Thread 40392681

My bf likes to thirst over other men he sees on the internet whether it's fictional characters, youtubers, or just men posting thirst traps. Which would be fine except he expresses zero sexual desire towards me. I'm never gonna look like the men he swoons over and ever since we've been together I've started to get body dysmorphia, it's been going on for years now. He keeps telling me he'll like me for who I am and how I look doesnt matter but whenever I flirt with him sexually he just acts awkward or upset but will still express sexual desire over strangers right in front of me despite knowing how uncomfortable it makes me feel and even though weve been together for a long time we've never even had sex once. Should I just kill myself?

>>40392681 (OP)
You should call him out on this but not like in an accusatory way just in like a hey yk ive noticed that you do this and i wanna have an honest conversation with you so please dont lie and say you dont do it cuz ik you do. yk. talk it out. somewhere in there you need to ask him point blank if hes not attracted to you n sheihh idk bro like fucking talk to him

>>40392681 (OP)
>even though weve been together for a long time we've never even had sex once

>>40392681 (OP)
nah honestly actually if i was you i would just break up with him point blank lmao

>>40392681 (OP)
just break up your partner is awful
they've probably been cheating on your for a while, likely with an ex
them being that horny yet also never having sex with you makes no damn sense, they're totally fucking someone else

>>40392725
I've developed such an emotional dependency on him though, if I break up with him now I'd feel like I've wasted all those years. And the worst part is that I still love him

>>40392803
YEARS?
YEARS WITHOUT SEX?

did you guys ever talk about this before or are you just letting it slide? if you did and he doesn't care then just break up, it's not worth it at this point lol

>>40392710
I've already talked to him about it before and for a month it stopped but eventually he went back to his habits

>whenever I flirt with him sexually he just acts awkward or upset but will still express sexual desire over strangers right in front of me despite knowing how uncomfortable it makes me feel
oh honey...

>>40392808
We're long distance, so obviously there wouldn't be a lot of sex.

>>40392811
i know you said that you have an emotional dependency and breaking up would feel like you wasted all these years, but please do yourself a favour and do it; i know you still love him and all, but it's just gonna get worse. you can't sit there and endure this, there's a higher chance that you will just burst at one point and that would be even worse

>>40392821
>>40392826
>We're long distance, so obviously there wouldn't be a lot of sex.
omg I normally never tell someone to straight up break up, but you really should in this case

>>40392829
But how? We got together during the worst point of my life, I've felt like I've had a reason to keep going because of our relationship. I just don't know how to fathom that kind of strength, to willingly rip off a part of myself. Because I know that if we do break up I'll be right back where I started, this is the only somewhat good thing I have left

>>40392943
Bro stop being a fag and just break with the bum

>>40392943
if its been years the relationship im sure is super dead, if ur still getting something out of this then keep ur expectations straight. The second you dont need this to go on, find someone who you deserve, someone who is actually into you