Thread 40849413

/Big/ - bisexual general : the end of the summer edition

>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?

Previous Thread: >>40766952

Tagmap: https://tagmap.io/tag/%2Fbigen%2F

FAQ:
>Am I bi if I like women and femboys/traps?
>Am I bi if there's this one member of the same-sex I'm desiring, but normally I like the opposite sex?
>Am I bi if I sexually like both sexes, but only interested in romance with one of them?
Yes, sexual attraction to both sexes is bisexuality.
>Do you love me, OP?
we can cuddle while watching the rain now that summer is ending
>What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?
Only difference is that our flag is prettier.
>Am I bi if i have periods where I feel only attracted to women and others where I feel only attracted to men?
This is known as the bi-cycle and many bisexuals experience it.
>Am I bi or am I 'prison gay' or porn addicted?
'Prison gay' is not a real thing and porn addiction does not alter your sexual orientation. You are bi.
>Am I bi or pan if I like trans people?
Both are able to be attracted to trans people.
>I think I might be bi but I can't tell. How can I be certain?
Just make a point to check out members of the sex you think you might be attracted to and see if anyone grabs your attention.
>Should I be harsh on myself?
You should be kind on yourself. Few people will do it for you

Resource for Bisexuals:
https://biresource.org/

>>40849413 (OP)
>>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
GARBAGE!!!
Managed to put on some muscle and smoked some good weed though so it's not all gray
>>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
Playing the games I couldn't play this summer, now that I'm gonna have money again to purchase Expedition 33.
>>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
Uhhhh idkkkkk it probably involves eating or drinking with friends though

Also filters didn't pick up the thread I've got to match for /big/ too now baka my head

>>40849413 (OP)
look at that gay jester lol

his gay little faggot dance lmao

gay as fuck

>>40849413 (OP)
>we can cuddle while watching the rain now that summer is ending
I could use that...

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that tomorrow at 21 GMT we will vote for the next two movies for Movie Night! If you want you can also give your recommendation by replying to this post

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>when will movie night take place?
its FRIDAY at 22 gmt

>where do we watch the movies?
on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/GYkt22nq

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
it was aids ridden gorilla dick thank u for asking
>spent most of it unemployed and broke
>met with this guy who i really liked only for him to ghost me bc he went back to his ex gf
>got hired for a decent paying job with good benefits only to be fired not even two weeks of working there
its a miracle that i havent killed myself tbdesu im just hoping that the fall/winter months will at least treat me right
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
not rly im just gonna continue working for the meantime (found a new job but its only short term)
>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
binge watching scary movies and drinking starbucks pumpkin chai
i also like listening to my fall playlist while walking around campus but im not going back to school this semester unfortunately

>>40850502
> only to be fired not even two weeks of working there

How

Y'all, I hate my trans friend. I finally came out as bi and wanting to be a femboy to her, and she just laughed and said she knew all along. Her words, "I'm a gay trans girl, but you acted like the fruitiest guy ever. Like more fruity than the average gay man. It was really only a matter of time. Still love you though fag" She's great but really fucks with me.

>>40850536
in my country we usually have a probationary period for the first three months of employment where u can get fired for literally no reason at all
the reason that they gave me was that i “didnt meet expectations” and refused to elaborate on that despite literally all of my coworkers thinking otherwise it was literally so sudden and everyone was praising me for how good i was adjusting at the job
apparently this has happened to multiple other employees

>>40849413 (OP)
>/big/ and not /bigen/
Put yourself in the ground

>>40851956
no u

Tits in my butt

>>40849413 (OP)
>qott1
First half was great and second half was abysmal
Basically a trans girl broke my heart
>qott2
Flying out to visit my mom in a few weeks
She offered to buy the tickets because of how depressed I've been lol

im a dude, i have a fujo gf, i bought a dildo without her knowing. is that bad? should i tell her or is that more personal (me self pleasuring myself)

>>40855939
if shes a fujo then i guess shed be into it, but it is your business. if she doesnt approve you can still use it anyway

>>40851956
>>40849747
I thought I'd entertain the suggestion from the previous thread, my bad for not putting also /bigen/ in it

>>40849948
They be having a jolly ol good time

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
awful, plans with my so got cancelled, neighbours drove me crazy and I had to go back on temp meds at regular intervals, had to tell every professional that follows me that I was getting worse and had to go out of a program I was in, scared my so because they witnessed one of my crises, didn't even get to see my best friend like I wanted to and my sister only once and our cat is probably sick
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
at least it's getting better since the end of last week and I'm not struggling with thinking of kms anymore

>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
Finally seeing my so after 6 months, maybe exercising like I planned to before this awful summer

>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
....cuddling/covering myself in bed sheets while watching the rain

>>40854495
how'd she break your heart?

>>40850869
Well, you ARE a faggot so...

>>40856930
This is true, but come on man

>>40857358
nah ur being too sensitive
you're a fruitcake, own it

>>40857382
You know what anon, sure. I'll start being obnoxiously bisexual and faggy at all times.

>>40857394
based do that

>>40856555
>at least it's getting better since the end of last week and I'm not struggling with thinking of kms anymore
That's very good to hear, hope everything gets better !

good morning bigen

>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
meh, it gets really soupy outside where i am so i stayed inside a lot. got to travel a bit tho and went to the beach like twice. also i got engaged!

>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
going to berlin with my fiancé!

>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
halloween-themed amusement park nights

>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
Bretty gud. Didn't really do everything I wanted to do but I've had alot going on as far as home repairs and stuff like that.
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
mushroom hunting and fishing and of course enjoying the leaves and the crisp air
>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
there's a very specific time period for fishing during the fall called the "false spawn" that's probably my favorite time of year. Otherwise hiking and mushroom hunting is my favorite activity

I want a person who is attractive that I can put my cum into whenever I want. I always cum in the toilet, or a paper towel. I wish I could just relax and let someone I love swallow it.

>>40858632
Brother you need to workshop the way you deliver this message

>>40858717
If my ability to get my dick sucked can be prevented by the truth, I don't deserve to get my dick sucked.

I wonder what would happen if I took a gay boy and a dyke and I put the gay boy's penis in the dyke's pussy and then fucked the gay boy until he had a prostate orgasm and a child. I think maybe bisexuals are the key to homosexual fertility.

If the dyke has a problem getting cooked by a homo with a dick up his ass, we can just get my bisexual wife to make out with her or sit on her face or whatever so she will still be turned on. Bisexuals can save the white race from homosexuality like this (by making homosexuals fertile and thus answering the gay question).

>>40858935
*cocked
Sorry, autocorrect

>>40850339
I’ve been in this for ages maybe I’ll actually check it out this month!

>>40855939
Tell her. She'll probably want to use it on you.

