Thread 40777625

where do I find confident tgirls?
I've been on multiple dates in the last few months with different tgirls and most of them are too awkward to do anything more than just talk to me when we go out, which most of the time I have to be the one to ask to go do, and despite flirting over text beforehand and during the date me leaving them ample opportunity to make a move, they just don't
more often than not they say they're nervous "because I'm so pretty" or "they don't wanna make me uncomfortable" or various other excuses, and yet don't even try to make a move when I'm acting like I want to or almost straight up asking for it.
I know myself that I should be more direct but at the same time I want the moment to not feel super forced either

and like most of them have autism so I'm not the most surprised that some of my flirting goes right over their heads, but even I'm severely autistic and still know how to take a hint like that eventually, so it feels beyond comical to me that its like this. and the awkwardness just become an annoyance rather than being something that's maybe cute if it happens an appropriate amount early on

I'm so tired of this, I just wanna go out with another tgirl and have her take the lead on things more, being forward all the time isn't that fun for me and depending on who its with I sort of just end up feeling like I'm acting like a 'man' in that relationship, rather than it being more 50/50 which is what I'd want things to be like
I fucking hate this t4t sucks I should just suck it up and try dating cis women, shouldn't I?

>>40777625 (OP)
you need to date 10 years older

check these digits

>>40777625 (OP)
you need ones that are wild and free.
that also know how to chill and behave themselves.
(me)

no check THESE digits

rolling

>>40777625 (OP)
If you want confident women why would you even talk to trans women?

>>40777741
honestly I'm uncomfortable with age gaps like that most of the time, maybe if I was confident they had the right intentions and weren't just trying to sleep with me or abuse me or whatever, but I want something that feels like decently genuine and romantic, not creepy
while I do keep my filters on dating apps open for older people I tend to stay in my lane (21-25) for the most part unless I have actual confidence

I have been flirting with this girl who's pushing 30 lately, and her only downside seems to be the fact that she is around that age, but also I'm confident its like 90% flirting and not really full of intentions at all. that said it has been making me rethink my mindsets around age, so maybe I will

>>40777759
I've met a few like that, gone on decent dates with them and such, I've just not met any in like a year+ and it fucking sucks

>>40777823
most cis women don't interest me? my only real dating preferences are for people who are autistic or trans, ideally both
if I was finding autistic cis lesbians en masse I think it'd be a different story, but for the most part they're never really on my radar as much as other trannies. I also just like cock

I also think I would have higher standards for them than trans people, but that said I'm not opposed to it, I just can't fathom the setup it would take me to get there

Where does a transgirl learn to be confident?
Every time I flirt seems to fail catastrophically, either no reply or I said something random in a random thread that the other person will never bother checking. That's assuming I can even figure out something flirty to say that isn't horrible and awkward.
Maybe not the best question since you obviously aren't adept at flirting or confident either (can't make hints anyone picks up on).

>>40778790
you have to go into the jungle and face the heat and all the predators and creepy crawlers that go with it. not just once. but every night until you get it.
you'd be surprised how people come around once they notice you're around, and then from there it starts.

>>40778790
its less about being good at flirting (cause I will gladly admit I'm bad at flirting and know damn well others would say the same) and more about being confident enough to take risks and make moves

like its been so long since I've had a girl get close to me and ask if she could kiss me, its so simple and yet does so much, I need that shit again

>>40777949
You are an estrogenized gay male wanting to another etrogenized gay male. You want cock? Not very lesbian.

>>40779134
not once did I call myself a lesbian

>>40777625 (OP)
they likely have low self esteem more than an autism thing

>>40777625 (OP)
I'll never be confident before ffs and voice training

>>40777625 (OP)
Confident women are nearly impossible to find anywhere you look. It will be just as hard dating cis women. I'm kind of submissive but not awkward or indirect about sex so I mostly get what you mean but sadly I've never found a viable or consistent solution to it.

>>40779141
Calling yourself a woman looking for a woman? Its all wrong, cause you are a estrogenized male.