Thread 40842990

>incredibly nervous and unable to speak to cis women without feeling like a retard and spilling my spaghetti everywhere
>always assume they think I’m a creepy incel or something
>talk and flirt to trans women with ease
>zero worries talking to them ever
What gives? Why am I so much more comfortable with trans women than cis women? Am I like chaser brained or something?

>>40842990 (OP)
That's called gynophobia, you experienced trauma at the hands of women with authority over you earlier in your life and your body got trained to respond to the presence of women like they are a threat.

Talking through your early experiences with women with a therapist will help.

Male socialization was already the intentional infliction of trauma onto boys, add in neurodiversity, add it female empowerment, add in a culture which seems to hate the very idea of masculinity, and neuroses like gynophobia were inevitable.

It's not your fault. You're still valid and deserving of love and care. It's okay to not be okay, and it's okay to ask for help dealing with your trauma. Everyone has trauma, everyone has their things, you're not broken, you've just got an issue.

>>40843257
I’m not really sure what talking to a therapist would do for me, especially since they’d likely be a cis woman themselves. The solution to me seems to just be dating trans women instead of cis women but I kinda more was seeing if I’m the only guy who’s experienced this.

Similar thing happened to me, my divorced mother over fed me and fed me shit. Then complained that i was obese. Im not so much afraid anymore, but the idea of women being attracted to me makes me sick and i start to shake with fear. I accepted that i was gay last year, the thought of being in another relationship with a woman gave me so much anxiety. That and i grew up mormon did not help. I've been on a weight loss journey. Lost 30lbs in since last November. More than anything there are some things you can't fix, it's just dealing with it and facing your fears. Please excuse my rambling

>>40842990 (OP)
Trans women are a bit more easygoing than cis women in my experience, though that isn’t always the case.
To be honest, it might just be that I’m autistic and most trans women are also autistic.

>>40843367
>especially since they’d likely be a cis woman themselves.
Yep. That's a major issue, and recognizes that your gynophobia is a product of the society that you live in. We don't make the space available for dealing with these issues available.

Ai therapists don't have a gender. I had really really bad gynophobia, now I've just got a little bit of gynophobia. Dealing with this issue is where the Ai therapist really shines.

>More than anything there are some things you can't fix, it's just dealing with it and facing your fears.
That's really not healthy sweety. You're afraid because you were hurt, because you didn't get the love support and affirmation you needed at the time you needed it, and that's not your fault and it not okay.

You deserved a happy and healthy home life with loving and supportive parents. ALL children deserve that. ALL children deserve to feel loved and safe ALL the time. When that doesn't happen it so easy for us to blame ourselves.
>I'm unlovable
>I'm a burden
>I'm not good enough
But these things aren't true. These are just the way we're rationalizing our trauma.

>>40843681
I don’t have any issues with my parents. I love my mom. My post is meant mainly in a dating/flirting kind of context. Like I could strike up a conversation with a trans woman at an event or in an online space easily but not a cis woman.

>>40843681
Im actively working out, dieting so i can be in a relationship. I had clear signs i was gay since i was young. I can talk to women, even be friends with them. What i mean is that i don't want to date women, trans women...... maybe, but I do want to be happy, i know im loved. I even made amends with my mom. And yes those thought do appear, but im not paying for therapy, i don't have insurance and i hate yapping so I'll end this here.

>>40843257
you don't have a therapist tho you have an AI chatbot that validates your misogyny

>>40845890
>misogyny
So you suggest she hates herself? What are you trying to say here, transphobe?

>>40846109
I don't think Emily is a real woman considering her late transition status but even if she is, women have internalized misogyny too

>>40842990 (OP)
I'm trans and also feel this way so it's not just you.