This was an odd response

>>40343830 (OP)
>dude just wants to smash on the gay hookup app
>tranny makes it about their insecurities and dating
why are yall like this.

>>40343843
Then he needs to fuck men and not women, if he doesn't wanna do the bare minimum and treat me like a princess

>>40343852
delulu

>>40343867
He ignored the hundreds of blokes on there and chatted to me. Why?

You all say you want a gay hook up, I don't hide I'm a woman, why the aggression?

Imagine looking like such a scary ogre guys have to, apparently, be mega-confident to be seen with you in public

>>40343843
a lot of guys can be rapists, inviting them over first thing is a bad idea. i always act like a silly dumbfuck over msgs to test their patience and see if they can play along. the rapists always get annoyed and stop chatting

>>40343895
Where I live even beautiful twinks get glassed, you'd be fucked

>>40343896
Hardcore facts, any man pushing for an immediate home meet is an instant red flag

>>40343830 (OP)
Trannies love wasting people's time. It doesn't make you fem socialized.

>>40343880
i have no idea what youre actually asking or trying to say. you don’t look for proper dates on grindr. it’s a hookup app. he’s not avoiding going on a date with you because he doesn’t want to be seen with a tranny. he’s avoiding it cuz he just wants to fuck. you are like 8 onion layers of delulu for making that about your insecurities or force it to be a date. dunno what else to tell you.
>>40343896
ok

>>40343954
I'm not inviting some random man into my home. No one should, gay or straight, cis or trans. Its dangerous. Bad things can happen.

I straight up tell men "im worried about my safety after past experiences", and I suggest we meet somewhere with cctv and other people for a coffee first. You'd be shocked how many get defensive, insult me, then still push to come to my home

Oh sorry is that too reasonable, would you prefer I get killed and thrown in a ditch, I know your tricks moid! The devil won't win today

>>40343954
guys that “just wanted to fuck” have never had any interest in helping me get off. god forbid someone want a bit more than being treated like a cum tissue

>>40343852
nigga you're on grindr get over yourself. i've fucked trannies who're probably hotter than you off grindr and i did it in car seats and abandoned houses, never heard a complaint.

>>40343830 (OP)
You seem insufferable
>>40343980
This seems completely fair

>>40343980
wtf? i never said to go have a hookup. im saying you’re wasting your time on grindr if what you want is to date.
>I know your tricks moid!
im literally trans you goofy bitch

>>40343987
ok? and nowhere did i say to go hookup with guys from apps but go off

>>40343988
>probably hotter

X

>>40343987
God forbid a girl has desires and needs beyond pump and dump

>>40344018
But you’re just a moid who shaves his legs?

>>40344048
So why did he chat to me over the hundreds of blokes who sent him dick pics, mystery

>>40344054
cuz he wants to fuck a tranny

>>40344054
how do you know he wasn't messaging them too?

>go on hookup app
>intentionally waste people's time and act like a dipshit
>complain when they get annoyed

>>40344079
you forgot the last step
>complain about it on /tttt/

>>40344054
Cuz he wants to fuck a moid with smooth legs and long hair?

>>40343830 (OP)
Which is the odd response? The first comment about cleavage? Yeah it's weirdly horny as an opener but he is a guy. You probably shouldn't have responded to that comment at all if didn't like it and just pursued the date thing.
Your responses sound way too insecure + not being clear with what you want which is terrible combo when talking to men. Why not just explicitly tell him you want to a coffee date out somewhere? that's a normal thing to request for women.

God can we please ban trannies from grindr. Go get your own app

>>40344129
>Weirdly horny
GRINDR IS A CAUSAL SEX APP FOR MEN

>>40344132
100% this. Pooners appeal to exactly 5 people on this god forsaken planet and all 5 of those folx are dangerously mentally ill. Hons somehow manage to channel the worst of both sexes which makes them hilariously unlikable. Neither shouldn’t exist in any capacity.

>>40344141
I have no problem with the pooners actually. They understand the deal and just take the dick appointment with drama. These mtf trannies treat Grindr like it's fucking e-harmony

>>40344148
*Without drama

>>40344133
Even taking that in to account:
>a bit too much cleavage there
is weird! It's not explicitly horny like opening with a dick pic or asking for a nude or something but it is still a comment on OP's body. Like what did he mean by this unironically? I mean I didn't see what he is referring too, but how does a guy arrive at commenting that.

>>40344148
Thats because trannies get banned from the relationship apps by mass reporting so grindr is the only place they can go. Taimi was also good in my use

>>40343932
Afghanistan?

>>40344295
No saar

>>40343852
he doesn't want to fuck women, he wants to fuck trannies

>>40344163
OP here, I sent a headshot selfie of me in a dress, the dress had a kinda low cut but it's suitable to wear to a work party for example.

Yeah he made it weird with his reaction

>>40344376
Then he needs to bring his A game.

I don't give a flying shit if he wants a billionaire dollars and a 10 inch dick, he should buy an escort of the cheap skate wants sex

>>40344295
Yeah, come visit, book a flight now

>>40344132
>reeeeee trannys are men hahahah
>whoah why are these men with long hair soft skin, hairless bodies, tits and a vagina behaving like women, this is blowing my mind!!!!

