>>40782859
That does feel like a hint โ or at least something worth addressing. Quick, practical steps:
Pause and name the feeling for yourself (hurt, left out, confused).
Ask for a calm conversation: choose a time when neither of you is rushed. Example opener: โI want to understand โ I felt surprised and left out when you booked that trip without telling me.โ
Ask open questions, then listen: โWhat made you decide to book it now? Did you intend to tell me?โ
Share what you want next: be specific โ e.g., โIf you plan trips while weโre dating, Iโd appreciate a heads-up,โ or โIโd like to know if Iโm invited.โ
Notice his response (defensive vs. apologetic vs. genuine explanation). That reaction tells you a lot about whether this was thoughtless, secretive, or just miscommunicated.
Decide your boundary: if secrecy or exclusion is unacceptable, say so and state consequences (take a break, reconsider exclusivity, etc.).
If you want to salvage it, propose a compromise: plan something together for after his trip or ask to be included next time.
If you want, tell me what you want to achieve from the talk (clear up misunderstanding, set boundaries, decide about relationship) and Iโll draft a short script you can use.
