Thread 76746535

>About to reach a flat bench PR
>Share it with family and some "friends"
>Be told by most people that I'm "ego lifting" and that there is no need for what I do
People in general are just crabs in a bucket, aren't they? My goal right now is also lmao2pl8, it's nothing extraordinary. Granted none of these people lift

>>76746535 (OP)
Based family and friends

>>76746535 (OP)
I have a friend who keeps insisting lifting is just a phase even tho I've been dialed in for 4 months with no signs of slowing down.

It's just their own insecurities and personal failures surfacing. Don't take it too personal. I've found the best strategy is just not to bring it up. Luckily my family is very supportive. And while my GF (understandably) complains I talk about my physique too much, I can tell she finds me way fucking hotter now.

>>76746535 (OP)
u know talking about ur goals makes it more likely for u to not achieve them right
i cant link it because this shitty ass site thinks linking the article is spam but heres the text

>The researchers concluded that telling people what you want to achieve creates a premature sense of completeness. While you feel a sense of pride in letting people know what you intend to do, that pride doesn’t motivate you and can in fact hurt you later on.

>When you write down or think about your intentions, there’s a gap between where you are and where you want to be. The compelling need to close this gap helps you to act on your intentions. But when you let others know about it, the gap closes because you (artificially) feel the same way you should after completing your intentions.

>The main takeaway is this: You’re better off keeping your thoughts and plans to yourself if you want to get things done. The next time you want to complete a goal, put your head down and get to it, instead of telling everyone around you.

>>76746592
Based, keep lifting anon.

>It's just their own insecurities and personal failures surfacing.
I've found you also have to be careful around people when you have success in any particular area that they might be aware of. Some people just want to see you fail if they see you're progressing as a person

>I've found the best strategy is just not to bring it up.
I definitely won't with anyone that is not supportive. I just felt happy about an accomplishment and wanted to share it, but I see that to some people that might feel like a personal attack (since they're lazy slobs)

>>76746605
>Studies show
>researchers concluded
I don't care

>>76746609
fuck it not sharing any studies with nu-fit again
dipshits

>>76746535 (OP)
You've got to start witholding sex.

>>76746612
Heh dont cry bro I appreciated the info even though I heard it before. Chin up buttercup cup.

I never tell anyone how much I can lift.

>>76746535 (OP)
Have you considered that this might be a nervous and ignorant attempt to placate or even protect you rather than a malicious plot to drag you down? You said yourself these people don't lift, why are you even sharing this information which would be almost meaningless to them if not for the sake of your ego?

How did these conversations even go?
>Hey Anon, how are you?
>GREAT, I'M GONNA FLAT BENCH 225 LBS
>(wtf is a flat bench? he's going to lift up my body weight? that sounds dangerous, the tv said these guys use proteins and then ego lift and break their backs, damn better say something) O...oh wow haha that's so much, don't hurt yourself or do that "ego lift" thing Anon, you're big enough already

>>76746625
>>76746626
It's like telling people your net worth. Sure, you're probably stoked to be making a lit of money, but telling people isn't a good idea. Just flex in good taste.

>>76746626
No one is immune to wanting to project and appease their own ego during interactions with others, but there is nothing inherently bad with sharing your activities, goals and achievements with people close to you. It's very human.

This "sigma male" meme where a man must keep absolutely everything to himself is gay.

>>76746637
I am completely immune to this though.
I always hate when normgroids ask me to introduce myself, I don't know what to say.

>>76746535 (OP)
Yeah man it's pretty blackpilling when you share success with others and they put you down for it. I've learned just to never share success with anyone

>>76746637
There's nothing inherently wrong with a man sharing his emotions, either, and it's a very human thing. Still an awful idea, though.

>>76746642
>always hate when normgroids ask me to introduce myself, I don't know what to say
We need to go back to Victorian social customs. Last time autists could just read a rule book and get everything perfectly correct. You aren't supposed to introduce yourself; the host or a mutual acquaintance is supposed to introduce people to one another. They aren't supposed to put you in front of a crowd, either, but pair you off or at most very small groups. Normies have no sense of basic etiquette, and it took me 30 years to figure out that they were wrong for talking shit about me for not liking people reaching over my food.

