like that. BUT then when I got a little depressed and started to relax on diet for a bit and missed some training for a few weeks it was the opposite
>starts trying to get fit
>starts trying to brag about how strong he is (struggled with 20s, only benched like 1pl8 with a spotter moving the bar for him etc)
>starts trying to insist to talk healthy eating and macros with actually fit people (was clueless tried to insist beef protein built more muscle than chicken/fish protein but not due to any logic like creatine content), also was scarfing down candy and ice cream for half his meals still
>starts trying to say I’ve gotten fat and weak now and let myself go because of a few weeks break
It’s unreal how some people feel personally attacked by an entirely different human being trying to improve themself. Dude would also claim it was banter btw. It’s such a bitch tier cop out. Trying to sabotage, hurt, or detract from someone’s life will never be friendly banter the line between being an insufferable retard and being playful is pretty obvious to most people

>>76624040 (OP)
No. In my family when we're insecure about something we pretend it doesn't exist. My brother is supportive because he goes to the gym as well, but the rest of my family have weight problems so they don't even bring it up.

>>76628508

Losers and deadbeats, I tell you. I cut out these kinds of energy vampires out of my life and I'm better for it.

>>76624040 (OP)
Yes, I love my dad and he is a very chill dude but for some reason whenever I talk about my fitness stuff with him it's always met with "You know, I could do x y and z when I was your age and it was like nothing"
I told him when I managed to hit a 100kg bench for the first time for reps (did 110kg by accident and didn't notice until afterwards) and of course it gets met with "I used to carry two 80kg sandbags on each shoulder on the construction site back in the day"
My brother is based though, dude said I looked huge last time we met. I regret never listening to him when I was a teen and joining him at the gym back then. Would have had an easy 10 years lifting under my belt now instead of 2 and a half.

>>76628738
Your dad probably thinks you're a faggot for going to the gym, you gotta remember men didnt used to go to the gym back in the day, they thought that was for faggots

>>76624040 (OP)
Have you tried not being a bitch?

>>76628746
Maybe so but it's weird because it is literally the only thing where he acts like this for some reason

>>76624040 (OP)
Sour grapes crab in the bucket mentality. Ignore them you are doing well keep going.

>>76628735
Call it fate but the day after I cut that retard off I got a job offer and interview for a position making $92k starting. I consider it a sign anyways.
>>76628757
I hope you find him man. I see you spamming this to specific types of posts the last few days, I hope he sees it.

My sister said that going to the gym is something men do when they’re desperate for sex.

punch him in the stomach you fucking pussy faggot
show him you are stronger than him
if you dont then you are bitch

>>76624040 (OP)
it depends if he does it as a light jab to motivate you or he is just annoying and bitchy about it.

>>76628899
Your sister got pumped and dumped by a guy who cares about his health. Normal people don’t have such adverse feelings towards something this mundane.

>>76624040 (OP)
>"I could do that easy."
Show me how you do it. Maybe you can teach me something.

And then if he succeeds boost him up. If he fails, he'll make a bunch of excuses. Either way, ask him to join you for your other workouts. Get him moving. You only get one dad, help him get healthy.

My family is very supportive of me in all that I do :^D. Especially my dad who was a rooner when he was my age and doesn't really know shit about lifting but he still thinks I'm doing great :D

Some of you guys have some real meanies in your life watafuk

ugly, broke, fatty, low IQ losers know better than to try to put me down with their irrelevant opinions IRL.

>>76626954
Can't tell if you're a fag or a woman

>>76624040 (OP)
Step 1. Delete all your frogs, Raj.

>>76629314
I'm a woman. I've posted a bunch in the monday threads about how lifting and boxing helped me improve my life, and how it exposed my ex as an asshole with daddy issues.

Shoutouts to all the married men whose wives went from supportive and appreciative to gains goblin once they stopped being fatties or skeletons and actually started to look good.

