>>41419620 (OP)
On the surface they can be mostly equal with c4t winning out slightly. Below that surface though the cis person just won't ever be able to understand your trans experience, and you won't be able to understand their cis one. Spending half or more of your youth stuck in the wrong life against your will changes how you see and interact with the world in ways deeper than first dates can demonstrate and it eventually causes fissures in the emotional intimacy of the relationship that are rarely overcome. From there the relationship either ends or stagnates into a queer version of the old married couple that hate each other.
t4t is capable of destroying the relationship in different ways though, because if that maladapted worldview never gets hashed out into maturity, it comes out as projection instead and they end up fighting each other in the way that they know will hurt the other person the most. t4t has better success stories, but lower success rates, because you either grow together and force each other into being better people or you crash and burn directly into past trauma and insecurities and take it out on the other. the vast majority of t4t relationships explode into the latter within the first 6 months.
