Thread 40977278

I'm in my early 20s and find people my age alluring, as expected. I want to know what happens next as the years go by. Do you stop finding people in my current age group attractive as you get older, or do your tastes just broaden? Tell me what happened to you, for I was never old enough to know.

>>40977278 (OP)
no one wants to fuck old people, including old people. we just get old ourselves and have to settle. enjoy youth while you're young, that's the only time you're allowed to

>>40977278 (OP)
Depends if your a man or a woman

>>40977278 (OP)
People in their early 20s start looking noticeably young. Some of them basically look like highschool students to me. They can still be attractive in a sense but I'm much more attracted to late 20s/early 30s.

t. 37 (with a 42 year old partner who is gorgeous)

>>40977278 (OP)
I'm less attracted to all people. God I hate people.

>>40977278 (OP)
nah always been into older dudes. I'm 23 and my close friend group of 10-20 ppl currently ranges from 25-35 excluding myself.
Younger zoomers and ppl my age are just fucking bothersome, petty and tiring to me.

>>40977299
It's hard to enjoy anything knowing its ephemerality. It was much easier when I was a child, rationally "knowing" the future would come but harboring an illusion of eternity in my school routine. It seems to me that an important part of enjoying things is being able to forget about tomorrow and even waste some of your time. Without some illusion, fear simmers in the back of your mind.

>>40978207
bullshit. of course it's easier to lie to yourself as a child, when all the adults are lying to you, too, but you haven't learned how to tell. the more ephemeral a thing, the greater the duty to enjoy it

>>40977299
this is verifiably false. i'm a cis male and the second i hit 30 i started getting swarmed by 18-22 year olds of both genders

>>40977304
What are you and what have the years taught you?
>>40977309
Sometimes I fear getting fixated on my current age.
>>40977349
How much older are you talking about? Like geriatric, or is there a ceiling for that? These friends of yours are still so close to us, I feel like we'll get there in the blink of an eye. Two blinks and we'll be old. Three and we'll return to the dust of the earth.

>>40977278 (OP)
im 29 and have always found some people 30,40,50 attractive, so thats not really a change
a lot of college age people, at least ones i see in the real world and not altered on a screen, are starting to feel like kids, i think people mature a lot from 18-21
my guess is things won't change as fast anymore
too many 25 year olds look 35 while some 35 year olds look 25, the lines are fuzzier
and i could end up proven wrong, but at this point i've stopped being able to expect more years mean a better station in life or more wisdom or anything

>>40978400
yeah, and how am i supposed to fucking VERIFY that? moron. i don't doubt you fuck

>>40978705
look at how common age gaps are in relationships?

>>40978714
well why don't you v.e.r.i.f.y. how common they are with some statistics, bud. if i said, "no one wants to fuck old women," would you have a problem agreeing to that?

>>40977278 (OP)
It's both. Your tastes are going to evolve over time, and your patience for kids(including 18-25 y/o's) is going to wear thin, you might not be as attracted to that 30 year old, but after spending one too many times around obnoxious youths you'll likely prefer them in the end- Or maybe not. Some people never get past wanting looks > all

>>40978735
>if i said, "no one wants to fuck old women," would you have a problem agreeing to that?
yes i would because i want to fuck old women. stop speaking in absolutes you autistic retard, your experiences are not universal

>>40977278 (OP)
you get tired, and either you found someone to stay with through ups and downs, or you get worn down by the nonsense, or you deceive yourself that it doesn't really bother you
in the end I think you start to care more about companionship than physical attraction, but older ppl don't look bad I guess, and no matter how good a young person looks you probably won't want to deal with their emotional instability and hang-ups

>>40978442
>are starting to feel like kids
Does this mean that over time we stop being attracted to people my current age? Or does it just mean that what we consider attractive becomes broader? And how does one make sure they're not getting too attached to a particular phase of life?
>>40978386
I can only speak from experience. In my final day of high school, I wanted to spend all my time with my friends because I could feel the time slipping away. But I'd occasionally step away to waste the moment, as if I were still in the middle of the year with fewer worries on my mind. One of the best things in life is wasting something you have in abundance. But that particular day ended, I realized that time really marches forward and since then time slips away too quickly, like sand through my fingers.

>>40978779
you're the autist who can't understand simple fucking hyperbole. i don't mean literally no one, i mean the vast majority of people, when i say "no one" for rhetorical effect like that. don't lie, either. every man would only fuck 25 and unders like leo, if he could
>>40978835
doesn't that give you more motivation to enjoy things?

>>40978890
don't say things you don't mean if you don't mean the things you're saying

>>40977278 (OP)
i like guys that are slightly older than i am so yes i like men in their 40s and 50s

>>40978911
wow, what an incredible moron. does the concept of metaphor also escape you?

