Thread 41369560

Any manmoders having success with dating? I mean mostly happy or at least content manmoders who don't agonize over not socially transitioning every day.
I did socially transition for about a year then realized I don't really like it. After a period of depression not really related to gender stuff, I wanna date again, but I basically live as an uncanny feminine man-thing. I personally think this fucks, but ngl in my life I've only dated as a moid or a tranner, and I'm not sure what I can expect now desu.
I'm mostly attracted to women or really anyone girl-shaped and don't really care about men even though I'm not categorically against them. I'm tall and very obviously estrogenized, but I pass as a male without an issue in spite of middle aged women and very low status moids sometimes openly staring at me.
I'd prefer to date either a weirdo cis girl or a fembrained (!) tranner. I feel like normie cis girls are kinda out of the question for me because my body is so estrogennized, and I'm not quitting hrt ever, but idk what to expect. Any ideas?
(If it matters, I'm vers and like to soft dom people sometimes but ngl sex is not my absolute no. 1 prio when looking for a partner.)
Pic mostly unrel.

>>41369560 (OP)
just go mm4mm

Ivebeen with my boyfriend for like nearly 3 years but idk about success I doubt he even likes me at this point. I'm starting to realize that I never will have some kind of miracle glow up and I'm gonna have to make the decision to end my life before I get even older and more disgusting. I feel too powerless to make any kind of major decision so I'll just wait it out a little until it gets so much worse I have no other choice

could be us

>>41369609
Zogchat captions make these images worse every time

>>41369563
Kinda did that already with my first tranner gf when we were both still semi babytrans. I think I could date a good looking feminine manmoder/femboy if he was genuinely cool and emotionally intelligent + if he were at least vers, but I'm generally more attracted to fem-shaped and fembrained people. Plus a lot of manmoders are extremely unhappy with not being a tranner, and I'm not going to be someone's 24/7 therapist again.
That's the thing about getting older I guess - you just have a list of hard requirements that aren't negotiable, you're way less deseprate not to be alone, and so you might just end up staying single.
>>41369593
You seem to be miserable about being a manmoder, so I'm afraid you don't really quality for this thread? I'm sorry nona. If it makes you feel better, face is often the last thing to properly feminize. I can definitely see a difference now at 6 years hrt vs when I was like 3 years in.
>>41369609
I don't like to mess with people's neck or most forms of breathplay because it's dangerous for the sub, but as a gesture this image goes hard rawr. asl?

>>41369747
>If it makes you feel better, face is often the last thing to properly feminize
I'm 4 years in it isn't getting better. If anything I feel like I've gotten uglier. Only thing that can help me even a little is ffs which I can't afford and even if I could I'm terrified to go because of how much of a gross man I am. How can anyone not be miserable about being a manmoder it's inherently bad.

>>41369560 (OP)
>Connect with a cis lesbian on this board
>We get really close on discord
>Pretty quickly realize that we are both basically soulmates and want to be in a relationship with each other
>She is not attracted to me because I do not pass
>After milling this over for awhile, she decides that she would not let this get in the way of our relationship and is now excited about being able to help me pay for FFS and generally get me to the point where I can pass
I feel like I won the lottery.
WAGMI

>>41369858
The way I explain it to people is that my dysphoria is/was "directional". When I was living as a moid, I experienced pretty severe dysphoria, and I thought that fully medically and socially transitioning as a trans woman was the solution. But a lot of my dysphoria was resolved by going on hrt, long hair, and a significantly more andro style.
I think I'll never be perfectly happy with how I look, but trying to live as a twinkhon didn't help me. It actually felt wrong most of the time. But the only way to realize that was to actually give it a shot in real life.
Do you girlmode at all? You could at least try it part time at safe spaces like gay clubs or gigalib cafes or other areas. In any case, if you wanna be openly trans or gnc in public, you have to adopt a mindset of not giving a fuck if someone stares at you and not worrying so much what people think about you. You need to be courageous. That's where it all begins. I know this is way easier said than done tho, and I've failed at this a lot in past.

>>41369906
>transbian again
the chris-chan model then...

>>41369964
>Do you girlmode at all
No I hate people and don't leave my house ever

>>41369609
sauce

>>41370005
This is fanart of a visual novel called "Class of 09". The characters are Nicole and Ari.

