>>212319591 (OP)not really. like the day-after-christmas dinner that my fathers family held every year at my grandparents home that had 60+ guests it was tradition that the host (first my grandparents, then later aunt and uncle, then later my cousin and husband) supplied the location and everything practical + drinks and the rest got together and supplied the food as a shared thing. he who made the meal also got the leftover after, if he wanted.
its just wrong to put such a job on the same "host" every year when in reality its a whole family thing, so then obviously we shared the job.
im the second oldest grandchild and when i was little and we where 13 in total grandma would do it all herself and serve us in the living room and ask for nothing in return but help with the dishes. the last times its been in a dedicated party/dining locale with a bar buildt in the old barn with its own kitchen and facilities because the family totally outgrew her living room. not all settings is a defined host/guest scenario and then its common to share the load here, but you will never be invited as a guest and then charged for it after.
but you can be damned fuckin shure that if one individual brought his n*igger habits here and just leeched but gave nothing in return when expected he would be charged with interests, church tax and tip.