>>40977278 (OP)
i'm weird in that age doesn't and have never really played into things... i don't mean i'm a fetishist finding really old people hot, but i find based people hot.
like a 20 yo person being comfy in their position and all? i probably would feel they're at least a little hot, but a 70yo nice person wherever, with a good employment or not employed at all but managing things well? i probably would find them hot.
ik u will never understand me as 4channers today is like 18 and have never seen this shitty world but anyway... i hope you'll be lucky in life <3 :D

>>40978953
>can only communicate in insults, absolutes, and other such seething
25 isn't old. i'm sorry covid fucked up your high school experience but i'm telling you that you are in the wrong in just about every thought or opinion you've ever had

>>40979030
if 25 isn't old, then neither is 30, which means you have no fucking idea what it means to be "old," so you have so cause to dispute what i said, in the first place. why did you even reply? you are some ungodly kinda stupid, boy

>>40979060
i hope you find peace and clarity one day

>>40977278 (OP)
It just starts to feel fucking weird dating down. Theres just a lot of isms that start to either be weird or seem naieve and you just cant emotionally attach.
At least thats what I think happens could be wrong. Im 22 but Ive been through enough shit that Im experianced pretty well past what most people my age are.

>>40977304
Moids...

>>40979099
oh, boring. i hope you find a brain, scarecrow

>>40979060
i hope you kill yourself violently one day :D

>>40978772
>>40978824
>you might not be as attracted to that 30 year old
>some people never get past wanting looks > all
>you start to care more about companionship than physical attraction
this means that oldfags still find twentysomethings aesthetically sexier, but our immaturity compensates enough to make us repellent. Is that it?
>>40978890
>every man would only fuck 25 and unders like leo, if he could
It's a rather sad lifestyle. If I were like Leonardo di Caprio, I'd feel bad, like a vampire trying to surround myself with youth in a vain attempt to cope with the cruelty of time.
>>40979023
Thanks :-D
>>40979131
It's the opposite for me, I feel underdeveloped. I grew up in a very restrictive religion and I feel that I did not adequately complete some of the so-called stages of life (as proposed by Erik Erikson).

>>40979384
young ppl do have fewer wrinkles and dark spots from a purely aesthetic point of view, less wear and tear, but who knows how long that will last them?
you would also have to account for 'generational' changes in things like attitudes and self-care

>>40978890
>doesn't that give you more motivation to enjoy things?
Yes, but ironically, it also prevents me from doing so. Remembering time passing sours everything I do. The duty to seize the moment becomes stressful when you can't. I often have trouble falling asleep because I keep lamenting the fact that the day is ending, that the calendar date is changing, that the future is approaching. What sin have we committed to be thrown into these conditions?

>I'm in my early 20s and find people my age alluring, as expected. I want to know what happens next as the years go by. Do you stop finding people in my current age group attractive as you get older, or do your tastes just broaden? Tell me what happened to you, for I was never old enough to know.

34. I'm completely disinterested, I'm afraid.

in general--
>not as much accumulated knowledge
>emotional regulation is a little harder because less life experience (and brain isnt quite done developing)
.>more susceptible to other people's opinions (in fashion, politics, social issues, whatever)

I feel like I'm doing a lot of taking care of someone when I talk to people in their 20s. Informing, entertaining, comforting. That is totally fine but it's not what I would want in a partner. It feels like a huge power difference and that's a turn-off.

>>40979717
Me too :( I think it’s because of a feeling what I’m doing isn’t enough. If it was enough for me it wouldn’t be so bad. I wouldn’t need more and more and more.

>>40977278 (OP)
Your tastes never really change. I'm in my 40s and only fuck 18-19 year old twinks and femboys but it works out cause most of them are into older men

>>40977278 (OP)
Pay no attention to these disgusting lowlifes, OP.
You'll be attracted to attractive people of all ages.

There's a certain GROUP OF PEOPLE who ONLY like super young people (think Grindr profiles that say shit like "fck off if your older then 25+!") and THOSE creatures will ONLY have sex with 18-25. Obviously these things are also not relationship material because they'll dump you for someone younger as soon as you "expire." We call them "chickenhawks."

>>40977304
How can anyone respect men when they act like this

I think my doubts come from the different self-narratives I hear. People vary between
>>40981475
>34. I'm completely disinterested, I'm afraid
>>40983199
>You'll be attracted to attractive people of all ages
and
>>40983167
>Your tastes never really change
Like, what explains these differences? Is each oldfag simply built differently and adopts corresponding values, or is it the other way around, and they consciously shape their own desires according to these values? And how does a person know what they will be like in the future before they get there? Has anyone else had this kind of epiphany in their 20s, or am I the only crazy one here?

>>40983199
>t. post-twinkdeath bottom seething at the fact that he doesn't get attention from tops anymore