>>29608489
>ftm here. is there any chance i will be seen as a guy and also stop being a virgin.
If you could stop letting other people define you by what you guess they think of you, then I guess you wouldn't be trans to begin with. I don't mean to be an asshole and I appreciate and respect that this isn't as easy or obvious for you to do as it seems for the CIS rest of us, however what you are worrying about there is so hard to control that I think you have to try to let it go. Express and carry yourself as a man as much as you want to and can, and enjoy that, he that, but don't waste brain space chasing every last bit of other people's perception. Try to let it go. As a straight man I don't know how gay men can get fucked and not feel a little emasculated, but then again, they are secure enough to not care. I wish that for you.
Ironically I think worrying about this to the degree you are is kind of more of a feminine trait. Even the mtf's don't worry about being "seen as a woman" by their CIS female partners... and that ironically may be because the personality traits baked into them from being raised as a man
>>29608665
>someone who makes my worries about not being seen as a man dissapear
Again, a bit too dependent on other people, the outside world, to rely on someone else to make some worry disappear. That's just not sustainable or a path to mental health for any human being, regarding any issue (not just being trans).
I wish you all the best and I hope you can find happiness, peace, security in yourself in any way that it comes. I would love to take a ftm or tomboy like you and just do some stuff, ride dirt bikes with me, chop some wood, light a fire, and see if I can make you feel better.
