Thread 40779616

How to prevent my irl friend from killing herself? For 2-3 weeks I regularly invited her to my place in order to make her feel better because she kept posting suicide messages on social media, but latety at my place she is still posting suicidal messages on social media and looking up deathly compound. I'm scared that she'd kill herself once she leaves my place.

What should I do? She did some dirty things on me but she is still my friend and I don't want her to die nor to suffer

>>40779616 (OP)
get her committed to psychiatric help you can't fix her nona

>>40779630
fuck you
>>40779616 (OP)
fuck her

Call a welfare check on her
You are unqualified to provide the necessary assistance she needs

>>40779616 (OP)

Is he a FtM? Either way, offer them delicious food, remind them of what's to come like Grand Theft Auto VI. If they kill themselves, they will never see/play its storyline or its gameplay

>>40779630
>>40779644
She already sees a psychologist (however I don't know when was the last appointment) but I don't know their name, should I ask her

And I'm afraid to send her to the psych ward as the psych ward section in my town (Lille, France) are allegedly very trnasphobic. Correct me if I'm wrong pls.

>>40779646
She is MtF, and she doesn't like GTA

>>40779646
>If they kill themselves, they will never see/play its storyline or its gameplay
thanks im killing myself

>>40779673
That's right, psych wards tend to be traumatizing as fuck unless it's some pricey establishment in an ultraliberal area

>>40779673
ive got no idea about your town but if youre worried your friend might really try to kill herself it might be better than her being dead even if they are transphobic but she might hate you for it but at least be alive. But you better be sure, she could just be posting about it but not really suicidal enough to really try

>>40779720
You suck

>>40779720
that's the main thing. psych wards are awful but if you're sure she's gonna commit, its better. its worse if she's not going to though.

>>40779673
you are wrong, psychologists are not there to provide emergency intervention. she is actively planning a suicide and she needs to be in a psychiatric facility. they are unpleasant, but the important thing is interrupting your friend's attempt and compelling treatment. i can't speak to the ward being transphobic, regardless she needs an emergency intervention, if you were to contact her psychologist its what they would immediately do.

>>40779673
>She is MtF
She's just looking for attention, trannies rarely actually go through with suicide.

>>40779673

Is she attracted to males? If so, dance with her.

>>40779757
I'm MtF

>>40779616 (OP)
Tell her to get off the internet. Bring up her posts and ask her to explain what's going on and then help her figure out her best options. Its possible the posts are for attention but that doesn't make them less valid, she needs to understand how they are making you feel though.

>>40779781
I'll do that

give her headpats and cuddles and sleep together platonically and cook her breakfast

>>40780450
That's what I do mostly

>>40779616 (OP)
Just keep telling her you love her and you want her to be in your life. And tell her the feelings she has are depression and that depression lasts 12-18 months. Everything she's feeling is temporary.

>>40779616 (OP)
You aren't responsible for this person's life.
Yeah, you don't want them to die, but it's not your decision whether they live or die. It's their decision and choices in life.
People may commend you for trying to "save this person's life", but let's be frank about it, you are trying to coerce this person to make a decision that is more favourable to you even if their innate preference is something else. Yes, it's to save their life. Yes, they may be making less "rational" decisions right now because of their depression than they would ordinarily. But you are going out of your way to coerce them to make the decision you want.
It's time to pull back and reassess what you are doing. You should be supporting your friend because you want to support your friend, not because you would be wrecked if they died. That reframing of things may need some temporary separation, because right now your situation forces both of you into an intimate (not saying sexual, but "close") relationship that also prevents you from approaching things rationally.
If that temporary separation has unfortunate consequences, that is NOT your fault. It's just circumstances. You reached your limit and needed space, and they reached their limit and made an unfortunate decision. You did not choose where your limits were, just as they didn't choose what their limits were. That's life.

>>40780836
Yeah you gotta address it head on. Don't try to guilt her, just tell her how much she means to you and how you want to keep doing stuff with her in the future. And let her know that she can always come to you if she needs someone to talk to, no matter what it's about. If you know any of her other friends, encourage them to do the same.

That's really all you can do.

Or, bit of a wildcard here, but something that helped me through some dark times was being really into Gundam. There's always another Gundam series coming out in the future so I always had something to look forward to. Get her to watch Mobile Suit Gundam.

>>40780836
>>40780896
She decided to leave, I hugged her and told her that she meant a lot to me, and that she could come back whenever she wanted to and I told her I didn't want her to die. I'm not sure but I think it moved her

>>40779616 (OP)
59% chance ur gonna be fine