Your poor fragile mind!!

>>40344113
But I thought men were down to fuck, men think about sex constantly right? Fucking makes men feel good yeah?

Not me, I'd feel like SHIT if some man used me and dipped. He can either learn to act like a man, or he can learn to be alone..

Not passively aggressively get upset because I wouldn't let some random loser from grindr get easy sex, who does he think I am

>>40344079
Yeah he did waste my time. I made it very clear this moron wasn't hooking up with me, I think the NO HOOK UPS NO DICK PICS NO HORNY CHAT wasn't clear enough in my profile, probably my fault I shouldn't beat around the bush yeah lol

>>40344060
Well then I'd be a fool to say yes if they're all saying no too, clearly being a rude, desperate loser isn't a game winner

>>40344168
I got banned from tinder, I got reported too many times, men are fragile

>>40345891
I don't think trannies are men because they're annoying cunts. They are obviously women

>>40345988
OP comes off as an entitled, arrogant, argumentative moid in this whole thread.

>>40346017
Reeee why am I not being nice to people who insult me I'm so moid brained lmao

I'm in my villain era and all I'm doing is saying no

>>40345988
Affirming I'll take it, thanks, but seriousky though women in general know their worth.

That's why I can come across a bit abrupt because I get upset when I'm taking for a fool, I'm no fool, I'm not letting anyone use me or abuse me or treat me badly

So please bear that in mind

>>40346110
You’re really insufferable.

>>40346133
>”I'm no fool”
>trying to find a forever person on Grindr
you sure about that?

>>40346017
Oh if there's one thing men HATE, it's no strings attached sex without any work. They fucking hate it.

You know, like when a guy tries to invite himself into my home, with the idea of sex, im so male brained I just recoiled, just like every other man on planet earth.

The guys a jackass if he just took me out somewhere nice listened to me and made me feel special I'd WANT to have sex but I'm just so male brained I cant help it right anon yeah

>>40346165
Trying to find "not a dickhead"

Yeah, I'm talking to men, so I guess that does make me a fool.

>>40346151
It feels good to be the opposite of a people pleaser. It feels good to say no.

No. Fuck off. You're insufferable. I know what I want, if a man cant match it, cool let's move on. I'm a human being not some doormat.

No.

>>40346176
You are on the gay cruising app and you want to be wined and dined
Get over yourself

>>40346185
theyre on a hookup app. they are wanting to hook up. you are on a hook up app. you are wanting to date. this is the problem. ppl have said this to you over and over in the thread and youve gone on totally irrelevant rants about why hookups are dangerous. what is it about this that youre not getting?

I spent my whole life walking on eggshells with others, desperate for approval.

It feels so fucking good to say no. No. No. No you won't invite yourself to mine, no I don't care. It feels so good not to care, like I have taken off a huge heavy coat and now I can just move about freely.

I dont care if you like me or not. It feels so good. Wow. I don't care. No I won't meet up, no I won't be pressured into sex I hate, fuck off, no.

God thst feels good

>>40346213
I dont care lol. I don't...care. if he wants to see me, that's the requirement.

Look how weird and aggressive he got, i dodged a bullet imagine having to control someone like that irl, someone who can hurt me and force me no. I'd rather he gets annoyed and blocks me, it feels nice to set boundaries

>>40346230
>what is it about this that youre not getting?

Ok so let's say I make an app. It called ghe Killing Kittens app. It a where people kill kittens, you'd judge the person for using it wouldn't you.

So just because it's grindr I should lose my self respect? I should invite some stranger into my home who is so shady, so implicitly dangerous they refuse to spend half an hour in a public cafe before potentially coming back?

I dont give a fuck if 99% of gridnr users take dangerous risks with their safety and health, if 99% of grindr users do that, then 99% of grindr users are stupid as fuck.

>>40346292
nobody is telling you to go have a hookup. dead serious - do you have brain damage or something?

>>40346292
youre so stupid

>>40343830 (OP)
the cleavage thing was weird (kind of calling you a slut), but otherwise he's charming

>>40346258
You are on the wrong app and are wasting people's time. This is entirely a you problem

>>40343830 (OP)
honestly op you give me big girlboss vibes (i mean it in both the good and bad way) and i respect it desu dont listen to these faggots

>>40346642
>On the faggot app
>"Don't listen to these faggots"
Trannies are insufferable

>>40343896
>>40343944
jfc please tell me none of you autistic turboretards is inviting people from grindr on first dates to your place or going to their place for a first date.
> how can you know so little?

>>40346661
I don't invite people from grindr on dates. I invite them to fuck. ITS AN APP FOR GAY FAGGOTS TO FUCK OTHER FAGGOTS IN THE ASS WHAT PART OF THAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTADN

>>40346292
>self respect
>using Grindr
pick one miss wannabe girlboss

>>40346684
okay... sorry that I'm not hypersexual and just looking for a boyfried.

>>40346763
You can look for a boyfriend on an app that is not specifically for gay men to fuck other gay men. Try an actual dating app

>>40346776
honestly im convinced OP loves the drama and conflict of shutting down guys on Grindr. this is obv some weird power thing. they lowkey know Grindr isnt gonna lead to anything and just wanna shame ppl on the apps. literally why they posted screenshots here hoping wed all clap for her and call the dude gross. this is the only explanation that makes sense of this whole thread. very weird behavior.

