Thread 40658035

Yesterday I sucked two guys dicks, both were big and uncut, they fucked my mouth and I came while jerking off. Today I fucked an Asian milf escort, she had big boobs and we fucked from the back and I came while inside her.

Do you think I will ever be able to settle down? I idealize and romanticize the idea of having a wife and kids but I am scared that my bi-ness or ability to hook up with both will stop me. I'm scared that I will have to either hide this side of myself or I won't be able to find a decent woman.

>>40658035 (OP)
I dont think your problem is that youre bi. Its that youre a sex addict. Maybe see a therapist.

The reason bisexuals have an impossible time settling down is that on some level they understand that regular women don't like them AT. ALL. and they need to either crawl back into the closet or settle for being gay or dating "queer" (obese, blue haired, weird piercings, hairy armpits) women

If society was not biphobic, bisexuals would settle down at the same rate as straights

>>40658035 (OP)
find a woman who is also bi and you can have an open marriage, problem solved

>>40658048
>find an obese woman with blue hair
Nah no thanks

>>40658046
Yea like unless I find a broken woman who was molested she's not gonna find this a positive trait I don't think.

>>40658045
Maybe your right I think I was touched as a kid and I sometimes equate me being bisexual with this, I don't think its a gene, and maybe sex addiction porn addiction as well.

>>40658054
be forever unfulfilled then idc

>>40658045
I might have some sex addiction porn addiction but I don't have sex all the time, the sucking two dicks in one day was because it had been a while and I felt particularly horny, I had to fuck the milf the next day to balance it all out.

>>40658048
The problem is that I like to suck dick sometimes only if it's big like mine and uncut and thick, but mostly I go for women. I don't like getting fucked and I've never been in love with a man. I think I'm just broken or something but sad because think I might never find a decent woman to wife up.

>>40658059
My wish in life is that I can fuck a woman missionary or doggy and suck a dick at the same time.

>>40658084
I'm Scared I can't find a wife because of this
It's not so black and white or easy to define

"Hey honey I want to suck a dick bigger than mine sometimes and also fuck you!"

Literally just get a job where you have to travel occasionally and fuck sex-workers on the side, no-one will know unless you are retarded and you aren't hurting anyone unless they find out or you get pozzed and poz your wife or something which is also another side effect of being retarded. You don't even need to pay men because you can fuck them in like 30 mins on grindr

you can also partake in hard drugs occasionally this way as well though probably avoid the junk because the shit is all laced with fent now and you'll fall out and end up in hospital.

>>40658090
Scared of hard drugs nowadays and becoming some kind of gay cliche who can't get my dick up. Was never much of a party n play kind of guy.

>>40658035 (OP)
Promiscuity is a sign that you are incapable or unwilling to pair bond. There's no point fantasizing about it unless you change that about yourself, you'll just end up cheating or being miserable.

>>40658090
retarded advice
thinking consequences are exclusive to the outside world rather than your internal mental chemistry. doesn't matter if people don't find out, you know what you did. Your actions reflect on your psyche and how it handles the world around it. Not to mention it's morally disgusting.

>>40658106
That is what I am saying. I think hiding such a thing is bad karma no? Better to find me a wife who is accepting of me? Only I am scared that this is impossible no? I am not an idiot I am self aware, what kind of woman wants to be with a "bisexual man" I am not closeted or fully gay but to express being advanced and into both somehow is bad.

>>40658099
Yes I think I was either touched as a kid and so this is imprinted on my brain as a pleasurable sexual fantasy or I just dated the wrong women when I was young

>>40658106
morality is not stored in the mental chemicals if you don't want it to be

>>40658046
Just not be a fag.

>>40658130
I don't think there is anything morally wrong with me being bisexual, whether its because a guy touched me when I was little and so I got a 'taste' but my natural predilection is towards woman, I don't know that's just my theory. I am just scared that I won't be able to have kids or a wife because I am a bit more complex or broken or advanced however you want to paint it than the average man.

>>40658133
I don't come across as a fag at all. I just haven't found a woman that I would want to marry that I think would accept me as a bi guy. Even though I really don't think it's a big deal. Ok so I like a little extra. Alright? So that means I can't have a normal life? Fuck.

>>40658130
Hence why I mentioned it as an aside, not the primary topic of the objection. If you're loose and fuck casually, your brain will be conditioned to treat intimacy loosely and casually, which is not conducive to pair bonding.

>>40658116
You're tying bisexuality to things that aren't inherent to it. Being promiscuous is not a bisexual trait, it's just a common co-morbidity. Most promiscuous people are bisexual, not all bisexuals are promiscuous. And your concern with your ability to pair bond is a condition of your promiscuity, not your bisexuality. Finding men and women attractive has no bearing on your ability to practice monogamy. Straight men like more than one specific type of woman, yet plenty never cheat on their wife despite having tastes broader than she can fulfill.