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that at 21 GMT we will choose the next 2 movies for movie night!
You can give your recommendation now by replying to this post

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>when will movie night take place?
its FRIDAY at 22 gmt

>where do we watch the movies?
on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/GYkt22nq

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>>40857884
Thanks anon, it truly is nice when things get better, good god it's hard to remember sometimes when you're in the midst of terrifyingly bad things happening to you

>>40859110
wah, nice anon, hope you'll like it, don't forget to vote or propose a movie ! you don't have much time now for a rec, but maybe next week ?

>>40858889
only one way to find out

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

The poll is now open, no further recommendations will be accepted.
The voting will stop tomorrow at around 4 PM GMT, so be sure to vote before then!

Here is the link to the server:
https://discord.gg/eQAcZ9eM

>>40849413 (OP)
>>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
horrible. quit my job now i'm NEET again. I was on the verge of getting fired so I just left
>>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
i'm getting therapy
>>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
does looking at the trees with different color leaves count

>>40862820
LETS GO WAR OF WORLDS

WHOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAA THEY WANT OUR DATA

DONT LET THE ALIENS EAT MY PORNHUB HISTORY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

why do so many breakup texts sound like theyre written by a hr team drafting a rejection letter? talking about “i wish you luck in the future” jfc i wish people would actually allow themselves to be human instead of acting like robots that were coded to otherpathologize everything

>>40865450
Chatgpt probably

>>40865467
i dont want to be reminded that an alarming amount of people are relying on artificial intelligence to articulate their thoughts and words just bc they cant be honest with themselves
im starting to think ted kaczynski made some points im ngl

>>40863901
>i'm getting therapy
That's really good anon I hope it gets better
>does looking at the trees with different color leaves count
Yes ofc it does, especially if it makes you happy
>>40865480
>an alarming amount of people are relying on artificial intelligence to articulate their thoughts and words just bc they cant be honest with themselves
It's even worse than you think it is

>>40849413 (OP)
>QOTT
bureaucratic hole the entire time and I'm not anywhere near out of it
>QOTT2
suffering
>optional
hiking and suicide

I’m mostly straight, but sometimes I get insanely horny about having gay sex with a young hot athletic guys in secret. It has to be in secret. It mirrors the way my male cousin molested me a few times when I was a kid. I am reenacting my trauma. The guilt and shame stemming from this even has been a dark cloud hanging over my entire life. Sometimes it makes me think some really dark thoughts.

>>40864837
this

>>40865480
Sexy Fish

>>40867991
Unironically seek therapy for this.

I don't think I can vape anymore guys. I just feel sick afterwards.

>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
Bike forever waiting to get repaired. Can't focus all summer and I kinda feel like crap. Anyways I still draw.
>>40850869
Is that flirting...

Any good book recommendations?

Just curious about age demographics: how old are y’all? I’m in my late 20s

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

And we have the two winners!:

>Porco Rosso
>War of the worlds (2025)

So see ya later at 22 GMT!

>>40849413 (OP)
>qott1
not great desu but met up with friends once and made some new ones so that was nice
>qott2
buying sextoys and eating chestnuts
>>40872164
31 and hating it

>>40871516
cute skirt poses
I really like how you're never afraid of vast spaces lay. I usually have a compulsion to fill everything with stuff so it's impressive to me that you can do it that way

>>40872145
The Man Who Spoke Snakish by Andrus Kivirähk
I would rec another that I've read but that one seems to be the only translated in english

>>40872164
about to hit 30

>>40866498
sorry to hear you're having a bad time anon, from someone who's done their fair share of self-harm and such, I really hope you get to have good times soon and it all gets better. You can have those things, don't give up

>>40872393
>I really like how you're never afraid of vast spaces lay. I usually have a compulsion to fill everything with stuff so it's impressive to me that you can do it that way
Idk what you mean.
Some of it is a bit still, such is the problem with wooden dolls to figure out pose ideas.

>>40872164
im turning 24 in december

>>40872164
28 feeling like 30.

>>40872382
>>40872393
>>40872585
>>40872671
Huh we're all around the same age then. Wishing you anons a nice weekend

>>40849413 (OP)
I'm pretty sure I may end up getting fucked by my professor and his wife... either that or they both have a strange sense of what it means to be a mentor.

>QOTT1
It was good, I didn't get quite as much reading as I wanted done, but got some other things taken care of.
>QOTT 2
School. FFS in about a month, with a second op in November. Here's to hoping for a speedy recovery.

Do any of you use apps? I've tried Grindr, but as a trans woman, it's kind of horrific.

>>40872507
I don't really know how to put it into words....
it's like you go to very fine details in parts but aren't afraid to leave others very blank, giving the whole a good sense of space and scale

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that in 2 hours Movie Night is gonna start! Here is tonight's selection:

>Porco Rosso
>War of the worlds (2025)

>what the hell is "movie night"
Its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>where do we watch the movies?
On the official Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/eQAcZ9eM

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>>40872164
36, maybe the oldest ITT lol

>>40873619
nope, im 39 :(

>>40871516
>Is that flirting?
I used to have a crush on her, but it just didn't work out. Now we're best friends and she's just British. Bants are her love language

bisexual "lesbian" orientationplay and cuckqueaning is so goddamn hot. ///0.0///
end of psa.

>>40873488
war of the pork

>>40869552
I don’t tell anyone what happened. When I was a kid, I told one of my friends, and he used the information to blackmail me. Apart from 4chan, I’ve never told anybody else and I don’t think I ever will.

>>40877942
thats really messed up anon, im sorry to hear that. be that as it may, a therapist would never do something like that. I really suggest you see one so you wont be carrying this pain your whole life

LOL, LMAO...

Was talking to a guy seriously for the first time
Already fumbled him but it's time to come out now so I don't have to stumble through this later next time
Visiting my mom next week and gonna tell her, hope it goes well.
Feel like coming out as bi should be such a non-issue but it's way higher likelihood you're gonna be challenged for it or not believed

>>40872164
Turned 22 this summer !

>>40873241
>Do any of you use apps? I've tried Grindr, but as a trans woman, it's kind of horrific.
I got on grindr recently, and I don't think I've got it as bad as you do as a cis man but it's pretty bad desu.
Other than that I don't believe in dating apps, I just wanted sex so no I don't use apps

>>40879958
i'm trans and i really like grindr when i want a quick hookup
i just let people dm me, instablock any uggos, men over 35 and men with dicks under 6 inches and i pick the 4-5 hottest guys out of the bunch, chat to them for like 24 hours to make sure they're not psychos and then meet up an get my insides pulverized

demons at the door

>>40865450
Yeah I had a gf break up with me and in person it’s not much better. They go full HR in person too. Like just tell me what I did wrong there is no company liability to protect here

>>40865480
ted kaczynski Was right about everything

>>40872164
I’m 30

>>40879504
Hopefully it’ll all turn out well. Wishing you luck anon.

