Thread 76774020

How are my fellow uncs doing?
How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work? My MMA classes changed schedule, and now start as soon as I finish work, and come home too tired after work.

>>76774020 (OP)
lift during school/nap time
schedule hobbies in evenings/weekend around wife/kids' extracurriculars
work? stay at home and make the woman do that. they wanted suffrage so bad, go out there and earn it

>>76774020 (OP)
28 living with parents. Cant believe they want me to get a job. They’re trying to ruin my childhood!

>>76774031
Where’d all the time go bros?

>softwarefag
>work from home
>work at most 15-20 hours a week
>wake up any time between 11 and 1, depends when first meeting is
>glowing peer/manager reviews every year
>read, shitpost, lift, cook until 2-4AM

can't complain

>>76774020 (OP)
I work 4 on 4 off and night shift. so I have a 4 day weekend plus time in the day before work to go gym/watch anime/masturbate/play vidya, etc.
it's a very good life i'm living at the moment

>>76774053
>>76774055
i need a new job for sure

>>76774053
Same
>remote server went down
>wake up at 11am to text from 10:30am
>"Hey I know this is early for you but someone is going down to push the power button on the server right now if you can be ready"
>Oh shit, run to computer.
>Server on and hasn't turn itself off again.
>Run commands I already prepared the night before to stop it from wrongly powering off.
>"I think it's good now"
>Make breakfast and eat in front of the tv for 30 minutes.
>Go for run at 3pm while the sun is still out
Life's good

>>76774020 (OP)
Home gym just before shower and bed. It's the only way to squeeze it in.

>>76774068
>>76774053
i getting an AWS hope to get a server job, if not some SOC. Thoughts? t.30

>>76774060
take what's yours brother

>>76774078
certs help but all of these will help more
>4 year comp sci degree
>understand the HR/AI system which will be autorejecting resumes and game it
>moderately complex personal projects available on gh/codeberg/etc
>contribute to or be an active member of open source project(s)

>>76774088
nice copypasta lmao

what drives people to copy and paste demotivational shit like this? it's so weird and sad

>still thinks it’s pasta”
>double posting
Uh oh copey o

>>76774088
So your average fitizen then

>turning 31 in four days
>broke up with my gf few days ago
>been slacking with working out
>not sure if work is going to extend my contract so possibly going to be a neet soon

overall has been a pretty good year, lost my wizard powers, working for a living for the first time, first gf and finished my stupid degree.

>blissful silence and mental stability cultivated from months of self love and nurture
>meet girl
>shes the one
>she isnt the one
>mentally destroyed
>repeat

>thread about lifting and lift achievements
>it’s just uncs whining about the “one that got away” except there not in high school anymore
Sheesh

>turn 30
>really want to turn my life around before 31
>keep falling into the same traps and habits
How the fuck do I make real lasting permanent change and avoid temptation?

>>76774159
They're*

Another illiterate zoomie :(

>>76774200
You're aiming too high, you have to start small and let the small achievements snowball. What's one small realistic goal you'd like to achieve anon?

>>76774238
> reddit spacing
Oof

>>76774242
I don't want to drink alcohol, so one small goal I can make is instead of going to the store every week, I go somewhere else
But then something happens or I become stressed and all my planning and that goes out the window

>govt shutdown
>furloughed
>plenty of time to lift and do hobbies
>gonna get back pay anyways

I accepted that I am gay recently

The only time I have to lift is after they are asleep in the two hour window before the gym closes at midnight.

>>76774088
you're probably weird dude. every guy who says they cant get female attention has the worst fucking personalities. girls want really just one thing and that's for you to be able to impress their friends and family. if youre weird or trying to be like andrew tate or talking about shit you would say to other men, its weird and an instant no. short fat dudes fuck girls that are way above their level if theyre charming, confident, and funny. don't get mogged by a fatty dude. lighten up, watch like love island or some faggot shit so you can talk to girls about absolutely retarded girl shit. I promise you, that one day if youre smart you will do what I'm saying. the entire time you'll be thinking it's so retarded and it will just keep working, you'll be balls deep cumming in some 24 year old idiot thinking "holy shit that guy was right"
you're welcome

>>76774087
>>76774068
i'm thinking of specializing in biomedical device cyber security. i have the field engineer experience working on the actual machines (electronics specialist for OEMs), but no security experience. am i barking up the wrong tree to try and compete with all the actual cybersecurity bros?

>>76774460
if you're competent with unix command line and decent at CTF/hack the box type challenges, you're probably good. otherwise might want to try starting in a different role and pivoting within the company once you study up. i know nothing about that field desu but all cybersecurity can be competitive

is anyone else the only one left in there friend group that still lifts?

I'm only 33, most of my mates younger and tried getting one back on the horse, and he says "We're adults. we dont have time for that shit" .. like he's nearly 240lbs and thinks as long as he makes $$ its fine

>>76774020 (OP)
>40+
>No gf not married but have 2 children out of wedlock
>Never been in serious relationship
>Have no motivation and neet right now

So i don't know anymore. Is it too late bros? Feel everything is meaningless right now

>>76774020 (OP)
For me, it's more a question of energy management than time management, as my work often entails physical labor. I can train before or after work, but then either my performance at work or my training suffers.

>>76774020 (OP)
I have two kids and third one on the way. My fiance and I take turns watching the kids so both get some alone time. I make do with what I have.

33. Just hit 1/2/3 this year after a long time of spinning my wheels. +5lbs a workout is not happening. +5lbs a week is still very difficult. Last time the 3pl8 squat gave me a tension headache for 24hrs. Got a kid and a job and wife so 7hrs sleep is my max for a while.

Any recs for a different style of program? My routine is basic af, 3x week alternating squat, bench, ohp + accessories (pull ups, chin ups, dips, curls, tricep extensions, cable rows)

Im 31 still living with my parents. I was doing really good but developed mental health problems

Im doing good now but I lost 10 years of my life to that nonsense. How should I speedrun 31-35 so I can gain 15 years of experience? Tips?

>>76774020 (OP)
Honestly, I have taken the entire year off, because I just don't feel like lifting anymore and I don't have the energy, either. I still think about it every day, but I'm not sure I'm ever picking it up again.

>>76774020 (OP)
>How are my fellow uncs doing
peaking, feels like my life is just getting started

>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
I'm a writer and researcher, do most of my work at home.

>>76774020 (OP)
Yeesh, there's exactly two types of /fit/izens with apparently no in-between
>4ever alone khhvlmnop blackpilled doomers
>The guy from 50 Shades of Grey

>>76774088
>got the decent job (92k before tax)
If this is USD in USA, then I found your problem

>36yo, 185cm 77kg, 4 pack
>rock climbing 3 times a week and calisthenics 2
>always injured somewhere because of forcing too much but that's how it goes I guess now
>quit my job and travel abroad 1 year every 3, still managed to get some kind of career
>dropped it to cook in a nice burger restaurant for 30€ an hour
>10 years with same gf, fucked her this morning and also yesterday, she said I could cum on her face so I did, most went on her chin and hair
>norwood 2.5 but wear a cope cap and cope long hair
>body count goes from triple digits to single digit if you don't count the hookers I had in SEA

>>76774295
Cope

>>76774055
What do you work anon

>>76774892
you've been posting this webm of you doing a v3 for ages now, didn't you climb anything else?

>>76774020 (OP)
>too tired after work
This is such a fucking cop out
Stop being lazy you fucking retard

>>76775007
I've only converted two of my recorded climbs to webm format, so whenever I feel like posting any it's gonna be one of those two. Maybe I'll convert more in the future but it's a pain in the ass to balance quality with the retarded 4MB file size limit.

>30
>6’3 84kg 10%
>3 plate bench
>zoomie spotter at gym today said I don’t look 30
>rich milf I met in Taiwan hitting me up to live with her
>bored with the West so thinking of saying yes and living the sweet sugar life
>always wanted to learn Mandarin
>always liked the concept of starting a new life, it’s like a different reality
>thinking of smoking DMT just before I go to be fully reborn
life is too comfy

>>76774870
Go 1000% all in on learning everything you can about AI in the next few years. Do an online bachelor's degree in AI from some state U (or masters if you already have a degree). Go monk mode until 35 or so. Move to a studio apartment in some super low COL area (like West Virginia) and focus on lifting, learning, and maybe meeting a future wife.
https://online.iu.edu/degrees/artificial-intelligence-ba.html

I think (and this is the opinion of some random idiot so take it with grain of salt) there's going to be a severe recession starting sometime in the next year due to the AI bubble popping. After that, there's going to be a boom period where anyone with basic AI skills will be able to land a solid job. It will be similar to the 2008 recession and the period afterwards (starting in 2011 or so) where people were landing jobs will bullshit certs from coding boot camps. Maybe I'm wrong about this but I think that's your best gamble if you want to land a good white collar job by 35. Alternatively, you can try go be a cop or firefighter or something since that won't be automated and you're presumably /fit/.

