Thread 40940145

talk about your virginian woes in this thread

Here's what Virginia looks like.

I have sadly never seen a Virginia in my life

>>40940145 (OP)
it's been so long since i've had sex i am so fucking horny

>>40940176
come to virginia

I'm a virginian twink

>>40940165
would

>>40940145 (OP)
my beautiful boyfriend is from virginia and i like when we frot

>>40940145 (OP)
waow based thread i miss it sooo much desu

My ex was from Virginia and we never had sex because I was uncomfortable.

i fr miss it too much blueridge was so based

35 years old, still a virgin
never gonna get laid
gonna die alone and it's all my fault
I deserve it
I do not deserve love
I do not deserve love
I do not deserve love
I do not deserve love
I do not deserve love
>cis dude btw

>>40941981
30yo trans woman in the same situation tbhon

>>40941981
>>40942314
You do deserve love and I'm sorry that people have made you feel unworthy of it in the past.

I want to touch pussy

>>40942338
My virginity is a direct result of me not deserving love.

>>40942913
There can be a lot of reasons why someone hasn't had sex, the connection between two people is still there regardless of the sex had or lack thereof.

>>40942913
Have you been in love before? Can love exist if two people haven't had sex?

I am watching gachimuchi. No hot tomboys on the horizon. I am in hell and it is what it is.

>>40942968
Yes. Yes but romantic love leads to sex so they're inextricably linked.

Any FXBG people here? Haven't been home in 12 years.

>>40940145 (OP)
I have never felt intimate touch in my life, I have never held hands or been kissed. It has come to a point where I am genuinely scared of people touching me in any context now. Sexually I have a desire, but more than anything I desperately want to fall in love. I spend my days working on college and working out since I stress eat a lot and put on weight. Despite getting in better shape every day i have never been more repulsed by my appearance, both body and face. My peers tell me I should try dating apps but it’s so scary and I don’t like the idea of hookups. I am worried that my lack of life experience is making me hate myself, and the hatred feels like my brain is cannibalizing itself, like cognitively I feel slower, as if there fog in my head. I feel like I’m losing myself more and more every day and I worry that at this point I’m so mentally and emotionally damaged I won’t be a good boyfriend for any man or woman

>>40944564
do you have vageena

>>40940145 (OP)
>be incel male virgin
>try to go for trans girls as a practice gf, because they're apparently easier
>run into the exact same problems as I do with cis women
I will never be loved

>>40944601
You're on 4chan big dog. The rules haven't changed.

>>40942314
sucks
>>40942338
>You do deserve love
[citation needed]
>I'm sorry that people have made you feel unworthy of it in the past.
the worst thing is that the main person was my stepdad and he'll be dead soon and I'll be expected to say something about him at his funeral and I am not sure how to go about that without criticizing him for the abuse my mom and I (but not my half brother) suffered from him

>>40944477
I dated a virgin before a couple of years ago and I loved her, but I misunderstood how she felt about sex and what she wanted, and it resulted in us not having sex before breaking up. It wasn't her fault and it said nothing about her worthiness of love, it was just me being in my own head and only thinking about what I wanted and how I felt about things. I had made assumptions that were wildly off and I feel incredibly dumb about it looking back on it even now. I would have loved to have had sex with her, she was gorgeous, intelligent, kind, and made me feel better than almost anyone had before or since, I just didn't communicate properly and we ended up not having sex. It likely hurt her self esteem but the truth is that she's one of the most lovable people I had ever met and us not having sex didn't say anything about her lovability or her worthiness as a person.
I don't know your situation/s but maybe that or similar was what happened for you. She was a genuinely amazing girl and deserves any love she gets.
>>40944841
I wish for you to receive the love you desire to give one day anon, I'm sorry about your step dad and how he treated you, you deserved better than that. I will pray tonight for it to be short or for you to be able to avoid it. You are worthy of love and how your stepdad treated you isn't indicative of your worth, I promise you

>>40944477 #
I dated a virgin before a couple of years ago and I loved her, but I misunderstood how she felt about sex and what she wanted, and it resulted in us not having sex before breaking up. It wasn't her fault and it said nothing about her worthiness of love, it was just me being in my own head and only thinking about what I wanted and how I felt about things. I had made assumptions that were wildly off and I feel incredibly dumb about it looking back on it even now.
I would have loved to have had sex with her, she was gorgeous, intelligent, kind, and made me feel better than almost anyone had before or since, I just didn't communicate properly and we ended up not having sex. It likely hurt her self esteem but the truth is that she's one of the most lovable people I had ever met and us not having sex didn't say anything about her lovability or her worthiness as a person.
I don't know your situation/s but maybe that or similar was what happened for you. She was a genuinely amazing girl and deserves any love she gets.
>>40944841 #
I wish for you to receive the love you desire to give one day anon, I'm sorry about your step dad and how he treated you, you deserved better than that. I will pray tonight for it to be short or for you to be able to avoid it. You are worthy of love and how your stepdad treated you isn't indicative of your worth, I promise you

