Why are men like this?

>>40136511 (OP)
Why do people take screen caps of private conversations and post them on anonymous imageboards tho?

It's Grindr anon this is a pretty usual convo

>>40136527
No ons is identifiable, so please feel free to let go of your pearls

>>40136534
I dont particularly like being spoken to this way, I've made it very clear on my profile what I do and do not like. I have perfectly pleasant conversations rather frequently on grindr, but I dislike the manner in which I've been spoken to

>>40136527
No one is identifiable, so please feel free to let go of your pearls

>>40136511 (OP)
>I wanted to be treated with respect and spoken with dignity
Aw Babe

It's not always men tho some girls are just as bad sex wanters are just trash in general

>>40136549
I'm asking for too much in the modern era! Please talk to me as a human being.

I wish I screenshotted more convos, one guy wanted to meet, I agreed on the condition we meet in public with cctv, and he brings an up to date sti test. He then blocked me. I can only imagine what horrors he wished to inflict upon me.

>>40136549
>some girls are just as bad sex wanters are just trash in general

This does seem to be true, I think a lot of people have lost their sense of self respect, having sex is a very natural and fun part of life, but its just the way in which everyone is reduced to a mechanical commodity, no wonder everyone is depressed, casual sex doesn't give people what they fundamentally want, at least that's my theory as to why everyone feels so lonely and disconnected

>>40136544
Okay. Next time just say “No Thankyou, that’s not my thing.” Instead of acting like you were expecting payment in return for a service?
Because some people enjoy a bit of hardcore sex with two guys, just because you don’t doesn’t mean you get to police everyone else.


If you politely decline and THEN he gets all gross and out of hand, then you can be a bitch about it.

>>40136570
Preach Bitch

>>40136576
No, that's wrong. Sex is gross. You're wrong. Get your head out of your ass namefag. Back to discord with you.

>>40136576
No thanks, I prefer to talk this way, i actually get to see how people are.

So for example, they would've been bad people to meet. It isn't that that wanted sex, its HOW they went about it. Talking to me disrespectfully, then ridiculing me, then blocking me instead of saying "ok thats fine how about we have a nice evening or blah blah" instead he blocked me! When I said I wanted to be spoken to nicely

No way, I won't put myself in a vulnerable position with people who clearly don't care if I live or die, I value my safety

>>40136511 (OP)
this is grindr why do uu care lol this is pretty good for that app..

>go on hookup app
>asked to hookup
>"eww gross... i need princess treatment"

okkayy loll

>>40136610
>Get your head out of your ass namefag. Back to discord with you

Levels of based off the scale

>>40136627
It isn't that a man wanted sex on a hook up app, it is how he went about it. I have also made it VERY clear I do not wish to be spoken to in that way

You may enjoy being treated as though your life doesn't matter, but i do not, I prefer to be treated as a person. Those men were bad people, it would have been awful to meet them.

Value yourself, do not be reckless with your safety or your health, stop meeting people who will harm you

>>40136637
my life literally doesnt matter my existence is worthless & a vile insult to life itself loll

>>40136642
No, thats not true, and even if you think that, why hand your safety over to people who hate you?

You know whats nicer than meeting horrible people, cookies, milk, pizza, nice walks, plants, animals, cuddling plushies. Give yourself a chance anon, the world's already a cruel place, give yourself a little bit of kindness

>>40136542
Maybe you should not use the sex app then ...? It's not really for dating or casual convos.

>>40136642
Aw babe wtf get it together you

>>40136637
They do have a point tho, have you tried bumble or tinder more conventional apps? Tinder is just as bad tbqh. I was catfishing motherfuckers without knowing I was doing it. Sexers just look at pictures, they don't fucking read. Because the descriptions are always kinda hidden unless you unravel the profile anyway, and if you dont show skin you dont get as much matches, or you get stuck dealing with lower tier humans. Its a doggy dogg world out there, you just gotta keep your head up and stay dignified like you are. I always let the boys and girls know that Im a lot more masculine in person and if they're not down with that I can't get involved anyhow. If their goal is sex I just shut it down right away. The key in all this is knowing yourself.

>>40136622
>I prefer to talk this way
Then you’re responsible for the cringe cap.