>>76746665
I just defaulted to saying some random shit like I have 2 sisters and a dog, my parents sent me to an art school which I didn't like etc blah blah everyone rolls their eyes and we move on, my autism works out in favor sometimes because nobody ever wants to hear more.

>>76746669
See, in this case, you're talking about other people (your sisters, what your parents did, even your dog), when people would prefer to hear about your own interests and accomplishments.

>>76746680
I'm not sure how I was supposed to have accomplishments in kindergarten, preschool, school, university and other arbitrary normie shit, it's completely different from presenting myself to a potential employer or anyone who's not vapid and talking to me out of technical necessity, asinine niggerbabble.

>>76746690
You probably have accomplishments that you aren't aware of, which are appropriate for your age. For instance, I learned (really basic) front-end web development in high school. I could have coasted through part of college just mentioning that I liked building websites and that I volunteered helping the homeless.

You could probably start a normie art blog or something and use it for social capital, especially among SJWs. For instance, write a short essay on how Frida Kahlo's The Two Fridas reflects her loss of identity after her divorce from Diego Rivera. Specifically highlight that there is a more European Frida and a Mexican Frida, indicating that her racial identity was a large part of it.

>>76746705
Why would I ever mention some highly technical stuff to normgroids who aren't my employers/business partners?

>>76746709
Just say, "Yeah, I'm in art school and I have an art website." If they want to know more, you can just babble. It would be less awkward and buy you the time needed to turn it around and get them to talk about themselves.

>>76746715
I'd rather just not be in big groups of normies where it's expected to be a boastful fag about shit nobody cares about.

>>76746646
>Still an awful idea, though.
I agree and have learned my lesson

>>76746718
It's not really boastful to say that you go to art school and have a hobby. Just keep it simple to begin with. If other people ask about it, either they're interested in art or more likely in you, and they're just using that as a sort of port to make the connection. You probably don't care about these people now, but trust me, as you get older, knowing that you have some sort of social safety net is very important. Meeting people is also how you get good paying jobs, spouses, etc. You might get approached by some old guy who you don't care about, but he's scoping you out to introduce you to his daughter, who has a daughter your age, and she's actually really cool.

>>76746729
This has to be some advanced level bait, desirable women don't need their father to walk around trying to get rid of her.

>>76746729
Here's an example:
My friend Joey was a wigger, and he used to cut trees for a living for a while in between selling drugs.

He was approached by a man in his mother's church, and Joey mentioned that he used to cut trees. Now, this guy didn't like Joey at first, and Joey didn't give a shit. But the guy mentioned he owned a tree service. Joey's mother later suggested that Joey should meet up with the man's family at a get-together, and she made sure he was presentable. At the get-together, it turned out the guy had a hot daughter. Joey cleaned up jis act over the course of a year, started making a lot of money working at the tree service, and married that guy's daughter. He is now in the will.
>>76746734
If she is from a good family (ie worth a shit), her parents opinions are what's most important.

>>76746742
Good family won't go around trying to get rid of their kid to some random man on the street.

>>76746744
I didn't say he would go around trying to give his daughter to hobos. The opposite, in fact. He is making sure she ends up with someone who has a job, a future, and is respected by the community.

>>76746747
I'm neither of those btw, my biggest achievement by far is dropping university because it was full of even bigger autistic retards than myself.

>>76746751
Find something you like and brush up on your social skills. There's a synergy between the two. When you've found the thing you like, mention it in a social setting and someone will have an opportunity for you.>>76746744

>>76746757
accidental reply my bad

>>76746757
>yeah bro, I like lifting weights and playing videogames 16 hours a day.

>>76746762
>I'm considering being a personal trainer, but I'm also considering being a nutritionist. Can you give me some advice?
Sounds normie as fuck, right?

>>76746764
I've never been to a gym in my life and if I wanted to meet retards who need lifting or dietary advice on a daily basis then I probably would just go to my nearest gym, I prefer lifting at home though because there's no stress to get it done fast.

>>76746774
Would you be interested in talking to people online and giving them advice, or maybe visiting them at their house for a one on one session for a lot of money?
(telehealth, online coaching, offering online courses)/ (average $29/hr in home personal trainer)

>>76746788
No.

