Thread 40093843

I dated a cishet guy (26) as a transfem girl (24). We dated for a little under 6 months:
>never had sex together, furthest we've gone is kissing
>super uncomfortable being with me in public
>would ask about my penis and inquired about me potentially getting bottom surgery multiple times. Seemed to hide dissapointment when I told him I might not get it anytime soon
>would send early morning texts when he woke up. Super cute
>never introduced me to his friends, family
>took photos together but none on his socials? Updated his bios to taken tho
>never went on a lot of "real" dates
>obviously uncomfortable when I don't have makeup on
>lots of cuddling. He smelled nice
>I've seen him naked. He has never seen me naked
>would comment about my appearance, or the way I dress
I ended up calling it off the last week. Still processing it. I think it was for the better. I might update the list when I think of more

>>40093843 (OP)
ive been with a cishet guy for years, it's good when it works. your bf was an asshole though so fair enough

>>40093843 (OP)
Im transfem girl (31) dating cishet guy (37). We have been dating for about three months now:
>sex at least 2x daily where he tops until he cums (20-30 minutes on average)
>walk hand in hand publicly
>teases me for having a big clit otherwised not interested in it nor SRS
>hasnt introduced me to family or friends but refers to me often (im shy)
>loves to cuddle, share a bed, teach me programming and get high together
Very happy with the results. I love him!!

>>40093898
Passoid privilege to be honest.

>>40093860
>ive been with a bisexual guy for years
>>40093898
>Im transfem girl (31) dating bisexual guy
Ftfy

>>40093860
To be fair this is the first time I'm dating a cis guy since I came out as trans. I dated guys before I came out and it was fine but I was only with other transfeminine or non binary people before him after coming out because I felt comfortable that way

>>40093898
I don't want sex 2x a day or weird fetishizing about my penis either desu. But I'm happy he's working out for you!<3

>>40093914
I reeaally dont think he's bi cause he has only ever dated and shown interest in girls tbhon

>>40093946
And a tranny?

>>40093956
What's your problem lol?

>>40093914
what makes you think he's bi?
>>40093932
i see, what's that like? i don't have that experience because im actually still with my first bf (we've been together since high school and im 23)

>>40093956
Anon I have a penis but im XX so please understand

>>40093974
What was what like?

transwomen are males
males that have sex with other males are homosexuals
its impossible for transwomen to get a straight boyfriend

>>40093984
dating people after coming out having dated people before you came out?

>>40093992
Transwomen have always been women the same way how gay people have always been gay people before coming out. I thought we went over this in 2016?

>>40094004
Oh lol
It's been nice. Like, really nice. I feel like im in a completely different head space now and I'm enjoy sex more. Like, I feel things better. I used to feel guilt(shame?) when I had sex with AMAB people, having grown up in a very religious household, but now things just feel right.

>>40093992
>"your bf can see your chromosomes dude"
>>40094015
im happy you feel better! that all makes a lot of sense

>>40093843 (OP)
>date a heterosexual
>they acted like a heterosexual
Sorry anon but it was doomed from the start.

You don't date an actual heterosexual. You date a fruit pretending to be a heterosexual who is willing to pretend you are a woman so that you can pretend he's straight.

>>40093843 (OP)
Doesn't sound like someone to be dating to be honest, if they can't be comfortable with you in public now there's a good chance they never will, sounds like you were the hide away girlfriend and that he's ashamed of you, dated a guy like that previously and it felt awkward and as though they never really care for you, in contrast my boyfriend now takes me out everywhere (electro, shopping, dates) and holds my hand everywhere, feels a lot better when you find a guy who actually respects, loves and shows pride for you, only downside is that his dick is only 6 inches

>>40094034
I thought heterosexuals love females? Ie. me?

