Thread 40673363

Does your dad support you being gay or trans?

He won’t return my calls

>>40673363 (OP)
I'm not gay or trans but if I was he'd probably be able to accept it

theoretically yes, in actuality no
"liberals" are more homophobic than conservatives are
they just pretend to be ok with you to your face - but in every other way are clearly not ok with you being gay

>>40673370
why are you here?

>>40673363 (OP)
I saw that episode on YouTube and felt so bad for that dad.

On topic. I'm gay, my dad accepts me just fine and he comes from a very conservative family

>>40673388
Because my brother I mean sister is trans and I'm trying to learn more about her culture

>>40673363 (OP)
KWAB lmao, m*id fragility remains undefeated

>>40673363 (OP)
no. but he didnt kick me from home so he tolerates

>>40673363 (OP)
Holy shit it's Tom homan

>>40673363 (OP)
I kinda want to see that video.

>>40673363 (OP)
uuuhhhhhhhh.. yes

>>40673600
https://youtu.be/r6AQ_85U7Q0

>>40673679
Okay I regret asking for that.

>>40673757
Why?

>>40673789
It was uncomfortable to watch.

>>40673363 (OP)
>>40673679
I think people make way too big a deal about socially transitioning, the goal of transition is literally just to change your bodily configuration from type A to type B, you're not a fundamentally different person for it.

>>40673363 (OP)
he's uncomfortable with it but doesn't hate me or anything thankfully. just quite distant

>>40673363 (OP)
my dad is a libertarian boomer who started as my biggest opp but is now my biggest supporter. we actually have a better relationship since i trooned out than we ever did before, esp now that i pass. he is really sweet and gentle with me, and treats me in that very sweet oldtimey sexist way where he opens doors for me and carries stuff for me and introduces me to people "THIS IS MY DAUGHTER NONA" like he's trying to marry me off or something. i really love him.

my dad is one of my biggest supporters now and when he's drunk he'll sometimes tell me how beautiful i grew up to be
>inb4 fuck your dad
no.
it makes me uncomfortable because i don't feel beautiful at all. sometimes i feel pretty (and i am struggling to even feel that anymore, ever) but i have never felt beautiful and i can't shake the feeling that he is just overcompensating now for having been so vehemently against my transitioning initially. i want him to love me and i appreciate that he is so good to me but i also want him to be honest

>>40673867
I would disagree hard with that. My friend and I are very distant now that she trooned. That's my fault most likely admittedly, but it changed the dynamic between us pretty seriously

>>40673962
Your perceptions were overtuned, so to speak.
She likely didn't change very much at all.

>>40673958
>>40673950
You should totally love your father back in a non-incestuous way

>>40673962
>changed the dynamic between us pretty seriously
Like how?

>>40673867
Hard disagree.
Some trans women won't change much, but some of us had created a complete and detailed male persona, when that is allowed to atrophe so that a true personality can form that's a huge change to the outward facing personality. I've changed an enourmous amount, talking about my old self is difficult because it really does feel like talking about someone else.

And that's in addition to the emotional changes caused by hormones.

It's not like coming out as gay.

>>40673950
>introduces me to people "THIS IS MY DAUGHTER NONA" like he's trying to marry me off or something.
this whole post is basically my dad lol.
>>40674004
i do love him, a lot. he is one of my best friends and i spend all the time i can with him, mostly. i wish i were less cynical about it. maybe he would have been like this with a cis daughter too. i suppose i shouldn't assume he's just trying to validate me but it's hard when it all seems so performative. i guess that's what, like, chivalry and all that is, anyways, though. performance
>>40673962
did it have to change the dynamic though? maybe your friend really did change (i don't know, and i'm not going to assume i do), but i don't think it's a definite or necessary thing...i didn't change at all post-transition aside from becoming more comfortable expressing some parts of myself that would have been unacceptable when i was outwardly male

>>40673958
>>40673950
Why people are ignoring this? This is beautiful

>>40674091
daydreaming about dadcest

>>40674016
>>40674080
It's too much for me to get into. I miss the person she was. I had an attraction to that person. I don't connect much with her current self now

>>40673363 (OP)
Yeah i was a bit shocked desu because I heard a lot of casual transphobia from him growing up and all of my male uncles laughing at my trans cousin.

Him and my mom are both super supportive

>>40674110
that is fair nonny. you don't owe anyone an explanation and i don't mean to challenge your lived experiences; i just didn't wanna leave uncontested the idea that transitioning necessarily means a person will be totally different.