>>40343830 (OP)
Why are you on the gay hookup app if you don't want to engage in gay hookups? Do you try to use the reddit app to order ramen?

>>40343830 (OP)
I met some good people on grindr, it's not all degenerates. There's also tags like looking for ""relationship", "chat", and others, it's not necessarily a hook up app even though most fags use it like that

>trying to find a relationship with respectable men on an app infested with creeper sex addicted pedos
You have noone but yourself to blame

>>40343852
>im a princess
who uses grindr?

Trannies, can you PLEASE not be insufferable narcissists foe five seconds? No wonder only chaser weirdos like you.

>>40345918
>go out of your way to look for trouble
>find it
>complain
Go ack about it o algo

Ugh i know how you feel xister, i wanted to find a cool person to do bible study with on grindr and all he wanted was gay sex my life is ruined

>>40346213
Gay men are incapable of love, genuine connection and empathy?

>>40346320
See >>40346213
>>40346230

Literally telling me to expect mindless rape machines, not human beings capable of understanding human behaviour

>>40346507
I didn't feel very charmed, felt like he got angry because I said can we please meet in public first so I don't end up raped and killed, the he suddenly went from having time to having no time

>>40350504
Going on grindr to find a man who wants to hear your feelings is like going on amazon to find a dildo that can give you financial advice.

>>40346642
I agree, it's not unreasonable to have a basic criteria of safety before meeting someone who could potentially rob me, attack me, rape me or kill me.

If asking a man to meet somewhere public first to confirm he won't do those things, then his intentions are very sinister, and I suspect everyone here actually does want more dead trans peoole, and thats why they're angry because they actually wanted me to be hurt

>>40350519
Is your life so pathetic that you must resort to this to get narcissistic supply?

>>40346652
>don't listen to people who want you hurt

Idk sounds like sensible advice, why do gay men hate sensible advice?

>women let onto grindr for some stupid reason
>immediately try to turn the sex app into a job interview app like tinder

>>40346661
Its insane to me. On many levels.

Like safety is obvious, but also how do you know where they've been they could be carrying any type of disease, a test should always be up to date before meeting a new partner.

Secondly how can they be happy with a man just coming round, getting what he wants and leaving don't they feel emotionally empty and used? I would feel awful.

Also isn't it nice to have a nice time, to sit somewhere with someone you've gotten to known and just enjoy the day or evening? Why is this controversial? I will never behave like a mindless animal putting my safety and health at risk, the consequences are just too severe, plus I like nice restaurants hehe

>>40346684
Well then go and fuck gay faggots.

Im a woman, and my criteria for asking me is XYZ. if you can't meet that criteria then stop wasting my time.

>>40346609
Not allowed on other apps, and no, I have not wasted anyones time, im very open with what I expect.

A princess needs a prince not a diseased rapist scumbag

>>40350613
How did you get banned from duolicious lmao wtf is wrong with you

>>40350591
>invades male space
>complains about it
Well, you socially pass

>>40346832
>have basic criteria expected of any decent person before engaging in an intimate, sensual act
>gay men are so bamboozled by this they calculate theories that it must be an elaborate ploy

Being taken to dinner before deciding if the man in front of me is compatible is not drama, it's normal, functional life

>>40343987
wya i'll make you cum and take you out nice places

>>40347330
I cant go anywhere else. I didn't realise it was a GGGG app, I thought it was a LGBT app.

>>40350636
>invades male space
>complains about it
Well, you socially pass

>>40343852
>Then he needs to fuck men and not women
Bud, he's trying to!
>if he doesn't wanna do the bare minimum and treat me like a princess
Guess humiliation isn't his kink!

>>40350643
Read: got banned from all other apps for being a psychotic cunt without a cunt

>>40350000
There it is. A gay man telling someone from the most vulnerable and marginalised section of society to kill themselves because they wouldn't let s stranger rape and kill them.

There it is.

>>40350661
You should tell your rabbi about this tomorrow evening c:

>malignant narcissist wants to kill and rape a gay man
>projects about it

>>40345918
>go on the dick pic app
>be upset at all the dick pics
>continue using dick pic app

Step 3 is where I get confused tbqh

>>40350650
Oh so why doesn't he fuck a 6 foot 2 bearded, hair man?

Why is he deliberately seeking out a small, curvy woman with long hair, soft hairless skin, a vagina and breasts who specifically states her desires

Jist screaming at me I'm a man isn't going to make me behave like a mindless rapist like you, if its a gay app then don't bother me and you stay with each other

If you hate penises so much why not date a transman?

>>40350722
Sure I would be open to dating a ftm.

I dont have dick, I hate men getting angry that they feel they have a right to rape at will. What can he do at mine that he can't do in a coffee shop

>>40350717
You are none of these things except the rapey part.

You are all very bad people who are encouraging vulnerable users to expose themselves to the risk of violence

Everyone sensible agrees with me, dinner is the bare minimum

>>40350730
What if you didn't drink coffee and got raped this morning?