>>76624040 (OP)
Your dad is a feminized pussy. Any man would be ecstatic to see his son growing stronger and better than even himself. I'm 6'2 and I lift modestly heavy but nothing special. 1RM bench is 3 plates. I home every day that my son grows to 6'3 or 6'4, and we talk all the time about how when he's old enough he can't wait to come to the gym with me and lift and get strong. I can't imagine the feeling of wanting to compete with my heir, wanting him to be anything other than better than me.

>>76624054
Incredible really, who could ask for more than a fit honourable son?

>>76624040 (OP)
Remember to be better than them. I for one force all my friends and gf to lift. I encourage people around me to outlift me.

>>76626954
Sounds like she's having feelings of inadequacy and envy since you're doing better than her.
Trying to put you down to make herself feel better.
Tale as old as time.

>>76624040 (OP)
get /fit, then he'll respect you. my family teased me the same way until I showed tangible progress. rn you probably belong on the pantyboy threads and let's face it, those guys are pretty easy to laugh at. Prioritizing vanity muscles (traps, arms, forearms) help sell the image.
But just keep at it, by year 2 he'll accept that his jokes are bad cope

>>76624040 (OP)
pic related

>>76625622
I don't think gen x is nearly as bad as boomers, but boomers in general are just obnoxious spoilt children who got old but never grew up

>>76625026
This is how Griffith started his journey of manipulating people

>>76629931
Ouch

when i got fit it put a rift between me and my pah

>>76624056
That’s why Azn chicks are better. Your sons won’t height mog you.

>>76625026
Sounds like they owned you continuously, you took it like a good girl, and pretended like you aykshyuallyy had super duper secret smart guy scheme going on as a coping mechanism while they used you as an emotional bean bag chair.

>>76624056
My dad is super supportive and always comments on my arms (bless his heart I'm super dyel)

>>76626979
Why are you doing muay thai?

>>76624040 (OP)
My father tests my gains with armwrestling, and I keep losing despite years of training.
I keep telling him that I do it for looking good and healthy, but he makes fun of it.

>>76632159
You aren't training for arm wrestling so it's no wonder you lose

>>76632159
But can you beat him in a thumb war?

>>76632159
Dumbass

>>76624040 (OP)

It's passive aggressive - your father does not want you to own him. Nearly all men begin to get hostile when you start to appear to make the progress they never had.

>>76624040 (OP)
you need to assert dominance by fucking your mom in the ass, filming it, and showing him

>>76625064
same. My future sons better surpass me

>>76624040 (OP)
>>76633868
Listen to the man, anon. It's the only way.

>>76628760
the sad emotions for his decaying body are stronger than the happy emotions for his strong son, so a narcissist

>>76624056
My father is hitting his mid 60s soon and still hits the gym on occasion. He still gets compliments because he still has a decent amount of his size left and has insane arm insertions
Both my brother and I lift and he's always been supportive: he was my introduction to weight lifting back when I was barely 12 by showing me proper form on lifts

>>76624056
>Most dads are like that
Maybe your shitty dad, faggot.

>>76625603
Is that stache achievable natty?

>>76635226
No, you need some mustache wax. Easy and cheaper to make it yourself instead of buying

>>76624040 (OP)
my dad treated me like this when i was 9 years old because i was social and had girls crushing on me and he was always a loser. I hated him back then and i hate him more now that im older and have better perspective to understand just how shitty of a father he was.

>>76624040 (OP)
Thankfully mine isn't like that

He just hopes I'll not end up roiding

>>76625869
>>76625855
Interesting. I've seem this kind of people before

>>76625882
>bulky" and "manish" I've become since I started lifting, and keeps telling me to stop going to the gym because it's "unattractive
Did you fell for the powerlifting hole or is she fat?

>>76626917
Based good luck with that. Is your mom a nurse by chance?

>>76628508
Mogg him with your biceps

>>76628899
Yes. Desperate for sex with muscular boys...

>>76628738
That's probably just his idea of trying to relate and impress you a bit and doesn't realize how it comes off.

