Thread 40920666

seeing the way men on the internet talk about asexual/ace-spec women is so fucking demoralizing, i really am going to be alone forever

>>40920666 (OP)
no one with an active reddit account is experienced with women. though i will admit being asexual is a tough situation for a man or a woman

>>40920666 (OP)
No matter who you are, some people are just not gonna be into you.

That's a fact of life, even more-so for anyone under the LGBT+ umbrella.

Don't let it get you down.

>>40920666 (OP)
they are right
just get a best friend
thats basically all you want out of life

>>40920666 (OP)
Almost no allo people want to date someone who is asexual. Sexual intimacy is important to most people, along with being sexually desired by their partner. It’s weird to try shaming most of humanity for something normal. Most lesbians have the same opinion as those in your pic.

>>40920666 (OP)
>asexual
>want a sexual relationship
ok bro

>>40920796
I am kind of curious what the idealized asexual relationship looks like. Genuine curiosity i swear

>>40920816
My ex was asexual. At the time it actually wasn't an issue for me since I was obese and hated my body(still do, but for dysphoria reasons now), but he clearly wanted the romance and other kinds of physical intimacy, just not the sex. Though he had a whole heap of other issues that made that kind of intimacy difficult for him(avoidant attachment, etc.) which eventually led to our breaking up.

>>40920666 (OP)
Last ledditor nailed it, dating without sex is a friendship

>>40920809
i'm not shaming them just saying it makes me sad

asexual isn't real

It is a hormonal imbalance. I didn't have a sex drive and thought I may be asexual and it turned out to just be a pituitary tumor blocking my sex drive

>>40921026
it can also be caused by depression, which kills your desire to do basically everything especially sex

>>40921026
>>40921109
or it can be caused by being trans and not having the right parts to have sex.

>>40921109
which can be triggered by hormone imbalances, if your body feels like shit it will depress your mood like an immune response to a virus, but also depression kills the dopamine reward of sex/orgasm "whats the point"

What's weird, as MTF, I saw the meme where it's like "I think I'm ace" (takes prog) "I'd like to get railed now. Im autistic asf, and have realized that I'd hookup with other autistic genderqueers in a heartbeat, if they were my type. Similar to "Comphet" I wonder how much of Ace is sensory and inherent vs environmental. Like I hate most people touching me ever ever. It takes a long time to warm up to someone.

>>40921194
i wouldn't be ace if getting railed felt good to me but it doesn't
and simce the only other option is them touching my dysphoria square i just opt for no sex at all

>>40921194
Im ace and I have been on birth control (bio indentical prog and e) and I still had no desire to have sex

>>40920935
do men really think like this? they are having relationship level closeness with their friends? kissing and hugging them?

>>40920666 (OP)
I'd give it a shot but I am a horny motherfucker so we'd have to work something out.
>>40921877
Most of us have closer relationships with our friends than our partners.

Ace people who arnt service tops cant have expectations. Just find another ace to date my friend

>>40921914
I'm looking for an ace service bottom.