>>76774087
>>understand the HR/AI system which will be autorejecting resumes and game it
I have everything else on lock except this part. What do I need to do to not get autofiltered by these niggers?

>>76775280
>>76774870
Doing an online course and going monkmode just means he'll goon all day, get anxiety and stay in the comfort zone. Going to the gym where everyone is wearing headphones and no one talk won't help him much even if he commits.

I'd just get any job and save 10-15k, not hard at all since you live with your parents, should take 1 year max.
Then fuck off to some thirdie place that's not too rough, like Peru, Bolivia Vietnam, Morocco, Senegal.
Once you're there you don't stay in tourist traps with the roasties, you go to max 10k pop cities and just survive there while learning the language. You go out every day and always have a conversation when people come to you, it'll happen a lot.
With your 10k you can last 6 months easily and I swear you'll be another man in the end. Anyone denying didn't try.

When you come back you can do the cookie cutter stuff like getting a good job and finding a wife. It's easy as fuck if you're an healthy male, not an achievement that'll make you feel like you "made it".

>>76774283
>bedtime at 9/930
what are you doing?

>>76774892
>>76775031
Proof that even DYELs can have aura. Good shit, Anon

35 on gibs just focusing on my health. I use my free time to walk and jog, it is a blessing I would be dead otherwise. Down to 190, 6,1

>>76775134
>is this true
>no
>will I post body
>no
>am I actually going to move to Taiwan
>no
life is too comfy

Turned 30 a few days ago.
>Lived 75% of my life since age 19 away from home
>Currently living at my father's
>He's so goddamn negative and complains about everything
>Just woke up again at 5am because he's swearing about some random non-issue
>He'll randomly alert me that he's doing the lawns 3 days from now
>Only ever talks about: weather, traffic or how busy the food store was
>I have a job, but it's a shitty labour job
>I'm doing visual rehabilitation training atm which is expensive af so I don't want to move out
>But really cannot stand living here
>what do

Oh yeah, as far as training. I wake up around 630am, do a morning mobility thing for 20min, try get a bit of study done (compSci remotely at uni), I usually work from 9-5. Eat the second I get home. Try study a bit more. Lift around 7pm. Maaaybe a protein shake after. Unless I go to bed slightly hungry, my stomach feels full and sick. That's pretty much my life right now. And on the weekend I have a root with some bird I'm seeing. Didn't think my life could be this meaningless at 30, but i never lose hope

>>76775031
>>76774892
this retard records himself doing fucking yellows, and badly too, holy fucking shit

>>76775290
so they match on keywords that are in the job description. i wrote a script which had the basics of my CV static (name, work/education experience, projects, etc) and then would feed it a list of bullet points from the job listing. this was used to dynamically create a set of skills/technologies that matched what they were looking for. so if it talked about typescript and vue, those would appear first on the skills section, if it talked about C++ and AGILE those would appear, etc. you don't have to automate it but you want to submit a custom resume for each job that lists as many of the "we're looking for someone with..." from the listing as possible

don't lie and NEVER use AI for any writing. but that's the gist

>>76774870
What's your current financial status like?

If you have like 2k or can manage to hustle it in the next few months, I'd go somewhere on the Mediterranean, any coastal city that has tourism will do.

Go there, get a shack or a hostel and get a job as a waiter in a bar. They will hire anyone with any tiny bit of skills.

You will be work hard, but also will be forced to be among people, learn to socialize, talk to everyone, flirt with women, and heal from shit bothering you. After that you'll probably end the season with like 30k USD saved.

Now, you're unfucked a bit and more social. You can take that money and go to Thailand/Vietman for a year, pay rent, eat and fuck while you learn actual skills to start an online business with the AI skills you learned by listening to >>76775280

>>76774020 (OP)
turning 30 in january

mixed feelings because I feel like I haven't done enough but also it feels like leaving your 20s there's less pressure in a way (maybe it's because the internet acts like you die at 30)

>>76775617
Post climb nigger

>>76775031
>>76774892

brotip dont climb with socks, most importantly it costs you aura and second you cant wear your shoes as tight

>>76774053
>>76774078
Dont fully believe posts like this. This is what it looks like to be an entry level junior whatever in tech. As soon as you get past the 1 year mark, be prepared to work ridiculous hours.
People who stay this way quickly get fired and have a lot of trouble finding new jobs. Even if they do, the team they are working with will quickly find out how incompetent you are. The only thing that can save you from getting fired is nepotism.
Also dont believe the reply of them working as senior with many jobs. None of these folks are telling the truth about actual tech work. There is no such thing as a easy job

>>76775462
kys nonce

>>76774020 (OP)
From 27 to now 37 I've gone from active to inactive, gym rat to lardy, but never fat. In the past 6 months I've accepted the fact that between my age, life, and free time, the only realistic workout routine I can keep consistent is a 3-day/week. I was doing a upper/lower routine for about 10 weeks, but have recently shifted to a PPL and it fits my schedule better. Tues Push, Thurs Pull, Sat or Sun Legs.

IMO once you get past about 35 unless you have some kind of truly physically demanding career, fitness should just be used to stay fit and prevent a sedentary lifestyle. My back, shoulders, and knees don't let me push PB's every other session.

>>76774020 (OP)
this is exactly what starting strength was made more. 3 compound lifts for 3 days out of the week. its quite literally the working mans routine

>>76774279
Way to go, I came out recently to my wife that I am bi. It’s scary

I had not pooped in 5 days, I fingered my ass today on the toilet like I could literally feel my rectum open but I could not poop and I had no urge to shit just constant stomach rumbling so yeah I fingered the shit out of my ass finally.

>>76775854
You're probably just a porn addict

>>76775684
lol but i've been doing it for 8 years and am definitely not entry level

t. merging PRs while smoking weed in underwear and browsing /fit/, woke up an hour ago

>>76774020 (OP)
>start as soon as I finish work, and come home too tired after work.
Yeah i don't go to kickboxing anymore when i finish late and i just do 3 sets of something when i can, that's all the lifting i do now.

>>76775684
kek no. Huge skill issue on your part.
>There is no such thing as a easy job
You work hard in school and the early years to get a cushy job latter. Experience is king. Get it young and you are set. Your issue is you got some entry level easy job and you sat there doing the bare minimum instead of building yourself into an expert

>>76775006
waste industry. easy work, spend most of night shift sleeping too

>>76775855
Try not having a meme diet.

>>76775617
>point is to go up
>going up
>somehow that goal is not accomplished because it's "bad"

>>76775854
Why even tell her that? Just trying to sabotage the relationship?

>>76775926

This is me but I am only 1 year in. I hit the gym during office hours but dont clock out. Always add an extra hour before I arrive, an extra hour as I leave. Glowing reviews too. Considering tech is a bubble and we are getting replaced by Prashdeep Kuhmar Akshit Singh anyway, we need to get the most out of this.

>>76774031
32 and wish i could live with my parents. Those rent costs are ridiculous. Apparently in italy it is normal to stay in one house as a family

>>76775926
>>76775996
>thinking school is harder than real world work
Yeah, neither of you even have jobs

>>76776068
Just being honest about who I am, she took it well and desu it hasn’t come up again. I didn’t do it because I wanted anything to change

>>76776112
I was like that too in my first year. Second year onward I was given a ton more work especially after starting a new project. You can't play dumb forever

>>76776455
Never said or implied that. Maybe the lack of reading comprehension is part of you troubles with work? But go ahead and continue to believe you did everything perfectly to end up in a good place and therefore no one possibly could do better than you

>>76774020 (OP)
I simply go to the gym while clocked in.
they don't care

>>76776603
yea nobody cares nerd, go back to doing your prs or whatever you geeks do

>>76776041
What's your diet faggot

I get to WFH three days a week, so I'm able to lift in the afternoon, then go do a boxing workout in the evening. I'm still weak and slow and clumsy and god awful at anything physical. But I keep trying.

Also I turned 40 today. I guess just not being fat and crippled counts as a victory.

>>76776973
happy birthday mate

>>76776226
Something like half of 20-29 year olds in the US still live with their parents.

>>76774020 (OP)
I'm taking 14 units at community college. I may get an hour or two of free or alone time outside of studying and class.
I'm just glad most of my classmates seem just as exhausted and facing trouble with the same classes. Most are taking half the units and they're a decade younger.

>>76774031
I'm 32 years old. On my 14th gap year. Grown ups need to understand that childhood is special.

I work out at home.and avoid my co workers

>>76774020 (OP)
> 31 years old
> Work from home software engineer making six figures and barely do any work
> Wake up at noon, play Old School RuneScape with my friends and shitpost until 3am every night.
> Kayak fishing on the weekends.
> In my third year of strength training, feeling stronger and healthier than ever
> Aging nicely thanks to years of religious use of sunscreen and retinol
> Wife lost all the weight she gained in her late 20s and just started her second year of strength training.
> Phat ass and toned abs to plap whenever I want. Even hotter than she was when I met her.

My 20s were miserable and now I feel amazing. It's not over at 30 unless you fucked around. The caveat is I have time for hobbies and lifting because I have no children. My friends with children have no free time and all quit working out.