>>40879971
I wish hooking up with girls was this easy.

>>40873241
>I'm pretty sure I may end up getting fucked by my professor and his wife... either that or they both have a strange sense of what it means to be a mentor.
Elaborate. I want to hear more about this.

>Do any of you use apps? I've tried Grindr, but as a trans woman, it's kind of horrific.
Yes but I'm a guy and I just use it similarly to >>40879971 when I need a new male FWB. I don't bother to block people unless they send me multiple crazy messages, I just ignore if I'm not into it.

>>40880459
fuck trannies they're all desperate for cock and validation

>>40880741
Only difference from regular girls is how open they are about it

>>40880741
>>40882606
maybe 2026 is the year when i should be starting my journey of celibacy and modesty

>>40883424
I give until mid-February before you're back on the dating apps

>>40883498
do u not believe in me :’(

>>40885308
I believe in your insatiable thirst for validation

>>40883424
Nah fuck that. Sex is great

>>40872318
>>40873488
Porco Rosso is so good

>>40885433
usually i agree but after experiencing a breakup this summer + being on a sort of casual sex spree as a means to cope i realized its not what i want atm and deleted all of my apps
my friend suggested that i should “explore my kinkier side” more bc thats what i enjoyed with the guy i was seeing and so i made a fetlife but after talking to a couple of self proclaimed doms i realized how much i fucking hate how i talk so currently i am on my lonesome and if a guy i like that likes me who also happens to match my freak i might as well put a ring on it

Bi guy here, never asked or talked about this but I want to know your opinions. Why do you think there are so many bisexual men that are or say they are bisexual but not romantically bi (myself included)? Is there actual evidence for this being a thing or is it a cope and if you could reprogram yourself/get over internalized homophobia you would find guys romantically interesting? Try as I might I just can't do it, men are only hot to me in a porn setting and even then it's more of a conceptual thing/bottoming turns me on. I hesitate to just call it a fetish but it may be. If I'm at a club/on the beach, I never look at men. I've been alive for 32 years and I've never once had an actual crush on a man. But could I be in some sort of deep denial? Or is the sexual/romantic split genuine?

>>40880432
honestly id much rather risk coming across as manipulative instead of cloaking my language in falsely comforting hr speak just so i can avoid hurting the other persons feelings as much as i possibly can while also avoiding my responsibilities for the other persons feelings the best i can bc u know what at least i say whats on my mind and that i wear my heart on my sleeve

>>40887603
>Why do you think there are so many bisexual men that are or say they are bisexual but not romantically bi (myself included)
because they crave a sense of normalcy (especially if they have any sort of proximity to any majority group)
in a world where we face discrimination just for who we are we often seek out ways we can be accepted by majority groups (this is how u get “nlogs” and “pick mes”)
for reference im a straight trans woman and im stealth (i rly only disclose potential partners) bc i dont want my trasness to impact how other people see me; i want them to perceive me as a woman first instead of someone who is “trans”
id imagine it is more or less the same situation with bi guys that prefer women; they want to be perceived as “”mostly straight”” instead of bisexual if that makes any sense

>>40880437
Well the solution was dogshit but otherwise yeah.

>>40886639
Assuming you’re a cis male anon: it sounds like you’ve had much more sex than I have and are making the right choice for you. I have poor social skills and am not very conventionally attractive so I don’t get a lot of those opportunities hence taking all the ones I get. I always get astounded when I hear stories of people who can just have sex whenever they want, feels like another world

>>40888673
im a trans woman dummy!

Holy shit how did penny end up the servers only mod? Shes insane. Every shitstorm leads back to her. She is the worst possible choice for mod. Literally anyone else would have been better. For gods sakes wu give it to someone else.

>>40889106
I’m glad I’m not the only one that despises her, she comes across as so smug and condescending.

>>40887603
>>40887853
I'm openly bi but I legit just have no romantic interest in men. Even for one night stands, I'm happy to snuggle with women all night, but with men once I'm no longer horny I just have no interest.

>is the sexual/romantic split genuine?.
Not only do I think it's genuine, I think it's important to be clear about it and not mislead anybody. I'd never want to lead on any of the guys I've hooked up with and make them think there's potential for more.

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
Nothing surprising really, pretty boring. I’m about to finish college

>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
Maybe try dating, idk. I’ve been single for too long, I need some affection

>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
“Walking in some park while listening to music, I guess.”

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
Spent half of it poor as dirt.
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
Ex is texting me again so probably gonna do that for another 2-3 months
>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
anything fire related

>>40887603
I'm the other way around if that's any help, I can't see myself romantically involved with a woman ever unless she's at least bi and openly queer too

>>40889106
She's not the only mod, she's one of four and a vocal person regardless. We just like funky colors in here

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
I just lost like a shitload of weight inadvertently (10 days straight of hiking) and finally hit the goal weight I've been trying to reach for years (165lbs @ 6'1"). I need to maintain twink status and prevent my fatass from overeating...
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
University classes and hanging out with people. Maybe if I'm lucky I can get with the guy I'm crushing on

>>40893475
Damn keep staying in shape anon good for you!

>>40894345
Thanks fren. It was a field school course for my degree so it was nice to know that I had it in me. I actually REALLY enjoy hiking, but walking in the city kinda blows... I'll have to figure out some sort of cardio that I like.

>>40893475
I'm having the opposite experience (in a good way). I've been dating a Russian girl who cooks a lot, been eating a bit healthier food and more food than normal. Gained some weight and it was bothering me for a bit but I realized I can bench 3x5 205 lbs now, which means my 1RM is probably 225 lbs. When I started exercising I could barely lift the bar lol

>>40880432
are you a man? women get killed for rejecting men. men commit mass murders for getting divorced and broken up with

I love cisgender bisexual women so much, it's unreal.

>>40887603
sissy fetish

page 8 bump

>>40896513
Naw, not a man… Well might be trans, but I’ll never chop my boobs off. You still make a pretty good point. The girl had previously only dated men so she was probably pulling from “break up mode.”
>>40899165
Cute

>>40892865
I assume they meant she is one of the two who isnt admins, with the other one being diana. The fact that she got mod just by being the server owners best friend is problematic enough. The fact that the only other non admin mod is her girlfriend is another. The fact that she repeatedly has done things that should have gotten her banned, yet she did not get banned due to being the server owners best friend is a big fucking problem. Friend nepotism destroys communities. Shes literally bipolar and just lashes out at people at random. She should not have any powers in the discord at all.