They’re not bad people. They just enjoy a different kind of sex than you do. In case you forgot that’s what LGBTQIA+ stands for. The only way they find people who are like them is by asking, and the only way they find out you’re not into it is when you tell them. And that’s it. That’s normal, healthy, adult relationship in the queer and sex positive communities.

The only no consensual act was when you published the contents of them expressing their sexuality on the internet as a way of shaming them into being something you personally find appealing.

The thing is sweetheart, they don’t actually owe you that.


You’re in the wrong here. Sex negativity has no place in LGBTQIA+

>>40136661
Or maybe men can learn how to communicate better, so they can get what they want

>>40136511 (OP)
Block and ignore that faggot. Find another whore for your threesome. It ain't hard.

>>40136511 (OP)
>Go on sex hookup app
>Surprised about sex hookups
>Ummm why aren't you treating me like a queen?

You are a massive retard. Please stop that.

>>40136622
And I’ll say on a personal note that as a non-passing sexually active trans woman the anxiety I feel knowing that people like you are harvesting dating sites for memes is a very big barrier to my personal fulfilment.

We’re all oppressed by this.

>>40136654
>cookies, milk, pizza, nice walks, plants, animals, cuddling plushies.

I absolutely adore this! Maybe we should go on a date! lol

>>40136676
Idk anon they weren't even being disrespectful and you were clearly being silly on purpose. It's not surprising that they're talking to you like this on the hookup suck n fuck app.

>>40136671
>>40136688
YOU are a FILTHY SEX HAVER!!!

>>40136676
See this is problematic too. You seem to be offering sexual services to the horny duo in exchange for better behaviour?


That is SO not how that works. If you’re into it say yes. If you’re not say no. It’s you who needs to communicate better.

>>40136666
I had the same experience on tinder, men just hyper swipe right, then never read the bio's!

The funny thing is I've had really good conversations on grindr, with some lovely people. I just find it odd how because men want sex they think its cool to be disrespectful.

Maybe bumble is more my speed... but yes, I refuse to let people harm me again, or devalue me, the world is very unforgiving so I will be even more vigilant and have my guard up higher. I really appreciate your posts, you help me think from a different perspective

>>40136511 (OP)
you're on the gay man sex hookup app what did you expect

>>40136700
I AM. IT’S TRUE. I HAVE SEX!

>>40136696
Perhaps I was being slightly mischievous, but again it's part of the way in which people reveal themselves, i made it very clear how I wish to be spoken to, if they can't follow that basic courtesy then its a red flag

>>40136527
die already

>>40136705
But I'm a woman? So I have no issue how gay men speak to one another, im not policing anyone else's behaviour, simply saying that if a man wants to take it to the next step with me, he has to treat me accordingly

>>40136720
It's a fucking sex app to have sex on.
They are asking for sex and you're being fucking retarded and they are confused.
What the fuck are they revealing?

>>40136703
Awesomesauce girl!!! You are soooo amazing always remember that!

>>40136702
STOP GROOMING AND GO CRAWL BACK TO YOUR GOONCAVE RAPEHON

>>40136720
It’s not a red flag. It’s a deal breaker.
So you POLITELY decline and move on.

>>40136702
>If you’re into it say yes. If you’re not say no. It’s you who needs to communicate better.

Well how will I know if i like them without first having a conversation and getting to know they type of people they are. Isn't this the fundamental basis of language, to navigate the complexities of other human beings?

>>40136676
>Or maybe men can learn how to communicate better, so they can get what they want
Given that you're not down for a threesome, there's not really a better way for him to communicate. Other people would be down for a threesome. So your advice isn't useful.

>>40136727
Because I won't have sex with just anybody, I'm very fussy. Just because the app has a reputation for casual sex doesn't mean im going to abaddon all my principles and disregard my health!

Why cant a sweet man message me and offering to take me to dinner?

>>40136725
are you rly? because you sure act like an autistic moid

>>40136576
lmao edward of 4chan of all people preaching politeness. stfu you are way more rabid than most on this board when you come across someone with conflicting ideals
also proof that everyone with the HSTS flag is just a sissy gooner who gets off on being emasculated by other men

>>40136728
I legit love you, your posts remind me that we're going to make it, and everything will be ok.