>>76774997
How are you in the grow ups thread and think being normal is imperative for female attention? Just goes to show how guys like you would rather keep being bitter because it's easier than not being weird for 5 minutes.

>>76777375
How long have you been in software for?
I have 2 years of compSci left (studying part-time, remotely). And I'm enjoying c++ and everything embedded. All my elective courses are electronics/physics.
>Just turned 30
>Working shitty labour job
>Feel like I F'd up my 20s even though I did try, lots of bad luck (fractured spine, fractured leg, kicked out of career for coving related shit) and a few other unfortunate things

>>76777375
Is picrel your wife you plap

>>76777445
He's a software programmer, so that pic is obviously him.

>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
I'm unemployed. Jobs take up entirely too much of the day, so I try to avoid them as much as I can get away with.

>>76774020 (OP)
>turned 35 in early september
>libido has absolutely evaporated
I've probably been overdoing SBD intensity over the last few months and plan on machinefagging for at least a couple weeks to see if that helps, if not I'm wondering if I should see a (((doctor))) or just accept being a brokedick boomer

>>76774020 (OP)
>Unc
>more random niggerish talk
kys

>>76777608
AAVE won Timmy.

>>76777730
Oh, you are a jeet; I understand now.
You have turned the internet into a sewer that resembles your natural habitat in India.

>>76777441
9 years. Focus on getting internships right now, and work hard the first 3-5 years of your career, then you can take it easy most of the time. When you interview be prepared to explain your age; if you give good reasons they won't mind.

>>76777445
No, but almost identical body.

>>76777454
kek

>>76774020 (OP)
>uncs
Is this some sort of protobonic onomatopoeic dialect or are you trying to beatbox midsentence?

>>76777854
bet you felt smart typing this unc

>>76777477
Are you overweight?

>>76774031
>28
MODS!!!!!!

32, feel good tbqh
Boxing twice a week and rock climbing 2-3 times as well
I have an issue with my hip but it comes and goes, if I take care not to aggravate it then it's fine
I do essentially nothing at my job and go into the office infrequently which helps a lot with energy, although I'm going to start cycling to work soon which will be tiring for a while

>>76774033

31, used it extremely well and the more independent I got the better I used my time. The only period of my life I feel was to any degree wasted is when my parents had control over it

I'm still agressively living my life instead of whining or settling down, I just fucked a gorgeous twink last night, literally Ancient Greece level of beauty

>>76774029
you see. it's like chess. in chess the king just kind of moves 1 space at a time and just kind of holds down the court. but the queen. the queen does all the work. she's the most important chess piece.
so you see. that's why I can't have a job.

>>76774020 (OP)
I have a home gym. If I didnt, I dont know if Id go. I couldnt imagine fighting traffic and people at the gym during rush hour.

>>76774053
>>76774068

ummm based, am in the same boat
>work at most 3 hours a day
>AI engineer from home (just vibe code most of the work, edit manually if there's any errors)
>praise from CTO
>on standups I just bullshit about upkeeping the GPU instance
>learning different languages during work because multicultural workplace (WFH as well)
>work on side projects
>thinking of getting a second job

>>76775684
Only if you don't know your craft. As a senior in big corp I can wait on simple DB update for 2 weeks (and counting as of now). The higher ups don't want me to do it but DevOps thats slow as mud. I did my part of PoC on standalone self hosted DB, made the code configurable so it can shrimply connect to internal company postgres.

Sitting on hands and either learning udemy course or doing chores around the house is true senior level. Mind you, still in early phases so I have no one to mentor. Life is good.

Just hit 35 and life is only getting better and better. I'm the strongest I've ever been and have the most peace mentally I've ever had in my life. As I get older, I give less of a fuck and let things go easily. Having no kids and no wife helps a lot.

I love getting older, it's genuinely amazing.

>>76774508
>have 2 children out of wedlock
undeniably based, only way to be cooler is if you refuse to acknowledge them

>>76777608
>>76777743
>oh no i have entered a thread filled with things i dislike and am now seething like a woman or homosexual
>how could this have happened

>>76774020 (OP)
Add a light meal in the form of snacks around an hour before you do the thing while still at work, yeah it depends on how strict your work environment is, but overall it shouldn't be a big deal to chew on some dried fruit and jerky.

>>76774272
Play Vidya games instead

I’m turning 35 a neet virgin with 4 cats. Any tips for me?

>>76775134
i wish you well please enjoy your life beware that psychs make you impressionable for a few weeks afterwards so only read based literature and stay away from normies

I don't even know bros but i think i'm below average for my age
>33
>2pl8 bench x 5 reps
>2pl8 squat x 8 reps
>only 30k in the bank
>broke up with girl i was about to marry in may because she didn't want premarital sex
>Live next to parents and have to pay 300 euros per month
>still have my hair
>only two friends that im avoiding lately
>loneliness getting more intense
>no interest for social events
>work is going well but it's seasonal

>>76774053
>>76774068
the only problem with this is Im getting canned every year of two. I go to gym during work, and then get chewed becauce of that. How do I ascend ie, dont get fire for goofing off on company's time

>>76778219
Answer retardants

>>76778219
pretty sure you've posted several times in CBT and you've got a great body no homo.
try taking your cats for a walk in the dog park and wear some active wear.
and actually try talking to women. walking cats will get you some attention so it should be easy walking on the street.

>>76778242
>>broke up with girl i was about to marry in may because she didn't want premarital sex
This has to be bait

I'm turning 35 in a few weeks. I switched to a carnivore diet and have lost 18 pounds since August 11th. Just started lifting again last week so it was all dietary weight loss. Aiming for at least 3 days a week of push pull legs. I don't really care about strength anymore, just trying to get shredded. Huge muscles only attract men, women like ottermode. Trying to achieve 10k steps a day, currently walking about 5k steps per day but a full time job makes that difficult. Trying to get to 10% body fat by the end of the year, not quite sure where I am currently. Talking to a qtπ 24 year old who I want to put babies inside. Life is pretty decent

>>76778069
>Only if you don't know your craft.
Maybe I should be a bit more explicit in what I do. The application I work on is in the middle of quite literally every application this company uses. If anything goes wrong with any of the apps upstream, I have to be on support to see if something is wrong with our app or if its something wrong with the requests from other apps. I also have to make sure data that flows through downstream also is correct and if not, apply fixes to handle errors from whatever updates or mistakes made from upstream.
Our app is also heavily used in real time, think of an airport that relies heavily on schedules and changes made on a daily basis. Its very fast paced and we have to move fast when changes are made.
On top of all that, there is always new features the business wants to make so the development work is there as well.
I guess I'm unlucky to be working on an application thats quite literally used every minute of every day and is why my experience is so different that the "average" tech worker. This was my first job out of college and been here for 5 years now and its only gotten more busy.

And just to add for everyone else who gets fooled by fake tech workers, school work is significantly easier than real world work. You should be getting automatic A's in everything and be finishing semester long projects in just a few weeks.

>>76777913
I bet you felt enough butthurt to reply

As a 24 year old, what are some things I should be doing right now before I hit unc status in 6 years? Life and lifting advice are acceptable.

>>76778687
you must start sucking dick on a regular basis

>>76778078
What we're your 20s like and how much changed from 30 to 35?

Advicebro for me who just turned 30?>>76775595
I feel like my life is yet to properly begin. I feel like I'm just now getting to the otherside of some major injuries (spine) and mental/health things. And I've gone from having zero game with women in my early 20s to being able to pick up girls in public settings without much effort. I really believe my best years are ahead of me.

>>76778687
What I'm about to say is so meme, but one very useful question is "when I'm 30 what will I wish I did when I was 25". 20s is all about trying things and discovering what you like about the world. Small things, done daily, even for short periods of time can sum to big things in 5 years. This is especially applicable to learning a skill.

For myself as someone who just turned 30, at 25 I wish I had:
>give more energy to saying yes and random experiences
It's so easy to try and be optimal with everything and say no to things just because it might mess with diet or sleep or whatever, but truly, new experiences make life worth living and give you mental energy in a way that routine and discipline don't. Humans were meant to be exposed to novelty. Adaptability is the ultimate human gift. You can still train and hit your macros etc. but you can also say yes to just fucking getting out there and meeting people. Sports is a great way to do this. Especially martial arts.
>"Anything but porn"
This is my mantra. I allow myself to drink, smoke, have nicotine gum, do whatever I feel like, as long as it's not porn.
>Seriously considering investing.
If you can put $50-$100/week away into something semi low risk like SPXL and you fuck your next 5 years up at least you'll have $25k sitting around to disappear to go bang some girls asia
>spend even just 30min/day learning a particular skill (such as a programming language).
Even if you never use the skill, at least if you get to 30 and you're still chasing entrepreneurial dreams, you can get a skilled 9-5, rather than just a shit entry-level job to fund your existence.
>Consider your athleticism
Start thinking about involving some level of athleticism in your training. Even if it's just playing a sport 1-2x/week. Look into Keith Baar for tendon training.
>Build your knowledge and network
Look into building a zettelkasten on your computer. And build out a networking page on it, keep in touch with important people.