>>40900084
Page 9 bump

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1:
I live in the souther hemishpere so it was a comfy, cozy winter for me. I enjoyed it!
>QotT #2:
Likewise, it'll be spring instead of fall for me. I'll stay inside and enjoy an out of season but globalized pumpkin spice latte or two
>optional QotT
Eating comfort food unironically

I have a question for you in return. I'm pretty sure I am bisexual so I won't ask "Am I bi" but rather I'll ask whether anyone else here has a similar experience to mine
>attracted to women almost exclusively
>attracted to some FICTIONAL males
>can get infatuated by some males IRL but only for fetishistic reasons

Sexual solipsism can be defined as the cognitive and social phenomenon in which individuals, whether straight, gay, or bisexual, are unable or unwilling to recognize the plurality of sexual orientations and instead project their own orientation, desires, and fantasies as universal. It manifests in statements like “I’m straight, but I have this fantasy, every straight guy does” or “I’m gay, but I have this fantasy, every gay guy does.”

This is not merely sloppy phrasing. It betrays a deeper failure of imagination: the inability to conceive of a sexual world outside one’s own internal compass. The person assumes their desires are the template for all others, as though sexuality were simply a private mirror into which everyone else must be gazing.

And here’s the bewildering, infuriating part: one might almost excuse this in a straight majority, where heteronormativity has conditioned people to think their own experience is “default.” But for those in a sexual minority, gay men, bi men, who should know better, who should feel in their bones the experience of being othered, excluded, misunderstood, it is astonishing to see them lapse into the same solipsistic blindness. If you have spent your life as a minority fighting against being projected upon, how could you then turn around and project your sexuality as a universal law?

This is not simply ignorance, but a profound lack of empathy. To deny that other people’s desires might diverge radically from your own is to flatten the richly varied landscape of sexuality into a dull, monochrome copy of yourself. It is a refusal to grant others their subjectivity, their difference. Sexual solipsism, at its core, is narcissism disguised as common sense.

>>40903125
And so, when a gay man says “Every gay guy feels this way”, or a bi man insists “Everyone’s at least a little bi”, it’s not just an innocent generalization, it’s a betrayal. A betrayal of their own hard-won awareness that orientation is not universal, not interchangeable, not reducible to me, reflected endlessly in others.

In short: sexual solipsism is the failure to grasp that the axis of sexuality does not always run through the self.

>>40903125
>>40903133
lol you're right but I don't think it has anything to do with us. The crazy people outside of /bigen/ posting about everyone (or nobody) REALLY being gay/straight/bi aren't the same people who post here.

>>40898359
Me too

>Create a password:
asdf
>your password must be at least 6 characters
>your password must have a lowercase letter, uppercase letter, number, and special character
asdfASDF123!@#

Fucking nerds

>>40898359
>>40903956
well I like you too, random anons. in a better world all guys would be bi

>>40905360
Bi4bi is the most fun world

>>40905395
the ideal world, really. fuck i hope we all get to go there some day, straight guys always have me feeling awkward about my fantasies

>>40905527
I have a bi gf and who's into me being bi and it's been fantastic. We are super open about fantasies with each other, even if they involve attractions to others.

Hi guys n girls, bi zoomer guy here. How do you cope with a massive romantic crush on a guy you only know over the internet? We talk all the time and have a ton in common, every other thing he says makes me want to suck his dick bc hes so cute, but he lives in another country and I don't know if hes even bi or gay himself.
I get the right answer is probably "move on, find someone else", but my attraction is almost totally romantic and emotional for this guy specifically and its really hard to find people you click with so well. Idk I'm basically looking for sympathy ig.

>>40888673
>I always get astounded when I hear stories of people who can just have sex whenever they want, feels like another world
She's a woman/bottom, so that explains it: it's as easy for them to get dicked by men as it is for us to get milked of our money by women.

>>40906233
It's more just being into men. You can be a top/bottom/woman/ftm/mtf/man, doesn't matter, if you're looking for men to fuck, you will find them.

>>40872164
I am turning 22 next month
Also how can I stop feeling like I am wasting my life? I have my own place I am renting with my longterm gf, have a good job with people I like, have a somewhat fluctuating social life, hobbies and personal goals I am working on and my own business
But why do I feel like I am running out of time/wasting my time? Is it because I haven't kissed any guys??

>>40906297
>Also how can I stop feeling like I am wasting my life?
Not gonna be able to help you with that one lel, especially considering you're doing way better than me at the same age

>>40906249
>>40906233
This does explain things but I feel like there’s a kinder way to say it

>>40898359
>>40905360
Bi for bi is so blessed. May we all find loving partners and fuck like rabbits

>>40905610
God bless

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The most blessed bi4bi is surprise bi4bi.

>>40911495
On a logical level I understand that gay men exist, but at the same time I can never 100% comprehend how there are people out there who don't love fat fucking titties

I have burnout you couldn't even comprehend.

>>40906297
You are better off than me and younger.

>>40905934
The fear of ever meeting and not actually being compatible IRL hasn't hit you yet I see. It will happen to you some day as soon as one or both of you are capable of visiting.

>>40906297
cry louder

bi so curious?

>>40915103
Bottom, text.

I love beautiful women

I had a burnout at the beginning of July, but I didn't realise what is happening until beginning of August, and I've been on sick leave for over a month recovering at my parents. It's pretty bad desu. I can't do any exertion and I'm bed bound if I even try to work. I can't even lift yet.

But in June I had a lot of fun going to a metal festival, I love metal bros and girls, and mosh pits, literally the kindest people on this planet. Express love through violence.

Autumn plans is to hopefully just recover and be normal again bros, I am so desperate to have a normal life again. And I need cuddles.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tomb_of_the_Unknown_Soldier
Apparently the tomb of the unknown soldier actually has some soldier's body that they just didn't identify. I always thought it was just an idea lol

>>40916098
>tomb of the anon soldier
did you find get to this from the thread on /int/ about the monument? we probably insult each others nationalities there.

>>40916318
Nah I was just browsing wikipedia. I haven't been on /int/ in awhile although I do like the board.

>>40916033
>But in June I had a lot of fun going to a metal festival, I love metal bros and girls, and mosh pits, literally the kindest people on this planet. Express love through violence.
I went to one in August it was one of the best experiences of my life, especially because I got to see one of my favorite bands and they come from the other side of the world.
I hope you get better, and that you finally receive the cuddles you deserve.

>>40916556
Thank you anon. Love to you too. Which band did you see that was so good? For me this year Slipknot was the best, their concert is 20% of the reason I burned out but I would do it again in a heartbeat, insane energy.

>>40916033
I’m a broke bitch so I only go to 1 concert a year and went in the bleachers to NIN but even then I had so much fun. One day, when I finish graduate school and am making the big bucks, I’m gonna drop 5 figures just on mosh pits back to back to back and just chill. Not so subtly hoping for an orgy or something. Glad you had a fun time anon :)

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
boring af. but i moved into my dorm a bit ago so hooray
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
ummm lock in on uni work thats it
>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
pumpkin spice latte.....