I'm so glad you understand where in coming from, you're lovely. Having respect for one's self is not a bad thing, and expecting others to be kind is not an unreasonable ask

:)

>>40136739
Sex apps are not the place to have a meetcute nigga.

>>40136739
girl Ill take you to dinner send an email to whitechristianlady@gmail.com

>>40136739
don't go on the gay man sex hookup app if you want men to take you to dinner

>>40136730
At no point was I rude, I didn't insult their appearance, or ghost them after arranging a meet.

He asked me whatbi wanted, I told him, he blocked me. That you somehow think I am in the wrong for wanting to be treated well, speaks volumes.

Again it isn't that it's a sex app, it's that I expect to be treated a certain way, and if that isn't met I won't allow him to pursue me.

And guess what, everyone else should value themselves too, stop giving yourself away to men who clearly see you as something worthless to be discarded and harmed

>>40136733
You didn’t like being spoken to the way they like to speak to women.
You don’t want to be the meat in their manwich.
You are absolutely 100% entitle to both of these positions.

So state them up front so everyone knows who YOU are and what YOU’RE about and they can make THEIR decisions about whether or not theyre into you.


It’s not a negation. It’s an invitation.

>>40136745
>>40136753
Yes it meee

We need more girls like you in the community and less like the ones trying to normalize rude advances as common ettiquette.

>>40136741
This is very rude, why are being like this, I haven't harmed you or been mean to you?I don't understand

>>40136767
They're coombrained and upset that you're not giving them what they want. Sexers are like crackheads babe.

>>40136767
you go on the grossest app and then act surprised ppl there are sex pests like wtf? get real hon

>>40136755
Sweetheart you were acting like a bitch. You’re still acting like a bitch.

You weren’t compatible. That’s the bottom line. Sex between you and them was not going to happen. But rather than make that an easy and pleasant experience for others you decided to turn it into a stupid game and waste their time. As soon as they figured out what you were doing they broke contact and left you alone.


They did the right thing. You didn’t.

>>40136766
Yay, I can tell you are a good person with a positive morals. I agree entirely, tolerating rudeness just because the other person wants sex, shouldn't be normalised. We should normalise self respect, courtesy, integrity and consideration for others.

I saved your email, I'd like to be friends, forgive me if take a bit of time with replying

:)

>>40136774
>>40136783
Oh my god shut uuuppp why are you shaming her? I'm gonna fucking kill you both in gta especially you >>40136783 motherfucker you dont deserve life I challenge you to a fucking duel

Half of this thread is Emily samefagging both sides of the argument

>>40136795
ok babe! i know its weird but if you feel alone send something anyway just as a joke :)

OP is on the gay man sex app and is upset that the gay man looking for sex doesn't want small talk over dinner

>>40136821
>implying I ever take off my trip.
>>40136817
She’s the one doing the shaming. And that’s not okay.

>>40136856
>Still implying you're not Kayla

>>40136527
You can talk the whole "we need to love each other" bullshit all you want, everyone knows the reason you're constantly defending men is because you identify with them more than women

>>40136511 (OP)
>Open grindr account
>looking for transwomen or femboys
>get a bunch of asshole pics
>guy jokingly says he can put a wig on
>finally some transwomen responds
>says she has onlyfans.
>will pay me to have sex with her
>Uninstall

Why are queer people like this?

>>40136542
Ill speak to you with respect

>>40136894
Horrendous experience, im sorry anon.

>>40136919
Thank you anon, and in return I will do my best to be worthy of your respect

>>40136959
he's trolling he means "Ill do whatever to fuck you"

Alright, phoneposting over. Flag's gone. I'm back in the Emilycave and I agree with everything my less drunk alter ego said.

>>40136862
I fucking WISH I was Kayla. Kayla is hot and cool and awesome and amazing and I love her and want to be her.

>>40136869
This isn't really defending men tho, this is defending kink. And I say that as somebody who is very much vanilla. The transhet experience is kinda crazy, it's like the weirdest sort of homophobia where my sexuality, which is the default, is "gross" but transbianism, which nobody thinks is normal, is acceptable.
And when the cisgays aren't around there is a LOT of sex negativity in trans spaces. But when the cisgays are around we all remember that we owe literally all our rights to them fighting for their right to have the sex they like to have with the people they like to have it with.

