>>76803119 (OP)
1st thing you need to do is make sure she has a DNR & DNI POLSTs:
>Do-Not-Resuscitate.
>Do-Not-Intubate.
>Physicians-Orders-for-Life-Sustaining-Treatment.
POLSTs are Medical Advance-Directives (legal documents that state what a living competent person wants when they are incapacitated, incompetent, or dead) that are signed by a MD who agrees.
Yes, you can make it so in the DNR & DNI that she at least is given Pain-Relief Medication to make her natural death as painless as possible.
I'm sorry but Dementia (4/5x Alzheimer's) is a slow painful death-sentence. IMO, it's worse than Cancer cause at least Cancer doesn't take away someone's spirit every single time - Dementia does.
What's gonna happen is that her brain is going to continuously deteriorate and increasingly her level of dependent-care will increase to the point you'll eventually need 24/7 Professional Caregiving by an HCP. Before that, there'll be this period where you'll insist you can care for her but you won't be able to. She might accidentally hurt herself often to the point that it'll be reasonable to argue you're committing Elder/Patient Abuse simply by Severe Neglect. The level of stress and difficulty from dealing with your mom will give you Caregiver-Stress and you'll have these deep dark guilty thoughts of you hating her for being such a pain in the ass in being difficult to care for; God Forbid you snap a couple of times.
Dementia is Hell. Don't deny your Mother the chance at a Natural-Death when the moment presents itself. You're not being moral continuing to let her live as long as possible. The worst I ever saw a Severe Dementia Patient that a Grandson wouldn't let go was she had like ~15 Pressure-Ulcers all over her (Stage 4 at her Tail-Bone), weighted only ~78lbs, and she'd constantly reflexively try to "bite for food" but the moment anything was in her mouth she'd spit it out. The lights were on but clearly there was no one home.
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