Thread 40666544

>meet someone
>want to have sex with them
>have sex
>find it incredibly boring
>want nothing more than to do anything else
>feel gross after
>never want sex again
>meet someone new
>cycle repeats

I've been with people from both sides of the chromosome camp and with various genders and gender expression and it's gone down like that. Am I just ace?

sex sucks nigga 95 percent of people cant fuck, its about the social clout you get from having it

you wouldn't want sex if you were ace, you're just retarded. you're supposed to pick someone you like and actually practice having sex together and teach each other what you like and get good at it together

>>40666544 (OP)
how long do you wait to get to know them before having sex

>>40666559
Once hitting the double digits you'd think that I'd have found at least one person that could fuck. And honestly I have. Same reaction.

>>40666560
I've never had a relationship last that long unfortunately.

>>40666567
Not very but typically they end up jumping my bones of their own volition and I lack the agency to say no.

>>40666544 (OP)
You know how sometimes the first social interaction you have with somebody is a little bit awkward, but then sometimes with some people you "break the ice" and get comfortable with them and find out they're really cool and you get along really well? Wouldn't it suck if you always just gave up at the first awkward interaction because you just assumed that meant it would ALWAYS be awkward with them forever, and you never even allowed for the chance of breaking the ice and having a good time with anyone?

Sex is an advanced social interaction, and that's exactly what you're doing. You're not even allowing for the chance for it to be good. It takes a couple tries to warm up to each other sometimes, and it really gets good when you develop real intimacy and then dig into each other's kinks. You're not having good sex because you're sorta just treating your partners as disposable and expecting pornstar-perfect mindblowing sex on the very first try, you're giving up and retreating and running away rather than pushing through the getting-to-know-you part (which doesn't even have to be awkward, it can actually be fun in its own way if your expectations are realistic and you actually give a shit about each other).

I feel like you just don't really get how this works

>>40666594
>Not very but typically they end up jumping my bones of their own volition and I lack the agency to say no
thats probably the issue then, give it some time to cook and learn how to say no

>>40666594
i'm at 50ish and i have found one chick and two dudes that can fuck well and they were all BPD nutjobs just enjoy the social flex instead

>>40666620
I'm not expecting pornstar perfect sex. The issue is that in the moment I find it incredibly uncomfortable and want it to end, no matter how good or bad it is. On a upon a time I had to full on dissociate to cum, now I can't even do that. I can't recall the last time I actually finished during sex.

>>40666672
Same idea, though. You're doing a really intimate thing with a new person. It's normal to not be totally comfortable with each other the first time you do it. There could be a deeper issue at play that I couldn't guess at, but idk, that's just how it's been for me. Really enjoyable sex has come with familiarity and intimacy

>>40666544 (OP)
I deal with something similar : ( I think I’m just gonna stay single at this point. The few times I’ve had good sex the person was crazy and completely undateable
>>40666559
>95 percent of people cant fuck
Where do I find the other 5%
>>40666620
But the average person shows zero interest in wanting to learn the other persons body and just wants you to give them no effort orgasms.
>>40666672
Projecting again here, but yeah it does feel incredibly uncomfortable with most people. Like you have to put on some performance and you just can’t be vulnerable or safe with them.
>had to full on dissociate to cum
Wait do you have a fetish you have to vividly fantasize about in order to get off? People with fetishes are literally unable to come without their object/thing/interest present in some way.

>>40666594
>Once hitting the double digits you'd think that I'd have found at least one person that could fuck. And honestly I have. Same reaction.
given your post i'm not so sure you're one of the people who can fuck so why do you expect to find someone else who can?
the other posters are right about how to develop a relationship and there probably are only a small number of people you can truly be emotionally intimate with but some of what you say implies deeper issues
>>40666672
because you don't like the person or sex is awkward or you don't like yourself or what?