>>76624054
My dad never made any comment about any of the bunch of feeziks i had or told me if gymming was right or wrong. When i started to get visible results he still didnt say anything, but you could see he was proud as fuck. The women in my family are all seething in some way. Most of them have been spinning their wheels for their entire lives because they insist in investing filthy amounts of money on esoteric shit instead of going for a fucking 30 mins walk. Some are more agressive about it, some force themselves to act like they dont care, but you can still feel it. The ones that seethe the most are my sister (eternal contrarian, now full time brainrotten feminist) and my aunt (she believes in shit like praying to the sun, chakras, indian "medicine" and shit like that). They anger is delicious, i dont even try to argue with them, i know only my presence is enough for them to go gorilla mode

>>76624040 (OP)
So glad my father was nothing but proud when I did sports growing up and fostered that...

My dad has always been supportive of me exercising and lifting. Actually he's been supportive of me and my siblings in life in general. Thanks dad. Mom too. It's nice to have good parents.

>>76628508
Sounds pretty familiar
>lost 100 pounds
>dude you don't even look like you anymore and other snide comments
The truth is most people want you to be fat and worthless so they feel better about themselves. Any amount of self improvement will make them seethe because they're not doing it. People think there is only heaven (pure good) hell (pure bad) and the material realm (neutral). I'm thoroughly convinced there are steps between those and we're in some lower realm that's not 100% hell but certainly not at all "neutral".

>>76629148
>You only get one dad, help him get healthy.
I hope none of you itt are falling for this. I helped my Dad almost every day of my life which was a huge mistake. They will get old and demented and turn on you like King Lear and leave you nothing and everything to any of your dead beat siblings who never visited them or helped them. There's a reason most successful people choose colleges as geographically far away from their parents as they can achieve.

Men with feelings of inadequacy will always try and tear you down. They're too weak willed/ have given up to improve their own station in life. Resentment is shown to others, usually through passive aggressiveness, who don't consign themselves to the pain of transformation.

>>76624056
>Most
not even close

so glad I don't come from a fucking trailer park or minority household like you faggots. My family always support me. Sometimes they are probably too supportive if anything.

>>76626970
you fucking vicious serpent. you fucking filthy little excrement. how dare you say something so hurtful for no reason to someone. dude opened up before us and what you do is sting him exactly where it hurts. I hope you die in your sleep tonight.

>>76637217
My Mother was making $150,000 in the 1990s when that actually meant something. My Father left behind a business worth millions and I am for sure whiter then you. I'm glad you hit the family jackpot anon but it's very naive for you to assume it's that way for everyone. Also they will get old and possibly leave everything to charity because a celebrity told them to while that celebrity leaves everything in a trust that their children will run so instead of being charitable they're just cheating taxes and probably making their children jump through hoops from beyond the grave.

>>76635556
>Did you fell for the powerlifting hole or is she fat?
I do basic upper/lower split and box. She's heavier than me now and that's when she started getting more vocal about telling me to stop. I went from 150 to 135 at 5'6" and she's like 145 at 5'5". She also doesn't exercise at all.

>>76624056
Only ethnic dads, you guys are exposing yourselves as brown

>>76624063
When you're bulked up you can beat their asses though

>>76625855
Thanks chatgpt
I mean that

>>76628905
Saaaaarrrrr

>>76639376
how would you know? unless you're... brown...

>>76639376
>>76639736
Both wrong. niggers don't have fathers they just lay egg spawn suck each other off then die

>>76625855
Victim complex.

>>76640268
Oof, that's just embarrassing.

>>76640289
i know, and i had to wait to delete it.

>>76624040 (OP)
>dad sees creatine in the pantry
>googles "creatine side effects"
>reads off the list with a smug expression as if he is an expert

I should beat the shit out of that cheating tranny porn watching sack of shit

>>76624040 (OP)
Tell him to stop and if he doesn’t then make fun of him back for being insulting his son constantly.

>>76640306
it has zero side effects though

>I should beat the shit out of that cheating tranny porn watching sack of shit
you should

My parents are afraid of whey. They’re convinced it’s a type of steroid

>>76625235
>being obsessed with a deadbeat dad
waste of time and energy

>>76624056
>Most dads are like that
you live in a shitty place. move to a better environment