Thread 40059302

I didn’t know I was asexual. I just knew I wasn’t into sex. It didn’t do anything for me. Sometimes I joked about it with friends, but I never felt actual curiosity or desire. For a while I thought I was broken. Because everything around you makes you think you should feel something desire, heat, lust. And if you don’t, you’re the weird one.
Then I found the word asexual, and suddenly things made sense.
But saying it out loud? That’s when the real shit started.
I told a “friend” I thought I was ace. She looked at me with disgust and said: “No, of course you’re not.” Like she knew me better than I knew myself.
Another time, a group of girls I barely talked to were surprised when I said I was a virgin. One of them (the arrogant one, always judging) said: “I don’t like to judge, but I did think you weren’t a virgin.”
Why? Because I made sex jokes with someone they knew. So apparently joking about something means you’re into it now. Wild logic.
And yeah, I once gave a guy a chance. I told him I was ace, that I just wanted to explore slowly, with patience. On day two, not even dating officially, he grabbed my boob without permission and in front of people. I was uncomfortable. He said: “What? That’s normal.”
When I ended things, he played the victim: “It’s not my fault you don’t love me the way I am.”
Dude, I asked for respect and patience, not a pity party and non-consensual touching.
People act like being asexual is a defect. Like you need a reason, a trauma, a diagnosis to not be into sex.
But I’m not traumatized. I’m not broken. I’m just not wired like you. And that’s okay.

If you’ve been through similar bullshit — if people made you feel broken for not being horny 24/7 — tell your story too.
Not for pity. Just so they stop pretending they “didn’t know” this was real. :)

>>40059302 (OP)
god you sound like an insufferable roastie. so weird how all of you talk the same like retarded robots with one setting

>>40059394 Fuck bro, you hear “ace” and you start acting like a bitch, anon

>>40059302 (OP)
ilysm for sharing this actually

>>40059302 (OP)
I’m the other kind of ace where I’m not really sex repulsed, but can barely be assed to have sex with other people. Its kind of isolating because on the one hand I don’t really have sexual attraction to people. Most of my fantasies revolve around like idk biblically accurate angelic entities with inhuman anatomies and the performance of vaguely sex-adjacent ritual acts with such entities. So like I can’t really have sex with allos because like idk they have sex for the pleasure and not for the ritual aspect. But then on the other hand sex repulsed aces like turbomald that I have something vaguely resembling a libido and I’m a heckin fake ace. Its really isolating. I wish I knew more people that related to sex in the way I do.

>>40059612
I think thats just autism
>t. autist

>>40059612
Sex as ritual? That’s 1000x more interesting than just fucking for the sake of it.
I’m gonna draw this.

>>40059302 (OP)
i think i might technically be asexual, i don't hate having sex but i rarely ever initiate and prefer cuddling generally. i hate being surrounded by people being very publicly sexual though, i think maybe im just an autist about privacy idk

>>40059746
Don’t be afraid to feel confused.
Just be yourself and accept yourself as you are.
Fuck society.
It doesn’t get to tell you how to feel, how to love, or what you should want.
You’re not broken, you’re yourself.
:)

>>40059777
i forgot to include this in my original post because im high but i do feel guilty because i have a bf with much higher sexual needs than me

>>40059829
Don’t beat yourself up for being different.
Relationships aren’t about just fulfilling one person’s needs.
You matter too. And you’re not “less” because sex isn’t your main thing. If your partner really loves you, he’ll understand.

I honestly feel bad for asexual people who still want romance
Sex is such an important part of my desire to have a partner and is an important part of my current relationship
Basically your only options are to find another ace person or be open to an open/poly relationship because your partner will still want their desires fulfilled

>>40059302 (OP)
God I feel this so much. I hate how hypersexual society is. I'm worried about being unable to find a lifelong partner due to wanting a sexless relationship. I'm asexual but I feel romance very strongly.

>>40059876
thank you, i think i needed to hear that

I never gave a shit about actual sex but i jerk off 4 times a day to power fantasies to procrastinate

>>40059888
Well, sex shouldn’t be the most important thing if you truly love someone. Love goes beyond sexual desire. What you’re feeling might just be desire, not true love. Maybe romance isn’t for you, and that’s okay.

Strongest female libido

>>40059612
Untraumatized asexuality is shockingly rare.

>>40059976
im not saying the only reason I love my BF is because he makes me cum
but if we didnt fuck and cuddle our relationship would probably feel more like best friends or really close roommates

>>40060008
Well, my advice is that you both talk, if you feel like that’s the only reason you think he’s just your boyfriend and not more romantic. Maybe you should talk it out it depends on you

least retarded asexual

>>40059302 (OP)
why did you ask chatGPT to write this anon? why not write your own post?

Summer already huh.

>>40060512
I use ChatGPT to translate things properly, not to tell stories that already happened to me, anon.
(Spoiler: I used it to translate this too. lol)

Ah yes, the summer tourism in the air. You can smell it.

>>40060574
how old are you

>>40060574
what is your native language?

>>40060592
4x4

>>40060625
you're 16?

Underage b&

JANNIES!!! CLEAN IT UP!!!! UNDERAGEB& JANNIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Before this thread gets nuked, I just want to say:
Thank you, 4chan.
You actually made me laugh and feel entertained like never before.
I got to open up, and some of you needed to hear it too.
(Alright, now you can shut it down. Thanks again 4chan. I’ll be back.:)