>>40350731
Ok retard what color are my eyes, how longs my hair? You don't know, you just want to be angry and horrible, good luck yo yo

>>40350745
If i wanted dinner id go on doordash not grindr

>>40350717
>Oh so why doesn't he fuck a 6 foot 2 bearded, hair man?
So you eat red meat for EVERY meal? Or do you switch it up from time to time?

>Jist screaming at me I'm a man isn't going to make me behave like a mindless rapist like you
I don't know, completely lacking a theory of mind for the people around you and trying to force everyone to adapt to your expectations rather than understanding the situation you are in is kind of like, peak mindless rapist thinking.

>>40350746
What does this even mean?

>>40350771
But how would you feel if you got raped because you didn't drink coffee this morning?

Does coffee have an anti-rape forcefield?

>>40350756
>completely lacking a theory of mind for the people around you and trying to force everyone to adapt to your expectations rather than understanding the situation you are in is kind of like, peak mindless rapist thinking.

I am asking to meet a stranger in public, this isn't a normal rant, it's bizarre and creepy. Why do you have this reaction to basic online dating protocol?

>>40350788
>>40350781
Meeting in public is sensible, why are you so opposed to it?

I dont understand, this makes no sense. Surely if he treats me well, looks after me, spoils me then we can make love many times, isn't that preferable to just having sex one time?

Also, if he is willing to have sex so quickly, then he must do it a lot, and there's a high risk of catching a disease.

>>40350791
>I am asking to meet a stranger in public
You asked to be pampered and treated like a princess. You're saying you would have been fine with a classic McDonalds bathroom fuck?

>Why do you have this reaction to basic online dating protocol?
You aren't using an online "dating" app.

Its interesting no one has actually told me why its bad to be safe, its just "ITS A GAY APP" and insulting me.

I havent heard any argument, just angry moid noises. So what's the counter argument then, I'm waiting

>>40350824
A app where people meet and date is online dating.

No i don't eat McDonalds, it's really bad for us. A nice restaurant, quiet, soft music, and a nice menu. That would be lovely. Candles too, I like candles.

Why do men not like just environments, doesn't that sound like a nice way to spend an evening?

>>40350841
What do you have to offer to warrant such treatment? The only reason i bother to interact with you right now is because your narcissism is entertaining from a distance.

>>40350833
Love is inherently unsafe sis. Even in romantic boyfriend relationships. That's the point of love sis. The risk and danger.

Rotten people tend to attract rotten people.

>>40350833
If you hate men, don't use the gay men app.

>>40350841
>No i don't eat McDonalds, it's really bad for us. A nice restaurant, quiet, soft music, and a nice menu. That would be lovely. Candles too, I like candles.
Grindr

>>40343852
Holy shit that is so based. I'm with you 100%, girl. We know our worth.

>>40350922
Poor girl is being so mistreated for her dashing bravery

>>40350841
>and date
See this is where your lack of theory of mind comes in to play. You clearly don't understand the app you are using or what motivates the people around you.

>Why do men not like just environments, doesn't that sound like a nice way to spend an evening?
Again a total misunderstand of who you are speaking to, what they want from the encounter, and what they are willing to give you in order to get what they want.

Heterosexual men take ciswomen to fancy restaurants because they wish to procreate with the ciswomen. They typically are willing to pay every single dime they have access to in order to make this happen with their preferred ciswoman.

Gay/Bisexual men fuck trannies because they need to get a nut out. A trip to the the McDonalds bathroom stall is typically what they are willing to pay to get that from the most available tranny.

You seem to think you are speaking to heterosexual men seeking a ciswoman. You are not. There are exactly zero heterosexual men on grindr. None. Zilch. Nada.

Hope this helped!

>>40350537
But they're still human beings right? They still have emotions and thought processes?

So why would they become angry someone they've never met wants to feel safe with them?

>>40350644
Whoah so what is it, am I a man or a woman? Because you all told me I'm a man, so any behaviour I do is male behaviour so you can take me dinner pay for my hair and buy me a new dress, like you would with any other man, right?

Sorry but your app isn't some secret safe space, if I'm there, then that's my criteria, I expect nice food before I decide if I like you

>>40350982
On grindr, supper or coffee is had after sodomy. Don't want any complications to occur.

>>40350654
No I got banned because when you tell moids you are a trans woman, they mass report you, numbskull

>>40351000
You got banned from discord AND duolicious?

>>40350673
Don't be antisemitic

>>40350703
There has to be someone decent out there

>>40350755
Well what's the problem. You eat doordash and ill go to a nice restaurant for a date

>>40351025
How many nice dinners have you had this week?

>>40350882
Because its what I want, and thats enough. If the men who want to fuck me can't provide a basic, bare minimum date, then that's not the type of man I want in my life.

I'm not a narcissistic, I know my worth and i certainly won't allow some lazy moron access to me because he screamed at me online, so he needs to go home and alone and learn to do better

>>40351042
If you were worth more you wouldn't be on Grindr lmao

>>40350893
Thats a sad truth. Men are dangerous, anyone we let in can hurt us.

You're right, even going for dinner can lead to negative outcomes. We must be so so so careful, so careful.

You're right, I will raise my guard even higher, and be more ruthless with red flags, I see a red flag, its over, no 2nd chances, I will never meet this man even if he wants to go out, he already lost his chance.

