>>40953564
Meant worst part, not the what part. Dad's in distress is obviously for Dad's who can't see their kids too, no thanks to the feminist lobby that rolled back the only rules that implied a father's role has value. (Howard brought it in 06 , Gillard half killed it 2012, Feminists finish the job in 2023.. During the voice referendum no less) but I figured that was implied in the name, the other stuff they don't advertise. You just get pointed there by DV services that are for men and women, but aren't once you tell them you're a male and you weren't the preparator. That or mensline, the 24 hour service where you get 20 mins to tell them your problems, they tell you to meditate and have a glass of warm milk. Offered by a counselor with like 30 hours of training.
That's the highlights of men's health in Australia. Or you go the acute care route but they'll turn you away unless your a threat to yourself or others, which if you lie just to get help, you can look forward to having a mental health stay on government records (which also come up in family court), disqualifying you from ever being considered a normal person.
>>40953750
I know I'm not alone, 3rd of the male population in the country have experienced this run through the system. 700 thousand of them got abuse just like I did. That's just the ones who will talk about it. Cause apart from bitching on the Internet under the illusion of anonymity, I don't talk about it. I can't.
But its still isolating. I know I'm not alone, but it doesn't count for much when just trying to talk about it to someone's face, even a shrink where I should be safe enough to, makes me feel unsafe and unheard.
Irony that I'm well in the danger zone, had a history of self harm and ideation, and despite the worst of everything I've described happening after I stopped. Still here, not a scratch on me, not a violent outburst or thing smashed.
Bugs me that people think that I owe them that though. Fuck them. I do it for me.