>>40944477
I dated a virgin before a couple of years ago and I loved her, but I misunderstood how she felt about sex and what she wanted, and it resulted in us not having sex before breaking up. It wasn't her fault and it said nothing about her worthiness of love, it was just me being in my own head and only thinking about what I wanted and how I felt about things. I had made assumptions that were wildly off and I feel incredibly dumb about it looking back on it even now.
I would have loved to have had sex with her, she was gorgeous, intelligent, kind, and made me feel better than almost anyone had before or since, I just didn't communicate properly and we ended up not having sex. It likely hurt her self esteem but the truth is that she's one of the most lovable people I had ever met and us not having sex didn't say anything about her lovability or her worthiness as a person.
I don't know your situation/s but maybe that or similar was what happened for you. She was a genuinely amazing girl and deserves any love she gets.
>>40944841
I wish for you to receive the love you desire to give one day anon, I'm sorry about your step dad and how he treated you, you deserved better than that. I will pray tonight for it to be short or for you to be able to avoid it. You are worthy of love and how your stepdad treated you isn't indicative of your worth, I promise you

>>40945656
Why would you do this to her? Stringing along a virgin and ignoring her signals is so evil. You probably nuked her self esteem even worse than it already was.

>>40945828
>Why would you do this to her?
It wasn't intentional, my thought process was someone as amazing and pretty as her would have had sex by now if she wanted, but she hadn't yet so I had assumed she wanted to wait. It wasn't malice, it was just me making assumptions and not communicating things well. By the time we talked about it and we would have had the opportunity again, we had broken up.
>Stringing along a virgin and ignoring her signals is so evil.
I really loved her, I didn't mean to string her along and I feel guilty for ignoring her signals. She gave me a couple of obvious ones, but I was focused on other things about us that distracted me in the moment. I was focused on myself and what I wanted, and I had had plenty of sex before but I genuinely liked her and so other things took priority in the moment. I feel horrible knowing how much sex meant to her now.
>You probably nuked her self esteem even worse than it already was.
I know I did and it leaves me feeling incredibly guilty despite it being years go now, I thought maybe talking about the other side's perspective could help you and the other anon. It isn't about your worthiness of love and ability to be loved, I genuinely loved her and she was an amazing person.

>>40945828
>Why would you do this to her?
It wasn't intentional, my thought process was someone as amazing and pretty as her would have had sex by now if she wanted, but she hadn't yet so I had assumed she wanted to wait. It wasn't malice, it was just me making assumptions and not communicating things well. By the time we talked about it and we would have had the opportunity again, we had broken up.
>Stringing along a virgin and ignoring her signals is so evil.
I really loved her, I didn't mean to string her along and I feel guilty for ignoring her signals. She gave me a couple of obvious ones, but I was focused on other things about us that distracted me in the moment. I was focused on myself and what I wanted, and I had had plenty of sex before but I genuinely liked her and so other things took priority in the moment. I feel horrible knowing how much sex meant to her now.
>You probably nuked her self esteem even worse than it already was.
I know I probably did and it leaves me feeling incredibly guilty despite it being years go now, I thought maybe talking about the other side's perspective could help you and the other anon. It isn't about your worthiness of love and ability to be loved, I genuinely loved her and she was an amazing person.

iwnbash (I will never be a sex haver)

>>40941373
please be in the north

>>40942314
>>40947057
I'll sex you

>>40941373
RICHMOND
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I need to cook for and then violently pound a fertile femboy / tranny. That is all

>>40942314
ik a 30 year old transwoman all i want is to be close to her but can’t and idk if she was a virgin bc i was too scared to talk about stuff like that with her bc intense feelings for her ummmmmm i wish i did idk i ruined it and complicated circumstances good luck fren

>>40950874
Uh, good for her I guess? I can't relate because the idea of someone genuinely desiring me is incredibly foreign.

>>40951621
What's genuine desire to you?

>find someone to have sex with
>the sex's good
>try to have sex and feelings separate
>become attached to this person anyway
>they get disgusted by this attachment
>they leave
>get left with a deep sadness and sense of longing
>repeat

You know it isn’t always greeneer on the other side.

>>40951726
Why assume that virgins only ever wanted meaningful sex? We can't get meaningless sex either, we're that pathetic.

>>40951943
That's the point, meaningless sex can suck too.

give me 69 reasons to not kill myself for being a virgin

>>40951977
>Italy wasn't that great, I got flown there for free with all expenses paid and it sucked, you should be grateful you'll never afford to travel anywhere

>>40952007
> for free
All human relationships are transactional or whatever the fuck Marx said. Anyway ain't nothing in this world for free, and sex specially never is, someone always pays, one way or the other.

