Thread 40191991

Is it rude to come out as transgender to your family during your mom or dad's funeral?

>>40191991 (OP)
yeah

>>40191997
why?

metal

>>40192015
A funeral is supposed to be for the person who died but you're making it about yourself

>>40192432
kek, this

you're pretty much guranteed to get cut off by half of your family also

>>40192432
why can't a funeral be a shared experience?
it's time to mourn my dead male self

>>40192450
It's explicitly not time to mourn your dead male self, it's time to mourn your dead relative. You have to be strategic about when you come out and how you do it, doing it at a funeral just isn't the right move

>>40192466
according to whom? who made these rules and why am I bound to them?

>>40192488
If you want to do to it then go for it, just don't say we didn't warn you

>>40191991 (OP)
bpd tranny behavior

>>40191991 (OP)
nah go for it

>>40192517
they already hate me, fuck them
im sure they've suspected it I literally got FFS and they don't say a word cuz i'm still technically a manmoder

i inadvertently came out to my extended family at my grandpa's funeral because i never boymoded

>>40192562
what did you wear?

>>40191991 (OP)
>should i torch my reputation permanently?
no
wait like one fucking day
maybe two

>>40192628
What is a reputation and why does it matter?

>>40192598
black jeans, black top, a very pretty long black coat and a black/pink scarf

>>40191991 (OP)
>during your mom or dad's funeral?
So this is just a hypothetical question right?

>>40192808
of course

>>40191991 (OP)
Kind of on topic here.

When I was 16 I was getting ready to come out during Easter since my sister would be in town to help me. Welp... the reason my sister was in town is because my parents told us that my dad was diagnosed with multiple myeloma. So that sent me into a spiral and I started to repress and didn't start hrt till I turned 18. pretty cool story.... It keeps me up at night. I do wonder what will happen at his funeral that also worries me.

>>40193050
have you come out to them since?

>>40192534
Given your replies itt, they hate you because you're an insufferable BPDemon, not because you're trans or anything.

>>40194061
>have you come out to them since?
Well, I bought HRT on the web, and the plan was to be on HRT for around 6 months then come out if I liked it. Well I ordered to much cypro and the package got seized. So they sent a letter home saying the stole my shit and my mom read that. SO I think i asked her what would she do if I was trans at this point so I entertained it once or twice, but never came out. When she saw what I was ordering, we got into a fight and she made me get a haircut since I was growing it out from COVID and then used the DEA paperwork as blackmail, threatening to out me to my dad if I ever transitioned.

I could make a green text talking about it but this was 3 years ago so its getting a bit hazey
heres the dea letter as proof.