>>76774020 (OP)
>37yo
>software engineer
>remote job for big software company
>already save 1h commute a day
>workout 4 days a week
>stronger than ever

>>76774020 (OP)
> 32
> Masters Degree
> Married
> Looking to buy a house in the next 2 months
> 100k/year WFH job
> 6'4" 220 lbs
> 2/3/4/5 this year after 2.5 years lifting
> Wife is a stay at home wife and makes me amazing meals each day, amazing massages

I've always been lucky but damn I'm not sure how my life turned out so well. Ended up way ahead of my siblings who are all smarter and more charismatic than me. I always promised myself once I hit 2/3/4/5 I'd just add Reps because there's no need to go higher, but now all I can think of is adding weight.

Downsides to make you guys feel better:
> yellow teeth from 3-4 pots of coffee daily
> Body dsymorphia where I feel incredibly small and weak despite being objectively huge and strong
> Cat won't stop pissing on everything

Felt on edge all day yesterday, snapped at my wife for no real reason, etc.

Looked at my workout app and realized I had lifted hard (plus cardio after most of the time) for 8 days with one "rest" day that really wasn't a rest since we were out all day running around.

All this while in a caloric deficit.

Took a rest day yesterday and didn't do anything. Only did 45 min of cardio this morning. Also realize that last Thursday and Friday at work I barely could think. All makes sense why.

I thought I could get away with it as long as my sleep was good and my HRV was good (been in the 80 to 98 range throughout that time period) but the CNS needs rest days.

Feeling a hell of a lot better today.

Don't burn yourselves out bros.

>>76774020 (OP)
Lift at home, as soon as I get home.
I’m still a single bachelor.
There are no good gyms in my area unfortunately.

>>76774020 (OP)
>30+
its over
>>76774020 (OP)
>How are my fellow uncs doing?
its over>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work? My MMA classes changed schedule, and now start as soon as I finish work, and come home too tired after work.
its over

>>76774020 (OP)

40 here. married, kids, work everyday for the OT. I feel amazing, like Im 20. The only difference is I need to warm up more now and recovery takes a little longer. But other than Im good. I run 20 -30 miles a week and lift a couple days a week. I would be too tired after work too OP, so I just wake up between 4:30 - 5 and get my runs and lifting in before anyone wakes up. I love it

>>76774020 (OP)
35 here, this year has been wild. Wife is pregnant after years of trying and IVF, closing on a house next week, wife started her own company with VC backing. It’s been a lot of good things, but damn if this year hasn’t kicked my ass.
I still find time to work out 4-5 times a week before work. Going in extra early also helps me beat commute traffic. Also for now I have time for my hobbies on the weekends, but I expect that will change with kids

>31
>dad got sick couple of months ago, started recovering but now looks like condition worsened somewhat
>still believe he will make it, though it will probably take a long time
>pretty sure i'm gonna get the remote job for good money i'm currently making assignment for
>not lifting cause of stress around dad
>weightloss stalled
>gonna get back to calisthenics asap
>walking daily
>cooking healthy meals almost every day
>reading a bit but not as much as i would like to
>switched from rolled tobacco to regular weak cigs and lowered the amount
>feel better
>lowered coffee to just one in the morning
>feel better
>stopped taking sleeping pills
>feel better
Eh, could be worse. Life has been a shit affair for me when I was young, especially from college onwards, and still is. Still I believe my life can get better. If I get the job as soon as the winter begins to end I will fuck off to grandpa's old house on the seaside and renovate it, buy AC, boiler, paint the walls, new beds, new fridge, new stove, all those nice things. Then I'm gonna swim in the sea and sip coffee at the terrace of the local coffee place whilst feeling the breeze on my face and looking at the clear sky and the river.

>>76778845
Nice man, well done.
What's your masters in and what do you do for work? Post fiziq?

>>76778641
>5 years grinding his brain into stress
I usually do 2 years and then dip
Even if I don’t do anything at the company (first time I barely did shit was in EPAM) because
>learned the stack fully
>get a huge payraise
>get new experiences
I already have 5 companies under my belt and they range from chaos of early startups to megacorpos

First shit I do is get buddy buddy with everyone on team (professionally curtious ofc)
Then I learn everything about business goals
Then I automate my job as much as possible

You talk about some internal microservice, SQS or some shit like that yet didnt think of adding elasticsearch with automated warning sending to your email/phone
Hell I would bet my left nut that 80% of your shitty janitor-esque position is repeating couple of commands in terminal you could have automated yet your ego never gave you that idea because “you’re the only one who knows how the system works”
I see how your abstract way of talking about your job is just a huge gap of low self esteem that you try to fill with shitting on new college students

I highly suggest you learn all intricate parts of your stack so you can solve old problems in new better ways and then make automations around your job

>>76774053
Same except while my coworkers love me it's clear to my managers that I do jack shit, the company won't fire me but it's also clear they're never gonna promote me

>mid 30s, single, net worth well into seven figs mostly from biotech trading
>youthmaxxing is main hobby now, stack approaching size of Dave Pascoe's
>face routine 5x longer than Patrick Bateman
>already doing all the shit Bryan Johnson would if he actually read medical journals
>contemplating if RFK Jr. will try to off me if I start longevity influencing

>>76774098
Kids and young adults are bizzare about aging. Over 30? Old
26? Well that's pushing 30, old!

I think it is a deliberate attempt at separating young adults from older adults in order to make them easier victims for predators.

>>76779408
Men are evil. The AoC should be raised to 25 unironically.

I'm 33 and doing great

I was working out again for the first time in a decade for two weeks but got into health issues again and taking a pause. Trying to push down my calorie intake to lose more weight but it’s not as easy when I was 25.

33 with 4 kids.

I was the 4th employee at a tech co that just got acquired. I made about $2M from the sale, had about $1.5M already in home equity, stocks, crypto and cash/bonds. My plan is to pay off my house and then live off dividends/interest. Should be about ~$96k/y (conservative). Not a ton but with the mortgage payment gone that will be more than enough to live on. I was making $320k/y in the role but burned out and the acquisition provided a unique opportunity for me to leave. I can try to get a job again in a few months if I want but not sure I'll want or need to.

I have a home gym with a barbell rack and adjustable DBs up to 60lbs. It's where I work out most days, but I still maintain an LA Fitness membership. I try to go once a week at least just to get out of the house, and also to use the sauna. I was working remotely before the acquisition (for about 7 years), so I've mostly been lifting at home for the better part of a decade now. We moved into this house about 6 months ago and I have a full single car garage worth of space for my gym now which is pretty sweet - it was previously on a small patio-like space behind our townhouse.

Anyway, trying to make lifting my core goal now since I'm a bit aimless atm. Have some strength and aesthetic goals to hit.

>>76779406
>biotech trading
Can you point me to 1 reliable video or book or anything to learn more about this pls

39, 2 kids, married
I havent worked out in years. I was still doing bjj 3-4x a week before my second kid but its just not worth the time investment anymore, especially since rto bullshit and work being insane. if i have free time its much better used going to the basement for drums or playing piano.
i cant bring myself to do weights anymore, its so fucking boring. once things settle a bit i think i want to swim a couple times a week.

I worked out everyday for a year
didn't make me stronger and even after cutting 10lbs i gained back the weight and am now almost 20lbs heavier at 202lbs 5"10, I don't care about the weight it's just funny i started working out to lose weight

>>76774020 (OP)
>after work
kek, i work out during work

>mate said he thought I was 25
I take it this bodes well for my pursuit of an 18 year old.

>>76774020 (OP)
Doing ok. New girl at work has become a lot more touchy feely with me since discovering im not married. Seems us unc still have dome stock value.

>>76780256
how old is she?

Had the weirded night boys

So i recently got single (got my ex coming down tomorrow for fuckery. Shes staying with me in a hotel in london)

Its my birthday so i am in london tonight. Near my hotel is a thai massage place. I decided why the fuck not and paid £35 for a thai massage (i expected a happy ending).

When i went in the girls were sexy. 2 women looking early 30s in tight fitting black clothing.

So they take me to the massage room and it's some thai granny approx age 59 years old.

I figure it's a normal massage. She gives me normal massage then when i am comfortable with boring but relaxing massage she asks me to turn over.

She then asks if i want special and gestures to my cock. I ask how much and she asks how much i pay. I got scammed but we settled on 35.

Anyway she starts wanking me off. I ask to touch her, i see her thinking about it and she pulls out the best pair of tits i seen in my life (she even comments these are natural). I am a boxer and in fight shape, i get the vibe she doesn't usual agree as after she politely shushed me when i commented she has nice titties.

Anyway she wanked me off and i played with her tits. Wtf. Shes old and not attractive to me but in the comment i was super up for it. I came buckets and it was super intense, she was using her finger tips to tickle my body and used lots of oil. I never came like that before. Also i did tell her its my birthday today (it is) so i think thats why she let me play with her titties. I partially fingered her too but blew buckets before i got into it

Happy birthday to me.

