Thread 41580212

>Dad keeps sending me pictures of me as a child
Should I apologize for killing his boy?

>>41580212 (OP)
No, just let him grieve. As insulting as it is, people who knew us before are basically losing the person they thought we were. It can take time. To us we're finally ourselves, but that's not how they feel right away. They often have to grieve who we were to fully accept and love who we are now.

>>41580212 (OP)
it's so idiotic how people view transitioning like you're killing your former self, like you're still the same person retard you just changed

>>41580231
Is this a mental modeling skill issue for some peopld or something? My brother trooned out and I went "oh okay, I guess that tracks" and nothing changed implicitly about our relationship. It was just a matter of reframing idk
same human and if nothing else it recontextualized his earlier behavior to make more sense

Reply with pictures of hons. Say this is what you would look like if you weren't on HRT

>>41580259
I think it really depends on the people, but I think it's different for parents. Watching you from baby to adult. Thinking of who you're going to be, what you're going to be, dreams and hopes of the future you. They have to shed those feelings and memories, it might not be so easy for some.

I know it hurts to see and hear from your parents. It hurt me with mine. I was patient with them and reminded them that this is the real me and that I was struggling the whole time. All those nice memories they thought they had with me I was suffering. That in its own right can hurt them too, to realize you were suffering right under their nose. That those nice christmas times where they bought you boy clothes killed you inside. It doesn't feel good either to know you were hurting your kid the whole time.

>>41580212 (OP)
never had this problem weirdly
as soon as i figured out my parents were tranny haters i cut contact

>>41580212 (OP)
my dad used to do this except with pictures from when i looked like a girl and he was molesting me

>>41580236
i think my dad is going to have trouble with this when I get further along, to him I am still his boah and he raised me assuming that is who I was gonna be. I think he will figure it out soon but it does make him uncomfortable and I feel a little bad.

>>41580290
I can see the parent angle for sure

>>41580288
But anon... I *am* a hon

>>41580212 (OP)
say
>who is that?

>>41582034
Who's who?