Thread 40251045

so me (35) and my wife (33) are in an open relationship with her best friend, a trans woman (33). they've been best friends since they were 6. i'm told a relationship like this could never work, yet it's worked for us for 10 years now. i've never looked into it, but how often do open relationships like this work out? for us, there's 100% no jealousy. when it comes to sex, there's never a "just the two of us tonight" situation, but lots of times one of us will "read the room" and just watch, or do something else, though most of the time we at least find out upfront if we're having sex, or a threesome. does anyone have any experience with a relationship like this?

>>40251045 (OP)
people will say that most open relationships or throuples or whatever dont work out, but tbe truth is that most relationships dont work out in general
you just have to enjoy things while they last, and when youre lucky enough to have one good thing that works, or two good things that work, hold onto them and appreciate them

I know of a relationship like this where it was stable for quite some time and then one day two of them just randomly decided to gang up on the third and spread a bunch of rumors about how they were evil and manipulative and rapey and they basically just kicked the third to the curb and had them excommunicated from all the friend circles

so maybe some day you'll do the kicking, or you'll be the one kicked, it's a surprise!