>>40872164
oh i forgot to reply to this. im 18, and given everyone else's responses i feel like the youngest person ever meme that was trending on tiktok for a bit

Bigen is just some boomer gooner paradise pit

>>40916647
I really wanted to see One Obliviscaris, they're from Australia and I'm from France so I don't have many opportunities lel. Also moshed pretty fucking hard to Gutalax and I Prevail, god I miss it already...

>>40916819
>Not so subtly hoping for an orgy or something.
We definitely do not go to the same concerts kek
Not that I would be against the idea per se

Day #72659 of not knowing whether I'm a bi girl with preference towards women, or a homoflexible lesbian

>>40917711
Let me dream!!!!!!!!!

>>40917743
i didnt ask to get clocked in ur reply

>>40917743
Damn femanon you’re 200 years old? Good for you for putting yourself out there!

>>40917743
Bi girl with preferences towards women. You being "homoflexible lesbian" still counts as being bisexual.

>>40905360
>>40905395
>>40907188
Oh God I wish it was that heavenly. A bi4bi community is indeed nice for meeting people and you can craft really good friendships, but it's unsuffereable as a dating pool option.
At least you can get lots of friends with benefits.

>>40887603
I think it is genuine but also unlikely that there is literally no guy out there that you could have feelings for. Even if you don’t, you’re still by definition a bisexual. I thought I wasn’t very homoromantic in the past but looking back on it, I pushed away two guys that I really did have feelings for. Internalized homophobia and a felt need to reproduce.

>>40880739
I don't even know at this point. Either they wanna fuck me or they wanna be my parents. Or the third option, I'm a moron reading into things.

>>40920165
>me and him text weekly over summer
>have a few multiple-hour long phone calls where we discuss things like the erotic nature of wisdom, being affected by other people, and reading poetry to each other
>send each other hearts frequently in our texts and now message each other almost every day
>one day text him asking if he and his wife want to grab dinner after class sometime
>he says for sure, that they were already talking about it

>tell a chick i just want to cuddle and not have sex
>go over to her place
>5 minutes later my dick is in her mouth and 20 minutes later we're fucking
at least when i bang men i have an excuse to not want to do anal

>>40920980
>dont want to have sex (doesnt feel right)
>dont want to be emotionally vulnerable (bad experiences)
>want to cuddle (only sometimes)
ive come to the conclusion that my only choice is to wait a few more years and use my newly gained wizard powers to summon an on-demand cuddle familiar.

Tranny cum.
In my goddamn mouth.
NOW

>>40921584
the non-slutty bisexual life is hard

>>40921584
Man, same. I'm only five months from wizardry myself.

Wish I was just straight.

>>40921601
Honestly, yeah. Trying to find non-hoes in this economy feels like mining for gold in them hills.

>>40917743
You liking women and (it appears only some but still more than zero) men seems like a good point in favor of you being bisexual :)

>>40921584
Why should anyone be emotionally available anymore. I think people much prefer masks these days.

>>40920165
>>40920196
They're most likely open to fucking. I'm saying this as an autist who has missed a lot of these signals before.

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>>40919063
>>40922233
I don't question the label of bi applying to me, but I feel way more comfortable with the lesbian label so I'm at an impasse
>>40918047
Shoosh, I miscalculated the amount of days, it was supposed to be 20 years instead of 200...

>>40921601
>>40921676
it sucks because like >>40920980 said, youll get somebody whos like
>ugh yeahhh im not a sexual person eitherrr
and within a few days youre now in charge of getting them off.
>>40922357
its funny, because sometimes being vulnerable and being affirmed felt good, but my ex would take those opportunities to do some fucked up shit, intentionally or not, and now i cant even drop the walls when i want to.

>>40923430
I think this is a false choice. You can be hyper sexual and still be very commited to your partner. I wanna find someone who sets me off but I also love with all my heart and can just chat with for hours about nothing.

I refuse to believe I, as well as everyone else here, can’t have that

>>40922357
you don't have to be, but if you aren't you'll never have any meaningful intimacy with anyone.
>I think people much prefer masks these days.
is that how you dictate your life choices? based on what's popular?

>>40923430
The only places to open up and be vulnerable is online on 4chan or in private discord DM but I am trying to reduce my social media presence and failing.

Btw which ever one of you is in adv atoga threads. I know you use this thread bicel dork. I will once again remind you I am a mess and it is a curse to be into getting tattooed, piercings from someone despite not liking those aesthetically and being into femdom despite not trusting women. Such is comedic irony. Not implying anything here, just bored.

>>40923566
No the mask is not showing the emotions people view negativity. I am perfectly cringe on my own.

>>40923413
>I feel way more comfortable with the lesbian label
Why is that, if you don't mind explaining ?

>>40923615
Pls don't say aesthetics, pls don't say aesthetics, pls don't say aesthetics
>Inb4 culture/aesthetic

>>40923615
>>40923624
I feel like it more explicitly conveys what I'm mainly attracted to. If I run into a cute girl, I'll most likely be attracted to her. If I run into a handsome man, I will most likely just think "yeah this man is handsome" but not be attracted to them. In the case of men I'm rarely attracted to, it's because they're feminine in some way (esp. faggy twinks)
So that's why I'm wondering whether I'm attracted to them because they're men, or if I'm attracted to them DESPITE being men, you know?
Ultimately it doesn't really matter, but I enjoy pondering about it
Ah there's also fetishizing men, but that's more of a fetish thing rather than real attraction so I don't count it. The real true attraction I feel is towards women and femininity, if that makes sense.

That's why the lesbian label feels more comfortable to me. Although using both "bi" and "lesbian" at the same time has the maximum potential to piss people off online, so I use them both when I wanna be mischievous

I don’t think I love anyone. Not even friends and family. I think I used to. The feeling was like a foundness in my chest when I looked at them. It could be tinged with other emotions, like I could feel a tug of fondness and exasperation, or it could just be overflowing and too much like I’d burst. I wish I could love someone again. I want that closeness.

>>40923699
This is emotional burnout.

>>40923646
>In the case of men I'm rarely attracted to, it's because they're feminine in some way (esp. faggy twinks)
You're a bisexual gynophile. Congrats.
However, I advise you to label yourself as lesbian to avoid biphobia since Lesbians and Gays are obsessed blaming bisexuals for all evils in the LGBT world.

>>40923699
Google alexithymia

>>40923725
So I haven’t read a full article on it, but with a preliminary google search I’m gonna say I don’t think I have alexithymia. I definitely experience and aware of some very negative emotions.

>>40923707
Maybe I’m burned out from this life. Idk.

