>>213474743 (OP)
I really don't care about being her first. You may not believe me and say that I am coping, but this is how I really feel.
To be honest, I can't even understand why other men care about it so much. I guess I understand how it would make sense from a evolutionary standpoint, but now that parenthood tests exists, that doesn't really matter.
>>213474891
The idea of having another person's sloppy seconds isn't appealing. statically speaking you're also significantly less likely to divorce if both partners are each other's first. I think it was like 5 percent chance of separation happening within the first 5 years compared to 20 percent by those who've had 1-2 partners prior to the marriage and the percentage grows with the more sexual partner you've had. Seeing how divorce is pretty common nowadays, it's not far out of the imagination to say that people's sexual past play a role in it. We also have to keep in mind that it was only recently socially acceptable for people to have had multiple relationships, so who knows maybe there is a biological reason why we've been monogamous for thousands of years.
>>213474743 (OP)
your country is in the middle of a bloody war, at least one third of its population has left, God knows how many have died, and you concern yourself with shit like this?
>>213474743 (OP)
The real good answer is not mentioned in the post.
Its to keep fucking as many women as you can on the side, at least as much as her number.
Use hookers if you cant pull much.
>>213474891
It depends how you view sex i guess, if you see it like a special moment you together as a couple, i get how it can be bothering if your wife fucked like 200 dudes before, clearly its not so special for her.
>>213478503
This. My first wife was a 9/10 virgin and we fucked all the time, but she ended up with some other dude and gave him kids instead. She told me I ruined her for other men, but that doesn't make you feel any better as some might think it would