That's not an okay situation. That risks a very real backslide into homophobia in the name of trans acceptance. And as someone who has benefited SO MUCH from the gay community welcoming me, accepting me, and supporting me, this is not okay. Kinkshaming men for expressing their sexuality in an appropriate way is not okay.

The men in OPs screencap just did not do anything. It's not something I'd care to be involved in, and I'm not on grindr, but if someone spoke to me like that I'd just say
>Not really my thing sweety, but I hope you find someone.
And they didn't accept that, I'd block them.

>>40137062
But you are Kayla. just not using stolen images anymore

>>40137074
Meds.

>>40136511 (OP)
troons should never have been allowed to colonize grindr

>>40136511 (OP)
you are on grindr ffs there is no dignity that's the place to go to lose it.

>>40136666
>Its a doggy dogg world out there
illiterate quads

Trannies know they are men so they hop on grindr but then they pretend they are women while socializing. Hilarious schizo freaks

>>40136894
find one like me send a message prob a dick pic and we set a time and day for u to ruin my ass and or throat.

>>40136511 (OP)
Grindr is full or creepy horny men, unless you're desperate for a dicking it's not worth using unless you're t4t, if you want a relationship or actual dates use a dating app and honestly this is kinda tame for a grindr post they're normally much more weird and creepier, flashbacks to the turkish fat man 90 metres from me asking to lick his ass hole fucking kms, best way for grindr is to make ur bio as autistic and nerdy as possible then you get the cute autists

>>40136511 (OP)
Imagine being some vile man on estrogen surfing grindr talking about being treated with respect.
Oh my days XDDDDDDDDD

>>40137618
Dann are you always this horny wtf, what do you look like

>>40136542
i def get that ppl are saying its the sex app but also like there's not a ton of queer apps w large user bases and if u clearly put that in ur profile ppl should respect your ask, its rly not that hard

>>40137634
i dunno whats wrong with me it might be mixing all these pills with alcohol and weed every day but i simply like being fucked all the time now.

>>40137644
Well if you enjoy it fair enough gotta enjoy life whilst ur young, be careful about getting aids tho not worth sucking or riding dick for, are you on a high prog dose or something?

>>40137672
they give me depo provera instead of prog. as for what i look like i'm not attractive.

if you identify as a woman, why are you on a gay men's dating app?

>>40137008
Oh god im so stupid. I will never find a good man

:(

>>40137689
Few other places are accepting of trans women

>>40136542
So why do you bother responding even responding to people? You're on GRINDR. You're going to encounter people wanting only casual sex. Don't give them attention if you don't want casual sex

Every day there's some stupid MtF that expects Grindr to magically confirm to their only romance preference only because they put a "no hookups" in their bio. The world doesn't revolve around you

>>40136527
I don't know if I have brain damage or if you're becoming more reasonable or there are just far worse posters here now but lately you've been posting a lot of stuff I agree with and I don't like it

>>40136511 (OP)
Grinder being full of disgusting freaks is nothing new.

>>40137679
Yeah I mean you are very mid but you still pass you look like one of those crazy aunties who tells you wild stories, order prog online fuck that shit, be careful fucking random ppl dumbass

>>40138054
a lot of it has peanuts in it and those make my throat swell closed depo is working ok so far.

>>40136642
I wanna hug you :(

>>40136686
Grindr is only for cis homosexual amabs. Everyone else is incapable of using it. The rebranding as a "queer app" was a tragedy.

>>40138492
u wouldnt, im a freak, the only thing im good for is how i look

>>40137912
Sorry asking for basic respect isn't too much to ask.

I very clearly state what I like, and it isn't too much to say "please provide the most basic respect possible"

>>40137679
That's a lovely smile, I wish I smiled like this lol

>>40137642
Thank you so much for understanding, the straight apps are not very welcoming, and people there can be very rude.

I'm not tying to tell me how they should or should not act, just that I personally do want a nice man in my life, that's it, not into casual random sex.

>>40138044
I try to mentally block out the disgusting pictures.

One man sent me a picture of his wedding day, followed by his butthole. No words were exchanged

>>40138524
But where can I go as a woman? I'm v fembrained so I find it difficult to not be seduced, like it just doing it for me, maybe I need some of Dakotas pills lol.