>>76780282
I'm very sorry to hear that.

Contractor working with military. I just go work out in their gym when I clock in and leave regular time. Gettin paid to work out

New job so I hope it stays this way, kinda the only reason I've gotten back into lifting

>>76778106
Not the anon you're responding to, but shut up jeet

>>not the anon you’re responding too
It’s you cordie

>>76780282
Based. Well done. I turned 30 last week and I went for a massage at some random massage place. Didn't get offered the happy ending, rip. Next time I'll try a thai massage

>>76779864
>Can you point me to 1 reliable video or book or anything to learn more about this pls
The Biotech Trader Handbook and Pharma Bro's video lectures are both pretty good intros.

Market is still a little shit rn due to RFK Jr. being crazy.

>39
>5’10 shredded
>own my own home
>wife is 24
>generational wealth
>mog zoomers at the gym
>finally moved out of Canada

Have I made it? Uh. Yeah

>>76780680
Depends.
Where did you move to?

>>76780705
New Jersey

>>76780729
Godspeed

>>76774892
video is upside down, he is obviously just crawling on the floor, lmao how do people fall for this

>>76774843
take a look at Jim Wendler 5/3/1, I started it about 8 months ago and my lifts have shot up since then. I go 4 days a week doing the main lifts and accessories. It's been great for me

>>76778829
>DYEL

>>76776226
I grew up in los angeles and there’s no way in hell i can pay rent on my own right now. I would legitimately be homeless without my parents.

>>76779406
What’s the secret sauce for hair loss prevention and regrowth?
Fin kills my morning wood and seems to mess with my moods - on saw palmetto now which at least made the scalp itch go away, but I swear the morning wood is still dicey
Gonna do a consult with a telemedicine company that does topical fin and some other more avant garde stuff
Maybe try RU instead though
Got any career tips, as well?
I have a business undergrad, but flamed out really hard emotionally and my life kinda went nowhere after 25
Seriously thinking about just saying fuck it and going down to Argentina or Australia for one of those seasonal voluntourism gigs, hang out at the gym and work at a hostel or something

>>76779406
>>76781036
One more question - other than tadalafil for erection quality, is there anything for overall sexual response/libido?
Mine is just shot to hell, not sure if it’s from the depression/anxiety or what, but I just don’t get mentally horny anymore. Also got some pelvic floor tension issues

>>76774098
chinese intelligence agencies

shit like this is everywhere on reddit and 4chan

>>76778638
nice tummy :3

>>76774098
Psyop bot farms from intel agencies

>>76781059
Nta, and I haven't tried many supps for that, but Maca in higher doses raised my libido a fair bit.

>40 now
>everything hurts
>lost gains
>still lusting after ~20 year olds

I have the time I don’t have the drive or energy (mental). Like I just feel mentally wiped out.
>work 5am-2/3pm Monday-Thursday
Which means I’m busy 50 hours a week when you factor in the commute. I sleep by around 7-8pm sometimes (lately) I’ve been sleeping as early as 5pm. This means I get a few hours to myself at the end of the day to eat and just stop for a second and relax. I get up at 2am sometimes I can spam out some dumbbells & pushups go on a walk and take a shit before I leave.
>friday
It’s my core day. I go over my dads house do my laundry help him do anything he needs help with go home clean. Generally finish this all by around 1pm. Then I fuck off the rest of the day but with the 1.5 hours of driving and chores I only wanna lay down and scroll.
>saturday
My one true day off. At this point I’m exhausted and don’t want to leave my apartment for anything unless I absolutely have to. I’ll go on a morning walk outside and thats it.
>sunday
The day is spent with this background dread knowing that I go back to work the next day. All I want to do is be slow and do nothing before I have to be the opposite way.
I have old hobbies and interests but I can’t be fucked to pursue them. I have the time with my 3 day weekend. And I have a major opportunity (live on the beach) but I just can’t seem to be fucked to capitalize on it.
How sick would it be to
>launch social media
>post catch and cook fishing videos catered to multiple audiences (fishing guys and cooking people)
>scale that social media to where it earns me money
>use it as an avenue to post physique without blatantly just flexing shirtless in a bathroom mirror, this targeting another 3 audiences (women, fitness, and homos)
>get paid from monetized social media, start selling products get paid more quit job have more free time than ever and use it to actually enjoy life and also further scale this social media shit to where it earns me even more
That’s the opportunity I’m sitting on.

>>76780394
>fag gets told
>"n-not th-that anon"
>"b-b-b-b-but"
>"sh-sh-shut up j-j-j-jeet"
You pathetic queer, you don't even lift.

>>76781323
I waste this opportunity. At some point daily I wonder where my old drive and passion for life I had 10 years ago went. The simple belief that something could lead to pussy was enough to drive me to do the impossible and do it while loving every second. I felt alive. Now I’ve had pussy and I live in a situation that most dudes my age would agree should mean easy mode pussy even for the most socially inept or unattractive dudes. And it’s true it should be, but I just can’t be fucked to care.


It’s not low test. I wake up with a raging boner every day. If I stop beating off I get random boners at work throughout the day. I recover from lifting just fine. I’ve had blood tests it’s fine. I’m just mentally exhausted from life.
And every few days it seems to be something new I have to deal with
>alternator goes
>sink starts flooding whenever a neighbor uses water
>run over metal get a flat
>sink has same issue again
>ex starts harassing me
>catch the flu
>bed goes to shit and develop back and sleep problems
It’s all so fucked it’s never ending and yeah that’s life but it’s exhausting.

>>76780282
great man i don't care

>>76778829
>wears a baseball cap to hide the fact he's bald
>backward
You're a good-looking dude who's in good shape (no homo), no need for the hat, guy.

>>76780282
>>76780357
kek

>>76779246
get your licks in spending time with your dad while you can. they can go from getting unknown sicknesses to dead pretty shortly. last thing mine said to me was that he'll be healthier next time i saw him. the next time i saw him, less than a week later, he was being pulled from life support. happened when i was 30 or 31.

Pretty good. Had fun in my 20s but enjoying my 30s more, I feel more satisfied, stable, relaxed. I'm 35 now and don't feel physiologically different to my mid 20s. Even with baby I get much more sleep then I used to. To answer OPs question, a typical month for me would look like
>4 days a week lifting, 1x mobility class, 1-2x cardio. I might add an arm day, skip a day to something hobby related
>could be 2 evenings of hobby time a month or one full on weekend where I'm not around a month

I'm mostly remote. I wake up between 7.30 and 8, start work 8.30/9. Finish work 4/4.30. Start lifting straight after (home gym). I try to keep weight sessions to 1 hour but tends to be 1hr15 somehow. Start dinner pretty quickly, then an hour or two of baby time. Once baby is asleep I have my call "bs time" which could be time with wife, or gaming with friends or whatever. I wish I could say this where I get reading done, make lasting memories, or I learn a programming language...but no. I try to get to bed earlier than I actually do but I'm asleep between 11-12.
>>76778693
Nothing too complicated really. Obviously it depends what you want out of life. Do as I saBetween now and 35 I would recommend:
>saving and making more money
>training sustainably , avoiding injury. You probably know what movements you need to be careful with and which movements you can ham out a bit on. slowly bulk through winter, slowly cut from spring,
>enjoy the company of the other sex but don't go crazy. Divide partners into "not at all serious" and "potential wife material" but absolutely nothing in between. Consider dating ~5 years younger.
>especially if you see yourself having children in the future, remember this: no free time. Make the most of it, Try to dedicate a bit of time each day, or per week, on a lasting skill, something that builds upon itself. it can be as serious or as trivial as you like.

>>76779377
>assumption this, assumption that, automation!
What part of new features being constantly asked by business do you not understand? Perhaps you don't work in a business that is worldwide and always looking for solutions to make some part easier while also demanding more money from customers.
The fact you keep job hopping tells me you actually don't have any in depth knowledge of the tech stack you used nor the business itself alone. But keep assuming anon

>>76781059
What's your diet? You must be eating like shit to be dealing with depression, anxiety, and a messed up libido. Eat protein and fat. Cut out carbs. Use minoxidil. Quit using finasteride tranny pills. Quit using shampoo. Use raw eggs in your scalp. Get a shower head water filter. Quit being such a faggot

>>76781330
You are indian

>>76780280
22

>>76781036
>What’s the secret sauce for hair loss prevention and regrowth?
CXCL12 inhibitors more than anything, androgens are just a meme.

>Got any career tips, as well?
Just like start a biotech company working on CXCL12 inhibitors for hair, kek.

>Seriously thinking about just saying fuck it and going down to Argentina or Australia for one of those seasonal voluntourism gigs, hang out at the gym and work at a hostel or something
Lots of deadly wildlife both places, but at least they aren't doing No Bennies November, kek.

