>>40762079
mm. i am speaking less of, like, the frequency with which someone is trans or sexually queer and more about how those people who are those things interact with the feelings they have, but i think that you may be right.
i was just thinking about my own experiences, and i have been sexually ambivalent for pretty much as long as i've understood what it meant to have a sexuality. i have basically no specific preferences at all, but this lack of preferences has been rigid and static.
i have questioned my gender constantly since learning about the concept of gender as distinct from sex, BUT i don't know if it's actually changed at all.....when i was little i just wanted a vagina and thought i was unlucky because i couldn't be like the men with vaginas i was SURE were born that way when i looked up "man with a vagina" on the internet. my whole concept of myself as a person was that i was a boy and would be a man and that was that, but i really wanted a vagina. i learned you could transition later and did that because i thought i had to, and i've been a woman for like pretty much my whole adult life, but recently i've been thinking that it would be nice to get top surgery after i've had srs and just live as a man. with a vagina. so, like, my feelings haven't really changed at all.
that being said, i think what i really want, when i think about it, is to just be physically female but with no boobs. maybe when i was little i did not really understand what it meant to be a man? probably? i don't really i don't know what this means, with regard to the discussion, but i'm inclined to agree with you here, i think. i'm pretty sure my feelings are more or less the same now, where, like, everything is concerned, as they were before i even had to really reckon with them.
sorry for rambling lol hopefully this adds literally anything meaningful to the discussion
