i’ve been starting to get weird feelings lately, i can't stop daydreaming of my bf and me getting another mtf puppygirl as a gf together. he has also said things in the past about liking the idea of having two gfs, and i would really like if i could be with another woman, and then being all together in a throuple just sounds teally really nice desu...
but desu i don't really know much about poly stuff at all. i’ve never met a successful poly throuple but i’ve also not met many poly people to begin with. are these relationship's possible or are they all doomed to fail? part of me thinks it could work but i really don't know

Poly people are the most insufferable human beings on this planet. They are incapable of having healthy relationships. If you're happy with your boyfriend don't ruin it by trying out polygamy

>>40207362 (OP)
It sounds great fun and you imagine doing a lot fun activities together and having fun sex but it never happens and it always ends up everyone breaking up together because someone betrays the others trust

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>>40207383
is this really how it usually turns out, how do these relationships actually end? i feel like it has to be possible, maybe im just coping and just wish it was possible because of how nice it sounds

>>40207362 (OP)
Open poly people are a mess. But a solid throuple is more reasonable.

>>40207362 (OP)
its just cheating for people who aren't hot enough to cheat
i couldn't do it. i need to dedicate my love to one person only

>>40207362 (OP)
personally, i don't think being poly is inherently wrong or bad, but just that everyone who does it is too immature and mentally unwell to handle the extra responsibilities of the additional relationship(s). i think the gain you get from adding another person is a lot less than the negatives. i've never met a successful polycule, but that doesn't mean it's not possible if the people involved are genuinely capable and working to make it work. could you realistically look at yourself and say you're mature enough to handle it?

>>40207362 (OP)
Solid throuple is alright as the other anon said, but these sort of things require at least one group member to be completely secure in themselves, ideally two or three secure people however.

Usually if you don't want it to just be a relationship+1 you need to be comfortable dedicating large amounts of time to each other. This makes it less feasible to have the same amount of free time as when you were just a pair.

So it summary it does work but it usually involves lots of weird little concessions or dynamics that prevent it from being a full triangle rather than just two points that are connected to a third.

>>40207547
yea i would want a closed throuple relationship
>>40207585
how is it cheating? i want my bf involved in every part of it, it would be equal for everyone
>>40207601
that's a really fair in all honesty. i'd like to think that i would be mature enough, but i probably wouldn't handle trying to to deal with two people's emotions all the time very well
>>40207702
we would both be fine dedicating a lot of free time to trying to even it out and not make it a "relationship+1", i would want it to be even on all sides

>>40207748
The guy is gonna be fine with it. I think the challenge is that you need to make sure both of the girls are fine with it and not trying to compete with each other.

>>40207770
i don't think we would really compete with eachother. i don't think we would even get in the relationship unless she would want me just as much as my bf. and it would be the same for me as well

It never works, there's plenty of horror stories of those who tried it, betrayal, disloyalty, laziness, regular relationships are hard enough, but this is pure excess with no gain. Never, ever, ever do it

>>40207362 (OP)
Every poly person ive known was an ugly miserable sex weirdo

>>40207362 (OP)
i think there's a chance it can work. i was in a closed throuple for a bit over three years, in the end what broke it was just regular relationship ending things, like disagreements on life and world things and communication issues.
but also it's a huge fucking risk. it can work, it probably won't, and you won't know before you've let it turn your life around completely.

It's like communism. Insufferable audience and doesn't work in practice.

>>40207362 (OP)
short answer: no
long answer: it does "sometimes" but you shouldn't play such terrible odds when you're playing with such sensitive things. don't do it

>>40207362 (OP)
I've never seen a poly situation that didn't end in person #3 getting abused or abandoned

>>40207362 (OP)
>Poly
>transbian
>puppyshit
Oh no no no no no

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>>40207377
first post best post