I just want a good man I can commit to

>>40137642
Thank you so much for understanding, the straight apps are not very welcoming, and people there can be very rude.

I'm not tying to tell men how they should or should not act, just that I personally do want a nice man in my life, that's it, not into casual random sex.

my experience with things like hinge, ok cupid and the likes is i found guys who wanted to knock me up and then they got mad when i had a penis eventho my profiles first line was i'm preop mtf.

>>40136511 (OP)
>I have food in my fridge this is a rather poor offer
lmao what kind of loser talks like this on the sex app. you're pathetic

>>40138862
>then they got mad when i had a penis eventho my profiles first line was i'm preop mtf.

This is my experience too, they get so angry, kinda destroys my soul after a while

>>40138879
I am pathetic, please don't bully

>>40136511 (OP)
please get off grindr, OP, you're ruining it for the rest of us.


>goes on the gay sex app
>gets offered gay sex
>gets offended and wants UWU faggot princess treatment


>"i'll make sure you are fed"
>I HaVe FOoD iN mY FrIDgE
>"tell me what you want"
> TreATeD WitH ReSPeCt AnD SpoKeN tO wItH DiGnItY

These apps are only good for laughs

>>40139064
Yes I want to be treated like a princess, what's the issue?

My dad dotes on me very much, so any man in my life needs to reach that standard

>>40139070
I suppose that's true, I take it too seriously unfortunately

You sound like a massive dork, I like that.

>>40139219
>want to be treated like a princess
Are you hot enough to demand that? In a big city grindr's pretty much a perfectly competitive market, so if you're going to set your price that high, you kinda need the goods to match.

>>40139219
the issue is you're probably not pretty enough to be treated that way. you're an ugly tranny slampig on a gay men's sex app.

>>40139367
>>40139288

I walked down the street yesterday and some muscle man in a tank top said "you're beautifu" as I walked past.

So idk I think I may be pretty, but I think lean more towards cute than super hit like I did before ffs, but then men do approach me so idk

>>40139367
>>40139288
I walked down the street yesterday and some muscle man in a tank top said "you're beautiful' as I walked past.

So idk I think I may be pretty, but I think lean more towards cute than super hot like I did before ffs, but then men do approach me so idk

But my dad loves me, if I say "I want this" he will get it for me, paid for my surgeries, he got me a car because he knows I hate public transport. I need a man to be at that level, and to just dote on me, not be mean to me, or use me

>>40139492
Yeah I'm not saying you're unattractive, frankly that's beside the point. You're just being kinda retarded. It's grindr, block anyone that propositions you like in op pic. And expecting/demanding any random man who you are not actively fucking to treat you as well as your dad does is a little unrealistic. But also very fembrained, so congrats.

>>40139540
I'm sorry, I can be stupid sometimes

>>40139786
It's okay nona, just manage your expectations, conduct yourself like a reasonable adult, and ensure that others do the same.

>>40138631
Lmfao yea I’m not surprised. A lot of predatory people on there too. 99% are purse scum, pretty sure any normal person just meets people irl so the freaks take advantage of people who are the most susceptible.

>>40136511 (OP)
dumbass transgirl with autism thinks grindr is a dating app thread #82297410

>>40139492
The problem you’re having stems from grindr itself. Low tier people use that app it’s been that way forever. Same shit with tinder and most other dating apps. The last bastions are hinge and Instagram.

>>40138879
>>40139064
What's so bad about the "i have food in my fridge" though? I don't use grindr, is there like an understanding that being fed means being fed with cum?

>>40136511 (OP)
this is why transphobia exists btw

>>40136894
>>finally some transwomen responds
>>says she has onlyfans.
>>will pay me to have sex with her
I fail to see the disadvantages in this

>>40141645
I dont understand why they're focusing on that comment I made. Why on earth would I respond to such a comment from an anonymous person lol

>>40140260
Yes I have autism, but I still want someone to treat me well

>>40142093
? I'm just asking, i don't know how people usually talk on grindr and if there's some secret lingo me and OP didn't understand

>>40142107
>>40142107
>Yes I have autism
retardation too

>>40142391
There's no need to be rude