Thread 40748949

My HSTS girlfriend keeps having less and less sex drive with me. If I initiate and keep going I can get her going, but she always finishes super quickly and she never initiates anymore. She's hinted to me that she gets a little annoyed at how often I'm horny, that I don't have to make her aware of it, she suggested that maybe we practice abstinence from ejaculating because she thinks it has "health benefits".

She tells me she has low sex drive because she's taking oral estradiol and spironolactone.

Is she bullshitting? Do the 'mones actually do this?

I can't tell, we have been in a relationship for like 9 months but she was on psychostimulant meds which made her insane for the first 3-4. She only took like a week break from HRT in that time and started it around when we met after a prolonged hiatus from HRT in which her T returned to normal male levels. But also she's pretty batshit, kinda cluster B, regularly cries about how her life is going and needs constant attention and emotional support, and she said she left her last boyfriend because she projected the feeling her life was stagnant onto him and also "got bored with him". Do you think she is actually losing sex drive because of the hormones or because I spilled too much spaghetti, failed some shit test, she's getting bored of me etc and will probably leave soon?

Are you straight, rich, fit, tall, and chadly?

>>40748953
I'm straight but none of the other ones.
I guess I'm not really ugly in the face but that's about it, I'm kinda short, but she says she likes that. My appearance did not really get any worse in the time we were together I don't think although I should really get buffer

>>40748953
I'm straight and a total loser but she said she liked me before

>>40749109
>and a total loser
found the problem

>>40748949 (OP)
>maybe we practice abstinence from ejaculating because she thinks it has "health benefits"
>maybe we should see other people

>>40749122
How can I get her to just straight up admit she might not want to be with me anymore?

>>40748949 (OP)
Bro you just described like 3 major red flags
Yes the hormonal and meds stuff is real for talking libido
But also shes walking dynamite she's gonna blow your shit up sooner or later

>>40749425
Tanking* libido

>>40748949 (OP)
yes hrt usually reduces drive significantly

>>40749425
>>40749643
isn't spiro weaker as far as antiandrogens go though?

>>40748949 (OP)
I've known multiple trannies who became functionally asexual on HRT and I've also known multiple trannies who are hypersexual on HRT.
tbhon I have no idea why or how it works. seems like luck of the draw which you get

>>40749109
You are not hetero you cuck.
Estrogen gives trans women female sex drive. You need to get her into mood. Cook for her and give her a massage and stuff like that. Treat her like you would treat a female

>>40750158
Hypersexual on hrt is either bad t levels or being sex hungry cause its the only type of "good" attention this person can get.

Lots of cis women who do porn are hypersexual because they were molested, they don't really have a high sex drive

>>40750171
>You need to get her into mood. Cook for her and give her a massage and stuff like that. Treat her like you would treat a female
That's not even how cis women work you fucking retard

>>40748949 (OP)
Uhoh her meta attraction is fading.

>>40748949 (OP)
How did you meet? How the fuck are trannies getting boyfriends while I go 21 years completely untouched?

>>40751328
>How the fuck are trannies getting boyfriends while I go 21 years completely untouched?
They're a commmon fetish

>>40751328
Sounds like a skill issue

>>40748949 (OP)
>my HSTS girlfriend
no man that has ever had a hsts girlfriend has ever uttered these words

larp

>>40751354
Chasers know the difference

>>40751351
Ok but what skills do I improve fuck-o.
>>40751348
I am not going to become a prostitute.

>>40751365
Well idk your letters or you on any level so I have no advice for you. At your age, not knowing what skills you need to improve to have sex or a relationship also seems like a skill issue

>>40750243
Yes it is, and a lazy man who just wants sex without putting any effort is a sexless man soon

>>40751348
Gays are more common

>>40751385
You genuinely believe women are sex machines and if you just put enough kindness coins in then the sex gets dispensed. You have autism.

>>40748949 (OP)
there is a period on hrt where the masculine sex drive plummets. If you're willing to tough it out, the feminine sex drive kicks in sometime later after a year or so
while youre at it, try to get her on monodose E

>>40749689
it does the job nonetheless
it also gives you a brain fog and makes you have to pee pretty bad

>>40751402
Yes. Most women are gynephilic and need extra motivation to fuck with men. Why you think so many men are crying about dead bedrooms? Estrogen sex drive is low af

>>40751378
I started hrt at 15, I only like men and also am brown (disgusting). My skills are autism and playing dumb and cute, which only gets me somewhere with women and I do not like women.

I am low key a lesbian attractor.

>>40751444
I never got my sex drive back and I am happier than ever

>>40751455
>Most women are gynephilic and need extra motivation to fuck with men.
Again, you have autism.

>>40751456
If lesbians like you, you give masculine vibes, or you look masc. Try passing better

>>40751472
All studies back that up. Women do not get aroused from visuals like men, they need erotic vibes to get into mood for sex

>>40751474
I am stealth right now (moved cities last year), I just haven't attracted any guy who is not shorter and fatter than me.

>>40751482
You are conflating separate things now. Gynephilia =/= female sexuality.

>>40751455
lmao i love this board

hello OP. it sounds like there is perhaps some sort of communication issue here? you clearly feel quite scared and insecure. im wondering how you express this to her, if at all. its okay to want security and reassurance from your partner. but i imagine theres a lot being left unsaid in your post. similarly, i bet she is feeling some things she does not know how to communicate to you. can i ask what your sex life looks like? i don't mean the mechanical stuff, but like, what does it look like when one of you initiates? do you show one another much intimacy outside of sex? often women find that pressure from a male sex drive is a turn off, perhaps she is feeling that sex is something she does out of a sense of obligation or yielding to that pressure. this is desu the number one cause of mismatches sex drives, as it just does not reflect how most women get turned on

>>40751492
Gynephilia is part of female sexuality. Go see what is the most popular porn girlies watch: lesbians
That does not mean that a woman cannot have sex with a man, man just needs to put in some extra effort so the sex can be fun for a woman and she feels like treating you with her body

>>40751487
I'm sorry :(

>>40751538
I’m done reading your autistic, peer reviewed theories on women. Get a job.

>>40751545
All studies prove this tho. you are in denial and thats why you have so little sex

>>40751552
I’m a straight tranner with a triple digit body count and a fiancé. But please keep searching PubMed for studies that support your theories on how to get the sex from women. Good luck with that.

>>40751567
> triple digit body count
holy fuck

>>40751567
>triple digit body count
BASED hussie whore

>>40751567
u have any stds to speak of?

>>40751678
Nope

>>40751683
wow congrats that's quite the achievement