>>76775660
>leaving your 20s there's less pressure in a way
probably because the fear of leaving your 20s is past

Oh look the usual 30+ thread on fit where everyone is a rich tech worker working remotely doing no work

>literally every single person on /fit/ who’s over 30 is a full remote six figure tech worker
Kek

I can say with some level of certainty that I’m probably the biggest loser here or at least one of the biggest. Turning thirty four years old in a month, and I’ve lived the life of a teenager, and a loser teenager at that. No accomplishments or life development at all to speak of. I’m too humiliated to even describe where I am in life but I’ve just completely given up. For the first time A few months back I had a complete mental breakdown to my parents about how big of a loser I am, how much I want to kill myself, etc. Things were bad but then I decided to just stop expressing those feelings to them and instead just go back to keeping it all inside so that I don’t bother or worry them with it and hope that one day I just get the courage to kill myself, or get lucky enough to get cancer or die in an accident I never saw coming, because those of you in this thread who are successful people (which given what I’ve seen here is most of you) can’t even imagine how boring and miserable life can be. My brain has turned into complete and utter mush. I couldn’t go back to school to improve myself there even if I tried. I have no relationship experience to appeal to any woman. I have no successes in my life to be proud of. Literally all I do is just exist, nothing more. I hate being alive.

>>76783757
you should be a trucker or hair cut person

it doesn't matter how old you are, if all you are willing to do is min wage shit you will always be a loser no matter what age you are

>>76783709
Just like the finance subreddits the ones that are in very good positions are the ones that will speak up and brag about it. The poor's and fatties feel shame and won't speak up in fear of looking inferior or being made fun of. Only like 10% of people actually post, the other 90% are poor, broke and or fat.

38 here. Just recently got out of a long relationship. Being single again is fucking awesome but it’s also fucking lonely as hell sometimes. I’ve been going on some dates with Hinge. I banged a chubby chick and this really sexy Asian girl. But with the Asian girl, I get the vibe that I’m just a dick in her roster or something. Which was kind of disappointing, because I like hanging out with her. We have a good time together and great sexual chemistry. But beyond that, she never reaches out. I’m always the one initiating. It’s kind of offensive because other than being old, I have my shit together. Fit, good looking and good job. Is the game really this brutal now? I’m gonna start cold approaching again.

In terms of fitness, I’m doing a full body routine 2-3 times a week. I just don’t have the energy to go to the gym after work anymore. I was doing full body 3 days in a row and it really shot my system so I’ve been lowering the volume. It’s helped. I injured my back a year ago at work. I completely cured it with ChatGPT by doing a very specific stretching routine, losing weight and practicing better ergonomics when lifting. But when it first happened I was seriously thinking of roping.

>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
36 yo neet here. im going really well. i have all the time in the world.

>>76774020 (OP)
Can I still get decent gains lifting just 3 days a week? Recently became a dad and schedule is still hectic. Aiming to do an Upper/Lower split

>>76774020 (OP)
>uncs
Fuck outta here nigger.

>>76785264
Fellow NEET nigga, what advice would you give to someone 10 years younger than you, who has been a wagie, but now is taking unemployment time with some saved cash

>>76784556
or they straight up lie

>think I fucked up my hand doing bench presses
>find out my routine some Anon recommended me is for bulking and not cutting
>receding front hairline makes me want to blow my brains out
>cannot find a fucking house that's not surrounded by trashy people
>dating apps only give me matches of obese single moms
Yea this shit sucks bro lmfao I'm not doing good.
I need to cut out weed too because I'm realizing I'm using it as a crutch and coping "well it's better than alcohol!"

>>76785632
>alcohol makes you dumb
>weed makes you dumb
Well might as well smoke crack for gainz.

>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
i fit it in later in the day at like 7 or 8pm. or lift during work, i work in industry so there's heavy stuff around.

>>76774098
evil demons in human form are real.
watch out for some around xmas, remember to chime in and help your bros, it may turn someone from suicide to shredded.

32 yo KHV with loose skin from dropping 190lbs. Not sure what I do with my life now. Might move to a small town, get a house and a dog and just live out my life I guess. Hit 200lbs on OHP so thats cool. Hoping to hit 2 plates in 2026

>tfw spent the last year slowly recovering from a herniated disc + nerve damage
We're all gonna make it, bros.

>>76779424
how long to get that bod from skinny? post another photo so i know it's really you.

>>76783709
>>76783699
4chan has been botted to fuck and back, just filter it. It's gonna be even worse this month because of the americlapistan elections coming up.

>>76781059
>Also got some pelvic floor tension issues
Start with some hip bridges, planks, hip raises, and basic bitch yoga. After that just cut out fast food and try to eat more beef, chicken and veggies. Maybe some yogurt to kick-start your gut absorbing nutrients better.

I started doing pistol squats now I have sciatic pain :)

>>76778078
I wish I could experience the gratitude you have. I'm 35, and life is decent enough I guess. I work an important $200k/year job, have a new car, and a townhome, but I feel sad about no wife and maybe no kids. Doubly so because basically all my coworkers are in relationships and they're beginning to call attention to the fact that I've basically been single all the time.

It's not even so much that I can't have sex. I've had sex with 4 different women this year (without paying for it), but they either cut it off with me shortly thereafter or aren't relationship material (one does OnlyFans for work basically). Then I'll get dates, but they'll either be like "don't want kids ever," or have 2 kids from a previous relationship, and the ones I actually want end up ghosting or pursuing other relationships. It feels increasingly hard to compete, even though my 30s have technically been better than my 20s, I worry it'll just be off a cliff again in my 40s.

32 here. Anyone else deal with having no life direction?

I have a job and some hobbies, but I have no passions or interests that make me excited to be alive. I'm bored and nothing seems to change that lately.

Probably depression and I'll be getting back on some meds for the winter, but wonder what you all think.

I am...
le old, and...
le sad...

>>76785795
I highly recommend jiu jitsu honestly. Such a great place to get a community and be around people who are all working towards a common goal. Men need to be around other men and work towards something. Maybe like crossfit or something with classes that you can make friends at.

>>76785702
Try some dead hangs, reverse hypers, and lower back extentions

>>76785810
It aint over. Go to Vegas or some shit and look at the 60 year old dudes banging 20 year olds

>>76785688
how filter?

>qt I had a chance with in my mid-20s pops up on my Instagram feed
>get all melancholic about missed opportunities
>about to say that "some people are meant to be alone"
>realise "some people" would imply other people are meant to be alone too
>tfw don't want that for my bros
WAGMI

>>76785837
im going to die alone and while I dont like it its not the end of the world. I still have my legs, its raining which I like and I have a comedy podcast on. Sometimes you play the cards you are given

>>76785837
I need to get a car...

As a millennial who wants to attract zoomettes, is beard really a turn off? I have a huge beard

>>76785844
>its not the end of the world
Yeah it is, dying without having a woman desire you it's a life not worth living

>>76785844
I believe you'll find someone. I'm sure you've a lot of life left to live, and in Christ, all things are possible.
>>76785848
I keep telling myself that I'll find a better qt than the one I'm melancholic about because I'm in a better position than I was then, and I can drive now too. I just need to lose some more weight so I'm as small as I was back then.

>>76785859
hey man please just let me cope ok?
>>76785860
Nah man its over but its ok! 32 yo KHV, loose skin from weight loss. Its over.

>>76785864
>loose skin from weight loss
Must mean you've lost a lot of weight, impressive. Keep hacking away at life and I'm sure someone will come along.

>>76785869
190 or so. God I am exhausted

>>76785825
Funny, I did read hangs for months but stopped because they hurt my back. I’ll start doing them again.

>>76785810
I had a fucking shit youth so I welcome getting old.

>>76785874
Impressive.

>>76785884
the only times I think about was back when I was like 10

>>76785795
>Anyone else deal with having no life direction?
it's about to have direction, prepare.

>>76785795
>but I have no passions or interests that make me excited
Well now you can fuck around with hobbies until you find something you like. Most of them are free, too.

>>76785825
>how filter
Once a week just open /pol/, find the newest buzzword, and add it to the filter list. It works like 90% of the time.

>>76785850
zoomies love beards because lots of zoomers got tricked into using steroids and are losing their hair.
>>76785884
Based. Same here. We're all gonna make it.

>this board is majority zoomers now
How do we personally cope

>>76778050
Same. I hate people. I've owned a home gym for almost 10 years now, and I've been doing the same workout for 10 years. I have no idea if my form is good or how I compare to others, I just do the same 3 workouts on loop.

>>76778219
Start a bestiality onlyfans where you fuck your cats. Then you won't be neet or a virgin. You're welcome.

>>76779192
It must be nice having a wife who actually brings stuff to the table other than kids and pity sex. Mine has been dead weight from day 1. Its my own damn fault.

>>76774020 (OP)
Work?

>>76780282
35 for topless happy ending is cheap for London. Happy Birthday.

>>76781059
Get off sarms and antidepressants. Sort out your sleep and your mental health.

>>76778219
enjoy your parasites

>>76774098
jews, it's always the jews

> 36 years old
>fit enough
> three year old son
> another son on the way
> make enough to provide for them without worrying an insane amount

I'm happy Guys

>>76779418
This would be maybe acceptable if women were BANNED from sex before marriage.

