Thread 41047858

>scrolling through tranny discord servers
>got into one I helped to form
>full of twitter/bsky trannies
>someone sends a message about being ditched by a theyfab lesbian
>theyfab lesbian said that sh wouldn't date her because she isn't on HRT
>people calling the theyfab transphobic for that
Don't get me wrong, but I think she was reasonable for that, if you're a tranny and got to date a lesbian at least be on HRT and I would got even more non woke, I think you should be at least on 2 years, it's completely reasonable for a lesbian to not want to date a tranny that still more closer to a man in dress than a woman, if you are before that, then transbians are the better option if you're not on HRT or just at the start of it

i don't personally think there are any specific requirements to meet for being, like, relationship material as a tranner (like, if you are non-op non-hrt and look male and you and your lesbian girlfriend are happy then more power to you both idc that's awesome) but yea, the person you are talking abt is totally justified. you can't help your feelings. it's not fair to expect people to be attracted only to how you exist on the inside. very cool if you can find that, though.

>>41047909
I think if the other person is fine with the tranner being non HRT idc, but don't expect everyone to be like that
require unknown people even if they are theyfabs to be attracted to everything is the same thing incels that requires women to be attracted to them, it's a very rapehonish thing to expect all lesbians to date you just because you're trans

>>41047977
we agree! i feel like i am posting in a Canvas discussion board lole. unless i'm totally misunderstanding some nuance of what you are or were saying...but i'm pretty sure we're saying the same stuff here.

>>41047858 (OP)
> listening to a lesbian
God you people are deranged

Yeah everyone is free to feel or not to feel attracted to a person for whatever reason there may be. If you're a lesbian wanting your partner to at least be on HRT seems pretty reasonable, like I'm a tranny and I don't think I'd wanna date a pre-hrt tranny either. Maybe if they were like early into transition and twunkish.

>>41048602
Trannies at least have a tendency of dating each other on simmilar passing levels, you wouldn't see a 5 year HRT tranny with a pre HRT one

>>41047909
call me crazy but someone has to be bisexual at the very least to be attracted to someone who looks entirely male

>>41047858 (OP)
Cis lesbian here. The level of homophobia towards lesbians in transbian circles I’ve encountered has made me a hater. I went from being a big trans advocate to overly cautious and a hater at times. Thank you for being reasonable.

>>41050757
maybe!! i don't suppose i know what people feel or how they feel it. if someone is truly, in her heart of hearts a bona fide 100% gynephilic lesbo and she falls in love with a male-presenting trans woman, it's really none of my business to tell her that her feelings are invalid. i tend to agree with you on the whole and i don't understand it myself, really, but there have been pictures posted on this board before of couples like this. and i guess i don't truly know their sexualities or anything i just have to go by text i read on an anonymous underwater basketweaving forum (or xitter or reddit or wherever the text came from) but idk. the whole point is that people will feel what they feel and there's not much "rules" can do to constrain that.

>>41047858 (OP)
without HRT you literally smell like a man

>>41047909
“Straight male trender rejected by female trender for not committing to the trend”

>>41050757
Theyfab teen lesbians do all the time with teen transbians (some aren't even with long hair), but these relationships are mostly online, you wouldn't see these theyfabs dating a literal man/boy unless it's on twitter
>>41050921
Rapehons are the reason some cisbians are transphobes, they don't know boundaries, literally long haired man who trooned out 2 months ago and think they are entitled to date cisbians, this is why I think at least 2 years on HRT or be passing, even for other trannies, nobody who likes women wants to date someone who's a long haired man
>>41051044
Smell like a man, act like a man, some didn't even have long hair, have man blood levels, man body temperature, man skin

>>41047858 (OP)
i wouldnt even consider dating a lesbian after 4 years of hrt and visually passing simply based on the fact that i still have it :/