>>40658207
Yes that is a good point and makes me feel more reassured. Thank you kind stranger whoever you are. You've made me feel a bit better about all of this. It is two separate things. The promiscuous nature and the bi nature. I hold two cards. My attraction to dominate a feminine beauty and reproduce and my attraction to be submissive to someone more masculine than me or more alpha in some way. Ultimately I like women more and see hooking up with a guy as a side treat once in a while that means less to me. With guys its just sex and can be just sex. With women it gets bit more emotional. I don't like fucking women that I have to discard. But I can do that with a guy.

>>40658207
Are you bisexual? Who are you? Thank you for making me feel heard.

>>40658379
Yeah, bisexual and happily married.

>>40658611
With a man or a woman?

>>40658633
enby.

>>40658035 (OP)
>>40658048
I'm bi and on this track. I'm engaged to a bi fujo girl. She wants to see me suck dick (among other things), hope to do it in front of her soon. But if we never hook up with anybody else it's not the end of the world, I've slept with 70 something people already, and even if I were just straight (or just gay), I'm attracted to multiple types of women (and men), so if you're gonna be monogamous you gotta choose.

>>40658651
Please help me dude. Where can I find a girl like this? Or where did you meet one like this? I live in NY so it can't be impossible.

>>40658611
This gives me hope. Does your wife know?
Do you still hook up with men

>>40658651
>>40658611
You guys give me hope for real. I think because my parents/family is a bit religious that I have had a slower harder time accepting myself. But I think that I, a bisexual man, who is reasonably attractive nothing really wrong with me, can still find a wife one day.

>>40658679
I live in Boston, so if I can do it, so can you. I only really date and hang out with eccentric artists, nerds, and the overlap of those two communities.
Gf/fiancee is a professional graphics artist with an alt style. I met her on a vanilla dating app. My previous gf I met through mutual friends at a party and she was also a bi fujo lmao
I also have a boyish look with a big butt so I think that definitely attracts bi girls.

>>40658688
Of course they know, we openly admire people together.
And no not at all, I value emotional intimacy over sex. I made up the difference with porn but that was mainly to cope with LDR.
I like monogamy.

>>40658732
Did you write on the app that you were bi? My question is, do I present this about myself honestly and openly and hope to find someone that way?

>>40658733
I like monogamy as well but I have the ability to go both ways but if I love the women I 100% want to be just with her

>>40658721
You'll be fine. When I was in high school and early in college, I was not able to date at all, and then suddenly something switched it became super easy for me. I found the right people but even among normal people I was able to connect with them more easily (although I accepted that for normal people there would be nothing more than casual friendly interactions/hookups).

I actually think one of the problems with internet culture nowadays is how it makes temporary things, such as growing pains and coming into yourself, seem permanent.

>>40658748
>Did you write on the app that you were bi?
I only used Bumble, which does not display your sexual orientation. My gf told me she was bi on one of our very early dates when we both caught each other checking out the same girl at a bar. I told her I was bi too on the next date.

>My question is, do I present this about myself honestly and openly and hope to find someone that way?
I didn't list my orientation, but my profile was super honest, I admitted to multiple minor crimes, I had a horrifying picture of myself dressed as Mr. Mime, etc.
For my partners, I read every profile in detail (which is actually very exhausting), and I swiped left on any profile that did not show detailed personality (and compatibility with me). I actually tracked it in a chart, the day I met my gf/fiancee, I swiped left thirteen times and right twice.

>>40658753
Very good point. I go through waves. My ex gf was a nightmare. All she cared about was her image on social media. When I ended things she claimed I was actually gay and thats why I broke up with her and not because she was a super insecure cunt. It kind of scarred me and made me worried that I wouldn't find a genuine woman with this side of myself seeing as I saw how it was weaponized against me in a break up. But with time I have allowed myself to open myself up more and your post is very reassuring.

>>40658810
I have to try Bumble. Literally the only app I haven't tried yet. My last relationship was a year ago. I dated a super insecure woman who claimed I was gay after I broke up with her. Kind of scarred me a bit and I took time and just hooked up with a bunch of guys and girls. All meaningless though. I'm scared to care for someone again but in time I am sure that it will happen. Not everyone is stupid like my ex. I am sure I can find a woman one day who wouldn't act in such a way.

>>40658964
>>40658977
Two gfs ago I dated a super homophobic girl (who was also probably bi and couldn't admit it to herself, let alone others), and then I was very uncomfortable admitting I was bi to my previous ex (the bi fujo mentioned here: >>40658732) until one time when we were chatting after the relationship ended, even though she obviously would've been cool with it. Take your time to find the right woman and know that not everyone is like your ex.

>>40658997
Also keep in mind almost everyone has weird hangups about benign shit, yourself and myself included, so you have to find someone with compatible hangups (and also someone who isn't mean about it to others)

>>40658997
Whoever you are, I hope you have a really blessed life. Thank you man. I needed this. This was the kind of advice I needed when the breakup happened but people in general are really close minded and weird and its hard to find someone to talk to about this. I appreciate you and hope you are well.

>>40658997
I genuinely love women and want a kid one day. Guys are easier for me to hook up with and means nothing. When I date a woman I'm all in. I was nervous that being bi in the past or whatever would mean I'm stuck only dating whores or porn stars. But you give me hope anon.