>>76786596
Are you saying women's sexual liberation is a bad thing? You sound an incel

>>76786599
Kek, can't tell if satire or just bait. I have had sex. The more you interact with women, the more you will begin to hate them.

>>76777477
God, I wish my libido vanished. Tired of beating off every other day at least just so I can sleep easy.
Never going to have the sex so might as well have the extra fapping time back.

I only got fit to start dressing like wes anderson

I'm probably the biggest loser on this entire board. I'm turning 35 in over a month and have accomplished absolutely zero. My life is basically indistinguishable from a teenager's. I'm despondent about my situation and life and it's driven me to the point of suicide. I have absolutely no motivation to change because I feel nothing but utter hopelessness since my self-esteem is non-existent, and also feel nothing but regret, humiliation, and shame for ending up like this. I don't have any friends to improve for, no relationship to improve for, there's no career I strive for, no real goals to strive for, and basically the only family I have regular contact with are my parents and I barely speak much to them, and they have really showed very little care about how pathetic my life has been since I was around 16 up until even now.

>>76785732
You're putting way too much importance and emphasis on all the external stuff and comparing yourself to others. What's the use in that? I know how that feels though because I used to do that too. Felt like I needed to hit certain "milestones" or have certain things done in my life by certain ages.

But then I realised everything's fake and gay and I can just choose to be happy. Was fucking hard to make that mindset shift though, don't get me wrong. The entirety of my twenties were miserable and I almost an herod many times.

But now I've gotten through the storm, and man, life is good. I hope you can navigate through the storm too, friend.

>>76787239
Why bump from 8?

>>76787243
>why post bro?
>just don't post bro
>stop helping people bro
>stop like, making posts on a website fueled by posts bro
you want 4chan to die.
NO I SAY! live.

>>76774020 (OP)
I just go to the gym during the work day.

>>76774020 (OP)
>doing
bad
>time?
i don't. i'm either employed and i have no time to seriously work out beyond some bodyweight stuff as i get up and my life is fucked or i'm not employed and i'm able to work out but my life is still fucked.

and reading about other tech seniors survivorship bias ain't making me do any better goddamn fuck this thread. why am i the one grinding 60-80 hour weeks and sucking csuite penis and managing juniors while all these autistic fucking retard losers get to shitpost on hobbyist boards? fuck this gay fucking country, fuck this whole goddamn planet.

>>76774098
Botted shithole site tbqh

>>76787747
>Your conclusion is your command.

Meditate on this.

>>76774053
same
and im still miserable
im basically ~NEETing buyt getting paid for this and im so sad miserable

>>76774020 (OP)
30m here. still have nightmare about school, like getting late to school for final exam. idk how to heal from it, maybe retake the exam for real.

>>76774053
>lots of free time
>also making money effortlessly
I don't care what anyone say, this is a dream job.

1995 bros, we really 30 now. How many of you have kids now? Most of my friend have a kid a two and they so look happy. They have their own Christmas family photo now. I will find love someday, my dad and mom have 15 years age gap (mom was 23 when they get married), idk if acceptable nowadays I need to get rich.

>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
started lifting at home, take a quick shower afterwards and do other stuff (reading, gaming etc.)

>>76774020 (OP)
I've been having a pain in my wrist for three months ever since going mountain biking and I've been having pain in my left armpit when doing pull ups for the past couple of weeks.
It's over for me.

>>76775031
>>76774892
I would normally never talk down or discourage something climbing but because you spam post the same v3 beginner shit each thread I just want to say that you're a little faggot who needs to climb harder shit. post your gym so I can confirm how soft it is

>>76778234
>psychs make you impressionable for a few weeks afterwards so only read based literature and stay away from normies
this is very important.
i once did shrooms and became a furry and made a fur suit then thought wait... wtf am i doing? good thing is though i can sell it for about 3 times what i paid for materials.
to elaborate i was always furry adjacent but i deliberately looked at anthros and similar before/during the trip. they've just pretty alright!? but for real, guide your trips yourself with what you know is good and it will supercharge you.

>>76780680
>melanated
some things you can't win at, some things really are genetics.

>>76788056
>idk if acceptable nowadays
fuck now days, look to the future.
trad values are coming back, age is less important to actually good women.

>>76788056
Your mom married an 8 year old boy!?

>>76777375
This sounds pretty ideal honestly, besides the no kids part. If you work from home especially it should be easy to raise kids and also balance hobbies. Heck if I became a dad I would do that stuff some guys do in videos where they put their kid on their back while they do push ups and stuff. Incorporate it all together.

>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
I work 12 hour shifts with a 3 on, 3 off, 4 on, 4 off schedule for the back half of the week. So on my days off I lift in the morning and do BJJ in the afternoon.

>>76787747
skill issue

>>76783699
>>76783709
full remote 6 figure tech worker here who takes adderall, trt, kratom. ama

send me your seethes gotta feel something positive out of this soul sucking work

>>76774020 (OP)
>How do you guys have time do lift and do hobbies after work?
Struggling with this atm. There are some gaps in my schedule I could squeeze a workout into but goddamn, I am so tired and sore. My body and mood have been negatively affected by the lack of lifting (winter and working nightshift probably isn't helping either)

>>76789680
Yeah lifting kinda is my hobby.
I also consume media, but that doesn’t really count unless someone is extremely into the exact same shit that you are.
Even then, it’s iffy at best.
>>76789654
How much kratom do you drink?
I’ve been pounding like 50g a few times per day.
Keeps me hydrated, that’s for sure.
I was never worried about it being unhealthy for me, but I got some routine blood work back and my kidney and liver levels are “above average bordering on outstanding,” so that’s tight.

>>76782485
what the fuck kind of advice is this lmao
I can’t tell if bait or if you’re genuinely insane.

>>76790018
i eat the capsules. 50g is nuts though. i think im at like 7 or 8g daily. whatever the amount 15-25 00 capsules is. i dont think its healthy but theres way worse shit you could be doing i reckon.
i was taking 7oh for awhile and man that stuff is legit toxic and unhealthy. doesnt even feel that great either. dont get into that stuff. it fucks your tolerance up too.

>>76787239
Any advice on how you managed that? I for one appreciate the bump.

>I for one appreciate the bump
Bc it was you who did it lol

>>76774020 (OP)
im 32 now, been on fit since 2011, i have no idea what to do next,
>i have money
>achieved the goals i wanted
i live with my parents now, not because i have to, because i spent my 20s working and partying, now i enjoy spending time with them, but i feel like a loser. i dont know what to do next.
>school
i dropped out, maybe i should find a new goal?
>find a wife.
i never liked the girls i was with, should i just hit up eastern europe and find a wife.

im just so lost.

>>76790235
I'm not that much of a schizo to write advice for myself.

>>76774272
Just drink less. Around one 5% beer per hour starting 6h before bed is enough to feel like a human being but not enough to get hungover or anything. Won't get tipsy obviously but it'll scratch the itch, and that way it won't be an all or nothing approach

i turn 30 in a month
feels pretty weird

I’m 28 and just got a new job making 125k and I’m happy because I was a high school burnout and druggie for a bit of my early 20s. Have about 70k liquid and a gf. No friends and pretty mentally ill though. Things could be worse. Want to figure out how to make even more money but that involves wifi money and I just don’t know what to do…

Really weird how I’m feeling my energy get lower even at 28… don’t think it’s normal. Got T checked and it was at around 600.

>>76790661
>I’m 28
>125k
damn im 30 and only have 5k in bank, there was a point where i had 50k

>>76790671
I lucked out but I worked a bit hard. I started making real money when I was 26 and graduated late. I don’t even work in a technical discipline. I come from a lineage of peasants kek, and am not that smart and it’s obvious when I run into real yuppies with high paying jobs. The fact I’m comfortable posting means I’m a bit proud though, even if it isn’t much for a lot of others

Another huge regret of mine is missing so many of the stock and crypto waves. Was a terminally online loser a bit and still managed to make 0 real money when it was easier.

>>76774156
Where do you meet girls. I'm dying for a gf rn. 33 and can't find anyone that isn't fat.
T. Rural unc

>>76790661
>>76790682
What’s your degree in and what do you do for work?

>t. 28 myself and about to start a bachelor’s, situation remarkably similar to what you’ve described

>>76790764
move to a city dude. trust me. I don't know what more people don't mention how much easier it is when there's 10 thousand hot single girls around you.

>>76790764
Seek Christ.

I'm doing ok all things considered, thank you for asking. I'm 36 and I've been a teacher for almost 10 years now. I lift 3-4 times a week, but dont stress about it if life forces me to move my lifting days around. I run, ruck, ski and occasionally swim. I've lost weight, I've gained weight and I'm currently losing weight and gaining muscle. I'm good and respected at my job. Got a personal raise on top of the official nation-wide raises (Nordic country) so thats nice. Have my own row house apartment and a home gym. I've been a bit unlucky in love in my 30's but I'm hoping that'll turn around with this one woman I met recently. Some of my hobbies are on the back burner but overall I have things going on in life. Thee biggest minus is my social life. Teaching is socially exhausting so I dont have the drive to meet new people that often and my old friends (who are still dear and close to me) live all over the place so we dont actually see that often.

