Thread 41558456

i have a feeling its either going to be all theyfabs and pooners or all rapehon transbians but im so desperate for irl friends and dont fit in anywhere because im an awkward tranny

I mean there's no harm in trying

>>41558456 (OP)
No, it is not.

>>41558456 (OP)
Go to bed, sheesh

>>41558487
the group in my city wants you to send them a message before you attend and im not really sure what to say... and im also a little nervous people who knew me pretrans will recgonize me

>>41558555
Its still an LGBT group, the worse that could happen is that one of them recognizes you and tells you that you dont look any different. Otherwise, one of them would just hit on you and make you their wife.

>>41558567
>Otherwise, one of them would just hit on you and make you their wife.
theres no chasers there anon im like 99% sure its the pooner hangout club

>>41558456 (OP)
don't go if u r:
>amab (especially MtF)
>White/European descended
>Abrahamic religious (Dharmic you'll be fine)
>autistic
>blue collar
>bpd or schizo
>socially awkward

>>41558578
So the true transbian polycule, well, you can just go there, message them first to let them know you're going, and if you dont feel any kind of good vibes or just feel its a waste of time after being there... then that's that.

>>41558578
That’s what it virtually always is, and even if there are MtFs there they aren’t going to be able to understand you if you’re a boymoder (assuming based on the choice of OP pic).

>>41558593
Its kind of obvious OP is a MtF (amab), after all she said she's an awkard tranny and posted the boymodder status pic.

>>41558593
or not a furry

desu, these groups are comprised mainly of pooners and far far left wing nutjobs in my experience. best avoid if you value your mental health or whatever dignity you have left over from trooning

>>41558601
yes, hence i cautioned her from it (also MtF)

>>41558596
I'm not familiar with lgbt spaces but arent boymodders common on those spaces, specially as they need support? afaik most boymodders dont grow out of boymodding unless they somehow find a husband or they've been on hrt for so long, their genetics end up carrying them into girlmodding (my exwife' case)

>>41558611
Alright, why's the caution? Am I missing important info or those spaces are generally geared for ENBYs?

>>41558612
boymoders are mostly shunned and shamed there for not being "Queer Enough". it's a competition of virtue signalling where all try being the "Most Queer" and if you fail to meet their standards (through genetics or religion or whatever) they turn on you. then you are more isolated than you started out as.

>>41558593
Confident asian buddhist neurotypical afab enby with rich parents. I'm in.

>>41558625
>(((supporting group)))
>shunning their most vulnerable members in need of help, instead of nurturing and coaching them
Are boymodders the most oppressed among T's?
I know boymodders that have extreme autism or bpd are beyond saving, but come on.

>>41558596
i havent boymoded in years but i am concerned that all the trannies there are going to be reddithon types yeah
>>41558612
chaseranon please stop typing with one hand

>>41558619
they are mainly geared for:

>NB
>nonwhites
>furries and therians
>pooners
>atheists (strictly enforced)
>people who unironically call/think of themselves as "woke"

>>41558612
I’m about as unfamiliar as you are, but my impression has been that the “mainstream” trans community sees boymoding as unhealthy, to the point that at best, they’d constantly pressure you into socially transitioning, and at worst, they’d make their friendship conditional on you socially transitioning.

>>41558637
yes, i know it's toxic, but it's what they do, i am warning OP to stay away so she isn't hurt by them.

>>41558632
nice

>>41558652
Thank you for the explanation, what a shame

>>41558657
best of luck, girl :)
i wish you well and hope you find friendship and love

>>41558593
>>41558602
>>41558611
>>41558625
>>41558639
>>41558652
have you actually been to one or are you just making this up? to me it seems more like it would just be babysitting the cringe theater kids from high school

>>41558662
Where do we make irl friends then?

>>41558670
yes, very little difference there.
i've been to several and it always ends up with someone making a fuss that i'm "too yt" and Christian

>>41558673
desu, try unofficial spaces where MtFs might be, coffee shops libraries discord servers for ur area, etc <3 be polite and sincere and cautiously optimistic, and people will come to your corner eventually!

Lexi is my favorite.

>>41558688
thanks <3

>>41558638
If you’re really lucky there might be an “HSTS” (for lack of a more concise term) type of tranny there, but that type isn’t much better for a 4tranner. Actually, the type of person who joins an LGBT group almost certainly sees 4chan as a pure and utter Nazi site, so if you’re that desperate for irl friends and these people are your only option, you should probably swear off of this website.