>>40658997
Did you use Bumble? I'm also a normal looking guy kind of artsy dated artsy girls before. It was just the last girl I dated crushed me at the time with her way of thinking. It made me retreat socially. Like ok so I sucked some dicks. I still came in your pussy multiple times a week. Just because I am breaking up with you because your personality sucks doesn't mean I'm gay. Anyway cheers anon. Nice to know I'm not alone.

Nice to see this level of support on /lgbt/ for bi guys. I also don’t discuss this shit much because of the stigma. One day I’ll find my art hoe gf lol

>>40658035 (OP)
As a hypersexual bi-guy, it is possible bit not without some growth and maturity. I delayed marriage for yrs because I couldt stop being a slut. Eventually I took the plunge but not without a lot of frank discussion with my GF/wife and some growing up on my part. It still hard but once you have kids your priorities def change and my lust is not al consuming now lol

>>40658046
>they understand that regular women don't like them AT. ALL.
this is retarded cope from spurned gay men lol. not factual in the least.

>>40659797
Do you think something happened to you as a kid to make you like that? I am also hyper-sexual bi guy, kind of have ADD type attention stuff, huge oral fetish oral fixation on my part, I can control it but it swings, one day I'm into sucking a cock the next day I just want to pound a cute asian chick. I think if I loved the woman enough I would be faithful. But i don't like the stigma.

>>40659629
Same here. I think it's more of an advanced/intelligent choice, more nuanced and complex to be able to be attracted to multiple types of people like that, but I hate the stigma as well.

>>40659805
Yea it's been either annoying gay men or annoying women who think there is no Bi men but I literally exist and I have been with both and I like different things about both.

>>40659833
>Do you think something happened to you as a kid to make you like that?
I really dont think so. I just have been hypersexual for as long as I can remember. Used to hump my pillow to orgasm at 8 or 9. Been trying to get into women's panties one way or another all my life...my desire for cock came later.

As for stigma? I never had any cuz I never told anyone I was bi unless it was a need to know basis. I told my wife on our second date. I have told several GFs a long the way and none had any issues with it but its not something I ever offered up randomly to people.

>>40659965
Same here I used to hump things when I was young, got in trouble in 2nd grade for touching myself in front of some girls. I've never really been open about my bisexuality and consider myself a normal dude besides I find it hot to suck a masculine guy sometimes and make him cum, the same way I love pounding a woman to infinity until her legs shake. It just is what it is. I think the best is probably for me to quit asking why and just go with it.

We NEED big gock trannies to succcc

>>40660141
nah. I only have sex with women or men

>>40660164
Same here. Not into trannies. Into the most authentic version of the person aka very feminine girly girl that loves to get creampied or a masculine alpha dude who wants to fuck my mouth. That's about it. Trannies are not a turn on for me. I like getting it on with both sexes that embody the most real version of themselves.

>>40660164
I think the gay community and some stupid women literally try to misinterpret or misunderstand us on person. I am sorry that I have the ability to have sex with both. I think that makes me a more advanced or ascendant human being actually.

the concept bisexuality seems to awaken a fear of 'being replaced' in certain kinds of people

i've noticed it more with women, less with men

>>40658035 (OP)
Women don't want you. Stay away from them..the fact that you have to pay women to have sex with you, tells it all.

Stay single and die alone pls. No child deserves bisexual father

>>40660522
Women do want me. I just don't want a girlfriend right now so escort is better. I also have one night stands on dating apps. But this hatred towards bi men from random person like you is why I asked this question in the first place.

>>40660522
The fact that there is a conspiracy against me having kids because I'm hot enough to fuck and cum in women and also get with men I find hot is worrysome to me. Genuinely think there is a conspiracy for me not to have a kid because I'm too good at sex or something.

>>40660634
You will give your pregnant baby momma some std and your child will be born sick, deformed and stupid. You will also abandon your family to have sex with other people cause bisexual men have no self control

>>40660661
That is a lie. Have you read the previous texts? This is why I hate talking about being bi man. I need a real bi men support group. I absolutely wont do those kinds of things your just a jealous hater probably because your a sad bottom and envy that I can get with women and also men.

>>40660720
Just don't come out of the closet. People will try to emasculate you. Focus on women and don't waste your time with the gays. Also you don't even like getting fucked nor fucking men, you have no future with gay men.

>>40660893
Yeah pretty much. Is it possible for there to be an actual bisexual support group for men? I don't know but I felt better when I was reading the replies from earlier.

>>40659797
How old are you by the way? How long did you delay your marriage?

How do I figure out that a guy is bi? Gay btw.

>>40661606
wanting to fuck women is usually a clue

>>40661631
Yeah that's the obvious part but how do you separate the womanfuckers from the woman-and-manfuckers? In the company of men you can brag about your femoid conquering openly but not sucking dick.

>>40658035 (OP)
I do this but I just call myself straight

>>40661664
I also have to do this to avoid being seen as a terrible person
and I have to do it or else I can't get access to transgirls

>>40659375
>>40659420
Thanks, best wishes to you as well!

>>40659420
You'll do fine!

>>40659568
Yeah I'm the same Boston anon who mentioned Bumble.

>>40661271
im 38. been married 3yrs. I made the most of my time :)