But all in all things are pretty okay for me.

Ripped a nasty protein fart just now and it scratched an itch on its way out. Life is good.

>>76790226
Therapy helped, a lot. But it was only a piece of the puzzle. Shrooms also helped, I would say those sort of "capped off" all the work I had done in therapy and on my self the years prior. Also cutting out everything in my life that no longer served me in some way, be it bad relationships or poor habits. I wish it was was easy as pointing to one single thing but it was really a cacophony of all of these things, PLUS all the terrible, horrible shit that happened to me from the day I was born. It sounds weird, but I'm even appreciative of all of those horrible things too, because they've made me who I am and my life wouldn't be what it has been without them in some way, and I really like life now.

>>76774020 (OP)
>go out drinking Friday night
>binge drink like always, get home at 7am
>wake up feeling like shit
>feel like shit all Saturday
>"well fuck that's a day wasted again, at least tomorrow I'll be fine"
>go to sleep
>feel like shit ALL SUNDAY TOO
okay that's a first. my hangovers have been getting worse but 2 days is a fucking joke.

uncs how do I get better at post-binge recovery?

>>76791363
>how do I get better at post-binge recovery?
first you limit yourself to having only one or two drinks. then after a few years you stop drinking entirely. that's the only way to avoid multi-day hangovers now that you're old.

burned out of highschool
moved out at 18 just in time to become a failed normie
by 25 I dropped out of college and became addicted to booze, benzos, and pot.
now in my 30's im still working a dead end job, in debt, and miserable.
but I quit the booze and benzos, now it's pot.
I hope before 40 I can manage to unfuck my health and get a real good paying job and get out of debt.
Didn't really understand how mentally ill and fucked I was from my upbringing untill like 28+ and it's taken years to find the strength to quit substance abuse, porn, and vidya addictions (still losing)
I gotta stop coming here it just make me feel worse

>>76791424
>normalfag
>coming to this board

>>76791426
im probably one of the more sad mentally ill rejects in this entire thread not sure what you mean.
i have no more friends, no wife, no kids, and theres several people in here who do.

>>76791424
You are not alone.

>>76777981
>I just fucked a gorgeous twink last night
That's kinda gay ngl

>>76790778
Christ is a dude wtf

>>76791436
thank you friend

>>76791491
My advice is to quit all types of drug and alcohol completely. The health benefits are immediate, but the psychological benefits can take years.
At the start it feels impossible because what the hell do you do with all the hours in the day, but after a while you realise that's actually the greatest strength of abstention.

>>76791441

No, I fucked him

>>76774020 (OP)
I work 3 12 hour shifts per week, so I just lift on my days off. I'm really looking to move into the tech side of my job (Laboratory Scientist at a hospital) so I can work from home telling my coworkers to restart their computers.

>>76774020 (OP)
I work from home and do a workout while I'm "working"

>>76774020 (OP)
Bad.
>35
>broke
>haven't worked in 4 years
>car barely runs
>alcoholic
>drug addict
>porn addict
>barely finished high school
>dropped out of college
>barely on speaking terms with dad
>mom tolerates me because I do chores and cook
>sleep schedule is a mess
>got fat again
>haven't lifted in months
>haven't touched a woman since high school
>think about death a lot
I'm not a happy person and all I do is mope and feel like life is hopeless. At least when I'm dead none of this shit will be my problem anymore. The only thing keeping me alive is the fact that mom lets me live in the basement, if I was on my own I would have been dead by now.

i would rather just disapear

>>76774272
I'm 3 weeks into staying sober (weed and alcohol). Think about how much money you're wasting to feel sick. For me it's when I think I'm gonna have a fun night getting cross faded and watching movies and playing video games but I just end up unconscious and don't remember shit. I actually like being able to focus on a movie or game for the evening and wake up feeling rested instead of like I'm on the verge of death. You'll feel proud of yourself for making it through the checkstand without a bottle in your cart. Getting drunk stops being fun in your late 20s but you continue to do it out of habit. Right now my goal is to make LPs on Youtube, it's a silly goal but just a hobby, and I sure as hell can't do it if I'm rip shit drunk all the time.

>>76774492
Yeah, all my old classmates got fat. The women still look decent but the guys are all camo ballcaps and beer guts. But they have wives and kids so they obviously figured out something that I didn't.

>>76774508
You have 2 kids and you're still whining? I could live without a woman because they piss me off but not having kids is painful.

>>76775464
How do you get gibs?

>>76775595
Both my parents are like that. Old people get grumpy, it's not healthy for young people to be around them all the time because they're so negative. I can't stand being around my father because he is constantly furious about everything. He explodes from minor things like dropping something that didn't even break. At least my brother and I bond over laughing and silently acknowledging how obnoxious he is when he stomps around the house swearing about everything. It takes us back to how it was when we were kids and we both talked about how we learned to be super chill by not wanting to be like him.

>>76775809
Sedentary life style will leave you feeling more sore than a hard workout routine. My back shoulders and neck are killing me because all I've been doing for the past 2 years is sitting on my ass playing video games. Sitting down all the time is also a fast way to get hemorrhoids.

>>76775855
Stop taking whey powder, that stuff turns your shit into cement. Drink water, eat fiber.

>>76777123
Parents don't bitch about it so much as they age and realize they'll be alone, especially if you live with one parent after a divorce.

>>76776973
You probably look better than 99% of men your age.

>>76777324
Coworkers over 30 are usually sociopath losers or boring normies.

>>76777375
You will regret not having children some day. You are still mentally a child yourself which is why you don't want them because muh me time.

>>76778687
Wagecucking, saving money and finding a wife.
Looking for wife only gets harder the older you get. You either have to day way younger or settle for used up roasties looking for a "nice guy" to take care of their mistakes. Then once she feels like she has you trapped she will start riding the cock carousel again while you're at work.

>>76778829
Great pic, that's good motivation. You look awesome if this is really you. Don't listen to those faggots.

>>76778865
Did you apologize to your wife for being a sperg?

>>76779406
>net worth well into seven figs
Yeah right. People with that much money don't shitpost on 4chan.

>>76780282
The yookay is becoming a pretty wild place.

>>76780968
California is a fucking joke. I live in norcal and the cheapest place to rent in my city is a trailer park in a shitty part of town for like 1300 a month. I'm living with mom and saving up money so we can move to a state where people can actually afford to at least rent a house.

How long should it take a 30+ lifter to hit 1/2/3/4? I've always lifted casually, like since I was 15-16, so I have an okay base. I've been doing *actual* strength programming for 2 months or so and I'm at 95/145/195/315 (all 3x5 except DL). This weight feels heavy to me but I'm still making progress. Still, 1/2/3/4 seems very far away on bench and squats


>>76792065
You might be surprised

t. fellow multimillionaire (made it mostly from crypto, lifelong shitposter here)

>>76781036
Nothing. Stop wasting money on snake oil. A lot of men go bald, accept that you're not going to be 20 forever. Grow up an stop letting women make you feel self conscious.

>>76781059
Squat a lot. And I don't just mean lifting. Like just chill on the floor in a really deep squat and kind of bob up and down, it looks retarded but it''ll loosen up the pelvic floor tension and work the fuck muscles.

>>76781332
>I wonder where my old drive and passion for life I had 10 years ago went
I never had drive. I've been depressed since I was a kid. There are elderly people with more drive than me. The only time I got decent gains was when I was munching on weed gummies for hours in the gym.

>>76781332
It's all so tiresome. You filthy kikes can have your nigger world, I'm out.

>>76782485
>Use raw eggs in your scalp

>>76783699
It's just kikes trying to make it sound like everyone made it but you so you don't even try.

>>76783757
I know how you feel. I'm in the same boat and don't know how to get out. I've been a potato for so long I have a hard time functioning in society. The only confidence booster I can give you is that you don't have debt (hopefully) and you're not in and out of the prison system. Imagine what it's like for parents that have retard children that are constantly in trouble with the law and have a gambling addiction or something.
I'm at rock bottom again and all I can think of to get myself started again is to stop drinking an smoking. I still feel like shit but at least I have mental clarity and I'm not thinking about suicide the way I do when I drink.

>>76784561
You'll have better luck IRL. Women on dating apps are all losers.

>>76785536
Don't take too much time off. Get back to work and save money. Your social skills will atrophy and you will develop bad habits with all that free time and internet access if you know what I mean.

>>76792082
it depends a lot on size ofc
if youre a manlet its much harder to do. like a year or year and a half is probably a fair bet. i can only do 1 and 2 though. i dont squat and deadlift irregularly

some people will tell you they did this or that in 3 months or whatever the fuck, i dont think its worth paying attention to. just look at exrx strength standards or whatever and see what would be normal for your weight and time lifted.

Larper general btw