>>40923500
i didnt mean to imply that it was one or the other, but youre probably right in that it is fairly uncommon.
i sort of had what you described with my ex, but with enough mental illness sprinkled in to cause lasting damage. whats worse is that i'm now naturally distrustful of anything similar.
>>40923568
i think you can be vulnerable with people outside of online spaces, but you have to know when to do so, and with who. people love to say
>nobodys REAL or GENUINE anymore, why cant i be vulnerable with people?
after they get back from trauma dumping onto their blind date.
its definitely easier in an online setting, because so many people struggle in finding meaningful connections today and are willing to let just about anybody in, but obviously that can cause problems.

>>40924384
I try not to trauma dump IRL, I'm better at containing it except for like right after something happens. Remembering how I was and everything around me after I got in a fatal car crash yesrs ago still bothers me because roomates and suitmates basically didn't care even while I was concussed and recovering from injuries. But online I am definitely bad about random trauma dumping because it is easy and my mood is poorer alone.

so what kinda pussy and bussy can i pull based on my build?

>>40925277
Chubby chicks with daddy issues

>>40925508
idk im a 5’11” tranny thats 140 lbs soaking wet and id be all over that like butter on toast
>>40925277
tripfags on tttt called yuyi (did i mention how tight i am btw)

>>40880741
Oh, lol, I meant cis women mostly. Hooking up with girls is kinda a pain in the neck and I wish it was more simple.

>>40926263
might have if you stayed a twink desu

>>40923578
then there's nothing to discuss

>>40926390
u dont like trannies?

>>40926395
As it that what I said is reasonable or...?

>>40926592
Nah

>>40849413 (OP)
picrel reminds me of an h&e stain no thanks
>>40871516
cute clothes i love wearing skirts like this

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that tomorrow at 21 GMT we will vote for the next two movies for Movie Night! If you want you can also give your recommendation by replying to this post

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>when will movie night take place?
its FRIDAY at 22 gmt

>where do we watch the movies?
on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/eQAcZ9eM

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

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>>40925277
Would blow you till you couldn't feel your legs

How does anyone rate lupin the third D tier?

Having a strong drink and about to tell my mom I'm bi and the "girl" who broke my heart that I've been venting about is actually a guy and I've been swapping pronouns since I'm a coward closet case
Trying to get past that tonight, already out to some people but I've been stalling on the rest

Do we get hornier on average than our straight and gay counterparts? I know that is a stereotype type and I don’t need mean it in a negative way I’m speaking from experience. I have an incredibly high sex drive. I’m not saying that to brag, it’s ruined relationships for me and it really gets in the way when I need to get stuff done, especially for long term tasks, and just can’t focus because I’m so god damn horny. Please tell me I’m somewhat normal

>>40929162
Nah there are way more weird repressed virgin bis than any other letter

>>40929177
So you DON’T think we are more horny? Damn that sucks :/

>>40929162
>>40929220
I am super horny, pretty much limitless sex drive. It's possible with a low-to-normal sex drive I'd just assume I was a straight guy who could "recognize when men were attractive" or some shit.

>>40929162
>>40929440
this is hot i love hypersexual men

>>40928893
She's cool about it as I suspected
I held onto shame way too long

>>40929720
I kept it a secret from my friends for a long time despite knowing they'd be cool with it. Nobody was surprised when I mentioned it straightforward. It's good to be open.

>>40849413 (OP)
who up picking they robin clean!!

>>40929162

I often fluctuate between a super high sex drive and no sex drive. Kinda annoying.

>>40849413 (OP)
Trying to make the most of the last two weeks together with my gf before going abroad for half a year. I already told her that the idea of long distance sounds horrible to me. I even miss her much after just two weeks apart, but I simply couldn't bring myself to break up with her. I told her I would try and we'll see. I know I am being selfish. I don't know what will happen.

>>40931758
Unless you are somewhat older (mid to late twenties) and have been together for 5+ years, shit ain't gonna work. Just rip the band-aid off man.

>>40849413 (OP)
bi rights are human rights

>>40865450
i blame protestantism

Finally a weekend to get back to the real things that matter in my life. Drawing hentai poorly and trying to understand manga backgrounds.
Once again sad no art/writter bf/gf to struggle with.

>>40923699
Oh hey that's me I'm in this picture and I don't like it or something like the young folks say

I have no money and I must spend

>>40932621
it's still fun to do things that matter, have a good one lay

>>40932009
We are both mid twenties but only been together for half a year now. So that's half a year together and the same time apart soon. Sucks, we are both each others first relationship and there is no other reason for me why it might not work between us. I wish I could promise her we'd get back together when I return but that's not a promise you can simply make.

>>40929720
>>40929765

yay
now if only my mom was like that :c

>>40929466
are you also a high sex drive anon or femanon?

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

The poll is now open, no further recommendations will be accepted.
The voting will stop tomorrow at around 4 PM GMT, so be sure to vote before then!

Here is the link to the server:
https://discord.gg/HNcKqks4

I hate having to wear long sleeves in summer why am I such a retard

>>40938906
Is this a self harm scar reference or am I just that brainrotted

>>40939028
If they were scars I wouldn't wear long sleeves I don't care about my scars but these are fresh I relapsed and I should stop talking about it thank you very much for reading though

>>40939186
I hope you get the help you need anon

43 days since the dealership ordered parts to repair my motorcycle. Still haven't heard back on if they finally got the parts.
>>40938906
I hope it is like thin underarmour or something.

i love having sex with moids but i dont really find my personal relationships with them very fulfilling. alternatively i love foids and have very deeply fulfilling relationships with them and while i think it feels amazing to make out with them and be naked in a bed with them and to feel them all over me, i dont actually ever have orgasms when i have sex with them lol. i find this dynamic very unpleasant. i wish moids would be nicer/more engaging or foids would learn how to make me cum, but neither seem to be close to achieving this. what do i do

Fuck
Came out to my oldest friend
He was very chill
Idk why it all feels so high stakes to me
I knew it would be fine
My family was fine with it the last couple weeks

Currently have a crush on an openly-gay acquaintance in a college student group, but the group is kinda sorta homophobic. Like they don't really have an issue about it but some of the people are definitely... a little more vocal about their opinions online LOL. But I'm really interested in this guy. Good golly gosh gee this guy is so goddamned fucking cute and I want to cuddle him and fuck him one million times EACH. Yeah I don't really think I care that much if people know I'm bi, I would risk it for that guy desu.

dunkan jax and his monkey friend

>>40941323
Surely it's not that homophobic of a group if they accept openly gay dudes into it

>>40941323
paint your nails or something, that's the only way people ever know i'm not straight.

>>40929162
>it’s ruined relationships for me
how did that happen? I have a pretty high sex drive too and am in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem to care much for it, so we do it very infrequently. Scared to mess something up here too if I don't aprroach the issue with adequate care.

