Thread 41312251

if grindr is only for hookups, then where are you supposed to find people to date to form a romantic relationship if you can't go in public asking random men if they're gay and if they want to be your boyfriend?
t. cis gay

>>41312251 (OP)
i have given up on dating and just let men use me as a fleshlight whilst i still have my youth
dont know what comes after probably suicide

Jesus christ this thread is bleak

>>41312251 (OP)
i have this exact problem because fagslop has brainwormed me into thinking i should fall in love and give my virginity to someone i genuinely like :(
someone needs to kill me ig

>>41312251 (OP)
You need to meet fellow dorks who are into the same stuff as you, build friendships and have it progress into more. I met my bf at an anime con because we both cosplayed from the same game, and hit it off on discord once the con ended.

you don't, sorry

>>41312251 (OP)
Tinder, Gay/queer clubs in college, gay hobbies, anime cons

Your best bet is Tinder.
>"Wahhh but people want to hookup im the only faggot looking for love"
No. Be transparent about your romantic ambitions and monogamous lifestyle. Sure you will run into a lot of walls but that's just how things are. Its not a gay-world but a modern-world issue. Find the needle in the hay and keep on going until you're successfull.

>>41312251 (OP)
If you're a turbo hypernormalfaggot then you use Tinder, since they allow gay dating.

If you're not and you're autistic or into weird niche fandoms i would try discord e-dating but make sure they live near you or in an adjacent country or else its gonna be pointless
>Gay/queer clubs in college
Those are 99% women or ftm troons.

>>41312251 (OP)
Tinder or Gay clubs/bars to meet friends then work up to it If you meet someone you like. Realistically straight and gay relationships start off with hookups the whole long term friends suddenly getting feelings for each other sounds nice but is mostly fiction

>>41312251 (OP)
Sorry but there's no such thing as monogamy in gay relationships. Believe me I've been there, save yourself the trouble and have an open relationship it's better than just getting pump and dumped by hookups

>>41312251 (OP)
good luck finding romantic relationships in a culture filled to the brim with narcissists and whores

>>41312251 (OP)
this thread is bleak as fuck, my bf died a while ago and this question has been on my mind cause how many more people could i even have something with
monogamous committed gay dating seems super ngmi. all my friends are saying "get on hinge lol" but i don't want to be swiped on, i just want somebody committed and caring and somebody i can actually just be dorky with

>>41312251 (OP)
t.troon, so maybe not the same experience, but i met my soon to be husband on grindr by accident. 99.99% of grindr users are worthless but there are a few gems if you HEAVILY vet.

I found my current love on Hinge, personally

>>41316671
they r gonna cheat on you sooner or later, never trust anyone on Grindr with a ltr

>>41316728
Most people who talk like you are just projecting your own nature

>>41316748
anon. theres not much hope here but when i see it now and then its pretty cool.
:)

>>41316748
>Nooooo you see I found an actual gem on an app designed for aids infested anon hookups, stop projecting
Don't say I didn't warn you nona

>>41316683
Guys on Hinge are the same as on Grindr from where I'm from

I'm scared my husband might die soon and I don't want to have to date again I just want him alive and healthy for as long as it takes to die together in a car accident or something. I don't want him to outlive me either he'd bang some rando at the funeral home

Anyone else planning on staying single after their man dies?

>>41318025
dude i literally had this kind of thing happen (>>41316519) and i have no idea what to do, like being single seems preferable because i don't know how i could find anybody similar enough to have a life with, but its so lonely??

>>41318350
Right! So the problem is, I'm used to being married. There's a lifestyle that comes with it, you already know, you do everything together you know everything about each other you don't have to ever rehash anything obvious about yourself because they know every damn thing about you. How you like sex, what your food take out order is, your inside jokes and dreams together

I would throw up and heave and collapse if I had to be casual with someone and explain myself again and open up and make new compromises and new sacrifices when all I would really want is my bunny back high fiving and laughing and hugging. I just can't stop the poor bastard from drinking

>>41318350
My condolences by the way the immensity of your tragedy humbles me deeply

>>41312251 (OP)
You go church and find closeted virgin twinks then slowly open up to them until they confess they're gay and they want to marry you. Like God intended.

>>41318429
i feel for you anon, i hope your husband pulls through. i think about catching the bus literally every day because of this and it's literally nothing i would wish on somebody else. i won't lie and be like "well you find yourself again" because i'm still completely destroyed worse than i ever have been. having the man you love go from holding you to an urn on your shelf is like, it's not something where you'll ever be the same after.

still, i think i still believe in real love. it's good whenever you can find it, always cherish it 100%

>>41318469
He's so scared of dying too and he sobs crying in my arms like a helpless baby acting like I can fix this somehow but I can't keep him away from alcohol and it's making him worse and worse. He doesn't want to be cremated, doesn't want to be buried, says he should just not have to die at all. I agree but then, help me help you! I am so glad you got to keep his urn I hope you always have him with you, I think new love can coexist with the love you've had for others before. I mean, your boyfriend will always be a part of you. He was so lucky to be loved by you in his life. Love is worth the pain, but the pain sucks

>>41318506
you're gonna make me cry anon, i wish neither of you had to deal with something so terrifying and horrible. for whatever it might be worth i really hope everything works okay for you two

>be fat gymfag
>meet ftm not knowing they were ftm
>think theyre fem man
>workout together for a few weeks
>eventually hook up
>nut so hard into them every time
>both our lifts go up in number
idk what the hell is even going on but my gymbro is great

>>41318596
Why do you keep referring to him as them?

