Thread 40735409

there has to be a better way to cope with being an ugly tranny. I got misgendered twice today and it makes me wanna be an agoraphobic shut in even more.
I'm like 8 years hrt and post ffs, but its kinda irrelevant because im taller than 99% of women.

will intensive dbt help?

>>40735409 (OP)
>>40735409 (OP)
thats just your life from now on
surely you knew before you started all of this that it could happen at your height? and with how aware its become and how competitive transitioning early is now

there is no cope
you accept the L and move on to obsess over something else to suck at and try to find joy/success through that or you get tired of the character you were assigned and make of that what you will

>>40735441
tf do you mean competitive transitioning?
its not a game or a competition. i just dont look like a woman to many people and its incredibly fucked up to go off on people or correct them for saying what they see.

>>40735462
>>40735462
i mean that society has gotten more competitive in only accepting and promoting and validating trannies that fit the most impossible standards
so the bar is so high now and people have so much exposure that stealth passing is far more unachievable for post-puberty transitioners than ever in history

>>40735409 (OP)
how tall are you? was today a one off thing or does this happen regularly?
>intensive dbt
no
t. dbt went through er

>>40735506
it happens whenever i meet new people and they dont know my name. theres like a 1/2-1/3 chance they call me he or sir.

my voice isn't even bad. its just that im 6'0.

>>40736179
im 6,6 if only u knew how bad it can truly be

>>40735409 (OP)
>8yrs hrt
>Post ffs
>"My height is what clocks me I got misgendered"

Alright girl, I'm going to give you something to chew on for a second. This may sound harsh but bear with me: why are you basing your self worth on the way randos gender you, especially in a time where everyone is on high alert to look for any slightly masculine feature in every woman (and consistently misgender cis women in the process)? Can it hurt when it happens? Yes. Should you ruminate and wallow in it every time it happens? Absolutely fucking not. The opinions of randos don't matter. They're going to think whatever they want, and the quickest way to not let it get to you is to develop thick skin and a quick wit.

If you're anything like me, you started this journey specifically for yourself, to make yourself feel more comfortable in your own skin. That's supposed to be the whole point. I'm 6 feet tall with linebacker shoulders and the shoe size of a damn NBA player, but I have a lethal face card, great makeup skills, a good fashion sense, and dress in ways that compliment my body. My height and feet make me clocky as hell, but also I'm hot and therefore do not care, because I'm way more comfortable with myself now. I get called "sir" WAY less now, but if let it get to me every time it happened I'd be absolutely miserable.

You should be doing this for your own contentment, not for the external validation of random people who you're never gonna see again.

Be the most feminine version of yourself where you finally feel comfortable in your own body, not be a one-to-one copy of some archetypical and socially idealized cis woman.

Go out and live your life authentically and unapologetically. You'll be happier for it.

>>40738873
very true surely not false surely

>>40738922
Wdym

>>40738929
very lethal face card surely not false surely

>>40738944
Hell, if it helps you, I'll let you be the judge. It's probably not even worth posting because you'll look for anything to confirm your bias, but if it helps you then here. One in makeup, one out of makeup

Pre-HRT too, though that changes very soon

>>40738997
huh actually a pretty good base, wouldn't call it lethal but good potential

not a fan of the makeup style though, to each their own i guess

>>40735409 (OP)
i cant imagine dbt helping anyone but giganormies honestly

>>40739008
The point is that I choose to focus on my good attributes rather than letting the opinions of randos make me hyperanalyze the ones I'm dysphoric about, keep looking forward, and I'm so much happier for it.

Be a little delusional. It will save you mentally!

>>40739166
valid method

hard to keep a delusionally optimistic person down

>>40739183
yeah i was so honfident when i first trooned out and if i still was that way id be so much happier

>>40739183
Works for me!