>>40951993
you may find someone to have sex with
theres many possibilities in life and you never know what might happen
people care about you and would be sad to see you pass away
not having sex could be for many reasons, it doesn't mean it's an inherent character flaw
art
music
cooking
platonic human connection
vidya
you are probably cute, almost every single person ive met over the age of 25 and a virgin has been at least somewhat attractive given they take care of themselves, they just have one mental hang up or another
10. anime
learning
nice autumn weather
funny memes
sex often feels just as good as the other bases, though i cant speak for others
if people date you and do sexual things with you then they are likely at least somewhat attracted to you but there was some disconnect as to why it didnt reach the final stages
tasty food
achievements in other places in life
attractive people who almost certainly would love to connect with you and have sex with you who you havent met yet
20. hrt and being able to transition
i came up with 20 but im sure i could come up with more pls dont kill yourself nona you'll find someone

>>40940145 (OP)
>almost 30, post op, stealth
>no relationship
>handful of dates, no sex
>crying in jealousy when I watch porn
>no self esteem
>liking someone too much too soon and ruining it out of desperation
>feeling a single bad feeling and pushing people away out of fear of being manipulated
>literally contemplating ending my life on my 30th birthday
I can't wait for this to be over

>>40952054
>literally get sex for free
>so free in fact you want even more
>can't get more free shit
>crash out that your entitlement isn't being validated
>devalue all of human connection because no more free rides to cool places
at least your mindset passes as female

>>40952173
where are you from anon? i deal with a lot of those same feelings and maybe we can understand one another

>>40952192
terf island:(

>>40952205
one of the worst places to be trans in the west, i hope you find somewhere better.

>>40952209
thank you :(

>>40952173
I was like this before 30, and I'm slightly less like this after 30. Nothing really changed, just the part of me that still cared enough to feel pain over my circumstances withered and died. I've accepted my perpetual virginity like a cancer patient accepts death. At some point you stop crying and realize you just need to spend the rest of your short life doing something important.

>>40952224
what meaningful, important things can you even do when youre so utterly estranged from humanity

>>40952143
>you may find someone to have sex with
wrong
>theres many possibilities in life and you never know what might happen
okay but sex won't
>people care about you and would be sad to see you pass away
I don't have any friends or family, my biomom would bury me as a man and say good riddance
>not having sex could be for many reasons, it doesn't mean it's an inherent character flaw
yes it does if it's not by choice
>art
>music
>cooking
okay
>platonic human connection
don't have any
>vidya
fun but it's just consumerism
>you are probably cute, almost every single person ive met over the age of 25 and a virgin has been at least somewhat attractive given they take care of themselves, they just have one mental hang up or another
good for them but that's not me
>10. anime
same as vidya
>learning
okay
>nice autumn weather
it's just wet and cold here we never get cozy autumn just grey misery
>funny memes
same as vidya and anime
>sex often feels just as good as the other bases, though i cant speak for others
no idea what you mean by bases
>if people date you and do sexual things with you then they are likely at least somewhat attracted to you but there was some disconnect as to why it didnt reach the final stages
doesn't make any sense either
>tasty food
consumerism again
>achievements in other places in life
pointless with nobody to share them with
>attractive people who almost certainly would love to connect with you and have sex with you who you havent met yet
same as the first reason
>20. hrt and being able to transition
okay

that was just a rhetorical question but it's looking grim now that you typed it all out

>>40952258
Nothing for others unless you give your life to a cause. Personally I make art and then release it.

>>40952258
Nothing for others unless you give your life to a cause. Personally I make art and then never release it.

>>40952260
>okay but sex won't
how do you know? have you been with anyone, even if it didn't make it all the way to sex? you implied that in another answer but i wanted to ask
>good for them but that's not me
how do you know? especially if youve presumably dated
>no idea what you mean by bases
bases as in making out, breasts, oral, so on and so forth
>doesn't make any sense either
what do you mean?

>>40952287
>you implied that in another answer
what?
>how do you know
I'm not cute and people show no interest in me
>bases as in making out, breasts, oral, so on and so forth
grim

>>40952314
>what?
i was asking if you had been with anyone and that you implied you have been in another answer
>grim
whys that? shouldnt it be comforting to know sex isnt a huge step up from other things?

>>40952327
>you implied you have been in another answer
what??? are we reading the same thread?
>shouldnt it be comforting to know sex isnt a huge step up from other things?
no and especially not when those aren't things I've had before

planning to kms this next week for reasons unrelated to being a virgin but it does really suck that im going to go out having never been loved or feeling the touch of a human being

>>40952361
>what??? are we reading the same thread?
I thought you had meant that since you had said
>doesn't make any sense either
>no and especially not when those aren't things I've had before
my brain is broken by this sentence, have you done those things before?

>>40952361
I need to sleep but please don't kill yourself anon, you will find love and I'm certain of it. I know you feel unable to lose it, but you will and the person you lose it to will cherish you.