>>41370166
they probably want a sauce on the actual art/artist

trannies should never try to date cis people... keep the mental illness between ur own kind and leave normal people alone

>>41370184
correct

>>41369560 (OP)
>>41369609
i look like the brunette girl but i act like the other girl. with men and women. is that ok

>>41370241
I have no idea sorry, I just randomly saved it. It was probably posted here on this board.
>>41370223
I know exactly who I am and more or less what I want. I don't need my partner to be my therapist even though mutual emotional support is rly appreciated more or less a requirement for me. If you get me and like me, that's worth way more than any kind of sex.
>>41370314
If you played the game, you'd know that Ari actually ends up enforcing her limits at the end when she realizes that Nicole genuinely doesn't give a fuck about her. Can you do that?

I saw a manmoder here that I would be with but I missed her

>>41370557
actual manmoder, or one of the dozen fakemoders in mmg that just look like women?

>>41370557
I miss my manmoder ex from here

>>41369906
giwtwm

>>41369979
goals

>>41370589
Most of us mamoders actually do look like men, but we don't post ourselves because we hate how we look AND we learned from experience that bad things happen when we post our selfies.
Fakemoders in contrast learned that good things happen when they post selfies. They get praised and encouraged for the most part, so even if they're dysphoric and brainwormed, they will do it again and again because simple conditioning: I post selfie and call myself a man, I get told I'm pretty. An actual manmoder will usually get ignored entirely or laughed at.

>>41370223
t. ranny

>>41369964
>But a lot of my dysphoria was resolved by going on hrt, long hair, and a significantly more andro style.
this is why I permamanmode, I like some parts of socially being a man and don't want to socially transition but I'm clearly way happier as some kind of more androgynous genderfuck thing with tits on hrt just still using he/him and having everyone address me as a dude

>>41370657
girl i know that, i’m a manmoder, i was just asking

>>41370659
takes one to know one

>>41370719
yeah...

>>41370666
Based and manpilled. How's your dating life?

>>41370241
bugs_bug_me

>>41370838
sparse

>>41370404
>If you played the game, you'd know that Ari actually ends up enforcing her limits at the end when she realizes that Nicole genuinely doesn't give a fuck about her. Can you do that?
im a virgin but i think i would let my bf do anything he wants to and with me as long as he doesnt leave me

>>41370869
Weh ok.
Kinda disappointed with the outcome of this thread, but idk what I expected. I should just leave this place.

>>41369560 (OP)
I found my manmoder gf on grindr (were both virgins atp) and we’re basically in a mm4mm relationship, we’re both at similar points in our transitions (less than 3 years, no surgeries, etc). it’s really cute and sweet and comfy ngl and it’s helped my mental a lot just to have someone to hold and confide in and mutually support who gets how shitty manmoding is. it could happen to you too nona, don’t lose hope. and I’m not in some tranny mecca like seattle or minneapolis either

>>41373469
Thank you nonny l, I really needed to hear that. I honestly believe that the Universe sends you the right person when you're ready. It's happened to me before, and I've seen it happen to others many times. I'm so glad your relationship is working out ^^. And yeah, emotional security is the most important part even if its just telling each other how your days have gone and saying good night. It may sound odd, but saying good night is what I miss the most now that I'm single.

>>41369560 (OP)
>uncanny feminine man-thing
This is kind of how I describe myself, I haven’t taken hrt in a minute though, but I’m thinking of getting back on. I’ll still always be male though. I can’t tell you cause I am cripplingly lonely but I’d love another femboy or repper who gets it to live alone somewhere with together

>>41373925
Lmk if youre European btw. And I suggest you go back on hrt yeah. It helps so much.

>>41373469
Idk if I can call myself a manmoder at 6mo HRT but yea need

>>41369560 (OP)
>Any manmoders having success with dating?
Yeah. Dated cis girls, cis men and trans girls while manmoder. Right now have a gf I love very much and I'm completely committed to her. Just be a cool person and work on yourself and have your heart wide open

>>41370589
She had a cute face and nice hair, her body was unmistakably male but soft and feminine enough for my human pitbull ass

>>41374275
Love to hear it anon <3.