>>76746788
*independent contractors who are personal trainers make $50-100/hr, but there's overhead

>>76746790
I guess there's always the possibility that you just have a bad personality lmao

>>76746793
Yea, not a cuck = bad personality.

>>76746796
Yeah, being paid to tell someone to do fewer, heavier reps is being a cuck lmao

>>76746807
>being paid to injure people
and I'm the one with a bad personality? I'd chop you into tiny chunks for free.

>>76746814
You can tell them to lift the bar 30 times if you want. You're the expert.

>>76746535 (OP)
Why are you filming yourself?

>>76746816
I have better things to do than instruct retards who cannot figure trivial things out.

>>76746818
I film all my PRs for posterity. On sundays/off hours though, when the gym is empty.

>>76746837
Whatever you say, faggot

>>76746839
It takes one to know one, so right back at you.

>>76746831
But my joints hurt all the time. I'm 120 pounds and curl 5 lb dumbells in 5 sets of 3 every weekend. I just started eating a dozen raw eggs every day. I'm willing to pay $75 an hour. How do I make gainz?

>>76746848
Haul your money to a cooking class lil bro.

>>76746864
Thanks, the local community college hosts LGBTQIA+ friendly couples cooking classes, and my parter will just be over the moon!

lmao

>>76746864
>lil bro.

>>76746535 (OP)
>People in general are just crabs in a bucket, aren't they?
Yup. It will get even worse when you hit your goals, too. Everyone has that one cunt family member. Just start cutting people out of your life.
We're all gonna make it, bro

>>76746637
It's sales 101.
Let them see you shine, never let them see you sweat.

Philosophically speaking God is no longer God if mortals see him bleed.


I dont want people to think I made it through hard work and effort and that they too can be like me if they try hard enough.
I want them to think I'm fucking awesome and everything just comes easy for me.

>>76746881
lil bro! Ha! Kids these days. I remember back in my day, about 30 years ago, we stopped saying "Daddy-o" and started saying "cat." Like, "That's a real smooth cat over there, he's got a way with the ladies."

>>76746535 (OP)
People just suck. I had a female friend who would always tell me I looked good already and she didn't know why I did it. Suffice to say I stopped hanging out with her.

>>76746890
picrel, btw
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cherry_Poppin%27_Daddies

>>76746844
Oh, you're 14. That's cute.

>>76746928
The whole thread I've had the Edgelord theme song stuck in my head
https://youtu.be/izDLK1mseTM?si=ygLTFY_xWhXXRQJO

>>76746535 (OP)
I dont tell anyone I lift and never talk about it unless someone else brings it up in conversation. Ive never had anyone give me negative input like that (other than here). Did this actually happen??? Probably not.
Congrats on your PR that's great.

>>76746968
My family has always done shit like OP described, so I believe him. Even stuff like cleaning the house, everything I do had to be downplayed. For instance, "I saw you cleaned the shower... a little bit" if for some reason they had to recognize it at all. Some families are just bad.

>>76746978
>niggers want some credit for some shit they s'pose to do you

>>76746992
The shower example was actually on my mind because I was staying at my sister's house over the weekend a while back and the place was filthy even though she was having family over. Not something I was supposed to do, strictly speaking. However, it was basically the same when I was growing up in terms of cleaning the house (I was the only one doing it, everyone complained the house was dirty, everyone talked shit if I cleaned something). They even got me diagnosed with OCD because I washed my hands too much (which yes, is something you are supposed to do).

>>76746992
Positive feedback is a thing and it gives better results than negative feedback.

People that attempt to belittle others do that because they're either inherently evil, and/or because they've been belittled themselves and that's all they know

>>76747035
wtf is "washing too much"

>>76747077
checked
I mean, he does have a point about people fishing for praise on basic shit, but there was no reason for them to put me down for doing basic shit, either. And it wasn't just basic shit, it was everything.
>>76747098
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monk_(TV_series)
This TV show came out when I was a teenager. My family are all slobs, so I would wash my hands somewhat often simply because everything I touched in the house was slimy. Therefore I had OCD.