Thank you

>>40351018
>help I'm in desperate need of water
>time to start my search in the most logical place
>the center of the sahara desert

>>40350900
Wrong, vulnerable people attract predators.

That's why you have to clearly set boundaries and manage expectations. I don't begrudge someone who says "sorry I just want a hook up", that's perfectly fine, I know where I stand.

Its the ones who try to bully themselves into my home just for sex, no, fuck off

Itt: violent rapehon thinks every male is a violent rapist

>>40343830 (OP)
wow a tranny AND a retard!

>>40350916
So, its an lgbt app.

You're pic implies I'm doing this to harm others when It's a nice time for both of us

Don't you like having nice food, in nice places?

:)

>>40351070
Explains why you're looking for broken people on Grindr to buy your food lmao

>>40350922
Absolutely based beyond belief, you're the prize, and let them pursue you.

If they don't meet your high standards, then they need to go and improve. This is our life, and we value our lives, so anyone coming in should also value our lives

I feel so bad for straight men holy shit

>>40351107
why?

>>40350952
Well then gay men can have sex with one another.

I didn't ask to be born trans but I sure as hell can control who comes into my life. If its good for the goose, its good for the gander, if a cis woman can be spoilt, so can I.

If the men on that app want quick sex with me, well here's my criteria for you to have quick sex, and if they meet it, and I feel they are compatible, and I feel ready, and safe and I'm in the mood, then I would consider sex maybe under the right circumstances

>>40350992
How can I have sex with a man who i don't feel comfortable with?

>>40351118
Imagine being stuck on grindr having to buy dinner for cluster B strangers because for some reason you just aren't into men while on grindr

>>40351143
Oh that's not a straight male problem.

>>40351141
Risking dookie on the dick isn't really comfortable. A date at the zoo or a theme park is way more appropriate for grindr dates than eating food or drinking diuretics that cause bowel movements.

>>40351084
Did I say im looking for grocery shopping or did I say dinner?

It isn't just a chance for me to look stunning and wear a nice dress, I'm seeing how the man handles himself, what does he wear, where do we go, how does he treat the staff, what topics does he talk about, how does he make me feel, does he listen to me.

These are all the things on my mind, before I decide if I see anything more there

>>40351171
Is dinner not food?

>>40351051
Wow, so you're saying the men on gridnr are worthless.

Ok fine, if im also worthless, then we're all on the same level and if they want to see me, they can meet this criteria, if they don't there's plenty of others on the app, and i dodged potentially being hurt, raped and killed

>>40351040
why?

>>40351180
More than just food, I'm sorry you're incapable of reading

>>40351187
>Wow, so you're saying the men on gridnr are worthless.
Yes.
>and i dodged potentially being hurt, raped and killed
Fasting is rape now?

>>40351162
Ohh zoo would be nice I like animals.

Ok I will suggest that next time, I'd like a trip to the zoo to see the animals. I get scared very easily, so theme parks are no good, I once went on a ride and had a panic attack, screaming and crying, so probably best to avoid that for another date lol.

Also i don't do anal, I have PIV

>>40351210
No, letting a man into my home after he refused to go somewhere with cameras and other people is a massive red flag.

Huge red flag, what has he got to hide? Because he's looking to cause me harm.

Sadly, I cant disagree with you, i think the quality of man everywhere is low. Its like they are incapable of controlling their horny urges even momentarily. I am so so so so so so glad i don't have a sex drive like that. I could happily go the next 5 years without sex lol

>>40351214
Local outdoor concerts are also good as the volume isnt usually too high and there are lots of people around who aren't going to be hyperfocused on the concert. Im sorry you are stuck on Grindr of all places; even Discord is a better place to find good people worth dating.

>>40351260
Concerts get a bit too loud for me, but I would like to go to a small venue for a local band, that would be good, I have ear plugs! Yay lol.

Yeah to be honest, I will completely just set my expectations to 0, if I can have a nice chat once in a while I will. I'll check out discord dating, are there any specific servers, can I just search on Google for discord dating in my area?

>>40351171
girl its a casual sex app get a grip

>>40351321
That's cool, its the lack of safety.

I'm not against sex, I'm pro safety, so please stay safe out there, I remember that horror story of the 14 year old girl who got killed and dismembered, horrible, please be safe everyone

>>40351319
>I'll check out discord dating, are there any specific servers, can I just search on Google for discord dating in my area?
I've had good luck with political activist servers and linux tism servers but ymmv since i am a chaser. Be careful with guys, the dangerous ones may be a bit too charming and say what you want to hear and will behave in the public eye.

>>40343830 (OP)
why do you keep making these threads

>>40351407
Yeah I just want a nice man, that's all lol. I don't have a list of unrealistic requirements, like must earn 300,000 a year or be 6'5, I just want someone who will make me feel safe and special.

Good point about psycopaths who are good at lying, I've met a few liars, they forget what they tell me and later contradict themselves

>>40343830 (OP)
No it really isn't

>>40351578
Because its important more peoole are aware of what's happening and people show their true colors, look how transphobic this thread became, its sad

>>40351618
Yeah it is, why is he getting angry? He should say ok cool, let's to out on this date.