>>40094062
So happy for you<3. Stories like this gives me hope. Btw 6 inches is like the best size

>>40094088
Thanks I hope you can find someone who loves you too <3

It's fine if used well but I prefer a good girthy 8 inches or so, makes me cum and feel properly fucked

>>40094111
>>40094111
>I hope you can find someone who loves you too <3
<333

>It's fine if used well but I prefer a good girthy 8 inches or so, makes me cum and feel properly fucked
Anything above 7 is like not worth it for me. Like, cleanliness wise iygwim

>>40094068
>I thought heterosexuals love females?
Yeppers.

>Ie. me?
Female? No. Woman? Maybe in the right light, I don't know you. But heterosexuals want to date females exclusively. What you want is a fruity guy who says things like "it's about what matters on the inside" or "girls can have penises too!" Deep down this guy knows he's ultimately sexually interested in another male, he just doesn't care, because he's a little fruity like that.

>>40094169
>Woman? Maybe in the right light, I don't know you.
On second thought OP I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. For a heterosexual to even entertain the thought of pursuing you for the last 3 months you probably do pass pretty good.

Regardless, you are still lookin for a fruit.

>>40094169
>>40094193
OK but then explain how he didn't even know that I'm trans when he first met me? I only told him that after the 2nd date over text. Also genius do explain why lots of guys check me out in public? Are they all gay?

>>40094245
I already gave you the benefit of the doubt OP. You probably pass. Assuming you do, of course heterosexuals mistake you for a female, that's what "passing" means. But you don't want one to just be confused and bewildered for a moment. You want one to actually commit to the bit and for that, you need a fruity guy, not a heterosexual.

>>40094265
Lol OK so to find guys who like feminine people (women) I should look for gay guys. Got it thank you Einstein

>>40093843 (OP)
Why was a straight man dating you? It makes no sense. You don't date amabs with dicks unless you are a fag
>>40093860
If you have a dick, you bf is gay. Simple
>>40093898
He sounds gay af also, sorry girl

>>40094422
>I should look for gay guys
Now now now missy, did I say homosexual? No! I said fruity. Pure homosexuals typically aren't going to work long term either. Heterosexuals are attracted to your gender but not your sex. Homosexuals are attracted to your sex but not your gender. Your ideal partner is bisexual. They must be attracted to the sexual and gender characteristics of both males and females. If they are a smart bisexual that understands and wishes to participate in these advanced mindgames they will do you the good service of pretending to be a heterosexual, but they will do fruity things like suck your penis and say fruity things like "it's not gay to suck a woman's penis" or "I didn't want kids anyways".

>>40093992
I got my sex changed so men into me are straight but I agree that these girls who date men who like dick, are dating gay men

>>40094032
Your boyfriend can see your penis dude

>>40094422
Explain to me why straight men are sexting poonies then? Hetero men like afab genitals and homo men like amab genitals

>>40094512
>>40094533
he actually doesn't though.

>>40094548
>Explain to me why straight men are sexting poonies then?
Literally every case of this I've seen has been:
>full ciswoman gets a short haircut and calls "himself" a "man" for a couple weeks

No straight man is fucking buck angel

>>40093843 (OP)
>never introduced me to his friends, family
>>40093898
>hasnt introduced me to family or friends
is this common with trans woman

>>40093843 (OP)
i’m 23 and dating a 21 year old cis guy

>introduced me to his friends
>is seen with me in public
>has sex with me

>>40094565
Im a cis passin ftm. Started hrt at 15. Top surgery but no bottom surgery. Straight men want to fuck me all the time. When someone says they are straight, I expect him to be giga faggy at this point.

I think its stupid that some of you insist that you can only date men who calls himself straight when people lie to us all the time.

>>40094522
my bf is bi but he doesn’t suck my pp

>>40094825
yeah it's true people can lie but i don't wanna date someone who i know sees me as a man. id like to have some dignity

>>40094858
that's nice anon. any guy willing to date a pre-op trans girl is probably bisexual but it doesn't mean they have to be a bottom sub.

>>40093843 (OP)
So the heterosexual was uncomfortable by anything that implied you weren't a woman.
Was that not the point of dating a hetero man?