>>40673679
It's so much fun to see that old jerk crying
That normie look in his ayes
He want to end it up in religious (based) way like there is no camera there

But aside of that it's a still show
She passing not 100% good actually
Still hot/would
(to make it look bad)
They all paid actors it's all not actually real

Show to prove that being trans or gay is hell on earth
Nice points to continue repping for me

>>40674514
What

>>40674766
I want this fucking planet to be nuked

>>40674944
Why?

>>40674953

Lol because of people like in this show and tube comments they all fucking transphobic

>Dysphoria isn't real
>Return to goawd you deviant sinners
>Your parents will be ashamed because of you

>>40673363 (OP)
I regularly stalk my father...

If I were gay or trans my old pops would disown me but I don't care none what he thinks anyways as I see him as a lesser man than me. Hes polite to my trans gfs face then turns around and talks me shit for not havin what he calls a real woman and tries to convince me to get back with one of my ex gfs hes obsessed with.

My dad is very supportive! Honestly it’s the first time I’ve felt like he really has my back on something—part of me feels like he’s supportive in a kind of performative way, like just so he can take a moral stance on something to his ultra conservative brothers.

>>40673363 (OP)
Let's put it this way, my dad and his new wife were more supportive of a murderer than me

>>40673363 (OP)
Yes!

>>40673363 (OP)
My dad is paying for my transition and we are going to a support group together, he said he now has a daughter! It meant so much to me, my mom on the other hand flip flops around it and is kind of a cunt sometimes.

>>40673363 (OP)
Gay ? No - has yet to meet my husband. Trans? Yeah sort of.
We have a decent enough relation ship I see him once a week or so for a meal, or to help him do things he's no longer able to.

>>40673363 (OP)
Yea, but it's because he had a gay friend in college whose dad was accepting of him and I guess he internalized that. He also said he believes other people in our family have been repressing or gone through similar circumstances (being a tranny) but when I told him to elaborate he didn't name anyone... he also picked up my hrt from the pharmacy when I was sick :)

>>40673363 (OP)
idk but based on his boner, ik my brother does

>>40676943
cursed but post more

>>40673363 (OP)
my dad never gave a shit so i have no idea

>>40673363 (OP)
I havent spoken to my dad in years and most likely never will again.

>>40673363 (OP)
he is very pro lgbt but thinks i'm a hon and tried to convince me not to when i told him. he also just kinda doesn't give a shit about anything cause he pumps himself full of zoloft. he said he was proud of me a while back but i didnt feel much

im a repper and my dad makes fun of trans people. and polices my niece being a "tomboy"

>>40673679
dr phil is such a con artist

>>40673396
you should have sex with her

>>40673363 (OP)
yea he calls me by name and refers to me as his daughter, i know he is still sad about losing the child he once but i understand. Im just happy he still cares for me and doesn't misgender me

>>40674079
but that "persona" was actually you, and now you're creating a fake persona
typical for middle-aged rapehons desu

>>40673363 (OP)
Me being trans healed a broken relationship I had early on with my dad lol, he’s my biggest supporter.

>>40673363 (OP)
My dad is a conservative”libertarian” blue collar type. He went from “once you get tits you can’t live here anymore.” to calling me “babygirl” and “your sister” when talking to the dog. It’s weird… our relationship got pretty awful when I was a feminine gay boy with weird color hair but now it feels like it used to when I was a little kid and I was his favorite child. He’s a huge softie (always spoiled me and was the one who gave me hugs as a kid where my mom was the hard ass and was weird about physical affection) so it makes me really happy we got that back.

>>40673363 (OP)
I dont talk to that guy

>>40673363 (OP)
i dont think my dad understands me being trans but i randomly introduced him to my then boyfriend and we went on a camping trip the same day

>>40673867
>change your bodily configuration from type A to type B
That's not a thing that can happen though. A man with a boob job is still a man.

>>40673363 (OP)
I tried see what this faggot looks like now but couldn't find them

>>40674079
This is exactly how it went for me. I'm from the middle east. Growing up, people always "clocked" me as gay and that caused a lot of problems (insults, beatings, sexual advances like groping humping etc)

So I forced myself to learn how to act like a stereotypical MENA macho man, a lot of people could see through it at school but it did reduce harm by a bit and it did help a lot at home but not fully.

The problem is I forgot who I was before 12 year old me realized I need to fake a person they would tolerate. SO now i'm an edgy tranny

But yeah it's definitely not like coming out as gay. However i kinda went through that as well since I'm attracted to men and my parents watched it turn from romantic attraction as a kid to sexual attraction shortly before puberty and afterwards. (They tried to kill me twice but i have good survival skills, they still made my life hell for it for like 12 years but alas I won)