Shouldn't invite strangers into your hone

>>40351638
because you keep acting like a retard maybe if trannies stopped acting like that transphobia wouldn't be so rampant

>>40351649
is a hookup app

>>40351650
No im not, what have I said that's wrong?

>>40351663
read the thread retard

>>40351674
Its my thread.

What have I said that's wrong?

>>40351662
I know but you still have to be safe.

Can end up robbed, attacked or catch a disease, so please be safe, and don't let people bully you

>>40351649
If he's in blue and you're in yellow, I don't see where he got angry. Yellow message was taking offense where it wasn't meant and trying to flip her own hurt feelings into insults. Blue just didn't want to go out

I love this

>>40351721
Where did I insult him? He insulted me, I sent a picture and that was his response, not to saying anything nice but to criticise?

Also he has time to come to mine but not sit in a coffee shop so I can make sure he isn't going to hurt me, ok.

Another one exposes themselves, lol

>>40351790
>Where did I insult him?
In all three of the messages in your screenshot, you take a little shot at him. You weren't wrong to want to meet in public, but you should've just been direct about your reasons for wanting that, rather than trying to get him to do what you wanted by negging him and trying to put him on the defensive. What was the tone you were going for?

>>40351831
He had asked to come to mine many times before and each time I said ok, but I want to meet in public first and he kept making excuses.

So when I message him saying "it's sunny today, are you doing any thing" he says nah let's meet up, then he says oh ill come to yours for a cup of tea AFTER I said many many times I do not want that to happen straight away, so im exasperated.

Either he says "sorry not my thing" and moves on, or he says "ok thats reasonable let's go out". Don't fucking keep asking me the same thing

>>40351883
Alright well I didn't see any of that context in your initial post, so with nothing but that screenshot to go off of, it seemed like you were the one being a little too hostile without good reason.

For what it's worth I agree with you, I don't like that sort of thing either, but that's also why I don't like Grindr, because what he's doing is 100% standard grindr behavior. It's not that he "doesn't have the confidence to be seen with you," it's that he's lazy and he wants to treat sex like DoorDash, he doesn't want to add the "extra step" of meeting in a public place before getting what he wants, he just wants the easiest possible scenario. He's not gonna be what you want him to be, it's not gonna go the way you want it to go, so you should've just blocked him after hitting that "impasse" more than once

>>40351922
>Alright well I didn't see any of that context in your initial post, so with nothing but that screenshot to go off of, it seemed like you were the one being a little too hostile without good reason.

Sometimes I forget I'm mentally ill, and not everyone can read my mind. Yeah me and this guy have spoken on and off, and I've always been very polite and very clear.

That if him, or anyone else, wants to see if they're compatible with me, let's meet in public, because I want to feel safe. And everytime he has an excuse, so when he asked this time I just said look if you lack the confidence to go out with me, just own up to it.

And look at his response, another excuse, he hasn't got the time. Anyone would be sick of this by now, and another anon made me think I should never meet this man, so I think the red flag cannot be ignored any longer at this point

>all the moids running interference for this guy itt
#not all men… #not all men…

>>40351936
That's fair, and I agree that you shouldn't meet him. I don't see any reason to think he's out to hurt you, it's more that any encounter you have with him is gonna be impersonal and dull as dirt. He's making excuses because he doesn't have the balls to say "I just want to fuck and run, and I don't have the social skills to carry a conversation with you for as long as it'd take to get a cup of coffee"

>>40351950
I'm paranoid, trans people not treated well here and people will harm me just because they can, I worry a lot.

Plus I'm setting boundaries now, and saying no a lot more, it feels really good, rather than being miserable, I'm realising being alone is better than being hurt.

You're really good at understanding people, I really appreciate you posting it makes sense, he lacks the social skills to actually say what he means. Well, that is his problem so I will ensure it says his problem and not mine too lol

>>40351944
So true, makes me lose so much respect. Its like they're on the side of the predator, and it wouldn't surprise me if they too have also trampled over someone's else's boundaries

>>40351977
I'm just making guesses, but I've seen a lot of that type of behavior and apps like Grindr encourage and enable it, so that's what it sounds like to me. What's sad is that a lot of those guys barely even ever get laid, they'll strike out again and again trying to get the "easy thing" with a dozen different people but they'll still never have the guts to take two minutes to talk to any of them like a human being
>Plus I'm setting boundaries now, and saying no a lot more, it feels really good, rather than being miserable, I'm realising being alone is better than being hurt.
I'm glad to hear it, that's a very good mindset. If you can take good care of yourself, then your own company is better company than 75% of these people. If it feels like you're struggling to get the conversation started or if it feels like you're not getting treated right within the initial interaction, it's probably not gonna get better if you give them more chances, just move on till you find someone who acts right without you having to pry it out of them

>>40351098
>>40350922
>>40343852

>>40343896
the tranny is calling other guys rapists
LMFAOOOOOOOOOO

>>40346832
reminder that trannies are all at the helm of a rich nigga named john money. trannies never needed to exist as femboys already did which are the same exact thing except less linguistically retarded. trannyism was invented by rich people, and peoples urge to be called a woman (a mere chromosome) stems from misandrist self hatred of being a man and wanting female status, without being intelligent enough to realize a man can do everything a woman can do. they redundantly force the sexual standards they said they were against. asia has the most feminine-presenting men and transgenderism as a concept is almost nonexistent there.

