Thread 215063790

Would you move away from your family and friends for a semi-prestigious, higher paying job? I'm in that situation right now - I would have to move 2.5 hours away via car. Never lived alone either. Curious to see if answers differ by country btw

depends on how broke i am at the time ig

I moved to China for a year for a woman. I didn’t like being so far from my family and friends.

>>215063790 (OP)
No, I am very asocial and I know it. I need to hold on to the relationships I already have for as long as possible.

>>215063790 (OP)
>2.5 hours away via car
that's not even moving away

>>215063790 (OP)
I moved away for college and never went back
I can't stand my family nor my hometown

>>215063790 (OP)
>move 2.5 hours away
yeah that's not how you measure distance

>>215063822
China? How did you meet this chick

>>215063818
Not broke but I my current job is about to get outsourced and was given a 2 week notice. I very likely will be receiving an offer at the headquarters of the largest corporation in my state

>>215063850
I am more introverted and anti-social but I have never lived alone and don't like the idea of having no one else to rely on. Like when my car broke down on some random street, it was my family who came to pick me up and so on

I don't have friends and I'm already 5 hours away from my family. So yeah, why not?

>>215063790 (OP)
That's the reality for like 25% of the people born in this country. There was a revolution about it actually

>>215063893
I kind of feel like this too. It's not a crazy distance.... and 18-year-olds do it for college all the time.

>>215063914
I have mixed feelings about my family. More positive as a kid and increasingly negative after becoming an adult -- namely what happened after my father died.


>>215063935
What other metric would I use? Feel like that's the best way to describe the distance -- how long it would take me to see them

>>215063790 (OP)
She's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen and you can tell that she's very trad and a virgin.

>>215064037
She is unironically a virgin, a Christian, and waiting until marriage

>>215064106
She's waiting for my uncut BWC to impregnate her.

>>215063790 (OP)
Yes, its a new experience.
I've lived in abroad on the otehr side of the world alone, and prior to that I had never traveled to a different country or lived outside my parents home.
Nowadays you can facetime if you are feeling lonely

>>215064643
> I've lived in abroad on the otehr side of the world alone

Was it scary for you at first? And did it change you in any way, i.e., did you come out more confident, independent, etc?

>>215063956

>How did you meet this chick

She studied for a masters degree in the UK and that's how we met. We are married now and she lives in the UK with me.

>>215063790 (OP)
I don't have friends and hate my family, so yes, in a heartbeat. I guess my answer doesn't help you much. Would you have enough spare time to visit your friends and family? 2,5 hours by car isn't that much, you could easily do a weekend here and there. Would the job help you grow your career in a direction where you could move back in a few years in an even higher position? Living by yourself is scary at first, but at one point you'll likely have to anyway, so maybe it's better to take the plunge when you're still young? Scary things generally don't become easier as you get older.

>>215064973
What did her family think of her marrying a westerner?

>>215065129

Her family fully support our marriage and help us financially as her dad owns a business. At first her mum had some reservations but when they actually met me in person those reservations went away. Also her mum said that she'd give me a chance because she thought I was white and handsome. Our parents have met each other many times and my grandmother has even been to China several times and our grandmothers have met.

>>215065121
Well, yes. My situation is basically: my current job is being terminated due to outsourcing. I was in contact with a corporation to join their corporate tax team. It's a semi-prestigious gig where I would make 40% more than my current role. And I'm in kind of a shitty situation where the job opportunities are limited in my area and I do not yet have enough experience to take a high-paying remote job. I would likely learn a lot, it would add value to my resume, and I could eventually take a job in any corporate tax department after a couple of years of doing this.

>>215065261
Sounds to me like the positives far outweigh the negatives bro

>>215063790 (OP)
2.5 hours aint shit you cam go back 1 or 2 times a month

>>215065529
Probably more than that honestly

>>215065610
More than thay you will burn out

>>215063790 (OP)
Saved, will masturbate to this later

>>215065970
Why not this

>>215063790 (OP)
I really liked living by myself at the other end of the world. Lived in China for roughly half a year recently and a year quite some time back. Also lived in Korea. It’s a chance to make new experiences and friends, but if you are very introverted you might end up lonely (or happy if you like the anonymity). Would do it definitely again, but I was never homesick (spent almost 3 years of my life abroad) and when my family wanted to see me they had to come by. Didn’t miss them really as we could videocall.

>>215064797
Had a similar situation. Never felt scared but I’m also never really scared. It made me way more confident as you can actually reinvent yourself. Also my interests shifted a lot, my home city now feels very small and boring. Also feel difficult to relate to people who haven’t been abroad for some time.

>>215063790 (OP)
I did do that.
Moved from my small city I grew up in to the opposite side of the big city.
I was maybe 1.5 to 2 hours drive away.
It was the first time I lived alone.
Job paid 30% more. But rent was obviously more the closer to the city center I tried to lived.
I think if I'd worked near home I might never have moved out, so it forced me to grow up.
My family was fairly willing to drive to help me with things. My mum works part time with variable hours, and one time I had to take my car to the mechanic for a couple days and she drove the whole way to pick me up from there and have dinner with me. So maybe your family would be willing to do that sort of stuff every now and again?

On the downside, my circle of friends didn't survive the move as much as I thought it would. And I was/am a 4chan typoid so I struggled to make genuine friendships with work colleagues.
Doing rental inspections in a different city whilst being a mid-20's retard and still working my previous job was a fucking ordeal, however, though it taught me I was actually capable of far more grind than I ever realised.

>>215063790 (OP)
I think you shouldn't be a coward and reject opportunities.

>>215063935
i love how american measure everything liek medieval peasant it's soulfull as fuck

>>215063790 (OP)
i moved 12h away for pussy and had to work the shitties fish factory job to pay for us both.
was it worth it? hell yeah, we had non stop sex when not at work or school.

>>215067703
Why couldn’t you find local pussy

>>215067776
did conscription there and hooked up with a local jailbait, it wasnt my intention to take it this far but 2months after i ended my service i felt miserable for just leaving here like that and hnnngh i missed the sex so i packet what little i had in my car and moved there. her parents set us up with an apartment and organized me a job. stayed there for close to 4 years.

>>215068231
Woah, so her parents actually saw value in you? Most parents here would look at that and be like get away from my daughter

>>215069121
its just normal to help your kids get set up with spouses and start a life together here, its not so in usa?
dunno if they saw value in me other than keeping their daughter happy (aka constantly dripping of cum from one or all holes)

>>215069400
Set up with spouses? No. That’s more of an Indian thing

At what age would you say it's weird to still live with parents?

>>215069454
i mean we find them ourselfs, its not arranged or anything, but when we do we dont get a gun in our face and told to fuck off or eat led, each ones family actually help to make it happend even if they dont really like the other part.

>>215063790 (OP)
For what? You can keep living with them, so you don't spend a lot of money. There's nothing stopping you from continuing to work and staying

>>215070298
>it's weird to still live with parents
Jewish propaganda for the goyim to make them rentoids

>>215063790 (OP)
I'm french, I moved here at 19 for studying.
I spent 10 days in a hotel before finding my apartment on the internet.
No friends in my hometown or in my new city so that wasn't a problem. Khhv naturally. I call my parents once a week. I go out for groceries or sometimes for hiking/camping in the mountains, I'm really not interested in clubs and shit
Living alone is quite nice, I have a big and well equipped kitchen (thanks to my parents giving me things that they don't use anymore) so I cook a lot. I do everything on Sunday for the entire week. Cleaning could be better (especially dusting) but I'm a bit lazy honestly