Thread 41544871

whats it like having 2 moms?
did any of you grow up with 2 lesbian mothers?

>>41544871 (OP)
My mom is a femrepper and i basically grew up with 2 dads instead

>>41544871 (OP)
idk i have the misfortune of being born to the straightest woman alive

>>41544876
This the reverse, John 50 dad who still hasn't cracked, but has turned into a weird MAGA boomer, and has been caught in multiple gay guy affairs since divorcing my mom
Insane family dynamic

>>41544906
This but the reverse* oops

>>41544876
so a male to female trans?
>>41544883
misfortune?

>>41544928
>so a male to female trans
You know what repper stands for?

>>41544947
repressor right?
idk im not much into the trans part of tttt

>>41544958
yes, she's still my mom just with a weird personality

>>41544928
> a trans

>>41544871 (OP)
Yeah, I did, but they separated when I was in middle school. It was fine. I always hated if people were like "Heh, bet you had a dad" or implied I'd be messed up without one (I'm mtf but people said this to me as a boy). I never wanted a dad, in fact the concept seemed bad to me, I didn't want some man in the house. My mom that I stayed with thought I was mtf because I didn't have a father figure.

>>41544990
what did your moms think during your transition?

>>41545018
They have slowly become supportive but were not at all in the beginning. I'm still relatively early in my transition.

>>41545024
how did you get 2 moms? by divorce or you had them from the beginning?

were they against having a boy?

>>41545075
They were together, wanted kids and got them through IVF and sperm donation.
No, they wanted a boy and a girl.

>>41545215
what would you say was different about having two moms in general?
did you feel it was more affectionate or unique in any way?

>>41545324
I don't know what it's like to have a mom and a dad in a heterosexual relationship.
Idk, are there no affectionate dads?
I knew one other kids whose two moms seemed quite cold, to me. I don't think it's more or less affectionate.
Maybe there are fewer gender roles you get ingrained in you, though.

>>41545357
I guess you cant really compare if you only experienced one
theres surely something different about it

>>41545401
I suppose it's often the case that the man is emotionally distant and scary to the children. I didn't have that. But not all dads are like that.

>>41545416
you think having no father is the reason youre trans?

>>41544871 (OP)
My cousin grew up with my two aunts and came out pretty normal.

>>41545435
Genuinely no.

>>41545357
>theres surely something different about it

nta, but can speak a little to this, as I'm in a bunch of queer/trans parents groups. Most LGBT parents (and most single parents by choice) really wanted a kid. They planned for it, they thought it out, they worried about how their lives would affect their children. If you conceive through donor gametes and/or IVF/IUI, it's a ton of money, possibly medications, month after month of waiting and trying, physical stress.

Those barriers and that work basically select for people who strongly care about being good parents, and who are more financially stable. cishet people can be like that too, but they can also have a child completely by accident at the wrong time in their lives for it and with no resources.

This mechanism is why single parents NOT by choice generally have kids that struggle more, and single parents by choice generally have kids that do better than average.

>>41547626
>This mechanism is why single parents NOT by choice generally have kids that struggle more, and single parents by choice generally have kids that do better than average.
This. My single mom had me, my single grandmother adopted me. Generally puts an attitude of "just do the work and do it well" into the kid. But being honest, I think it comes from a lack of second parent, making the kid seek validation through whatever they do. Not bad desu, I've been successful so far, but the feelings of inadequacy don't really go away.

>>41544871 (OP)
Mom and dad got divorced when I was like 6 and mom turned lesbo pretty fast after. I don't know if it really affected me all that much beyond making me like way less misogynistic Probably made it harder for me to flirt with girls cause im always worried about coming off as too pushy or creepy.

Dad was also there but wasnt in the picture all that much. Visited him a few times a week for most of my life till college. But he was super emotionally unavailable compared to my two moms. I hope the whole distant father thing turning you weird isnt true though lole.

>>41544871 (OP)
No but I always fantasise about it. I want a trans girl to date my mom and tease me about it