>>40942698
It was an issue both ways. I felt unwanted physically and like it was a soft rejection when I kept being told no for sex and she eventually became convinced I wanted her primarily for her body. Distrust ensued and the relationship developed more and more cracks before we broke it off.

I do not dare anyone seriously until I confirm a decently high sex drive now. It is not fair to ask me to compromise on something so important to me and to try and shame me nor is it fair to my partner

>>40939186
Please take care of yourself and be kind to your body anon

>>40941031
Happy to hear that anon! Hope you two are even closer now. Just have him be your wingman and you can be his

>>40929162
afaik there has been a few studies suggesting that we do, but I cant remember the names of them. something something compared to het and homo peers we're hornier and want kinkier sex but also do more drugs and suffer from more SA something
being high drive actually really fucking sucks though, yeah. hate feeling like I'm broken or cruel for wanting more and rougher sex and masturbation than most people do
>>40940598
out of curiousity what's something girls do/dont do that leave you unsatisfied?
just here to take notes

>>40943112
Big horny bigger heart <3

>>40943179
<3 it's hard out here for the Big fucking Big Loving folks, we gotta have each-others backs

I fucking hate FB. They are always asking for too much. I’m not gonna set up a 6 digit pin for my msgs. I’m going to just never use FB again.

>>40941031
Nice!

>>40943853
got fb for the whole purpose of finding a room to rent. got my account instantly flagged and asked to send a FUCKING VIDEO of my WHOLE ASS FACE from all directions for zucc to zuck off to. and they fucking deleted my account anyway. Made a new one, same procedure again but this time they were satisfied. fuckers. Anyway found a room by other means, used that hell site for about two weeks for nothing else. good riddance

I feel like a fraud

>>40943853
I hate FB for killing everything by moving to fb marketplace which has been substantially worse than Craigslist for vehicles.

>>40942985
I am trying myself but life is really shit right now and it's just the logical consequences of my own actions, it's hard to be kind to oneself in such circumstances

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

Speed Racer (2008) wins the first round, vote NOW in the 1h30 minutes FLASH ROUND to decide the second movie of the night!

>https://discord.gg/HNcKqks4

>>40887603
I'm just like you. I think for me, it's that trying to be romantic with another guy either feels like I'm roleplaying or we're just two dudes broing around and having sex. It probably doesn't help that I exclusively like bottoming with guys and so if we're trying to be "romantic," I guess I feel like I have to pretend to/"be the girl" in the relationship and it's just like role playing. It didn't feel natural at all and I had to end it. But it's also hard not to feel that power imbalance when you just let someone rail you or you had their dick your mouth 20 minutes before going to see a movie.

The other time I tried building a connection and didn't do that, we felt like nothing but buddies talking about dudebro hobbies and there was no romantic tension, so much so I didn't even want to hook up anymore.

I still privately admit to myself that I'm bi, but dating/having sex with other men is pretty much over for me,

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

And after a FLASH ROUND we have the two winners!

>Speed Racer (2008)
>Cruella (2021)

So see ya later at 22 GMT!

>>40943203
Fuck it. Femanon are you single? I promised myself today I’m getting off this god forsaken site and social media in general, it’s not only bad for me but also a total time sink, but you seemed cool, you were into my high sex drive and you even post cute cat pics.

If you wanna DM just drop one to NoImpulseControl my discord alt

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that in 1 hours Movie Night is gonna start! Here is tonight's selection:

>Speed Racer (2008)
>Cruella (2021)

>what the hell is "movie night"
Its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>where do we watch the movies?
On the official Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/HNcKqks4

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>>40947373
Well fuck ngl thats kind of tempting. There's more than one of us though, so not sure if you're mixing me up with another femanon. I know theres the lesbian leaning one ITT at least. I'm >>40905360 .
I can't commit to anything big atm+not a good person for anything long term however, and I'm an actual hag so you're not losing out on much

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

Good evening !
Its finally time to start another Movie Night! Tonight selection is:

>Speed Racer (2008)
>Cruella (2021)

Here is the link of the stream, don't be shy and come join us! the film will start at 22:10 GMT

>https://discord.gg/HNcKqks4

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>>40948048
Nope you’re who I thought you were. You can’t just talk about how you also love rough sex, love men like us, and then not expect to turn someone like me on. No obligations whatsoever, I’m not at a point in my life where I can commit to anything long term either. But hey, you know where to find me. At the very least I know I got you interested ;)

>>40948579
Are you a eurofag or an amerifag anon? Would be fun if our timezones matched
>You can’t just talk about how you also love rough sex, love men like us, and then not expect to turn someone like me on.
well, look, listen, allow me to type out a small rant about that then, if you will:
bi guys are top tier guys.
I've had insanely attractive lesbians wanting me, and I've had insanely attractive and popular straight guys wanting me, but it doesn't compare to the chemistry you get to have with another bisexual idiot. there's always that nagging feeling of knowing that they don't want the full package, the limits of their own sexual desires prevent them from realising that I have to hold back to keep them happy. Cute straight guy hitting on me? Instantly have to worry about whether my desire to pin him down and fuck him like an animal will challenge his sense of masculinity.
So thank you, bi guys, for enabling me and providing an alternative. u da mans

>>40948976
>my desire to pin him down and fuck him like an animal will challenge his sense of masculinity
Holy fuck I'm not the anon you're replying to but that is h a w t please be a eurofag....

>>40949761
yeah I'm hopelessly european

hi bigen i got a 90 on my college course
now i just need to sort the rest of my life out….

So I'm out to most of my family and one of my friends now
I keep having these huge surging anxious feelings of being a fraud and what if I'm actually straight the whole time and now it's over
Which is fucking stupid because I just got out of a two month thing with a guy and can't kick the feelings about him
But my dumbass lingering repression brain is rooting those fraud anxieties in hard
It's so dumb
There was never any good reason to repress in the first place I knew everyone around me is chill, it's not like I'm in Alabama in the 90s or some shit

>>40951012
nice!! one less thing to worry about then
>>40951125
grats on coming out anon. i feel like it can take literal years for that feeling to subside but being out def helps

>>40951125
I think it makes perfect sense to feel like that. Even if you live in an accepting place, you have still permanently and significantly changed peoples' perception of you.

>>40950078
Wya.... Please be near France

>>40849413 (OP)
>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
Awful. My situationship fell apart and I spent the whole time worrying about stuff and mourning what could've been.

>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
Hopefully getting my shit together, starting to socialize again and seeing where we go from there.

>optional QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
Hate to admit it but seasons don't mean much if you barely go outside.