>>41558676
Places full of rich kids that think being white middle eastern entitles them to attack trailer park whites for being less oppressed.

>>41558688
>>41558691
samefag

>>41558700
imagine being this upset

>>41558700
nope
>>41558693
this is true
>>41558697
very true, although in my experience it was "Latines" who literally look steroetypically "more white" as i do (im East European)

>>41558693
>the type of person who joins an LGBT group almost certainly sees 4chan as a pure and utter Nazi site
yeah im a bit nervous that if i call myself a tranny theyll start screeching at me, or if i try to have any level of serious introspective discussion about my transition theyll just shut me down for "hating myself too much". i guess it couldnt hurt to try showing up

>>41558733
either way, pls take care of yourself girl, and best of luck :D

Based on my experience trying to date gnc people I would stay away and just try to find a friend group that doesn’t know/care that you’re trans. The amount of people with dysphoria or aspirations to be a normal member of society are few and far between

>>41558758
>find a friend group that doesn’t know/care that you’re trans
how does one do this? i mostly wanted someone irl to have discussions about my transition with anyways

>>41558456 (OP)
I was going to an IRL support group for a while but it was all gigapassoids who'd been living as their true selves for decades, I was the maybe youngest person there in my mid-20s. They all had issues exclusively related to actual real person problems like "my relationship is in trouble" or "I'm in debt and depressed" so I felt more or less as out of place as I would in a group of cis folks, so I stopped going even though the leaders were so so nice to me.

>>41558733
Just make sure to wear a mask and use fake name so they can't dox you on twitter for saying you trooned out or using words like theyfab

>>41558766
School for me but I don’t know where else honestly. For me I think there’s surprisingly little I want to discuss that’s specific to being trans, what do you think you’d talk about specifically?

>>41558456 (OP)
Im in north Washington state yes please I need friends

>>41558456 (OP)
Hey girl, little advice from a chaser: Try to avoid such spaces, you will pick up weird behavior, you should socialize with cisfoids, although having one tranny bff in a similar situation would be good. Ever noticed how online women spaces like lesbians or femcels are overrun by trannies? They are so schizo, they don't even realize that they are among other trannies and get even more malebrained.

>>41558787
im not in a very articulate mood tonight so i probably wont be able to explain very well, sorry
>>41558790
i dont live anywhere near there
>>41558805
>having one tranny bff in a similar situation would be good
this is all i really want

>>41558805
I don't like women or being around women. Hanging out would be bad. Can being butch with bf work?

>>41558456 (OP)
where are you from? ill be ur friend and im none of the ppl you listed

>>41558456 (OP)
You guys are all making shit up my local lgbt center has like 2 ftms and 2822928383 mtf gays and lesbians and everyone is white what

>>41558903
It depends on your city/country. Obviously burger locations will be like that, unlike EU ones that may have more homogenity

>>41558902
where are YOU from

>>41558916
east na

>>41558925
nobody ever is from my part of the us on here

>>41558928
im from eastern us

>>41558456 (OP)
why are guy guys so judgemental/stereotyping? im literally a cis straight person and i go to lgbt groups sometimes. why do you care what other ppl identify as/look like? thats why you dont have any friends. if you opened your mind and stopped being racist/judgemental

>>41558456 (OP)
the ones in my area are like 85% transmisogynistic pooners

>>41558936
i live like 1500 miles from the east coast like i said....

>>41558941
well i/you can always take the train. distance isnt an issue if we connect

>>41558939
i dont hate them i just have nothing in common with them whatsoever
>>41558944
>long distance amtrak
ok now im listening

>>41558940
>im TME
>as in exempt from getting in trouble for transmisogyny

>went to one a while ago
>was just normal people with some not so normal problems
There was one ogrehon but even she was very nice and just normal apart from the unfortunate looks.
Either you're all really unlucky or super deranged.

>>41558895
Insane red flags

>>41558965
Years around masc gay men. I miss it.

>>41558939
>literally a cis straight person and i go to lgbt groups

>>41558950
>ok now im listening
got disc?

>>41558973
yes and?

>>41558980
post letters and ill decide

>>41558950
>i dont hate them i just have nothing in common with them whatsoever
so you feel superior to them

>>41558989
Stop doing that

>>41558992
cis and straight

>>41558999
ok well transbians you have to give me some benefit there theyre usually incredibly inappropriate and will always see you as a potential sex partner. but pooners idk desu ive just never really talked to one actually.. i just always assumed it was a pretty different experience

>>41559012
Transbians accuse each other of rape all the time for things that arent sex. Then go raping others for real.