>>40350991
what the fuck are you even trying to say?
>Sorry but your app isn't some secret safe space
no argument other than "im an asshole lol"
>if I'm there, then that's my criteria, I expect nice food before I decide if I like you
youre not a free person, youre morally incorrect and ought to shut yourself down unless you want to get shut down by society. lets not be hypocritical, freedom of speech is not freedom of consequences from getting shit on in the internet

>>40352026
Oh no it deleted my response fml

Basically i was saying how I cannot understand the mind of men, if they put in effort I'd want to dress up nice for them and have a good time, but they don't even do that!

Its why I think the male loneliness epidemic is women just saying no I won't put up with this. And men are like huh, I offered you my dick what else could you want lmao

>>40352026
>If it feels like you're struggling to get the conversation started or if it feels like you're not getting treated right within the initial interaction, it's probably not gonna get better if you give them more chances, just move on till you find someone who acts right without you having to pry it out of them

This is really good advice, I'm going to take it to heart, I shouldn't have to force conversation, or draw out what I want from him, he should have the ability to hold a conversation. Even if he just went out info dumped about his job or interests I'd take that over this lazy, horrible approach "let me fuck you, uhhhhh" lmao its atrocious

I'm in my loving me phase now, because I can end up alone and happy, or alone, used and bitter. If I'm happy im more likely to find someone if I'm bitter it won't happen

:)

>>40352093
This is a bot, we're discussing dating anon, not political philosophy

>>40352098
I halfway agree, I think the NPC meme is pretty real and only about 50% of people actually have souls and personalities, but I also have to repeat that what he's doing is exactly what people do on Grindr, so if Grindr's where you're trying to meet men, there's only so much you can complain about finding coal in a coal mine

>>40352098
maintaining an attractive male body is much harder than maintaining an attractive female body due to testosterone and biology, you were lied to

>>40352115
nope i just shut down your entire way of thinking so youre mad.

>>40352120
Subjective

>>40352119
Fair point, grindr seems to attract very bad people, but it makes me distrustful of everyone in society.

If this is how people act, then how can we ever trust them in another context. Let's say I meet someone on a normie dating app that's also on grindr, they're the same person, their actions are held to their decisions, I don't want to be with someone who's a walking disease vector.

Its why I always talk down men who are married and want a casual fling, because they will be reckless and not use a condom, it's the grindr culture unfortunately.

Ask someone for an up to date sti test and they recoil

>>40352344
That's not really a logical thought process, desu. I think you should just get off Grindr, and look for what you want where you're more likely to find it. Grindr attracts a certain type of person and brings out a certain side of them. The type of person you're gonna click with simply isn't there, and even if they were, it's the least likely place that you'd have the type of interaction with them that would begin anything.

You're damaging your faith in humanity because you're immersing yourself in an environment where you do not fit. You could damage your faith in humanity if you went over to /pol/ and spent all day immersed in tranny hate threads, but not all of humanity is in those threads, and you're more likely to get along with the people who aren't. So why waste your time and energy there?

>>40350922
you are on GRINDR!!!! WHAT WORTH?

>>40352407
This is incredibly reasonable. I re read it and now I'm going to have something to drink and think about it.

Yeah I'm damaging my perceptions based on skewed data this is a good point, it isn't a healthy environment. Thanks wise anon, God im so glad you exist

>>40352460
Anytime. Good luck!

idk if im giga autistic but meeting at her place first day looks horrible in general? asking as a question. My first ever date and relationship started when I went over to her place to play video games. Years later I had other dates like that I had no clue it looks like a huge red flag to people? Going by what I read ITT

>>40352514
If both of you are comfortable with it then it's fine

>>40352514
Honestly it genuinely depends on the person.

Me personally I live somewhere trans women get attacked a lot, so meeting in public is about safety for me. If the guys a weirdo I'll say whoops an emergency has come up, I'll see you later.

It happened before, I met one guy out and he was a total scumbag, I mean I thought I was being recorded for instgram.

He was wearing a baseball cap backwards, he had a jacket with weed symbols on, he told me fucks prostitutes. I think this guys a lunatic, as we leave he starts rolling up weed and smoking it, I walk away, he follows, two women look at me and ask if im ok, I say yes and keep walking.

The guy is saying hello to every crackhead and homeless bum along the way, they all congregate near there. Some cis women walk past and he shouts SEXY at them, at this point I'm walking as fast as I can be without running, he runs after me and I scream at him to leave me alone, some woman in the street gets involved on my side, and says "leave her alone". I thank her and run off as fast as my legs can carry me.

And that's why it's best to meet in public, imagine if I was alone with this man. He was 33 years old

>>40343852

>>40352594
Ok I see that’s insane. Sorry you went through that

>>40352600
Yes, Chinese men are misogynistic, they drown new born baby girls.

How edgy of you anon

>>40352624
Its a lesson learnt and why I'm non negotiable on meeting. Because he seemed normal in texts, seemed fine, didn't think ahhh this guys a loser I though yeah seems like a normie, wow I was wrong, and I'm glad it cost me nothing except some time and a terrible story to share lol.