>>41312275
I thought about you earlier today anon. It really is a terrible lie and not how it works out irl at all…

most gay people are sexual predators, this is why homosexuality ends up being no longer tolerated throughout history. they are worse than pajeet rapists, their whole lives revolve around meaningless sex

>>41312251 (OP)
>go clubbing
>go to gay bar
>mess with fag hags for fun
>guy buys you a drink
>flirt, dance, lead him on if he’s your type if not don’t waste his time
>go home with them
>let him smash
>exchange socials in morning.
>dice roll if he asks you out again for a date
>repeat

That’s how I’ve done it. Apps are just tops attempting to summon booty. Never had luck
on them.

t. Twinkoid

>>41319472
trvke. The typical life cycle for a gay man is to be a hole for older men until twinkdeath hits then they become the old men that chases twinks. No relationships, no love or compassion only meaningless sex

>>41312678
>clubs in college
i'm 35 :(

Ok so looking at this thread you notice something:
There are more than one of those gay men that are more romantically oriented that seek out monogamous relationships and are not interested in gay orgy swinger piss parties (like OP >>41312251 (OP)), yah? There's a handful of these kind of fags. So the question is why can't those romantics find each other and live happily ever after as opposed to collectively moping? It seems silly.
>"*sniff* I can't find a boyfriend that won't cheat on me. I want someone that I can be with monogamously."
>"*sniff* me too... I also want a monogamous boyfriend for life *cries*"
Just fucking date each other. Exchange contacts or something. They're literally right here, dumbass!

>>41312251 (OP)
you don't look like that THOUGH

>>41312275
me too but im too fearful to even try dating in person, regardless of what 1000 chasers have to say so they can try to get a nut off

>>41312260
this so much this
>t. ranmy

>gay
>monogamous relationship

>>41320949
what the fuck am I supposed to do, then? Go to church and convert to heterosexuality?

>>41320949
Yes thats me and my bf!

>>41318469
Troons like you ruined SaSu.

I am sorry you are in pain and hurting. I hope you get better and find happiness and can recover.

I HATE gay culture. I want a longterm bf or gf..but these fags would rather go to "pump and dumps" on sniffies every weekend. They would rather do that then have a nice loving date with your boyfriend who loves you spending time together every weekend and friday after work.

I would do anything to make my bf or gf happy. Lots of these fags wont even give you the chance they just want sex. They are also very predatory and disgusting. Trying to pay me for sex and saying that my young age is making it soooo much hotter. Very VERY pushy. Their ego is SUPER HIGH. Also pretending to be a hot twink to catfish me JUST to know what I thought about them after we had sex and I broke it off/stopped talking to him. Just ugh.

Fag men are also NOT ASSERTIVE. Not all but most. They are SUPER passive aggresive. Its annoying as fuck.

Online dating and dating in general is a challenge to me..but I am getting better. Had my first date and lost my virginity. Very exciting.

>>41312251 (OP)
The twinks of /int/ sometimes hook up.

>>41323596
The Croatian and French twink dated for a while, I think.

>>41323606
They were kind of like mascots for /int/

>>41323452
>I want a longterm bf or gf..but these fags would rather go to "pump and dumps"
>Had my first date and lost my virginity.

>>41323689
I was a 22 year old virgin. I wanted to lose it. We did not fuck on the first date. We did on the second. He was one of the sweetest guys I have ever met and he made sure I was comfterable during the whole thing. I miss him. Hes the second guy I ever kissed. My body count is only 1. His was in the 40s.

A shy nerdy twink bf would be ideal I think.

>>41323596
You're fucking kidding me a chimplean can be this cute? Damn, I really gotta cross the mountains one of these days

>>41320822
ur absolutely right but im stuck in a cycle of yearning cause i live in bumfuck nowhere and im trying to dedicate myself to my studies rn ;-;

>>41320822
see the problem is that this just results in two sexually frustrated bottoms

I need a boyfriend. I am funny and I am also tender. If you want to be my boyfriend, call me.
+54 9 3521 45-1410

>>41323606
They both hit twinkdeath and broke up

>>41312251 (OP)
as awful as it sounds, i met my current bf from a hookup on that site.

i cant say i reccomend it.

>>41312678
is basically what i did here. Discord help make it a permanent relationship


i love my bf

>>41323596
how is int so much hotter than lgbt?

>>41325702
Lmfao.

>>41325136
Lucky.

>>41324204
That is tragic and heartbreaking </3

i met my bf on 4ch*n

>>41312251 (OP)
go on 4chan

>>41312275
inshallah u will find ur normal bf from a positive and normal social interaction; stay positive and stay kind