>>24533354Your response is a bit disheveled and unfocused but I think I sort of get what you mean. Lefties will hit you with the "we cant be tolerant of the intolerant" meme to rationalize their use of power, but its just cope, an aesthetical distinction to not feel equivalent to those not considered "nice" not considerate enough.
I've always said that too many people think being nice is the same as being good, when being nice is fundamentally superficial, surface level. It says nothing about substance, and besides implies that niceness can be "whole". Its not a true or real concept, like most of the hollow words of our language, but thats me getting off track towards Wittgenstein.
People can be "nice" in different contexts, but I have always said that 100% if they met the right person, that they simply cannot stand. That does not buy immediately into their deepseated preconceptions. The person doesnt even need to be mean. All they would need to be, is an honest genuine opposition. One who can honestly pierce through the veil of niceties and get under at what is being covered by that shimmering veil.
I usually come up with this argument (in my head) for people who trigger my own deep seated taught preconceptions from childhood, that "nice people" are innocent and good. Because I know truly and actually that almost all human beings are fundamentally bad. I know because there is a fundamental undercurrent to human behaviour that instantiates ununderstanding. I know that I have tried my best to be considerate, to put others before me. To be open and tolerant. Other people can break rules of disrespect with little chide acceptable remarks. But I cannot?
At the end of the day, we cant expect people to be truly understanding. To be open and willing to be good not just nice. It seems a fundamental characteristic of human beings, that we will divide before connecting. Dismiss before understanding. Ostracize rather than ever engage.
And that's probably "natural", it may even be "right". Dividing the valid amount of things that should be understood, makes it easier to connect. Dismissing those we have divided makes it easier to understand. Ostracizing those not worth engagement, allows for further time, and focus for those deemed we should understand.
I just dont think I am built for such a world.