He would be been the type to force himself on me, I can tell by how he chased me, no normal person sees a date trying to escape and runs after them like that lol

Thank you to everyone that responded nicely. I will probably post more grindr adventures

:)

>>40343988
>abandoned houses
actually that sounds fun, I kinda wanna fuck somebody in a spooky haunted house now.

>>40350636
>gay men
nope still trans. same anon as here
>>40343997
and yea youre just coming off as a homophobe trying to shame gay dudes and start drama. def a weird power thing going on here.

>>40350756
>completely lacking a theory of mind for the people around you and trying to force everyone to adapt to your expectations rather than understanding the situation you are in is kind of like, peak mindless rapist thinking
trvth

>>40353818
Why would gay men like trans women?

Also quote me

>>40353826
Dumb

>>40353896
Because they see you as an feminine man

>>40353818
Also I don't care if you call yourself the CEO of trans, I'm not inviting a stranger into my home, why do you want me harmed?

>>40353906
They can see me as Bruce Campbell if it makes them happy, doesn't change the fact I'm not inviting a random stranger into my home, and no amount of "you're a homophobe!" is going to make me suddenly endanger myself

Wheres my quote bitch?

>>40353910
ive never once said you should do that. i don’t think anyone else has either. show me where i ever said this.
>>40353896
>the CEO of trans
i didn’t say it to come off an authority or to flex wtf? the point was you said i was a gay man coming up with some type of conspiracy theory to explain your behavior. but im not a gay man. Im a trans woman. your inability to understand what other people are saying and like another anon said, the motivations and intentions of the ppl around you is seriously weird.

>>40353940
Anon, I don't give a fuck.

90% of posters are dog piling on me telling me I'm a bad person for telling a man who doesn't listen to my safety concerns that I won't let him into my home.

Its pretty weird behaviour by this board

>>40343852
God, I hate women (trans inclusive).

>>40343896
It’s actually the opposite. Normie guys get filered when people act like psychopaths online. The people willing to put up with any amount of bullshit are sex pests that care about nothing but their next ejaculation.

>>40353959
no whats weird is that’s what your takeaway is. 90% of posters have told you you’re goofy for using grindr for anything except casual sex. nobody is telling you youre a bad person for not having hookups. get a grip, goddamn

>>40353979
Oh excuse meeeee for expecting basic human decency!!!

>>40354003
you’re allowed to expect whatever your standards are, but your standards are out of place for grindr.

>>40354016
Well unfortunately I don't have many options because most apps aren't trans friendly.

And it's an lgbt app, not a gay app, so the users there will just have to adjust and moderate their behaviour

>>40354029
>the users there will just have to adjust and moderate their behaviour
yea good luck with that lmao

>>40354033
They'll change, men will do anything to have sex. Last I checked, beggars can't be choosers

>>40343830 (OP)
MOGGED WITHOUT EVEN SEEING THE INDIVIDUAL LMFAO WTF

>>40351883
>>40351936
this makes a lot more sense.
it sucks that he's lying about it too, rather than being upfront. if he has time to meet at your house he should have time to meet outside.

>>40353970
i’m not talking about acting like a psychopath. more like babbling about mundane stuff or sharing whimsical pseud-tier musings. rapists get legit angry over this whereas nice boys will smile and find it endearing

>>40343852
chaser here
nothing wrong with this at all and anyone complaining about this is a degen

>>40343852
female brained

>>40354674
I tell them stories about my plushies, and I find that's a good filter.

God I love nice men so much its unreal

>>40354746
cute!! they would be lucky to hear about that

>>40350661
>the most vulnerable and marginalised
are you lost? this is not Reddit, we don't care.

>>40351729
People who post shit like this are also the most likely to perpetuate endless dumb drama.

>>40345871
bro
you're on grindr
lol

>>40355076
my post
i believe i fell for the ragebait

>it's grindr
>the hookup app
>you're on grindr
>grindr lol lmao
do you seriously think people interested in trannies are going to be found anywhere else? you're so dishonest and lazy and unfunny.

>>40352422
she got that filthy BOYPUSSY to get BLAPPED
she not like the other homo males, lmfao

shut the fuck up, tranny bastards
GET OFF MY APP

>>40352600
... probably the best Chink post ever posted... I fuckin bow

>>40353553
next time you see a tranny getting hate crimed know you contributed to it

>>40343852
>I'm a princess
>Also I'm using a gay fuck now app

>>40355179
there are poz tags if you want to filter for your own kind

>>40355386
I'm straight, I dont sleep with gay men. So you can keep doing what you're doing, don't mind me

>>40355117
Honestly, the whole thread is disgusting. I can't even imagine what type of diseases these people carry.

Imagine sleeping with a stranger that doesn't even have an up to date sti test, then acting as though everyone else is the problem.

This thread wasn't anti hook up, or anti sex, it was about being safe around strangers. And everyone raged, because they want dead trans people, they want us dead, they want us killed and then when we are they'll post "whomp whomp" like they did about that poor 14 year old girl that was dismembered

>>40357266
Logging onto grindr is like stepping into a septic tank without a hazmat suit. I won't blame the septic tank for existing.

>>40343852
Holy based. Don't listen to the haters, they're fat and probably have aids