>>40953225
not super close but not super far either. taking a flight to Paris is about about 2 hours or so, maybe less
>>40953721
>seasons don't mean much if you barely go outside
frighteningly true

fuck it. while I'm here I might as well add that I'm the same femanon who was talking with an anon a while ago about how to find MMF threesomes. After moving to a place where nobody knew I've been thinking about how to make the most of it and trying to pursue what I want.
I've been buying some toys I want to use, and I'm thinking about hitting up lesbian bars for random hookups too, or going to some of those alt-electronic clubs with darkrooms where people fuck in the corners. I tried looking up actual dedicated sex events and clubs too but... holy fuck, it's all so depressingly straight and couples focused. Like. fuck. why is a requirement for going to a fuckbar that you bring a plus one? what the actual fuck

>>40954368
>why is a requirement for going to a fuckbar that you bring a plus one? what the actual fuck
To ensure that it's not a sausage fest of straight men

>>40954455
Sadly this is the reality

>>40954142
>taking a flight to Paris is about about 2 hours or so, maybe less
I'm not in Paris, I live 2hrs away but if you ever come in frogland hit me up, my discord is tilting_painting if you wanna chat (won't be up tonight though)

>>40954455
>>40954540
thoughts looping back into the whole "bi guys are better" thing aside I guess I just figured it was some sort of fetish thing they hadnt mentioned, but avoiding an accidental sausage party makes more sense... seeing it on the website when they'd proclaimed themselves as being "for everyone" and more lgbt friendly than other venues felt like a major bummer though, because it's one of the largest events of its kind in the country. All the shows were geared towards couples too, sadly
>>40954576
I can't promise anything but you and the other anon def has me considering setting up an extra account just to fuck around. guess you'll know it if I do

>>40849413 (OP)
>speedos keep on riding up my ass on the way to practice
sometimes i hate how they mandate that we wear this shit
anyways
>>QotT #1: How was your summer anon ?
all good, going to the gym regularly, starting to learn french, kind of hate my job but other than that all good
>QotT #2: Any plans for fall ?
going to some halloween party with a few mates
also one of those haunted house gimmicks
>QotT: what's your favorite autumn activity ?
walking through a park and watching the leaves fall
comfy shite like that
anways, how are all you anons doing?

>>40954767
>speedos
had no idea wearing those were a requirement anywhere. my eurograndpa always wore them to the beach
>anways, how are all you anons doing?
doing some laundry, thinking about having some limoncello with gin

So, realistically, what's the safest/best way to find a sane, clean guy to discreetly hook up with, if at all, in a major city? I'm paranoid about STDs but really just going through a brief phase where I want to hook up maybe a couple of times.

Grindr seems like too much to feel safe with. I can't go to gay bars because I don't feel like dealing with people in my life finding out. It honestly might all just be too much work and I should just find a girl instead.

>>40955626
>So, realistically, what's the safest/best way to find a sane, clean guy to discreetly hook up with, if at all, in a major city?
Probably a dating app, but which one depends on where you live. I've only barely dabbled in dating apps myself, but where I live Grindr is for degenerate hookups while Tinder (for MSM) is also for hookups but under the pretence that it's not a hookup kinda thing - i.e. less degenerate. Wherever you go though, use a condom so you don't get AIDS.

>>40955486
it's for water polo, and yeah it's pretty much mandatory for my team, normally just wear jammers if i'm going for a swim by myself
what's limoncello with gin like?
when i was in Italy they were pretty big on just drinking it straight
>>40955626
Grindr is just for hook-ups, Tinder/Hinge more so for dating.
that would be your best bet

>>40955732
>>40955822
Sucks, because just like a gay bar situation, I can't put my picture up on Hinge or anything. Mot to mention I don't want want a relationship, just someone I can fool around with on the down low every once in a while.

It's not so much that I mind being bi or anything, but that I don't want to go through the headache of "coming out" and the reactions I'd get, especially when I still prefer dating women.

>>40956187
>the headache of "coming out" and the reactions I'd get, especially when I still prefer dating women.
Not easy but it's better to just say fuck it so you can find the people who fuck with the real you rather than compartmentalizing for people who only like the half-truth
Open genuineness attracts good people and things as much as it repels shitty ones so it's kinda an all around gain
Unless you lose family, that's always hard
But it's not as often that high stakes anymore, but idk your situation

>>40956187
every lad who is going to see you on Hinge or Tinder is going to be gay/bi, they won't care
and even if you prefer women, you're still going to want to be open about doing something with a man, otherwise if a future girlfriend does find out she will just assume you're a massive closet case

>>40956187
Then it's a scared of coming out problem rather than a scared of STDs problem.
Unless you live somewhere where it's deeply unsafe (which I doubt since you mention gay bars), your best bet is to just get over yourself and step outside your comfort zone. Anyone who recognizes you on a gay dating app will obviously be telling on themselves as well, for what it's worth.

>>40956270
Yeah, you mentioned the family thing, my parents would absolutely lose their fucking shit. Like, I don't know if they'd disown me, but close to it. And then I know I'd have a certain set of friends that just probably wouldn't treat me the same anymore, even if inadvertently.

>>40956293
I mean, I've dated a lot of women and it's never had to come up, I don't know why it would now. It's not like I have hidden folders of gay porn they're going to find.

>>40956379
You and the other anon mentioned that only other gay/bi dudes are going to be on there, but that's kinda the problem. I have a fair amount of gay friends/ex-coworkers who would probably casually mention it to someone as a surprise and then it would spread like wildfire. It's not like any of them would be "outing themselves."
>Then it's a scared of coming out problem rather than a scared of STDs problem.
There's a litany of different reasons, honestly, heck, one is as simple as I'm worried about letting a stranger into my house where they might rob me, beat the shit out of me, or blackmail me or something. But STDs are definitely my biggest fear. I don't want to get on Prep either, so that's a hurdle. I'd say I feel like I live in a high risk city for STDs, regardless of man or woman.

If I ever fell in love with a guy or something I'd come out, but I just don't see that happening ever if it hasn't even gotten to the point in my life I've even dated one.

>>40956691
>If I ever fell in love with a guy or something I'd come out, but I just don't see that happening ever
This is always what I told myself
Then I accidentally stumbled into a long distance thing online with someone. which sounds dumb because it kind of was lol. But it felt real enough to rock my shit when he ghosted after a few months and sent me into a spiral and now here I am a couple months later starting to come out to everyone because I can't just stuff it all any longer. That whole experience taught me that being genuine and open with people is how things flourish, that guy was like the only person I was fully real with and how deeply soothing it was to a lifetime insecure closet case was insane
The capability of the feelings should be enough to own it
Bisexual repression is kinda insidious for how easy it is to just reside in the accepted side of your sexuality your whole life, but it's not good for you

What's a unusual drink you like anon? I've been enjoying sanddorn lately